I've noticed in many cases of cheating couples where the woman had another man's child

Many children are reared without one or both parents and it has nothing to do with infidelity. They are separate issues that are often intertwined but not always. To say so is a grave overreach.

Ok ok, true true!

But wouldn't the "Best Thing" for the child is NOT TO HAVE IT UNDER F**KED UP CIRCUMSTANCES IN THE FIRST PLACE??

See it's only AFTER THE FACT that ppl who f**k these children's lives up start talking about what's best for the child. They don't give a rats a** about that child during conception when they're cheating or getting revenge. True or false??!

Wut up jack?

I've noticed in many cases of cheating couples where the woman had another man's child the women are saying... Well you cheated on me FIRST" as a justification. And as a human being I GET THAT! On both ends!

But if the woman gets pregnant... and the child ends up with a man who's NOT it's father and a father who it doesn't know or wants no part of it to avoid what he sees as a lying, cheating ass, wh*re (bcuz that's how he'll see her) then how far is that TO THE CHILD?

And most importantly...

If YOU we're that child who would you blame for going up with a father?

If a woman knows she can get pregnant if she cheats and understands the consequences of that scenario does she a have a RIGHT to complain about the struggle?

Stop f**kin' around wit ghetto niggas!!!!

Are you asking because you are the product of such a situation?.. or you are just making shit up?

My Sister and I are both adopted (we are not related through DNA). She was the product of a affair, and has older and younger siblings. Her bio mother got back together with her husband and gave my Sis up for adoption.. Best thing they could have done. Only idiot baby mama's and baby daddies do talk like you do.

Men, that are willing to pay for a child and raise it when their wife is a cheating slutbag wh*re, are men with no self-respect or balls to hold said slut accountable for her bad decision.

They are commonly referred to as "Captain Bootlick-Save-A-Hoe the Third", around these parts, milady....

Why is he not called "Captain Save-a-child"?

He is taking care of the child, not the cheating wife.


Or is it your assertion here that "real men" are not supposed to care about children?
Explain how having nothing to do with the child holds her accountable?
If she is truly irresponsible then she isn't taking care of the child either.

Maybe you would also advocate killing the child to teach her a lesson.
If that were legal would that be a good solution from your viewpoint?

I was thinking more along the line of Enigma when I wrote that.

Having offspring is an integral part of life.
It doesn't have to be done for selfless reasons.

In MOST states, the child support laws are actually unconstitutional, because the Dept of child support enforcement in most states operate for pecuniary interests, which is prohibited for govt agencies and departments.

In other words (for those who don't understand) in most states the DCSE operates for the sole purpose of getting and maintaining the federal funding they all get, which is based of collection efficiency. If a DCSE's collections are less than it's expenses it risks losing federal funding.

I have a child support order. I was facing jail time a few years ago when I was unemployed. I did some legal studying (which is how I learne the above info) and during that time, my lawyer told me that the welfare system for single mothers/parents is basically a legalized EXTORTION/loansharking racket. The custodial parent receives loans from the government in the form of SNAP/WIC and TANF benefits and the non custodial parent must repay the loan in FULL, even if (usually HE) or she doesn't even know the custodial parent is receiving any welfare benefits.

Also, my lawyer told me that my kegalr defense was sound and good, but that no judge would allow me to win with it because it would set a legal precedent that would make child support collection virtually impossible in MOST cases, at least in my state.

In VA, DCSE notifies both parties in the child support case that the department does NOT represent either party nor the child, but the department.

It's all a big extortion racket.

The GREATEST mistake of my life was having a child.

I'd say having offspring is integral to the survival of a given species of beings, but not necessarily of life in general.

The GREATEST mistake of my life was having a child.

I'm going to ignore all the race-baiting and other side distractions some are trying to insert in this, and get back to answering the very logical and worthy main question:



My answer is, technically yes, in that we are Americans, and have the RIGHT to whine and fuss about anything and everything.

But in the sense that I think dr asked it, the answer is no, as far as I'm concerned.
I am firmly committed to the basic American principle, that each person is responsible for their own decisions AND their consequences, to the degree that they control them.

The thing about "the degree that they control them" is very important.

So. If I come across someone, male or female, who is whining about how hard their life is, because they decided to screw around carelessly even, if not especially because they did it as an immature act of revenge, I wont sympathize with them even a tiny bit. The old saying "you made your bed, you sleep in it" fits pretty well.

Important side thing: the child should never have to suffer for the bad decisions of their parent, but we know that they inevitably will.

nigga issues
lol

It's true. Always happens with blacks and low ses.

Probably becaus they're in niggaland

Fine, exposure to low SES black people would make white people act like apes too

Yur welcome