I haven't had any kids because I wanted to wait until I was married to be a father. I have had 3 serious relationships in my life. Hard to believe, but I was actually a virgin until I was 21 years old. It's because when I was in high school, I looked like I was in middle school and when I was in college, I looked like I was in high school. Due to my always looking so young, I ended up being quite shy with women. I didn't start dating until age 24. I had a serious girfriend (she was 26 years old) when I was age 29, but she moved back to her home country. Then I had another serious relationship when I was the ages of 33 to 34. She was 23 to 24 years old during our relationship. I got her pregnant but then she had a miscarriage and she moved back to her home country when I was 34. Finally, I had a serious relationship when I was the ages of 37 to 39 with a woman who was 34 to 36 during that time period. She was a single mother of a young daughter. I broke up with her because she told me she would not have another kid when we married. She told me that 2 years after our relationship started. Before it started, she said she would be willing to have 1 more child if she was married. So she lied to me.

So here I am at age 40, childless and never married.

In the old days Forty and unmarried was a red flag,not so much now days.

I believe it's the opposite. Nowadays men are way too bitter with women that they feel have hurt them in relationships that they hold it against new women they meet. If a man is 40 and hasn't married yet and had children then I would think he has huge issues that I don't want to deal with. He is most likely above all very "selfish." We have to be self'less' in order to give ourselves to someone else in marriage.

Scoobs

if you don't have children you don't fully understand the whole "my kids come first, everything else...including you is second"

I believe it's the opposite. Nowadays men are way too bitter with women that they feel have hurt them in relationships that they hold it against new women they meet. If a man is 40 and hasn't married yet and had children then I would think he has huge issues that I don't want to deal with. He is most likely above all very "selfish." We have to be self'less' in order to give ourselves to someone else in marriage.

Is a 40-year-old childless man considered good relationship material (good potential boyfriend or good potential husband) by women?

Please explain.

If you are a person that has children under 18 then you should try and find someone that has children because only someone with childrencan relate with your commitment to them.

But I will say if a guy or a girl is 40 years old and never been married or doesnt have kids there is usually something off with them. Think about it. No one could stay with them long enough or make any commitment with this person. Even bad people end up in bad marriges. These people must be complete trainwrecks. Everyone knows someone rhat fits this category.