| 3/3/2010 9:56:24 PM |
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indyherbie
Cranston, RI
57, joined Feb. 2010
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Why is it people come here to this site, say they are looking for a meaningful relationship, wink you and then never even respond?
I would think that if someone winks you, they saw something in your profile they liked.
Certainly enough to start a dialogue. Or am I one of the last remaining people who is nieve enough to believe in a little discussion before you become intimately involved? Are these people only looking for sex, and I'm not catching the "hint". I'm begining to become dis-illusioned about the idea of internet dating. Could somebody fill me in. . .
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| 3/4/2010 5:11:06 AM |
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sugarcubec61
Philadelphia, PA
55, joined Jan. 2010
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well i feel the same way .. i would get a wink from someone and i would respond, after i respond with a thank you or a wink back i get nothing  ..that is why my winks are off .. if someone likes my profile or is interested in me they can send me a message,it is just as easy
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| 3/4/2010 2:39:45 PM |
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amorinaria
East Hanover, NJ
65, joined Aug. 2009
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"begining to become dis-illusioned in internet dating"??
Beginning? I think some of us are past this point..... of beginning....lol
I agree- a simple gesture of curtesy would be nice....
Don't even try to figure it out....just go with the flow....and don't take it personally....my thought on it- people send winks, otes and then just forget about who they sent it to and just on to another profile then another....without realizing they might have missed someone special!
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| 3/8/2010 6:50:58 PM |
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esmeraldar
Toms River, NJ
68, joined Jan. 2009
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You wink at someone to show your interest. Sometimes that person is not interested in you. They might say thank you. If there is something in your profile that interests them they might start a conversation. If the person is not interested, go on to someone else.
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| 3/9/2010 6:49:10 AM |
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raevynnyir
Clementon, NJ
36, joined Jan. 2010
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i feel the same way like if you wink and i msg back like ans back atlest say im not interested anymore anything dont just not ans back. like are you kidding me
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| 3/9/2010 8:31:18 AM |
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sorpstar
Wayne, NJ
63, joined Oct. 2009
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why not go to your acct options and disable that option--people are window shopping and maybe not ready to buy ya--our profiles are like resumes in a way and maybe when they check all the rest/ they're interview the best of them...again just like an employer does if you think about it...
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| 3/13/2010 10:14:31 PM |
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melfina
Toms River, NJ
47, joined Feb. 2010
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what i want to know is, why do people look at someones profile,read it,and know that the person is not a match for them and send a wink anyway? I clearly state on my profile what im looking for in a man.Please guys,take the time to read the profiles not just look at the pretty faces.It makes it akward to have to be polite and send a reply back turning you down.
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| 3/15/2010 7:01:28 PM |
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honestjohn49
Dorothy, NJ
67, joined May. 2007
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Some of us ol goats are like dogs chasin cars. We wouldnt know what to do with them if we caught them, but we know what we like. So take the wink as a compliment. If we are too old, too far, too ugly, too too, sorry. but its a compliment. a nice thing. We are not throwing rocks.
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| 3/20/2010 5:32:39 AM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
63, joined Aug. 2008
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what i want to know is, why do people look at someones profile,read it,and know that the person is not a match for them and send a wink anyway? I clearly state on my profile what im looking for in a man.Please guys,take the time to read the profiles not just look at the pretty faces.It makes it akward to have to be polite and send a reply back turning you down.
Don't dream about it.
BTW, the time I started a thread about "Please read the profile all the way" ....i was bashed by everybody around...and the dog too.
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| 3/20/2010 11:32:47 AM |
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sorpstar
Wayne, NJ
63, joined Oct. 2009
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posted this on another thread on here today (NJ) --so if some of this fits--then you can convict...lol
i would guess most women may read a profile or maybe they don't read it all esp mine is made real long for a reason ( I would like to witness their tolerance level reading something long for instance, because at my age, i'm becoming as old as dust being alone and being together may cramp their styles once you meet/ if ever, as i believe that may turn out to be the deal beaker watching older couples tolerate each other for example in a supermarket/ he seems like he drove the car there and supply's the lifting skills and she's the shopper and spends the money even if i'm kidding some) but someone has to break the ice between man and woman and i notice if women view my profile a few times within any given period, tradition takes over and women may want the man to hit/ strike first as if cupid just took a dip on our heads not to notice but the ladies BOTTOMLINE may be waiting for us ...
i disabled wink and other means on this site, perhaps that creates contact via email ONLY but not when someone is invisble or not on your friend's list can one be reached if you get any response back/ just move on...JMO
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| 3/20/2010 8:13:06 PM |
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melfina
Toms River, NJ
47, joined Feb. 2010
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I just think it would save alot of time if people would just read the profile first before sending winks or emails.Why send a wink to a pretty face,only to find out you have nothing in common? unless your just looking for a hook up.then by all means go right ahead
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| 3/20/2010 9:17:41 PM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
63, joined Aug. 2008
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I just think it would save alot of time if people would just read the profile first before sending winks or emails.Why send a wink to a pretty face,only to find out you have nothing in common? unless your just looking for a hook up.then by all means go right ahead
You make a lot of sense.........but people lack common sense.
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| 3/21/2010 9:19:25 PM |
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awish4love
Howell, NJ
49, joined Apr. 2009
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Does someone have an anwser to the question.. Why? waste time and energy..send a wink,start a conversation,exchange phone numbers then nothing,absolutly nothing  . God, like I have nothing better to do then to play teen age games....
[Edited 3/21/2010 9:21:28 PM ]
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| 3/21/2010 10:30:25 PM |
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melfina
Toms River, NJ
47, joined Feb. 2010
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Probably because they are married and cant get a private minute away from their wives to use the phone
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| 3/23/2010 5:20:07 AM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
63, joined Aug. 2008
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Probably because they are married and cant get a private minute away from their wives to use the phone
I am sure the above is the case in many instances....while in others is the fear of rejection. I don't like to use the phone because my accent misleads everybody.
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| 4/16/2010 12:59:01 PM |
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cupidsucks
Hawthorne, NJ
43, joined Apr. 2010
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Am I the only one willing to be totally honest here? If they don't respond, they weren't attracted to you enough in your pictures TO respond. I will ONLY respond if I am interested in them, why would I waste someone's time if I wasn't even remotely interested? Why bother? I have enough male friends.
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| 7/5/2010 8:16:22 PM |
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dashyt
Sicklerville, NJ
28, joined Jul. 2010
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a wink is just to get your attention so that you can reply back. if you dont reply back then that means your not interested
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| 7/5/2010 9:17:10 PM |
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imonecrazykid
Trenton, NJ
34, joined Jun. 2008
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It makes it akward to have to be polite and send a reply back turning you down.
But at least you are polite and reply back. I probably look at a good amount of profiles, but I don't message many of them because they don't interest me. Would be nice to get a response back, even if to say "not interested, sorry." Really, I won't mind.
I will ONLY respond if I am interested in them, why would I waste someone's time if I wasn't even remotely interested?
This is what's wrong with people. No common courtesy (obviously not everyone, but it seems most).
Common courtesy & common sense: Exactly why are they called common, because they are both rare to find.
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| 7/15/2010 5:23:26 AM |
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1948women
Tuckerton, NJ
67, joined Jun. 2010
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My question is how do you look at a picture and determine you are not interested?
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| 7/18/2010 8:21:21 PM |
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kooolz552887
Pine Brook, NJ
55, joined Oct. 2008
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I agree with you
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| 7/19/2010 2:14:37 PM |
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themicrochip
Roselle Park, NJ
33, joined May. 2008
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It's just courteous to send a response letting the other know if there is an interest or not. I respond to every message sent to me, even if it's to say that I'm not interested. This way we're both clear on everything. Yes, it may hurt the one who is being refused, but to leave someone hanging is just callow and uncouth.
I implore those who receive either a wink or message, especially those who leave the sender hanging, to respond one way or the other, even if it's to send another wink, to ask for more information or to say that you're not interested and why (this puts to rest the mind of the sender as to why they are being refused).
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| 7/19/2010 5:21:38 PM |
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celia07
Audubon, NJ
53, joined Jul. 2010
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I think my winks are turned off, but I don't know how to turn it back on? I'm new to this site, can someone help me.
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| 7/23/2010 4:46:18 PM |
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tryagain1950
Hackensack, NJ
65, joined Jun. 2009
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Celia;
Click on your INBOX. Scroll down, there should be a message that says "Click here to accept winks", click that & you should be good to go.
doug
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| 7/28/2010 8:09:29 AM |
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bossy1980
Gloucester City, NJ
35, joined Jul. 2010
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i put a block on winking at me i didnt get that either. why wink when u could just send a email sayin hello or how are u. ect. idk.... i think that would be more friendlyer
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| 8/9/2010 11:51:07 AM |
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ansaphone
Chatham, NJ
33, joined Aug. 2010
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I find winks annoying. If you can't think of ONE damn thing to say to me, don't message me. The same goes for "Hey sexy how ya doin" or just "wanted to say hi." You're already showing me you're either boring, have no personality/nothing interesting to say, or didn't read my profile (since, as others have said, sometimes people who should have noticed you're not even close to a match send "winks" and boring one-liners).
And, yeah, obviously if someone doesn't respond to your wink, they're not interested.  And I happen to agree with "Why bother?" I don't feel the need to lead someone on by humoring their wink/message if I know I have no interest.
But that's just me, and I can't speak for everyone.
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| 8/9/2010 6:54:01 PM |
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joshk2010
Hoboken, NJ
40, joined May. 2010
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It's just courteous to send a response letting the other know if there is an interest or not. I respond to every message sent to me, even if it's to say that I'm not interested. This way we're both clear on everything. Yes, it may hurt the one who is being refused, but to leave someone hanging is just callow and uncouth.
I implore those who receive either a wink or message, especially those who leave the sender hanging, to respond one way or the other, even if it's to send another wink, to ask for more information or to say that you're not interested and why (this puts to rest the mind of the sender as to why they are being refused).
I agree. I'd rather have an "I'm not interested, sorry" reply than no reply at all. But I don't wink, I only send emails. We are all adults here, if you can't find it in you to at least reply with the above, then maybe you should reconsider being on such a site as this. My opinion only.
I've had girls wink at me, I respond with an email and then no reply. What the __ is up with that? Nevermind, I don't need such juvenile behaviour in my life.
I think somehow common courtesy was lost in our generation. It truely amazes me that women saying they are looking for a nice guy are guilty. Ever think that is why you haven't found one?
Josh
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| 8/9/2010 7:05:27 PM |
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joshk2010
Hoboken, NJ
40, joined May. 2010
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I find winks annoying. If you can't think of ONE damn thing to say to me, don't message me. The same goes for "Hey sexy how ya doin" or just "wanted to say hi." You're already showing me you're either boring, have no personality/nothing interesting to say, or didn't read my profile (since, as others have said, sometimes people who should have noticed you're not even close to a match send "winks" and boring one-liners).
If I may be the male's perspective. While I completely agree that the above is quite uninspired, a woman might see it from a man's perspective before dismissing so promptly.
I'll speak for myself and a couple of friends whom I know have done the "online dating thing." At least for myself, it might be different for the Matthew McConaugheys (feel in your proverbial hunk), there is typically a 20-40 to 1 ratio of emails sent to even primitive replies. This makes it an extremely arduous task to email everyone you might have interest in with someone completely clever and conversation inspiring.
While it might be a nice dream to believe that Mr.(Ms.) right is chomping at the bit to pen the most charming dialogue with you, put yourself in the same position. What if you were to have to write all those emails?
Indeed it is good practice. I don't fault the societal system, but it would be nice to receive a no thank you than no response as I said above. It just makes the effort at least that much more worthwhile. Again, your mileage may vary.
Josh
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| 8/11/2010 9:32:38 AM |
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suvee
Parsippany, NJ
67, joined Jul. 2010
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I've replied to a wink with an email, and I always ask a personal question. If the response back does not answer the personal question, then I'm assuming the wink was just a wink sent to all the women, because clearly the person has not read my profile. JMHO.
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| 8/11/2010 6:44:50 PM |
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joshk2010
Hoboken, NJ
40, joined May. 2010
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Oh, I most definitely read the profile and made the email personal. In fact all my emails are personal.
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| 8/12/2010 5:53:43 PM |
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bic20x
Englishtown, NJ
52, joined Jun. 2009
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Dont bother winking just start a conversation rather have someones direct attention no just a wink!!
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