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irisnorway88
Hobbs, NM
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I know this is personal but i can't get straight answers elsewhere.I talked to my ob/gyn last week about my issues I been having,she said that its quiet okay and normal thing to be experiencing.
A week before my boyfriend john and I were making love roughly,he slowed down and asked if I was enduring pain because he was feeling little bits of pain from me,but he didn't see how.I felt some but I was okay.
During sex I tend to tighten up,like really tighten,then after talking with my Dr.she said I have a lower pelvic but it is okay.
I'm looking back is it because of the pelvic or tightening?
Do some women have same tightening?is this really nothing to worry about?
I had one ob/gyn say that tightening up is not good that's why I'm concerned I don't wanna make john endure pain...idk.?
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| 11/10/2014 12:29:00 AM |
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naturebiy
Mc Kenzie, TN
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Perhaps go to the womens only section for help..not sure what it is called..
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| 11/10/2014 12:35:08 AM |
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diana29615
Greenville, SC
45, joined Jan. 2014
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Vaginismus is vaginal tightness causing discomfort, burning, pain, penetration problems, or complete inability to have intercourse.
Vaginismus [vaj-uh-niz-muh s]
Vaginismus is a condition where there is involuntary tightness of the vagina during attempted intercourse. The tightness is actually caused by involuntary contractions of the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the vagina. The woman does not directly control or 'will' the tightness to occur; it is an involuntary pelvic response. She may not even have any awareness that the muscle response is causing the tightness or penetration problem.
In some cases vaginismus tightness may begin to cause burning, pain, or stinging during intercourse. In other cases, penetration may be difficult or completely impossible. Vaginismus is the main cause of unconsummated relationships. The tightness can be so restrictive that the opening to the vagina is 'closed off' altogether and the man is unable to insert his penis. The pain of vaginismus ends when the sexual attempt stops, and usually intercourse must be halted due to pain or discomfort.
Types of vaginismus
When a woman has never at any time been able to have pain-free intercourse due to this muscle spasm her condition is known as primary vaginismus. Some women with primary vaginismus are unable to wear tampons and/or complete pelvic exams. Many couples are unable to consummate their relationship due to primary vaginismus.
Vaginismus can also develop later in life, even after many years of pleasurable intercourse. This type of condition, known as secondary vaginismus, is usually precipitated by a medical condition, traumatic event, childbirth, surgery, or life-change (menopause).
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| 11/10/2014 1:18:50 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
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Google can be our friend sometimes... 
but it can't put the human element into the equation always...and give us the answer we seek.
OP...lets take the og/gyns out of the picture and thread for a moment...and take that "distraction" out of the picture.
and reduse and narrow this down to a simple, non misdirected or misunderstood...question.
to..
1)..are you asking simply...do other women tighten up when they have sex for some reason....whether instinctively or otherwise?
2) or do they do this also...and do they experience any pain in sex because of this?
the reason I structered my responce like this is because I can see why some could take the amount of influence from all these extra's in the post such as the gyn...etc...and assume this and that....adding assumptions and attempted interpretations that don't need to be there answering this question....if the two possibilities I put up were all you wanted to know.
Also..men could help with this question, if they experienced being with a woman or women like this before and thru that actual first hand experience learned something about it.
So in that, if the case....that would be a valuable resource in helping out here....
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| 11/10/2014 1:29:00 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
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I took this from your thread..." I had one ob/gyn say that tightening up is not good that's why I'm concerned I don't wanna make john endure pain...idk.?"
Question....are you having pain from this...and your saying....he is enduring YOUR pain...and you don't want him too??
it seems to me....YOU shouldn't want to have pain either.
But if you enjoy the pain...then let him know that...then he doesn't have to endure needlessly.
OP....your generation seems to be more into this rough sex by percentage than other age groups....
I think the body needs to be primed before that happens....as in starting at slow and working up to a rough pace.
Just like when people work out....you don't start out running a 4 minute mile....you work up to that...and before you lift weights...you do your stretching and warm ops to prevent damage to your body.
and the body needs time to heal...in between work outs...the tearing of muscles, them rebuilding stronger is the whole premis behind them getting bigger and stronger.
So, maybe this is just a case of an over taxed p*ssy....that jumps into traffic too much...instead of easing into it.
I don't know....you really gave us little to go by.
How frequent is this sex? How long each time? do you jump into rough from the get go?
how rough?....etc, etc, etc.
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| 11/10/2014 1:50:59 AM |
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wedontgiveaf
Vancouver, WA
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Sounds painful..
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| 11/10/2014 4:20:33 AM |
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pickygirl72
Phelan, CA
44, joined Sep. 2011
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Vaginas are made to have a penis inserted in them if you have pain you have a problem.
if you have a problem with tightening up down there maybe you are not comfortable with your boyfriend.
maybe your problem is the boyfriend... get a new one.
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| 11/10/2014 4:53:44 AM |
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naturebiy
Mc Kenzie, TN
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Blame it on the man ^^^^ 
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| 11/10/2014 5:40:41 AM |
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jakebearr
Simi Valley, CA
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Not a ob/gyn but I did sleep in a holiday inn last nite so call me OP..
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| 11/10/2014 7:33:27 AM |
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irisnorway88
Hobbs, NM
26, joined Jan. 2014
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Vaginismus is vaginal tightness causing discomfort, burning, pain, penetration problems, or complete inability to have intercourse.
Vaginismus [vaj-uh-niz-muh s]
Vaginismus is a condition where there is involuntary tightness of the vagina during attempted intercourse. The tightness is actually caused by involuntary contractions of the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the vagina. The woman does not directly control or 'will' the tightness to occur; it is an involuntary pelvic response. She may not even have any awareness that the muscle response is causing the tightness or penetration problem.
In some cases vaginismus tightness may begin to cause burning, pain, or stinging during intercourse. In other cases, penetration may be difficult or completely impossible. Vaginismus is the main cause of unconsummated relationships. The tightness can be so restrictive that the opening to the vagina is 'closed off' altogether and the man is unable to insert his penis. The pain of vaginismus ends when the sexual attempt stops, and usually intercourse must be halted due to pain or discomfort.
Types of vaginismus
When a woman has never at any time been able to have pain-free intercourse due to this muscle spasm her condition is known as primary vaginismus. Some women with primary vaginismus are unable to wear tampons and/or complete pelvic exams. Many couples are unable to consummate their relationship due to primary vaginismus.
Vaginismus can also develop later in life, even after many years of pleasurable intercourse. This type of condition, known as secondary vaginismus, is usually precipitated by a medical condition, traumatic event, childbirth, surgery, or life-change (menopause).
well,I have to say its not this because I can insert a tampon and go through sexual intercours but when I'm about to come it tightens.really tightens.
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| 11/10/2014 7:38:48 AM |
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irisnorway88
Hobbs, NM
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I took this from your thread..." I had one ob/gyn say that tightening up is not good that's why I'm concerned I don't wanna make john endure pain...idk.?"
Question....are you having pain from this...and your saying....he is enduring YOUR pain...and you don't want him too??
it seems to me....YOU shouldn't want to have pain either.
But if you enjoy the pain...then let him know that...then he doesn't have to endure needlessly.
OP....your generation seems to be more into this rough sex by percentage than other age groups....
I think the body needs to be primed before that happens....as in starting at slow and working up to a rough pace.
Just like when people work out....you don't start out running a 4 minute mile....you work up to that...and before you lift weights...you do your stretching and warm ops to prevent damage to your body.
and the body needs time to heal...in between work outs...the tearing of muscles, them rebuilding stronger is the whole premis behind them getting bigger and stronger.
So, maybe this is just a case of an over taxed p*ssy....that jumps into traffic too much...instead of easing into it.
I don't know....you really gave us little to go by.
How frequent is this sex? How long each time? do you jump into rough from the get go?
how rough?....etc, etc, etc.
you're right a guy can help,but sex is frequent,it varies at times at how long and not rough all the time,we take it slow most times.
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| 11/10/2014 7:39:02 AM |
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asiancawk
Houston, TX
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During sex I tend to tighten up,like really tighten
Well hello!
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| 11/10/2014 8:12:25 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
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Well, with what you said....I don't see where this sex is so out of the ordinary, repeats of it is the problem.
Are you experiencing pain?
or did the boyfriend just think pain, when it was something else.?
and you said this in the post...." During sex I tend to tighten up,like really tighten,then after talking with my Dr.she said I have a lower pelvic but it is okay. "
Everyone has a pelvis....what she mean by lower pelvis?
and have you experience this the same way with the other men you've had sex with...?
how tight? so tight he had to evaculate?
Do you get wet enough during sex.?
OP...having convulsions and some tightening up during an O is not that uncommon.....
if there is no pain, there is nothing else to this, and its always happaned....then your just a little more excessive than the common woman....its just a quirk in how you are.
unless there is some mental aspect behind it.
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| 11/10/2014 8:14:39 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
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Try asking this over in sex and dating....express that you are serious....leave out the part about the gyn....and give the detials as in the questions I asked you.
There are some women there, who will give you their opinion....that I think can help you out.
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| 11/10/2014 8:16:21 AM |
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dr_know
Washington, DC
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There is a man in here writing 45 paragraphs a page in a topic for women.
Carry on...
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| 11/10/2014 8:20:50 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
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Where is he troll.?
I need to ask him about why my girls tongue gets stuck to the ceiling everytime she orgasms.
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| 11/10/2014 8:32:43 AM |
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cubcougar
Lucerne, CA
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well,I have to say its not this because I can insert a tampon and go through sexual intercours but when I'm about to come it tightens.really tightens.
well Post Traumatic Stress Disorder does that as well ...
in the blood vessels it tightens and you get high blood pressure ...
in the eyes it tightens and you get glaucoma (high eye pressure) ...
in the kidneys it tightens and you Renal failure ...
in the heart it tightens and you get a heart attack ...
in the brain it tightens and you get a stroke ...
the hits keep on coming where ever the stress issue lands and that part of the body fails or blows out ...
and usually it hurts like hell when it goes pop from to much pressure in the high stress locked in the muscle memory.
In guys .. that can go to the penis ... and they never are able to relax from their PTSD issues and no boner for them ... no cum at all ... as the stress they have will not allow it.
for sex to work out .. a person MUST be relaxed.
same for women ...
For a woman to have a good orgasm ... just like a man ... relaxation is the key.
This is why I give my self to my woman .. and I am kinked out that way sexually speaking.
It is the only sex I am interested in .. I have been doing it so long.
Besides the sex is wild !!!
No taco sauce for cub ...
Anyhow darling .. the FIX for your problem ... just might be down the PTSD road.
It won't damage you any to go get some work done in that area of your body mind .. and learn to relax.
Do the hot yoga ... move the muscle memory .. take the hurt and pain out of your body that way.
See if traditional 5 element chinese accupuncture works for you (90 % effective).
You have to go old school on that accupuncture ... pulse diagnosis ... educated licensed people.
Get off of drugs and alcohol and caffeine and nicotine ... etc.
Get clean and sober ... so your PTSD issues can come to the surface to be fixed up as you stop medicating them down to be buried into your body deeper into the Defense Structure.
Oh ... Rosenberg and Rand Integrative Body Psychotherapy is a good one to check out.
Find a Female Therapist to work on this ...
you do not need a guy therapist at all.
Your dad was a sick prick .. and your mom chose him to do baby sex and play house with.
So .... that is the basis of the problem.
Hate your mom you be an addict.
Hate your dad you have divorces, affairs and dead children.
Ted Bundy had a mom .. so did Adolf HItler.
She was a sick puppy that is for sure.
sumbuddie wear blind sea
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| 11/10/2014 8:35:15 AM |
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irisnorway88
Hobbs, NM
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Well, with what you said....I don't see where this sex is so out of the ordinary, repeats of it is the problem.
Are you experiencing pain?
or did the boyfriend just think pain, when it was something else.?
and you said this in the post...." During sex I tend to tighten up,like really tighten,then after talking with my Dr.she said I have a lower pelvic but it is okay. "
Everyone has a pelvis....what she mean by lower pelvis?
and have you experience this the same way with the other men you've had sex with...?
how tight? so tight he had to evaculate?
Do you get wet enough during sex.?
OP...having convulsions and some tightening up during an O is not that uncommon.....
if there is no pain, there is nothing else to this, and its always happaned....then your just a little more excessive than the common woman....its just a quirk in how you are.
unless there is some mental aspect behind it.
mental aspect? Like?
Well,yea tightening all the time during sex when about to reach O",and he's the one experiencing pain I'm believing from lower pelvic or the tightening..that's what I don't know..that's why I ask if there's someone out there that had this issue and also if this should be nothing to worry about because I do care if he's experiencing the pain.
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| 11/10/2014 8:38:48 AM |
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irisnorway88
Hobbs, NM
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well Post Traumatic Stress Disorder does that as well ...
in the blood vessels it tightens and you get high blood pressure ...
in the eyes it tightens and you get glaucoma (high eye pressure) ...
in the kidneys it tightens and you Renal failure ...
in the heart it tightens and you get a heart attack ...
in the brain it tightens and you get a stroke ...
the hits keep on coming where ever the stress issue lands and that part of the body fails or blows out ...
and usually it hurts like hell when it goes pop from to much pressure in the high stress locked in the muscle memory.
In guys .. that can go to the penis ... and they never are able to relax from their PTSD issues and no boner for them ... no cum at all ... as the stress they have will not allow it.
for sex to work out .. a person MUST be relaxed.
same for women ...
For a woman to have a good orgasm ... just like a man ... relaxation is the key.
This is why I give my self to my woman .. and I am kinked out that way sexually speaking.
It is the only sex I am interested in .. I have been doing it so long.
Besides the sex is wild !!!
No taco sauce for cub ...
Anyhow darling .. the FIX for your problem ... just might be down the PTSD road.
It won't damage you any to go get some work done in that area of your body mind .. and learn to relax.
Do the hot yoga ... move the muscle memory .. take the hurt and pain out of your body that way.
See if traditional 5 element chinese accupuncture works for you (90 % effective).
You have to go old school on that accupuncture ... pulse diagnosis ... educated licensed people.
Get off of drugs and alcohol and caffeine and nicotine ... etc.
Get clean and sober ... so your PTSD issues can come to the surface to be fixed up as you stop medicating them down to be buried into your body deeper into the Defense Structure.
Oh ... Rosenberg and Rand Integrative Body Psychotherapy is a good one to check out.
Find a Female Therapist to work on this ...
you do not need a guy therapist at all.
Your dad was a sick prick .. and your mom chose him to do baby sex and play house with.
So .... that is the basis of the problem.
Hate your mom you be an addict.
Hate your dad you have divorces, affairs and dead children.
Ted Bundy had a mom .. so did Adolf HItler.
She was a sick puppy that is for sure.
sumbuddie wear blind sea
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| 11/10/2014 8:47:29 AM |
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xray6
Fort Stewart, GA
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that's some serious shit 
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| 11/10/2014 9:11:17 AM |
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jimmco
Monroe, NY
52, joined Sep. 2014
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You should get in touch with Dr. Ruth or go get a 2nd and 3rd opinion from professionals.
Good luck OP
You're the one whose boyfriend went on a business trip with his boss and you didn't hear from him that he made it right away. Maybe this was part of that reason why. Who knows.
But get yourself checked out by a Urologist maybe or even a sex therpist.
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| 11/10/2014 9:49:08 AM |
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irisnorway88
Hobbs, NM
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You should get in touch with Dr. Ruth or go get a 2nd and 3rd opinion from professionals.
Good luck OP
You're the one whose boyfriend went on a business trip with his boss and you didn't hear from him that he made it right away. Maybe this was part of that reason why. Who knows.
But get yourself checked out by a Urologist maybe or even a sex therpist.
I heard from him last night.thnx for the advice.
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| 11/10/2014 10:09:12 AM |
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armyfly86
Seminole, TX
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My advice to you is your okay,the vagina muscles do suppose to tighten when coming and he must be the one with the pain from the pelvic since its lower but as long as he's OK with that and if its all you just need to relax and the guy needs to somehow make you relax .if not it you must be a virgin.
BTW the guy you with he got have a strong wanker to pull through the tightness and his wanker I say he's the problem not you
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| 11/10/2014 11:29:01 AM |
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cubcougar
Lucerne, CA
61, joined Oct. 2010
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who are you again?
just a real bright guy ... went to school and read books.
there is only ONE thing that is worse then an a** hole ..
and that is an educated a** hole with recovery.
it is why I put out some serious shit ...
my bad ... I guess.
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| 11/10/2014 12:08:59 PM |
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irisnorway88
Hobbs, NM
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just a real bright guy ... went to school and read books.
there is only ONE thing that is worse then an a** hole ..
and that is an educated a** hole with recovery.
it is why I put out some serious shit ...
my bad ... I guess.
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| 11/10/2014 12:16:29 PM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
59, joined Apr. 2011
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^^^^^^^^yes he is....and being a friend to Dr. Leary probably helped too.
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| 11/10/2014 12:35:51 PM |
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nothingneeded
Johnston, IA
45, joined Sep. 2014
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Just really putting their business out there.
Wow.......google, aunt, mother, sister, friend, or back to doc......but you choose dh.?
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| 11/10/2014 12:51:38 PM |
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dr_know
Washington, DC
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| 11/10/2014 1:21:16 PM |
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cubcougar
Lucerne, CA
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^^^^^^^^yes he is....and being a friend to Dr. Leary probably helped too.
and this is me clean and sober ...
put me on drugs with the personality of a talking potato
... oh boy ...
that is not pretty ...
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| 11/10/2014 2:45:53 PM |
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armyfly86
Seminole, TX
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Just really putting their business out there.
Wow.......google, aunt, mother, sister, friend, or back to doc......but you choose dh.?
your ugly we all need know there's still tight p*ssys out there
You know her man just isn't well hung go look at him
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| 11/10/2014 3:44:18 PM |
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irisnorway88
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| 11/10/2014 4:03:17 PM |
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4uijack
New Port Richey, FL
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Can you still take it deeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep , OP?
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| 11/10/2014 4:41:16 PM |
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irisnorway88
Hobbs, NM
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Can you still take it deeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep , OP?
yes..
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| 11/10/2014 5:07:06 PM |
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nothingneeded
Johnston, IA
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your ugly we all need know there's still tight p*ssys out there
You know her man just isn't well hung go look at him
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| 11/10/2014 5:21:43 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
49, joined Jul. 2013
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What diane wrote, about sums it up
and u should get another opinion
with a ob/gyn, since yours
wasn't helpful matter of fact some
tests should have been did also
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| 11/10/2014 5:27:27 PM |
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cubcougar
Lucerne, CA
61, joined Oct. 2010
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Quote from packersbabe920:What diane wrote, about sums it up
and u should get another opinion
with a ob/gyn, since yours
wasn't helpful matter of fact some
tests should have been did also
.....ahhhhh ... and what tests would you say have to be done ... huh ????
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| 11/10/2014 5:34:45 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
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Quote from packersbabe920:What diane wrote, about sums it up
and u should get another opinion
with a ob/gyn, since yours
wasn't helpful matter of fact some
tests should have been did also
.....ahhhhh ... and what tests would you say have to be done ... huh ????
For cancer
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| 11/10/2014 5:57:18 PM |
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irisnorway88
Hobbs, NM
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No its okay,I did testing and today I got the answer I needed so iI'm all good.
What it is the vagina tighten when about to "O" and that's all..but he experiences pain because of the pelvic...he can try a different position .
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| 11/10/2014 6:07:08 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
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Ok, good luck
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| 11/10/2014 9:02:05 PM |
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cubcougar
Lucerne, CA
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]Quote from irisnorway88:No its okay,I did testing and today I got the answer I needed so iI'm all good.
What it is the vagina tighten when about to "O" and that's all..but he experiences pain because of the pelvic...he can try a different position
still .. go do the healthy pricks therapy .. it will open your life so all positions are good.
and BF ... yeppers ... he gets to become a healthy prick as well if he does the therapy him self.
win win win .. for every one.
sumbuddie wear blind sea
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| 11/10/2014 9:03:37 PM |
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ktown2431
Knoxville, TN
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Deez hoes
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