| 11/17/2016 11:28:40 AM |
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alwysinfulmandi
Colorado Springs, CO
31, joined Jul. 2014
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Ok... So here it goes...
I've been dating a 49 year old who has a gf that he claims he wants to break up with but hasn't... she is in town once a month and they don't even kiss... Not to mention this guy has many friends who are girls including one he has history with that he still hangs out with. He wants me to be okay with everything and I've been totally accepting... I have found it though totally awkward to hang out with his friends who are females though. Though I hate drama... I have no clue wtf to do...
[Edited 11/17/2016 11:29:33 AM ]
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| 11/17/2016 11:30:10 AM |
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jer3552
Vale, OR
62, joined Oct. 2013
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u r a side piece of ass....which probably for u is a step up 
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| 11/17/2016 11:30:35 AM |
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crumpet_dreams
Beverly Hills, CA
39, joined Sep. 2016
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Mandi, you're better than that..sharing a dirty old man.
Might I suggest packing your sexy unders and moving to Houston Texas and living with this dirty old man instead, I don't share 
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| 11/17/2016 11:31:39 AM |
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alwysinfulmandi
Colorado Springs, CO
31, joined Jul. 2014
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Thanks for your honesty...
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| 11/17/2016 11:32:08 AM |
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bluesrule
Marshalltown, IA
60, joined Jul. 2011
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Find a new boyfriend.
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| 11/17/2016 11:34:14 AM |
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Orchid73
Abano TermeMilan
Italy
44, joined Sep. 2016
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He wants me to be okay with everything and I've been totally accepting...
I guess the first question from me would be why were you totally accepting? What has changed now?
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| 11/17/2016 11:36:41 AM |
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alwysinfulmandi
Colorado Springs, CO
31, joined Jul. 2014
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The fact that more women come around and start unnecessary drama. I'm not okay with it...
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| 11/17/2016 11:37:29 AM |
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hotinfla
Jacksonville Beach, FL
62, joined Aug. 2016
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duh! do you really think he's leaving her for you?
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| 11/17/2016 11:38:16 AM |
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spiritwalker51
Knoxville, TN
55, joined Dec. 2015
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You look like you could do better, OP...JS
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| 11/17/2016 11:39:14 AM |
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korbyn
Bat Cave, NC
98, joined Jun. 2013
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That's mean, Jer.
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| 11/17/2016 11:40:27 AM |
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Orchid73
Abano TermeMilan
Italy
44, joined Sep. 2016
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The fact that more women come around and start unnecessary drama. I'm not okay with it...
Drama, in the sense that they are jealous of you? How about you, how do you feel towards them?
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| 11/17/2016 11:40:55 AM |
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alwysinfulmandi
Colorado Springs, CO
31, joined Jul. 2014
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duh! do you really think he's leaving her for you?
You should see the anxiety she brings in his life. I know he wants to but it shouldn't be for me...
He recently started calling me his gf to his friends...
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| 11/17/2016 11:41:50 AM |
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hotinfla
Jacksonville Beach, FL
62, joined Aug. 2016
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SMH, get out now would be the best and only advice I could offer
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| 11/17/2016 11:42:30 AM |
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saruman256
Belleville, IL
61, joined Jun. 2007
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Run Forrest, RUN !!!!!!
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| 11/17/2016 11:43:09 AM |
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crumpet_dreams
Beverly Hills, CA
39, joined Sep. 2016
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you can do much better than be a 49yr olds "maybe"
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| 11/17/2016 11:45:55 AM |
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alwysinfulmandi
Colorado Springs, CO
31, joined Jul. 2014
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Drama, in the sense that they are jealous of you? How about you, how do you feel towards them?
I don't know honestly... if I react I look like the bad guy.
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| 11/17/2016 11:47:13 AM |
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Orchid73
Abano TermeMilan
Italy
44, joined Sep. 2016
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Ok but how do you feel about it, honestly.
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| 11/17/2016 11:47:21 AM |
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archer513
Cincinnati, OH
44, joined Dec. 2014
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Mandi sounds like a party 
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| 11/17/2016 11:50:02 AM |
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scoobs78
Tasmania
Australia
39, joined Jun. 2013
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My best advice is to not let anyone on dh or any other dating site know what ur doing because some of these emotionally damaged, unemployed government tit sucking retards think they are experts at relationships while they've had multiple failed relationships
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| 11/17/2016 11:52:02 AM |
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sarahgoldsmith
Chantilly, VA
46, joined Jan. 2014
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OP, if you don't like the situation then don't be in it. He is lying to you. You are the side chick, if you are ok with that, then it's your fault. Some women are willing to be the side chick because they don't want to admit that they can't get sex from other men. So they are willing to be the side chick, they take what ever they can get.
You have to think this way, you are an adult & you make your own decisions. So what ever decisions you make for yourself, you will have to live with it, & endure it. You should want to love yourself, cherish yourself, think of yourself as deserving high standards & deserving the best things life has to offer. You shouldn't have to settle for less or for second best. It's you who control your own personal lifestyle.
The 49 year old man should think this way, & tell his ex girlfriend: "I have a girlfriend now. I can't hang out with you anymore. It would look weird. I don't want to make my girlfriend jealous."
But I guess he doesn't value your opinion or your feelings. He is not thinking about you. The 49 years old man should take your feelings into consideration & not hang out with the ex girlfriend anymore. I think he is lying to you, OP. Tell you what ever you want to hear. He wants an open relationship but he doesn't want you to know about it. You are the side chick.
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| 11/17/2016 11:53:15 AM |
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crumpet_dreams
Beverly Hills, CA
39, joined Sep. 2016
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4'11" petite hot mess into older guys
Does it get any better?
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| 11/17/2016 11:59:08 AM |
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sarahgoldsmith
Chantilly, VA
46, joined Jan. 2014
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Side chick women have low self esteem. That's why they are the side chick. They will take sex any way they can get it, because they think they can't get sex from any other men. They think that man is the only one they can get sex from. It's a low self esteem issue, & am emotional issue. Side chicks don't think they can do better or get a better man than the one they have now. That's why they are the side chick to begin with.
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| 11/17/2016 12:01:46 PM |
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fu_gazi
Phoenix, AZ
31, joined Mar. 2015
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Ok... So here it goes...
I've been dating a 49 year old who has a gf that he claims he wants to break up with but hasn't... she is in town once a month......
Like Jer said ...you are just a side piece of a** when his girlfriend is out of town.
Hoes be hoes 
And cut that shit out , you look stupid making them duck face lips in all your pics
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| 11/17/2016 12:09:49 PM |
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crumpet_dreams
Beverly Hills, CA
39, joined Sep. 2016
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Mandi, ignore them and come back to bed.
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| 11/17/2016 12:19:10 PM |
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alwysinfulmandi
Colorado Springs, CO
31, joined Jul. 2014
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Side chick women have low self esteem. That's why they are the side chick. They will take sex any way they can get it, because they think they can't get sex from any other men. They think that man is the only one they can get sex from. It's a low self esteem issue, & am emotional issue. Side chicks don't think they can do better or get a better man than the one they have now. That's why they are the side chick to begin with.
Please... I can get sex from others... I choose not to... I have also been asked wtf I'm doing cause I can get and do better. Though I have grown quite of this guy and we have a lot of together outside the bedroom.
Please continue to make ASSumptions...
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| 11/17/2016 12:21:16 PM |
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crumpet_dreams
Beverly Hills, CA
39, joined Sep. 2016
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I think Sarah's un-eloquent point is that closeness you feel is one sided...and you could have all those feelings and more with someone more deserving.
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| 11/17/2016 12:25:42 PM |
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archer513
Cincinnati, OH
44, joined Dec. 2014
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I'd say she likes the drama.
A normal, "good guy" would bore the shit out of her.
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| 11/17/2016 12:35:43 PM |
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
65, joined Oct. 2010
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Guy has 10 girlfriends and all of you women are competing for his attention!
Let me guess! He is a charmer, has looks to kill, and money to burn! Right?
If so, he's what most people refer to as a Chic Magnet and good for him! Lucky guy!
As for you, be prepared to share him while you are sitting at home all alone and wondering where he is at most of the time, as Chic Magnets can have all the women they want- anytime they want- and this probably won't change until he meets a gorgeous model type with an accent!
I mean- good luck and all!
OK.... So here's a little inspiration for you... 
There will always be millions of available men to date that are not so much the Chic Magnet types! 
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| 11/17/2016 12:38:59 PM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
62, joined Apr. 2011
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Going by your site name...one would think this is a grand opportunity and that your not seeking anything real anyway.
But, site names don't always reflect the person.
Anyway...the first mistake was getting with someone who hasn't left their So yet and had the proper time to get over it....both are important.
As far as these friends of his....we hear on here about guys having an issue with girlfriends having guy friends and how they shouldn't make an issue of it.
That applies to women too, in a reverse situation.
The bottom line is, if not comfortable in the situation and can't deal with it...then move on.
Maybe you have a little insecurity problem to solve too....I don't know.
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| 11/17/2016 12:40:58 PM |
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Orchid73
Abano TermeMilan
Italy
44, joined Sep. 2016
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I'd say she likes the drama.
A normal, "good guy" would bore the shit out of her.
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| 11/17/2016 12:42:08 PM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
62, joined Apr. 2011
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Hey...how many times have we read threads where a woman is complaining that her guy is having an issue with her having guy friends???
a bunch.
So, in this reverse situation...it should be the same deal, and have trust and accept the fact that this person has friends of the other gender.
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| 11/17/2016 12:46:01 PM |
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Orchid73
Abano TermeMilan
Italy
44, joined Sep. 2016
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I thought the OP's issue was not because they are female friends. I thought she thinks they are more than just friends?
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| 11/17/2016 12:53:07 PM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
62, joined Apr. 2011
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I don't see that in her post.
It just states that with one of them, he had a past history with.
The bottom line to me is, he didn't break up with the girlfriend yet, even though there seems to not much to that relation.
It doesn't matter...you stop one thing, before starting another...and a person shouldn't be with them, until the do.
I'll admit there are too many factors at once to take a chance with this guy.
But just separating these friends as being female....that part shouldn't be a factor in general.
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| 11/17/2016 12:54:08 PM |
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
65, joined Oct. 2010
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Amazing how so many women actually look for these kinds of guys!
And then complain that all men are bad!
Well maybe not as amazing as it is just typical! 
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| 11/17/2016 12:54:50 PM |
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crumpet_dreams
Beverly Hills, CA
39, joined Sep. 2016
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I think her point is she has feelings for the man, but the circumstances are trying. Telling her she's a "side piece" doesn't really solve her dilemma.
Their is no good solution to the dilemma, you either end it or you endure it further. It will resolve itself eventually.
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| 11/17/2016 12:57:19 PM |
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archer513
Cincinnati, OH
44, joined Dec. 2014
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We've all been infatuated with someone who was bad for us. Didn't listen to our gut. Make excuses for them.
Dude has a girlfriend...
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| 11/17/2016 12:57:41 PM |
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Orchid73
Abano TermeMilan
Italy
44, joined Sep. 2016
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It will resolve itself eventually.
It always does. Badly, usually.
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| 11/17/2016 12:59:22 PM |
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
65, joined Oct. 2010
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I think her point is she has feelings for the man, but the circumstances are trying. Telling her she's a "side piece" doesn't really solve her dilemma.
Their is no good solution to the dilemma, you either end it or you endure it further. It will resolve itself eventually.
I would never tell a women that she is a side-piece!
No, I let them figure that out on their own!
Just kidding!
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| 11/17/2016 12:59:50 PM |
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crumpet_dreams
Beverly Hills, CA
39, joined Sep. 2016
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The good news is Mandi even bad experience...is good experience...
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| 11/17/2016 12:59:52 PM |
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hotinfla
Jacksonville Beach, FL
62, joined Aug. 2016
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OP is searching for someone to assure her that she should hang in there, sad
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| 11/17/2016 1:05:51 PM |
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Orchid73
Abano TermeMilan
Italy
44, joined Sep. 2016
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It's human. We all have done that at some point.
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| 11/17/2016 1:08:57 PM |
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
65, joined Oct. 2010
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Every time I ever found a woman who was perfect in every way- she was also perfect for about 100 other guys as well!
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| 11/17/2016 1:46:09 PM |
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lurky_lurker
Norcross, GA
41, joined Feb. 2016
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Hang in there, even if, they get engaged
Hang in there, even if, they get married
Hang in there, even if, they adopt foreign orphans
Hang in there, even if, they purchase side by side funeral plots
I don't care if you're 80 with 20 cats and two bad hips, you hang in there
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| 11/17/2016 1:49:25 PM |
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mongo_again
New South WalesNew South Wales
Australia
36, joined Oct. 2016
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Mongo thinks this is not a nice thing to say. 
Mongo also thinks the maker of this thread needs more self respect.
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| 11/17/2016 2:05:17 PM |
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jer3552
Vale, OR
62, joined Oct. 2013
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Mandy is missing great opportunities to do threesomes with her part time boy friend and his many girlfriends......
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| 11/17/2016 3:17:51 PM |
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sinceresammy
Dayton, OH
62, joined Mar. 2014
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Mongo is correct as always. Also the OP has some real issues when she come to DH for advice. Only the lost do that!
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| 11/17/2016 3:29:18 PM |
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hotinfla
Jacksonville Beach, FL
62, joined Aug. 2016
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advice on these forums is worth exactly what you paid for it
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| 11/17/2016 3:47:46 PM |
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alwysinfulmandi
Colorado Springs, CO
31, joined Jul. 2014
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1) In no way am I complaining and I know I put myself in this situation.
2) I wanted everyone's opinions because there is some value to them. If you are griping to about my you situation then you need to clearly look at your past and make no judgment. You aren't doing something right either.
3) Thanks to the comments tjat actully have true honesty in them, not a harsh tongue.
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| 11/17/2016 3:51:55 PM |
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keekeekeek2
Moriguchi
Japan
34, joined Oct. 2016
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Ok... So here it goes...
I've been dating a 49 year old who has a gf that he claims he wants to break up with but hasn't... she is in town once a month and they don't even kiss... Not to mention this guy has many friends who are girls including one he has history with that he still hangs out with. He wants me to be okay with everything and I've been totally accepting... I have found it though totally awkward to hang out with his friends who are females though. Though I hate drama... I have no clue wtf to do...
Bless you my child... for you believe everything you're told.
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| 11/17/2016 3:54:15 PM |
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alwysinfulmandi
Colorado Springs, CO
31, joined Jul. 2014
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Going by your site name...one would think this is a grand opportunity and that your not seeking anything real anyway.
But, site names don't always reflect the person.
Anyway...the first mistake was getting with someone who hasn't left their So yet and had the proper time to get over it....both are important.
As far as these friends of his....we hear on here about guys having an issue with girlfriends having guy friends and how they shouldn't make an issue of it.
That applies to women too, in a reverse situation.
The bottom line is, if not comfortable in the situation and can't deal with it...then move on.
Maybe you have a little insecurity problem to solve too....I don't know.
I'm here on this site to have fun... I met this guy through poker... not here... feelings have accumulated.
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| 11/17/2016 3:55:12 PM |
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crumpet_dreams
Beverly Hills, CA
39, joined Sep. 2016
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Poker introduced you to him!...oh you mean the game not the DH member?
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| 11/17/2016 3:55:52 PM |
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alwysinfulmandi
Colorado Springs, CO
31, joined Jul. 2014
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I do what I say and therefore U expect none the less. So in that statement I have my answer!
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| 11/17/2016 3:58:33 PM |
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purdibirdd
Fort Collins, CO
52, joined Aug. 2014
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^this cannot not all be true, If you are not fine with being around all his friends who he has had intimate relations with. Or am I understanding that you do trust him and the issues are all alone yours... and not some mistrust of him?
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| 11/17/2016 4:10:53 PM |
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easttowest72
Bremen, GA
45, joined Sep. 2014
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Op the guy is too old for you. Unless he has given you his credit card..dump his old ass.
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| 11/17/2016 4:17:53 PM |
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purdibirdd
Fort Collins, CO
52, joined Aug. 2014
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^not necessarily... but IDK, maybe?
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| 11/17/2016 4:30:08 PM |
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soflwill
Durham, NC
57, joined Jan. 2012
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Since I really don't know the guy or the situation it's hard to be sure about what is going on, but I know in my life because I'm a ballroom dancer I have many female friends and we sometimes go out as a group to dance. While there is nothing between us it doesn't always look like that on the dance floor. I know that this has made some of the women I've dated uncomfortable I was very up front about the situation from the very beginning. It seems that he has been up front with you and if he is intoducing you to his female friends his gf he also being very up front with them about his relationship with you. On the other hand if you doesn't want the other women to know what his relationship is with you then I would say run away.
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| 11/17/2016 4:56:30 PM |
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lunaglider
DPO, AA
97, joined Dec. 2013
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OMG....a dating question on a dating site!??
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| 11/17/2016 5:01:53 PM |
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mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
55, joined May. 2011
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You look like you could do better, OP...JS
If you would steal a better picture, so would you.
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| 11/17/2016 5:53:37 PM |
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stl1
Saint Louis, MO
63, joined Jun. 2007
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4'11" petite hot mess into older guys
Does it get any better?
This would be so damn funny if only it wasn't true.
Give me a call, darlin'.
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| 11/17/2016 5:57:24 PM |
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stl1
Saint Louis, MO
63, joined Jun. 2007
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Chic Magnets can have all the women they want- anytime they want- and this probably won't change until he meets a gorgeous model type with an accent!
I'm thinking Melania Trump will be available in 4 years, Fish.
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