Here's the deal on that one. He's an ex for a reason, being friends with him still is one thing but if you're trying to move on and have a healthy relationship with someone else you can't have the ex around like that. It creates doubt in the other guys head and leads to the possibility that something is going on between you and the ex. Plain and simple is either be with the ex or continue to be friends but you can't hang out with him like that or it will continue to be an issue and no guy is going to take you seriously.

I think I actually like this guy but I guess I should remember that they always leave or treat me bad so try not to get too attached or take it too seriously.

But if it's what you're looking for and what you want then staying away from the ex shouldn't be an issue.

My ex is pretty much my only friend so he will stick around

Men I date always have an issue with my ex, or they develop an issue. I don't know if it is healthy or not but it sucks because I think their issue with him breaks the relationship down sometimes completely.
So wtf do I do when my ex is my best friend and they don't want me to see him any more?

That's not even going into the new arrangement I might want to try. I just don't like not having the intimacy and sex I sometimes have with my ex to date a new guy.
But its like literally as soon as you talk to a new guy they expect monagamy and I don't want to ruin something with someone good that I care about by saying I want us to be able to sleep with someone else until a later point in time.

I read on a site morethantwo.com that jealousy is symptom of something else like fear or insecurity. Its a good site but its not like I could just change my or the guy I'm dating emotions. I think jealousy motivates us to try to change what is causing the emotion by stopping it or something else like getting reassurance and affection idk.

That is wrong and very unacceptable behavior from the guy you're dating tells you to cut off your friendly ties with your ex and such. The control freak needs to loosen up and it's too bad for the guy who feels that way, Sadlsticsienna.

Your conscience is yours, also your preferences too. It's no one's business what you do.

I'm confused here, first you said men I date.

Then later its: as soon as you talk to a new guy they expect monogamy....well, if that didn't suit you, then I'd assume you didn't date them.
So which is it? just talking with interest, or dating.?
as far as keeping something open with this ex. as not only a close friend but a sex partner too...up until and beyond....you start talking with someone new, and who's knows at what stage if it did turn into something, would you stop having sex with the ex....

Its not a matter of insecurity, its a matter or right and wrong...plus, how is this going to effect the ex....if you cut him off sexually, then start something serious with another guy? do we really know what he is thinking in his mind about how he views the two of you?

Is this that much different than hanging on to one guy, until someone can come along and take his place? to a point yes...but still.

Maybe I'm wrong, but I thought previously, you stated that you weren't having sex with the ex...and you were just best friends.

Now this.

and men are jealous Afff

A little bit of jealousy is normal, but anyone who can't control their jealousy is dangerous.

Oh yeah really? How so?

Oh yeah really? How so?