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legaleye
Columbus, OH
65, joined Mar. 2008
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Not going to do a poll, but I see more and more people talk about online dating. I see an exchange of a few emails as a prelude to an actual press the flesh and look em in the eye meeting of some kind. Yet others appear fat and happy going along for months without coming out from behind the computer screen. Clearly there must be a few people here and there who will actually leave their mother's basement, but how does one actually find and connect with them?
There...tossing out a dating thread.
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| 4/23/2017 1:15:40 PM |
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korbyn
Bat Cave, NC
98, joined Jun. 2013
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I spray them all over the face with love.
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| 4/23/2017 1:16:24 PM |
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sparks_01
Ocala, FL
97, joined Feb. 2017
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not sure theres anyone actually worth getting involved with on here
females have more brains and class than most men on here
but theres a few good guys left..
but they post less and less
this site has been a jacked up mess since silva,harley,merc,russell,jake,and john started all the shit they brought over from forumsauce site
6 months from now nobody will post here
if not less time
theres better forums than this one
and better dating possibilities
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| 4/23/2017 1:30:23 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
58, joined May. 2009
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I think, for a lot of people, it's a way of testing the waters, sort of just getting the toes wet in an attempt to put themselves back out into the dating world. They work on gaining courage, maybe, to potentially get hurt again. That's the risk we take--getting hurt again--when we try looking for love and a connection with someone.
So in their "testing" they flirt and chat without ever leaving the safety of their home. IN doing so, though, they're gaining a little strength and reestablishing their dating worth.
At least, it was that way for me. I was really scared to reenter dating life, and I didn't think I had anything at all to offer. The online flirting stuff and chats and messages helped me feel as though I wasn't all washed up.
In time, though, I did venture out from behind the computer screen, and met people quite soon. It started to become a waste of time to endlessly talk and holding off meeting the person since, often, meeting them in real life is totally different than the online connection.
If I were available to be dating, I would dispense with the bunches of emails and meet quickly.
When I was actively searching, I found that most men were eager to meet quickly. It does seem more efficient.
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| 4/23/2017 1:34:57 PM |
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__h_
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Nov. 2016
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I don't date from here. It never worked out for me when I used to.
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| 4/23/2017 2:02:06 PM |
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_HarleyQuinn
County Antrim, N. Ireland
United Kingdom
39, joined Sep. 2016
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this site has been a jacked up mess since Mullet thefake a** troll got dropkicked off ffs &started all the shit
Fixed it for ya
And STFU b*tchtroll
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| 4/23/2017 2:18:10 PM |
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Stopsign_01
Londres
Argentina
25, joined Feb. 2017
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_Harley  you got that straight
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| 4/23/2017 2:31:35 PM |
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scpiper25
Cheraw, SC
49, joined Jan. 2017
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I'm NOT talking about anyone in these forums, I enjoy and like the posters here 
That being said, it was a Different kind of atmosphere here a couple yrs ago
I won't be dating in person for a while in my area, I've had all the BS I can stand for awhile IN MY AREA:turninghead::id just rather do without or do a long distance thing than have to tolerate the men and their collective mentality who live around here
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| 4/23/2017 3:12:10 PM |
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Saudate
BadraoRome
Italy
44, joined Mar. 2017
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Not going to do a poll, but I see more and more people talk about online dating. I see an exchange of a few emails as a prelude to an actual press the flesh and look em in the eye meeting of some kind. Yet others appear fat and happy going along for months without coming out from behind the computer screen. Clearly there must be a few people here and there who will actually leave their mother's basement, but how does one actually find and connect with them?
There...tossing out a dating thread.
apart from the usual catfishing etc. I think many have become so emotionally lazy, that they like the idea, the fantasy, more than the real thing. And being online only accentuate that. The next girl/man is only a click away from you. NEXT! Who cares? The illusion that you have many choices is there.
It is sad, really sad.
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| 4/23/2017 3:16:52 PM |
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cheep_trick
Herndon, VA
37, joined Mar. 2017
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My d*ck has too much self respect,
to allow me to date from this shitfest
of a website.
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| 4/23/2017 3:41:10 PM |
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scpiper25
Cheraw, SC
49, joined Jan. 2017
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apart from the usual catfishing etc. I think many have become so emotionally lazy, that they like the idea, the fantasy, more than the real thing. And being online only accentuate that. The next girl/man is only a click away from you. NEXT! Who cares? The illusion that you have many choices is there.
It is sad, really sad.
ILLUSION, YES...THE DECEPTION FACTOR IS ALIVE AND WELL
Even the upscale POF is a lie of sorts, there ARE plenty of fish alright, but most are throw backs, hardly any keepers
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| 4/23/2017 3:54:01 PM |
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Saudate
BadraoRome
Italy
44, joined Mar. 2017
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but many are LDR. Those are not easy at all, and certainly not for everybody. It takes two to tango, even more so when you're not in the same place.
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| 4/23/2017 3:59:49 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
58, joined May. 2009
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I don't know that I think a dating site is any different than meeting someone anywhere else through any other venue. Not everyone, in fact, most everyone, is not going to be a match. Which is a good thing. You want to be discerning about who you're going to spend your life with and about whom you're going to entrust your heart.
Thinking any particular venue is the problem is the problem.
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| 4/23/2017 4:04:16 PM |
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illan615
Holland, MI
55, joined Oct. 2012
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The only ..semi good thing about this site is the forums. It is like reading Ann Landers.. Nobody is interested in dating.. and if they are.. they beat a path outta here fast..Doesn't take too long to see the same Ol' Posters.. year after year.
Just  me!!!!
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| 4/23/2017 4:05:14 PM |
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Saudate
BadraoRome
Italy
44, joined Mar. 2017
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@Lake: The venue isn't a problem. The problem is how they see and use that venue. Many will treat it like there isn't a person on the other side because it is virtual. They feel less "involved" and less "personal". Don't know how to explain. It's a kind of depersonalization. That is why ghosting happens so often also. it's easier to detach yourself.
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| 4/23/2017 4:06:24 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
58, joined May. 2009
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apart from the usual catfishing etc. I think many have become so emotionally lazy, that they like the idea, the fantasy, more than the real thing. And being online only accentuate that. The next girl/man is only a click away from you. NEXT! Who cares? The illusion that you have many choices is there.
It is sad, really sad.
I do agree that there is an aspect of the candy shop with online dating.
First you get all excited because you see so many choices. So you become really nit-picky about what you see because there are all those "endless" choices.
IRL you really don't get all those choices. It's not like there really are dozens and dozens and dozens of men and women just sitting there waiting for you to pick them.
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| 4/23/2017 4:08:10 PM |
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Saudate
BadraoRome
Italy
44, joined Mar. 2017
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I absolutely agree with that. ^  That's why I call it an illusion and find it sad.
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| 4/23/2017 4:15:58 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
58, joined May. 2009
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Yep, I think some people don't see the other person as a real person so how they treat them doesn't matter. "It's jut the internet" kind of thinking as if no one is a real person, they're just something digital.
But isn't it just another way of treating people bad that they'd just do in real life, too. Just in a different way.
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| 4/23/2017 4:23:22 PM |
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stanleyzee
Dayton, OH
60, joined Dec. 2012
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Our computers make it too easy to play.plus u can say anything here and another thing in person.
Some are datable until everyone finds out then the real story is written
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| 4/23/2017 4:24:16 PM |
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Saudate
BadraoRome
Italy
44, joined Mar. 2017
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@Lake: True that. They are a bit gutless offline, I suppose. But the end result would be the same. Some may be just scared, who knows.
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| 4/23/2017 4:32:12 PM |
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M4mischief
Grand Prairie, TX
99, joined May. 2016
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Im not here to date....just for the free entertainment.....
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| 4/23/2017 5:11:35 PM |
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stanleyzee
Dayton, OH
60, joined Dec. 2012
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I'm here to DATE F**K AND ANYTHING ELSE
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| 4/23/2017 7:10:50 PM |
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apokernut
Elk Grove Village, IL
54, joined Jan. 2008
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Fixed it for ya
And STFU b*tchtroll
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| 4/27/2017 5:35:06 AM |
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ms_Champagne
AngualastoAustralian Capital
Australia
96, joined Aug. 2016
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Well it is pretty obvious that I can't date from here.. everyone is a million miles away... but I have met lots of people from local websites... actually we had group meetups on a regular basis.
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| 4/27/2017 5:47:32 AM |
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phikebishop
Venice, CA
46, joined Apr. 2014
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Not going to do a poll, but I see more and more people talk about online dating. I see an exchange of a few emails as a prelude to an actual press the flesh and look em in the eye meeting of some kind. Yet others appear fat and happy going along for months without coming out from behind the computer screen. Clearly there must be a few people here and there who will actually leave their mother's basement, but how does one actually find and connect with them?
There...tossing out a dating thread.
Look who is talking with no pic???? 
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| 4/27/2017 5:51:34 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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Not going to do a poll, but I see more and more people talk about online dating. How does one actually find and connect with them?
There...tossing out a dating thread.
You got me. Every time I have asked a woman out, whether on line or in real life, I always get the same response, NO.
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| 4/27/2017 5:53:33 AM |
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ms_Champagne
AngualastoAustralian Capital
Australia
96, joined Aug. 2016
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Well I have seen that person/profile post before and I have actually wondered what he looks like..
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| 4/27/2017 6:08:14 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
62, joined Apr. 2011
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OP...it looks like a little bit of a rant here....the ones who are fat, hiding behind their computer?
I'd give this advice, your 65, assess a site first and say to yourself: am I going to have a real chance at this place? or just be competing with too many younger guys or whatever, cutting my odds way down?
Meaning your better off on a site geared for your age group or at least where there are enough women near your age. Then be realistic...if your on a mixed age group site, don't expect to have much luck, going after women who are a lot younger than you...or too pretty, if you are not really handsome.
Other than that...represent yourself well, and try your luck
That's all you can do, put yourself on a site with the best odds, be realistic and represent yourself well...that's called putting the odds in your favor, the best you can.
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| 4/27/2017 6:17:47 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
62, joined Apr. 2011
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I absolutely agree with that. ^ That's why I call it an illusion and find it sad.
That may be true.
but, look at it from the men's side...if a man is real and legit and looking for something real, he faces all the same things you stated in women too...and more, you'd be surprised at how few really good women there are out there, from a mans viewpoint and how many times he dates and invest time and feelings and etc in...only to find he wasted his time.
but, in most men's case, they don't have all these choices(good or bad) and he usually has to initiate and pay for the first date or more.
See the point?
Imagine, not having that many choices, you having to be the initiator and paying the first time or two, and driving and etc...and still ending up with a high percentage of what choices you do have being losers, liars, or whatever else.
So, with that, consider yourself lucky and appreciate how much easier you still have it over the men...and yet, men tend to complain less that women in general too.
So...not so sad now...is it.?
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| 4/27/2017 7:44:59 AM |
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easttowest72
Bremen, GA
45, joined Sep. 2014
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I think alot of men will find a pretty pic online and try to be the perfect guy for her. When they meet if her looks aren't the same as her pic he becomes an a**hole. If she matches her pic and he isn't as attractive, he becomes a doormat. But he quickly realizes there are alot of other "nice guys" competing.
Alot of women want to fall in love with a pic online and don't realize he is talking to alot of women. When he meets one he likes he goes ghost on the others.
Its best to ask question that are your deal breakers. Then meet quickly. A quick inexpensive date. That way nobody has to be rude to get out of it. Text or call after if your interested in the other person.
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| 4/27/2017 7:47:11 AM |
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Stopsign_01
Londres
Argentina
25, joined Feb. 2017
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Fixed it for ya
And STFU b*tchtroll
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| 4/27/2017 8:49:16 AM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
58, joined May. 2009
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That may be true.
but, look at it from the men's side...if a man is real and legit and looking for something real, he faces all the same things you stated in women too...and more, you'd be surprised at how few really good women there are out there, from a mans viewpoint and how many times he dates and invest time and feelings and etc in...only to find he wasted his time.
but, in most men's case, they don't have all these choices(good or bad) and he usually has to initiate and pay for the first date or more.
See the point?
Imagine, not having that many choices, you having to be the initiator and paying the first time or two, and driving and etc...and still ending up with a high percentage of what choices you do have being losers, liars, or whatever else.
So, with that, consider yourself lucky and appreciate how much easier you still have it over the men...and yet, men tend to complain less that women in general too.
So...not so sad now...is it.?
Bee, no where did anyone say anything about it being just women. She and I both said "people" and "men and women". Illusions about others aren't gender-specific. The hopes, expectations and possible disappointments aren't either. Neither are the time and feelings invested weighted more heavily in one gender over the other.
The point that was being made is that people, both men and women, both genders, join an online dating site, we, both men and women, both genders, look at all the pretty pictures and the interesting profiles and we start seeing all these wonderful people to choose from, each one more enticing than the other; this one is handsomer/prettier, that one has fun hobbies, this one likes what I like, that one does things I'd like to do...and we become like kids in a candy store and maybe can't make a decision on who we want to click on...or we click on them all...but maybe we don't follow through on an actual meet and we instead decide to build on the illusion and just chat back and forth for a bit because we're afraid of destroying the illusion we've built up by having to face the reality of the person him or herself.
It doesn't matter if we're men looking for women, women looking for men or either looking for the same sex...our eyes are all wide and excited about our possibilities. And sometimes, we don't want to do anything, including meeting, maybe especially meeting, that will dim that excitement. After all, if we haven't met yet, we haven't been rejected yet.
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| 4/27/2017 10:14:24 AM |
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M4mischief
Grand Prairie, TX
99, joined May. 2016
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I think we should all just date by Skype...its the 2017 way......
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| 4/27/2017 11:54:50 AM |
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stanleyzee
Dayton, OH
60, joined Dec. 2012
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| 4/27/2017 11:55:42 AM |
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Olaf_the_german
Houston, TX
50, joined Feb. 2017
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Not going to do a poll, but I see more and more people talk about online dating. I see an exchange of a few emails as a prelude to an actual press the flesh and look em in the eye meeting of some kind. Yet others appear fat and happy going along for months without coming out from behind the computer screen. Clearly there must be a few people here and there who will actually leave their mother's basement, but how does one actually find and connect with them?
There...tossing out a dating thread.
Using a pay site rather than a free one. The presumption being someone putting their money where their mouth is is more likely to be interested in actually dating
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| 4/27/2017 12:06:01 PM |
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stanleyzee
Dayton, OH
60, joined Dec. 2012
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Was dating this hard in 1975
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| 4/27/2017 12:06:52 PM |
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__h_
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Nov. 2016
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I wasn't dating then.
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| 4/27/2017 12:09:35 PM |
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M4mischief
Grand Prairie, TX
99, joined May. 2016
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Was dating this hard in 1975
It was much easier at 8 yrs old.....
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| 4/27/2017 12:10:12 PM |
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Olaf_the_german
Houston, TX
50, joined Feb. 2017
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Yeah things were harder in the 70s/80s... 
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| 4/27/2017 12:11:07 PM |
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stratus55
Jackson, GA
51, joined Jan. 2017
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that was a wonderful year for love an sex for me..i was 94 though..i still have friction burns.......
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| 4/27/2017 12:12:14 PM |
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__h_
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Nov. 2016
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It was much easier at 8 yrs old.....
True
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| 4/27/2017 12:13:34 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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| 4/27/2017 12:14:31 PM |
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stanleyzee
Dayton, OH
60, joined Dec. 2012
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Ever sex in the woods
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| 4/27/2017 1:34:00 PM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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Was dating this hard in 1975
Yes it was just as hard then as now. In fact if I remember correctly, I had just as many dates that year as I had last year, NONE.
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| 4/27/2017 2:57:43 PM |
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bookwormtobutte
Rio Rancho, NM
37, joined Jan. 2016
online now!
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I try to do some actual dating but most guys can't seem to move past the texting
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| 4/27/2017 3:03:25 PM |
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phikebishop
Venice, CA
46, joined Apr. 2014
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Don't we have enough SCOOP's threads......??
[Edited 4/27/2017 3:04:06 PM ]
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| 4/27/2017 3:04:20 PM |
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stanleyzee
Dayton, OH
60, joined Dec. 2012
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Books, technology comes first
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| 4/27/2017 3:07:57 PM |
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phikebishop
Venice, CA
46, joined Apr. 2014
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@Lake: The venue isn't a problem. The problem is how they see and use that venue. Many will treat it like there isn't a person on the other side because it is virtual. They feel less "involved" and less "personal". Don't know how to explain. It's a kind of depersonalization. That is why ghosting happens so often also. it's easier to detach yourself.
I will date her but she pay's airfare to where she really lives......j/s..
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| 4/27/2017 5:01:54 PM |
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lunaglider
DPO, AA
97, joined Dec. 2013
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I have been dating a fantastic gent since Christmas that I met on Match.com.
He resides in AZ and I live in CO so we only see each other for a week once a month which works out great for our individual life styles.
Since
I can still work my corner the other three weeks...
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| 4/27/2017 5:06:23 PM |
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jer3552
Vale, OR
62, joined Oct. 2013
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what about bob
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| 4/27/2017 5:07:44 PM |
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lunaglider
DPO, AA
97, joined Dec. 2013
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I think we should all just date by Skype...its the 2017 way......
Definitely!
I can show him my boobies and he can jack-off...and I don't have to supply the tissues. Last year I saved $643.73 on Kleenex!
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| 4/27/2017 5:10:19 PM |
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jer3552
Vale, OR
62, joined Oct. 2013
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baby wipes
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| 4/27/2017 5:11:20 PM |
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lunaglider
DPO, AA
97, joined Dec. 2013
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baby wipes
Too expensive!
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| 4/27/2017 6:56:23 PM |
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M4mischief
Grand Prairie, TX
99, joined May. 2016
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Definitely!
I can show him my boobies and he can jack-off...and I don't have to supply the tissues. Last year I saved $643.73 on Kleenex!
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| 4/27/2017 7:08:24 PM |
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thebigugly0
Kent, OH
46, joined Sep. 2012
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Using a pay site rather than a free one. The presumption being someone putting their money where their mouth is is more likely to be interested in actually dating
Not always true. I joined Match a quite a while back. Paid. Took one girl on a date and she ended up being an absolute weirdo head smack flake. Maybe it's just me
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