| 6/16/2008 10:49:33 AM |
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egglebert
Steinbach, MB
age: 45
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The world would be in a sorry state if that was the case.
Both sexes must take responsibility for the pursuit. It is heaven when both have the interest and are targetting each other.
Don't wait for the fish to come to you, they may be at the opposite side of the lake. You have to start moving and find then yourself if you want to feel success. Don't you just hate those analogies 
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| 6/16/2008 1:22:25 PM |
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mariafromromani
Portland, OR
age: 40
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It is about what you want in a man, not what a man wants in you....
That should apply in all your pursuits.
Don't you mean, what you want and what you're going to get are entirely two different things?
No, I meant when you know what you want, you put the energy out for that (once again the karma rule); if you wait for someone to "pick" you typically you will not be compatible.
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| 6/16/2008 1:39:01 PM |
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cajunmister
Kinder, LA
age: 57
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I've read the very same thing in a book telling guy's how to get women. Forgive me if this is already been brought up as I only skimed the threads. IMO this is just games, the ones women complain about men playing but now your doing it???? Don't make a lot of sense to me. There are a lot of post asking why it's so hard to meet plp on these sights. How can you meet if you don't answer emails , winks, ect. I guess if want to be the one holding all the cards in the relationship keep playin!!!! One day your sure to win; NOT
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| 6/16/2008 1:48:34 PM |
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ocean_spray
Maricopa, AZ
age: 55
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If I come across a man who is trying to persue me with a help of a Selfhelp book....I'm running..........( wink ) Sea..... edit for spelling
[Edited 6/16/2008 1:57:22 PM]
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| 6/16/2008 1:51:58 PM |
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wldcherry05
Hampton, GA
age: 21 online now!
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I've been told several times that if I pursue a guy that I'm interested in (non-sexually) that I look 'easy', etc. and I think this is stupid. If you like someone whether you are male or female then you should be free to pursue them....no 'rules' in this category....if I like you and I want to talk to you....I will!!! 
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| 6/16/2008 6:02:56 PM |
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lzylwr
Massapequa, NY
age: 21
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I am very new to dating. I'll zoom through the Publix parking lot with a cart full of groceries like a little kid on a scooter. But dating GAMES? PLAYING hard to get? Should I never call a guy I like? I recently met an author of a book about dating,and yes,I bought her book, and I was quite amazed with the advice. Never drive to a man's house to pick him up for a date? Don't call a guy, even if it's a missed call? Don't accept a date if he didn't call, like, two days in advance?
Gentlemen, please be honest, would you prefer to be in charge of the flow? Is the PURSUIT such an important part of your experience of dating?
Ladies, has being too assertive ever been a negative in your dating?
What year is this, and will it always be the same?
Want my honest opinion.
No. I completely disagree with this author.
I think this author has been burned many times and, based on the guy's she has dated, thinks that playing games is a way to win a man's heart.
Look, sometimes people need alone time, and that's okay...but having a set time when to call back after a date?? Not calling back only after several days, or it's not good??? What are we in...high school?!?!
I think you really need to evaluate it based on a person by person basis. I'm totally cool with an assertive woman. Heck, I think her asking me out is cool, and vica versa. I actually HATE when they play "hard to get." I really disrespect that. In all honesty, the pursuit is the most frustrating part of the dating experience.
If she isn't serious, why should I be?
You have to understand that this author is out there to make money. Period. There are SOME people who fit into her mold of preferences, but if you are truly serious in finding a good person, do you really want to date a man who was like that? I wouldn't want to date a woman who was like that.
Why do you think there are so many lonely, bitter and single people out there?
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| 6/16/2008 6:09:13 PM |
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mariafromromani
Portland, OR
age: 40
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I've been told several times that if I pursue a guy that I'm interested in (non-sexually) that I look 'easy', etc. and I think this is stupid. If you like someone whether you are male or female then you should be free to pursue them....no 'rules' in this category....if I like you and I want to talk to you....I will!!!
Myself, and I assume some of the ladies on this site, am looking for long term relationships, not for "fun" (maybe having fun while searching,lol). I know what I want and I don't want to waste my time or their time. I had my fun, and now I want more.
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| 6/16/2008 6:13:58 PM |
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tiki44
Lancaster, PA
age: 44
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Amen Maria!!
If I waited to get an e-mail from a man, I'd still be waiting. Even the e-mails I send I might get one reply out of six....I know what I want and I am looking for what I want!! If I wait for him to make a move, I will still be single in the old folks home!
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| 6/16/2008 6:24:03 PM |
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suzie23
Little Rock, AR
age: 36
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If you like him and want him ( I mean like him Oops ) why not ask him?
If it's right and meant to be, I don't think it will matter who does the asking.
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| 6/16/2008 6:31:31 PM |
Must the man be the one to pursue? |
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lobo_corazon
Kingston, ON
age: 39 online now!
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It is about what you want in a man, not what a man wants in you....
That should apply in all your pursuits.
Don't you mean, what you want and what you're going to get are entirely two different things?
No, I meant when you know what you want, you put the energy out for that (once again the karma rule); if you wait for someone to "pick" you typically you will not be compatible.
This! 
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| 6/17/2008 1:13:04 AM |
Must the man be the one to pursue? |
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russ01
Dallas, TX
age: 42
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females want to be created equil. then a woman should pursue the same as a man should, or she isnt the right one....
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