| 2/24/2015 11:45:22 PM |
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ladiebugg55
Redding, CA
61, joined Jun. 2012
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7 years now of my late husband being in my dreams every night..at first it was comforting, then bitter sweet..now I'm tired of it..I want to move on..I don't want him in my dreams anymore..I don't know how to stop it..lately, my husband speaks very little in the dreams..I dream every night and always remember my dreams..the dreams aren't even about my husband, yet he's always in the dreams no matter what..
I wish I knew how to stop it..any suggestions?.. 
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| 3/3/2015 2:16:55 PM |
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txcountrymedic
Pleasanton, TX
39, joined Mar. 2014
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I did alot of reading on dreams because of nightmares i was having because of a traumatic call at work. There is alot of reaserch on it, but what i found that helped me was a tattoo. It is there with me personal to me, so i know why it is there, but no one else does and i havent had one sense.
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| 3/4/2015 9:45:38 PM |
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mysterydrifter2
Denton, TX
98, joined Jan. 2012
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Actually, I never had the problem with my husband being in my dreams. Maybe b/c I had a wife! [grin, grin; wink-wink] However, it would seem to me that 7 years should be long enough. Different people can take longer and grieve and in different ways; recluse, alcohol, sex, drugs, jumping from a plane!  , etc.
It's been 15 years for me and I found the only way to get back into the game of life was to get involved in hobbies and other relationships. May need a "one on one" relationship that provided someone else to focus on as a replacement. If you are in the same house, maybe moving to a NEW environment. Also with new furniture might help.... IF you can afford it.
But I found it isn't near as easy as it used to be b/c it seems the dating game has changed and found TONS of Users and those EXPECTING you to be something THEY want you to be for THEM! I am NOT one of those who live under a misconception that now that I am free again, I am automatically 20 years younger! It just don't work that way.
I had settled in with maturity and monogamous companionship and had/have NO problem with reality. So I chose the Recluse route since I don't really care to start from square one again. For me, starting all over again is out of my comfort zone. But the memories may always be there, they just become less frequent. Best of Luck 
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| 3/4/2015 9:48:29 PM |
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mysterydrifter2
Denton, TX
98, joined Jan. 2012
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Hummm, kept getting this message: "This thread has been removed and is no longer available."
[Edited 3/4/2015 9:49:23 PM ]
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| 3/5/2015 6:17:22 AM |
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older_rh_sc
Rock Hill, SC
55, joined Dec. 2012
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I too have those dreams, but I've focus my energy on a new goal (hiking allowed thought time).
Your dreams might be telling you to focus on the future and not the past.
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| 3/29/2015 11:14:17 AM |
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urealysucklol
San Benito, TX
45, joined Jul. 2014
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Sometimes I dream about a hot sexy alien princess that can transform
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| 4/9/2015 4:14:34 AM |
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ilovepoodles55
Schererville, IN
55, joined Feb. 2015
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I dreamed about him a lot in the beginning but the dreams have faded away.
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| 8/13/2015 8:24:35 PM |
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rescue143
Jacksonville, FL
35, joined Feb. 2015
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I know exactly what you mean, it's been 9 years and I can still feel him hold me when I sleep. I feel his arms around me when I cry. I smell his cologne and can hear him whisper.
Our son looks just like him, it breaks my heart.
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| 10/14/2015 8:23:31 PM |
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hugandakiss_xo
Merritt, NC
62, joined Jul. 2011
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Yes.... he is often in my dreams, but they are never good. He passed in 2008
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| 10/14/2015 9:21:59 PM |
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hugandakiss_xo
Merritt, NC
62, joined Jul. 2011
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Yes.... he is often in my dreams, but they are never good. He passed in 2008
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| 10/20/2015 10:39:44 AM |
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herbhead
Red Wing, MN
63, joined Mar. 2009
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How about the next time he appears in your dream, ask him what he wants, why he keeps showing up---obviously there is a reason he keeps appearing to you.
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| 10/21/2015 12:32:06 PM |
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janet5360
Pittsburgh, PA
64, joined Dec. 2013
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Sounds like you have some unfinished business that is troubling you. Maybe it would help if you went to see someone that could offer you some comfort and advise.
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| 10/21/2015 9:51:48 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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Learn to let go. There's somewhere he needs to be and when you let go then he can go there. God determines where he needs to be. Let him go.
My mother used to do that once in awhile and that's what I'd tell her. I let her go but she'd come back now and then. I'd tell her to go to wherever it was she was supposed to be, but I knew it wasn't here.
Did you husband die suddenly? They say sometimes if you die suddenly the spirit doesn't realize it's dead and tries to take care of unfinished business or to reconnect. Battlefields are supposed to be the most haunted places in the world.
If you're religious practice your faith regarding praying for the dead and giving him eternal rest. If you're Catholic offer a Mass, go to confession, light a candle. You can help him by appealing to God of his behalf even after 7 years. Say a daily Rosary.
Become truly independent. He may think you need help. Show him you've (no offense, k?) "moved on" that you can handle life and it's problems now especially the things he used to do for you.
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| 10/21/2015 9:52:55 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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Sounds like you have some unfinished business that is troubling you. Maybe it would help if you went to see someone that could offer you some comfort and advise.
Or a grief counselor. They're far more experienced in this than I am. My friend saw one and thought it really helped.
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| 10/28/2015 12:53:32 PM |
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gdaddy47
Columbia, TN
69, joined Sep. 2009
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It sounds like to me you have to let go and get out there among people. Maybe you're already doing that. Are you out there? Are you still holding on? Just ask these questions to yourself.
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