| 2/16/2015 11:32:42 AM |
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older_rh_sc
Rock Hill, SC
55, joined Dec. 2012
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After your loss did you want or did you move from your place? If so how long did you wait.
See my wife and her brother both died in the house 2years apart on the same day (hmmm) anyway in next year I'll be there by myself. Real thinking hard about moving from the area (Charlotte) to the coast. Wondering did any else have this feeling?
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| 2/16/2015 11:54:18 AM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
58, joined May. 2009
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My husband and I had just moved from Minneapolis to Vegas for his job. We were renting a house until we decided where we wanted to buy, and pretty much everything we had was still in boxes. We lived there together for about two months (he'd moved earlier than I did and was in it about two months before), and then for about three months in a coma.
The lease was coming up on the house, and I couldn't afford it anyway without his income, so our daughter and I had to move to a much smaller and much less expensive apartment. I had to downsize a lot of stuff in a very short amount of time.
It was horrible and hard and heartbreaking. I know why people say wait a year before making major decisions or making a move. I made many mistakes I regret to this day.
I often wonder if we had still been in MN and surrounded by friends and family what I'd have done about moving. A lot of things would have been different and there would have been life insurance so I believe I would have kept the house and not moved. But who knows? I may not have been able to handle the memories.
Have you always wanted to move to the coast or is this something new you've been thinking? I guess I think you've had a good amount of time to be able to make a good and well-thought out decision.
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| 2/16/2015 2:08:55 PM |
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older_rh_sc
Rock Hill, SC
55, joined Dec. 2012
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Always wanted to live coastal
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| 2/17/2015 12:01:44 AM |
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mjohndeer
Lehigh Acres, FL
45, joined Jul. 2014
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Where I go I feel that way I lost my wife in june and I moved out in a few months and I still feel alone I kno it has not been long but long enough for me
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| 2/19/2015 10:12:25 AM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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Have what feeling, OP?
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| 2/20/2015 2:31:41 AM |
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older_rh_sc
Rock Hill, SC
55, joined Dec. 2012
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Have what feeling, OP?
To move to a different place (start a new beginning)
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| 2/20/2015 11:10:47 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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Since you put it like that ... I didn't ever begin feeling like that. Now if you should ask how long after my husband's death I waited to get on with the matter of living then that would get a totally different response.
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| 2/26/2015 7:45:03 PM |
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stevep55
Burnsville, MN
61, joined Dec. 2013
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After my wife died,i lost everything.
I tried to hold on as long as i could,
But without her income which was 50% of the household income,i lost two cars,our boat,our motorcycles,finally they were days away from repo'ing the house,i gave up. Locked the house up and all the contents,packed a small duffle bag
And walked away.(literally).
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| 2/27/2015 9:10:47 PM |
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older_rh_sc
Rock Hill, SC
55, joined Dec. 2012
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After my wife died,i lost everything.
I tried to hold on as long as i could,
But without her income which was 50% of the household income,i lost two cars,our boat,our motorcycles,finally they were days away from repo'ing the house,i gave up. Locked the house up and all the contents,packed a small duffle bag
And walked away.(literally).
Wow, sorry to hear that. Hope that another door opened.
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| 3/28/2015 3:35:24 AM |
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zoozzz
AndalgaláAustralian Capital
Australia
34, joined Mar. 2015
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35yo here, it's been 6 months here, still living in the same rented place. Just recently gave my wife's clothes to charity. I've thought of moving but the house is still full of her stuff. Thought about traveling in an RV but need more $$$ for that. Once I'm traveling I can get jobs fruit picking, no cheap Mexicans in Australia but there are cheap Chinese and backpackers who I would need to compete with plus I would need to get more fit.
I feel like its running away but then again i need a fresh start.
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| 3/29/2015 1:08:00 PM |
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24milkduds
San Francisco, CA
58, joined Mar. 2012
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I stayed in my house for two years...I was stuck , depressed and drained my savings until I couldn't afford the mortgage any longer...I didn't change a thing in my house and wallowed in sorrow...I finally started to donated my husbands clothing, had garage sales and found work in the Bay Area...if I hadn't moved I don't think I would be where I'm at today going on 4 years..I still take baby steps..this pace works for me but I'm emotionally and mentally in a place where I embrace my late husband in my heart forever..life is good...you should do what you think is best for you and not what others say!
Good luck
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| 3/30/2015 10:51:04 AM |
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urealysucklol
San Benito, TX
45, joined Jul. 2014
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People actually block here this dude with only me posting blocked me all I said was to hire hookers,
No wonder the dumb b*tch is lonely,
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| 4/9/2015 4:16:21 AM |
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ilovepoodles55
Schererville, IN
55, joined Feb. 2015
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Some people are able to stay in their home other people need a change. It is up to you what decision you make. It is so important to figure out a way to keep moving forward. Good luck OP.
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| 4/13/2015 5:06:38 PM |
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moonbeams73
Grand Rapids, MN
62, joined Sep. 2009
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I left after a year. At first I needed the memories of him. Then it just became too painful to stay.
I started working a month after he died. I never looked back. I was determined that the kids and I were going to make it and we did. Never give up.
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| 6/1/2015 1:26:21 AM |
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marlotho
Slippery Rock, PA
61, joined Aug. 2012
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my husband's job moved was still in PA but we lived 100 miles away. He moved up to Erie after 8 months I moved up there with him. We bought a house.
Our kids didn't want me to live that far away and I was losing the house I tried to keep it but every one said walk away. I should have saved the money instead of trying to keep the house. My daughter got me into a low income apartment I had to get rid of a lot of stuff. It was hard.
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| 6/23/2015 5:28:57 PM |
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yuhaszb
Indiana, PA
45, joined May. 2014
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I was married for six years when I lost my husband we owned our owned our own place and I never wanted to leave here and I still haven't but I have had others trying to convince me that it would be better if I did. I still love it here and so glad that I didn't listen to others and move.
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| 6/29/2015 5:30:00 AM |
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janet5360
Pittsburgh, PA
64, joined Dec. 2013
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I did not even think of moving. I thought it was strange when one of the nurses I worked with mentioned it. We had just moved into our new place in April and found out he had pancreatic cancer. By July he was in a coma. I spent the majority of time since moving in caring for him and had little unpacked. All our money on hand went to hygiene and nutrition items. My husband waited for our place to be built and had no time to enjoy it. I am now settled and comfortable knowing this is where he wanted me to be.
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| 7/30/2015 11:12:47 AM |
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chadhesh36
Thayer, IN
39, joined Mar. 2014
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After my wife passed i didnt wait long to move a month maybe 2 tops.I just couldnt be there knowing she wasn't there with me.
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| 7/31/2015 11:29:00 AM |
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my2sunshine
Pulaski, NY
51, joined Apr. 2013
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I owned our home before we were married and had no mortgage when he passed away.
I quit my job and started looking for another in the south....warm areas near the coast.
I wanted to move to start over again...that plan didn't pan out.
More than 2 years have passed now and I am building a big garage and making changes on the property.
I love it here. He loved it here. I still belong here.
Don't make decisions on moving unless you can't afford what you have.
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