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bookwormtobutte
Rio Rancho, NM
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I think most people have been there. Crazy about someone who doesn't feel the same about you. You try to dwell on their flaws (cause no one is perfect), or think of ways other people you dated were better then them. But you can't seem to explain how they keep popping up in your thoughts day after day.
You're told all types of advice:
1)Best way to get over someone is to get under someone else (that really seems to be #1 mainstreams answer)
2) Give yourself time you'll meet someone else
3) Pick up a new hobby
4) Focus on yourself, your goals
5) Tell them how you feel, they may be feeling the same (that's the most horrifying one of all)
So what's your way of dealing with unrequited love?
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| 7/1/2016 2:28:18 PM |
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alls_fair
Thorlákshöfn
Iceland
96, joined May. 2011
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Things work out the way they are supposed to work out...
Emotional addiction is extremely toxic!
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| 7/1/2016 2:28:34 PM |
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easttowest72
Bremen, GA
44, joined Sep. 2014
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Stay away from them. In time your heart will heal and then you want even remember why You liked them to begin with.
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| 7/1/2016 2:35:11 PM |
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doublecaring
Droichead Nua
Ireland
47, joined Aug. 2015
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Have never experienced Unrequited Love as I view it completely different than most .
Sure I've loved and let go and been loved and let go .
That doesn't break , as there are always strong reasons why people part .
I consider Unrequited Love to be having loved everyone around you without that love being reciprocated EVER.
We all know love . I hope we do anyway , sincerely .
Nothing as bad as meeting a person who has been broken by the very people who love them...
family of origin .
Very sad indeed and I can say I haven't meet many , but the ones I did are utterly broken .
Can love cant accept love.
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| 7/1/2016 2:58:00 PM |
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uber_goober
Danielsville, GA
50, joined May. 2016
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Stay away from them. In time your heart will heal and then you want even remember why You liked them to begin with.
Agreed. In the past, mine have been more like unrequited crushes though. Time and creating a little distance has always solved it. No point in f**king up a friendship over an unreciprocated physical and mental attraction.
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| 7/1/2016 3:00:35 PM |
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mortara
Pittsburgh, PA
62, joined Feb. 2014
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I think most people have been there. Crazy about someone who doesn't feel the same about you. You try to dwell on their flaws (cause no one is perfect), or think of ways other people you dated were better then them. But you can't seem to explain how they keep popping up in your thoughts day after day.
You're told all types of advice:
1)Best way to get over someone is to get under someone else (that really seems to be #1 mainstreams answer)
2) Give yourself time you'll meet someone else
3) Pick up a new hobby
4) Focus on yourself, your goals
5) Tell them how you feel, they may be feeling the same (that's the most horrifying one of all)
So what's your way of dealing with unrequited love?
That may or may not work if the guy your getting under to get over the guy you love is just looking for a one night stand and you didn't see it even when your friends tell you that is all he is interested in.
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| 7/1/2016 3:10:17 PM |
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mr_zipzip
New York, NY
32, joined May. 2014
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...if they led you on kick his f**king teeth in.
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| 7/1/2016 3:10:27 PM |
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silva_13_i_back
White City, OR
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| 7/1/2016 3:21:27 PM |
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mr_zipzip
New York, NY
32, joined May. 2014
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Silva  's Zip
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| 7/1/2016 3:32:42 PM |
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bookwormtobutte
Rio Rancho, NM
36, joined Jan. 2016
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...if they led you on kick his f**king teeth in.
No he's actually really nice, he's a good man. Not a perfect man but a very good man.
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| 7/1/2016 3:38:46 PM |
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vanilla_cream2
Philadelphia, PA
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| 7/1/2016 3:40:52 PM |
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silva_13_i_back
White City, OR
41, joined May. 2015
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Silva13 ladies
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| 7/1/2016 3:45:49 PM |
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M4mischief
Grand Prairie, TX
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Welllll I just move on to find someone who I love and who loves me in return...all the being upset or love in the world isn't going to change it....
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| 7/1/2016 3:47:38 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
67, joined May. 2010
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You know, OP, you post threads that sound a lot like the style of posting that Israelite posts.
Are you two related, by chance?
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| 7/1/2016 3:48:24 PM |
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silva_13_i_back
White City, OR
41, joined May. 2015
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Op there's enough of me to go around.
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| 7/1/2016 3:57:06 PM |
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ctr916v2
Roseville, CA
53, joined Nov. 2014
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i save up to spend quality time with a nice girl who is willing to be friends, even in the most heterosexual of manners and fashions in modern times.
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| 7/1/2016 4:00:59 PM |
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bookwormtobutte
Rio Rancho, NM
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You know, OP, you post threads that sound a lot like the style of posting that Israelite posts.
Are you two related, by chance?
Not that I'm aware of
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| 7/1/2016 4:08:32 PM |
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stanleyzee
Dayton, OH
32, joined Dec. 2012
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Op there's enough of me to go around.  
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| 7/1/2016 5:06:47 PM |
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Mercedes_02
AñatuyaAñatuya
Australia
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Welllll I just move on to find someone who I love and who loves me in return...all the being upset or love in the world isn't going to change it....
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| 7/1/2016 5:10:58 PM |
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ltlwing
Winchester, OH
52, joined Oct. 2013
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4...focus on myself and goals.
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| 7/1/2016 5:14:44 PM |
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Mercedes_02
AñatuyaAñatuya
Australia
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I didn't read the options and I agree with wing number 4 for me.
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| 7/1/2016 5:21:04 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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I think most people have been there. Crazy about someone who doesn't feel the same about you. You try to dwell on their flaws (cause no one is perfect), or think of ways other people you dated were better then them. But you can't seem to explain how they keep popping up in your thoughts day after day.
You're told all types of advice:
1)Best way to get over someone is to get under someone else (that really seems to be #1 mainstreams answer)
2) Give yourself time you'll meet someone else
3) Pick up a new hobby
4) Focus on yourself, your goals
5) Tell them how you feel, they may be feeling the same (that's the most horrifying one of all)
So what's your way of dealing with unrequited love?
I haven't found a logical way, other than time. Incorporation of new information into the brain, will eventually bury their memory into a section that is not accessed as often.
They will always be there, BUT, only at the subconscious level.
Unfortunately, the one in that realm right now, is a Scorpio woman, and they are damned near unforgettable.
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| 7/1/2016 5:33:06 PM |
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doublecaring
Droichead Nua
Ireland
47, joined Aug. 2015
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That may or may not work if the guy your getting under to get over the guy you love is just looking for a one night stand and you didn't see it even when your friends tell you that is all he is interested in.
True enough Mort , but if he/she is honest about his needs/wants , nobody need get hurt.
I , myself , never substitute heads . I get over my last one before I even consider getting under my next .(or up top ,hey its the naughties  }
Personal choice and one that I seem to need to do .
Each to his own . There is a saying that the best way to get over a man is to get under another one . I don't subscribe.
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| 7/1/2016 5:38:21 PM |
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stan_147
Coos Bay, OR
52, joined Aug. 2010
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Booze, cigarettes and music.
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| 7/1/2016 5:42:21 PM |
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romulus247
Louisville, KY
32, joined Jun. 2016
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All of the above.
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| 7/1/2016 6:47:37 PM |
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countryladypoet
Clarion, PA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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cry some if I have too
drink some beer
move on..
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| 7/1/2016 8:10:25 PM |
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micheleisgreat
Pittsburgh, PA
53, joined Nov. 2013
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Op there's enough of me to go around.
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| 7/1/2016 8:19:25 PM |
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stobil
Gallatin, TN
36, joined Nov. 2009
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Stay away from them. In time your heart will heal and then you want even remember why You liked them to begin with.
Not true. I'm still not over a woman I met 13 yrs ago. If I were dating someone, I'd dump whomever I was seeing to date her if the opportunity were there.
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| 7/1/2016 8:23:54 PM |
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huedathunkit
Omaha, NE
39, joined Nov. 2009
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booze, send me your boobs, hang out with friends, send me your boob, more booze and send me your boobs.
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| 7/1/2016 9:31:49 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
64, joined Oct. 2009
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#2........ does anyone REALLY believe that B as in B and S as in S? I've been waiting 33 YEARS to meet someone else and if it hasn't happened by this time it isn't going to.
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| 7/1/2016 9:43:44 PM |
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bookwormtobutte
Rio Rancho, NM
36, joined Jan. 2016
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I haven't found a logical way, other than time. Incorporation of new information into the brain, will eventually bury their memory into a section that is not accessed as often.
They will always be there, BUT, only at the subconscious level.
Unfortunately, the one in that realm right now, is a Scorpio woman, and they are damned near unforgettable.
Really mines a Scorpio Man? Is it something about Scorpios?
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| 7/1/2016 9:44:20 PM |
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stumppy
Wind Gap, PA
70, joined Jan. 2008
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unrequited love ?
Really simple.
determine what you feel you are missing in your emotional needs, resolve that, and move on.
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| 7/1/2016 9:45:35 PM |
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technologist_1
Powell, OH
50, joined Dec. 2014
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I've heard scorpios make the best lovers. Can't say, I've never dated one
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| 7/1/2016 9:47:20 PM |
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bookwormtobutte
Rio Rancho, NM
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I've heard scorpios make the best lovers. Can't say, I've never dated one
He was pretty good, one of my top 5
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| 7/1/2016 9:48:59 PM |
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sperinkles
Three Sisters
South Africa
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#4. focus on yourself and keep in mind they aren't worth it. 
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| 7/1/2016 9:51:38 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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Really mines a Scorpio Man? Is it something about Scorpios?
Scorpios are unforgettable in every sense of the word. I have only ever been with two. One as a girlfriend, one as a hookup(that I believe had ulterior motives for wanting a relationship), and neither of them are ever truly going to be forgotten about.
I am over the ex, and don't think about her pretty much, at all. The hookup is quite complicated, because I have actually dreamt of her, and in that dream we reconciled the misunderstandings, and it was not a "wet dream" as they are referred to in laymen's terms, either.
In any case, she f**ked my world up something fierce. I can't recall ever having dreamt of a hookup, after we were done. Girlfriends? Yes, but a fling?????
Then again, I never had a fling with another Scorpio, before.....
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| 7/1/2016 9:51:44 PM |
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stumppy
Wind Gap, PA
70, joined Jan. 2008
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With that attitude, neither are you.
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| 7/1/2016 10:03:19 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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I've heard scorpios make the best lovers. Can't say, I've never dated one
As far as my record?
Well, I have destroyed multiple pieces of furniture in my home, one set of 1993 Pontiac Grand Am rear shock absorbers, stolen more than one man's wife by being able to do things they couldn't do, had 6" of steam pouring off my bedroom door as if I had just taken a shower(this particular effect was generated with the help of one of my Scorpios), and have aided a few of my previously enjoyed companions in enjoying their first BIG-O(as it is commonly called).
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| 7/1/2016 11:42:03 PM |
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patriottype
Grand Prairie, TX
36, joined Jul. 2013
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Scorpios are unforgettable in every sense of the word. I have only ever been with two. One as a girlfriend, one as a hookup(that I believe had ulterior motives for wanting a relationship), and neither of them are ever truly going to be forgotten about.
I am over the ex, and don't think about her pretty much, at all. The hookup is quite complicated, because I have actually dreamt of her, and in that dream we reconciled the misunderstandings, and it was not a "wet dream" as they are referred to in laymen's terms, either.
In any case, she f**ked my world up something fierce. I can't recall ever having dreamt of a hookup, after we were done. Girlfriends? Yes, but a fling?????
Then again, I never had a fling with another Scorpio, before.....
Wow you have no idea about what casual sex is........
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| 7/2/2016 6:01:54 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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Wow you have no idea about what casual sex is........
I don't do relationships, anymore. They all come with kids, when you are 35, unless of course you want to be a pedophile and go prowl the junior high school playgrounds(and even then you may still find one with kids).
You must have missed that part, in my profile, where it reads only available for NSA.
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| 7/2/2016 6:15:04 AM |
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technologist_1
Powell, OH
50, joined Dec. 2014
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Mornin Enig,
Guess what I was told about scorpios was true
If I didn't have a man, I'd probably be looking to have NSA sex, just to try it out! 
Good day to you my fellow Ohioan 
I'm just a bull-headed Capricorn
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| 7/2/2016 6:18:03 AM |
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idliketotalk
Punxsutawney, PA
53, joined Oct. 2013
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Scorpio here checking in. I just love from afar, some know, some don't. Oh and yeah, the love doesn't always flow both ways.
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| 7/2/2016 6:20:06 AM |
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technologist_1
Powell, OH
50, joined Dec. 2014
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Mornin ID
Hope all is well with you! Ya damn scorpio
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| 7/2/2016 6:25:38 AM |
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idliketotalk
Punxsutawney, PA
53, joined Oct. 2013
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Good morning Miss Tech, I'm feeling the love!
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| 7/2/2016 6:26:48 AM |
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barrydalmi
Baltimore, MD
53, joined Dec. 2007
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I vaguely remember a movie (may have been Hallmark) where this woman was crushing hard on this "perfect" guy. As the story went on, she finally gets him and he turns out to be a bit of a douche, and not so great after all...of course it being fiction she "fixes" him and it worked out. I'm not so sure that's how it works out in real life.
Certainly that was no answer to the question...just made me think of that plot....
I'm a no. 5 type of guy. If you are free to enter a relationship and can have that discussion-do so. There would be nothing worse than meeting up with her at the nursing home and finding out you could have had 20-30 years together....
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| 7/2/2016 6:43:56 AM |
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imn0tphoto
Minneapolis, MN
26, joined Mar. 2013
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Berries
posts
Never really surprise me
Is that
Racists
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| 7/2/2016 9:36:54 AM |
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bookwormtobutte
Rio Rancho, NM
36, joined Jan. 2016
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I vaguely remember a movie (may have been Hallmark) where this woman was crushing hard on this "perfect" guy. As the story went on, she finally gets him and he turns out to be a bit of a douche, and not so great after all...of course it being fiction she "fixes" him and it worked out. I'm not so sure that's how it works out in real life.
Certainly that was no answer to the question...just made me think of that plot....
I'm a no. 5 type of guy. If you are free to enter a relationship and can have that discussion-do so. There would be nothing worse than meeting up with her at the nursing home and finding out you could have had 20-30 years together....
Hmmm interesting, kind of the "There are many regrets in ones life time, but none so big as the, what if" philosophy.
Very good point, I don't suppose any one ever died of rejection or embarrassment (though I'm sure millions wish they had)
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| 7/2/2016 9:38:55 AM |
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seth097
Arvada, CO
48, joined May. 2014
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Stay away from them. In time your heart will heal and then you want even remember why You liked them to begin with.
The only solution i have found. Usually when love comes to one so strongly, it is not reciprocated. Funny how that works.
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| 7/2/2016 9:43:59 AM |
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seth097
Arvada, CO
48, joined May. 2014
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I am experiencing unrequited love for your body, op.
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| 7/2/2016 9:45:57 AM |
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stumppy
Wind Gap, PA
70, joined Jan. 2008
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chasing a fantasy always results in your own pain. We all have delusions about what we must have.
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| 7/2/2016 9:53:09 AM |
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
51, joined Jun. 2012
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I think most people have been there. Crazy about someone who doesn't feel the same about you. You try to dwell on their flaws (cause no one is perfect), or think of ways other people you dated were better then them. But you can't seem to explain how they keep popping up in your thoughts day after day.
You're told all types of advice:
1)Best way to get over someone is to get under someone else (that really seems to be #1 mainstreams answer)
2) Give yourself time you'll meet someone else
3) Pick up a new hobby
4) Focus on yourself, your goals
5) Tell them how you feel, they may be feeling the same (that's the most horrifying one of all)
So what's your way of dealing with unrequited love?
I am really an odd human...
Hv I had crushes ? Yes
But hv I totally be infatuated with someone who wasn't the same with me ? Nope...
I usually..only focused on those that came at me...
Okay..I AM weird...
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| 7/2/2016 10:18:23 AM |
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countryladypoet
Clarion, PA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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No your not weird Eyes.. I'm not sure I have ever been heartbroken. .I suppose I have never been truly in love
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| 7/2/2016 10:20:24 AM |
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xHarleyQuinn
County Antrim, N. Ireland
United Kingdom
38, joined Jan. 2016
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Number one. I had rebound fling after my divorce years ago, for around seven months but I never intended keepin him. He was fun to play with for a while and it made it easier to forget.
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| 7/2/2016 10:37:19 AM |
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stumppy
Wind Gap, PA
70, joined Jan. 2008
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a tad selfish and manipulative, me thinks.
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| 7/2/2016 10:40:53 AM |
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xHarleyQuinn
County Antrim, N. Ireland
United Kingdom
38, joined Jan. 2016
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Yep. That's how rebound flings are. Totally Selfish. I never claimed to be a saint.
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| 7/2/2016 10:42:11 AM |
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stumppy
Wind Gap, PA
70, joined Jan. 2008
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Then why so defensive ?
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| 7/2/2016 10:43:17 AM |
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dasnixter
Jessieville, AR
58, joined Jul. 2010
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The inevitability of obvious conclusion unto the stark reality is action enough
for the sane to assess, regardless of honourable sustained campaign to curry favour,
all is lost.
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off
and start all over again.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_p_JxDGVqXg
Diana Krall
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3EFPJL1uQbs
Frank Sinatra
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| 7/2/2016 10:43:38 AM |
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seth097
Arvada, CO
48, joined May. 2014
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Yep. That's how rebound flings are. Totally Selfish. I never claimed to be a saint.
Exactly. No one else is going to ensure our safety.
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| 7/2/2016 10:49:35 AM |
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xHarleyQuinn
County Antrim, N. Ireland
United Kingdom
38, joined Jan. 2016
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Whose defensive?
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| 7/2/2016 10:58:11 AM |
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hikinghills
Redding, CA
52, joined Mar. 2016
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I am really an odd human...
Hv I had crushes ? Yes
But hv I totally be infatuated with someone who wasn't the same with me ? Nope...
I usually..only focused on those that came at me...
Okay..I AM weird...
I think you just like a good challenge,not someone plain...
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