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sunnydaythree
Grand Blanc, MI
32, joined Mar. 2014
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What are some red flags in men's profiles?
For example:
Poor grammer/spelling
No pictures
Fake profile
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| 6/8/2014 11:47:40 PM |
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vickie0621
Las Cruces, NM
37, joined May. 2014
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Unrealistic combination of age/job descruption/income.
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| 6/9/2014 12:14:42 PM |
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aladytoo
Monroe, WI
60, joined Apr. 2006
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"Red flags"
The term God fearing
Pics that look like models
Looking for a fun woman>fwb
Slang
Broken English in profile
Not everyone spells correct,but when 80% is spelt wrong makes you wonder.I'm not always perfect at spelling.So I take that into consideration.
Separated,Married,or the term complicated.(ask lots of questions!!!)
Widowed with small kids ask tons of questions,usually they will say they are over seas,military.
All pictures don't match their age bracket.
Income I personally don't look at because I don't think there is any truth,only maybe a few.
the biggest RED FLAG>>>>when it reads to good it's usually fake,and full of BS.
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| 6/9/2014 12:16:20 PM |
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aladytoo
Monroe, WI
60, joined Apr. 2006
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Great question topic OP thanks!
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| 6/9/2014 3:55:04 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
52, joined Jul. 2013
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Looking for fun
lying about where they from
there age
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| 6/9/2014 7:57:19 PM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
63, joined Aug. 2008
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When they say "God fearing man"...
Young kids
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| 6/10/2014 10:30:14 AM |
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cinnamonnhaze
Minneapolis, MN
53, joined Apr. 2014
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If they use the word "cos" instead of "cuz" (because), it's a scammer.
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| 6/10/2014 5:42:48 PM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
63, joined Aug. 2008
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has a beard.
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| 6/11/2014 10:39:57 PM |
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cj1755
York, PA
44, joined Jun. 2013
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Someone that asks you out on a date in the very first message I find a little unnerving ... I would think you would want to know a little more about someone before agreeing to spend an evening with them
The 40-60 yo men searching for women 18- 30
The obvious - highschool education, age early 20's ,self employed, making over $100,000.....drug trafficking, human trafficking, pimping, racketeering, gambling, etc?
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| 6/12/2014 6:57:00 AM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
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..drug trafficking, human trafficking, pimping, racketeering, gambling, etc?
And have you found a profile with such specifications?
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| 6/12/2014 7:50:54 AM |
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janet5360
Pittsburgh, PA
64, joined Dec. 2013
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I'm still puzzled how the same guy keeps showing up on DH with different identities. Cant be more red flag than that.
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| 6/12/2014 12:58:22 PM |
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cj1755
York, PA
44, joined Jun. 2013
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And have you found a profile with such specifications?
Yes maam Duchessa, multiple messages have come my way from various guys in their 20's with stated highschool education, proclaimed to be self-employed, and listing income as over $100K... I'm guessing there's either deception there, their "self-employed" business is one of those listed above, or I went I to the wrong damn career field! Lol
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| 6/12/2014 3:44:29 PM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
63, joined Aug. 2008
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Yes maam Duchessa, multiple messages have come my way from various guys in their 20's with stated highschool education, proclaimed to be self-employed, and listing income as over $100K... I'm guessing there's either deception there, their "self-employed" business is one of those listed above, or I went I to the wrong damn career field! Lol
But were those e/mails sent to you or you found them while checking profiles?
I refuse to believe a guy could be so stupid as to said those things....In fact, self made people usually don't brag.
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| 6/13/2014 5:14:47 AM |
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aladytoo
Monroe, WI
60, joined Apr. 2006
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CJ I have seen some of the same profiles what you have mentioned.I agree they are very questionable.And yes if they write to you I'd ask questions.Or most likly i'd delete,and not waste the effort.Odds are fake profile.
Very good point to add CJ.
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| 6/14/2014 1:18:55 AM |
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ursulamichele75
New Orleans, LA
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I found a lot of profiles being fake when they say they're Native American when it's obvious by their picture that they're not... Or also when they try to get you on yahoo messenger within the first message...
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| 6/14/2014 12:24:52 PM |
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xashax
Union, NH
45, joined May. 2009
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I'm usually too much of a Pollyanna type to recognize malevolent intent in people right away, male or female, in person or online. I tend to always give the benefit of the doubt and many passes before questioning anything. I know I'm certainly not perfect by any means. But I understand that kind of naivete is dangerous and Ive been warned about it by people much more streetwise than myself and it may be at least one reason why I dont go meeting men from online acquaintance situations. It just seems if a guy had really nefarious plans in mind, there would be other ways to go about capturing a woman that would leave less of or no electronic fingerprints behind.
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| 6/15/2014 7:15:33 AM |
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xashax
Union, NH
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has a beard.
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| 6/16/2014 1:46:07 PM |
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
46, joined Sep. 2011
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I am very picky most men don't make the cut.
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| 6/16/2014 5:13:54 PM |
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godsbutterfly1
Woodlyn, PA
62, joined Dec. 2010
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Million dollar incomes. Come on, get real
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| 6/16/2014 9:57:42 PM |
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cabanaariefedd
Norcross, GA
28, joined Dec. 2012
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Kids didn't say.
looking for new friends.
Sex in interest.
Half naked women on friends list.
Bashing women.
Only 1 photo.
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| 6/16/2014 10:01:36 PM |
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cabanaariefedd
Norcross, GA
28, joined Dec. 2012
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A couple of men i see in the local news feed that make a different profile damn near every other week! That is weird & crazy.
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| 6/17/2014 6:23:42 AM |
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janet5360
Pittsburgh, PA
64, joined Dec. 2013
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The ones that show pics of their house, car and bike. Even the dog gets a pic. You can be sure you wont be #1.
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| 6/18/2014 7:19:35 AM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
63, joined Aug. 2008
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I found a lot of profiles being fake when they say they're Native American when it's obvious by their picture that they're not... Or also when they try to get you on yahoo messenger within the first message...
I block the profiles of those who ask me to write to their yahoo messengers.
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| 6/18/2014 7:21:05 AM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
63, joined Aug. 2008
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I am serious. Have you had diner with a guy and the food gets stuck in his beard? Agggggggggg
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| 6/18/2014 12:42:13 PM |
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tall_xl_bbw
Saint Louis, MO
97, joined Feb. 2014
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I tend to not completely trust guys with the following in their profiles:
Says their an Engineer or Military
Race says Native American
High Income bracket
The perfect dreamy profile
They say they are contacting in a different country
Have just one picture
They tell a tragic story about why their a single parent
When the flow of the words and the grammar used doesn't match the profile.
When they are too enamoured with you in the first few messages
Oh, when they are too righteous
Oh and beware when it seems the person in their profile they are looking for is similar to you, with similar description, likes, whatever.
Somehow, and I think I've been right every time, I nail these guys and their fake profiles. but I was nailing scammer long before DHU.
I can tell when I look at it, then I respond to make sure I'm right. I am. It pisses me of every time that these guys may get ahold of some really gullible woman and really screw her up. Me, I just out them and I usually get a bevy of expletives.
Good Luck
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| 6/18/2014 1:16:11 PM |
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fluffy1001
Magna, UT
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No pics, sex in interests, if they do have pics, torso only. Or body parts without a face shot. Poor grammar & spelling.
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| 6/18/2014 4:40:21 PM |
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tall_xl_bbw
Saint Louis, MO
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I tend to not completely trust guys with the following in their profiles:
Says they're an Engineer or Military
Race says Native American
High Income bracket
The perfect dreamy profile
They say they are contracting in a different country
Have just one picture
They tell a tragic story about why they're a single parent
When the flow of the words and the grammar used doesn't match the profile.
When they are too enamoured with you in the first few messages
Oh, when they are too righteous
Oh and beware when it seems the person in their profile they are looking for is similar to you, with similar description, likes, whatever.
Somehow, and I think I've been right almost every time I nail these guys and their fake profiles. But I was nailing scammers long before DHU.
I can usually tell when I look at it. (The profile) Then I respond to make sure I'm right. I am. It pisses me off every time that these guys may get ahold of some really gullible woman and screw her up. Me, I just "out" them and then I usually get a bevy of expletives messaged from them.
Good Luck
Wow, I just reread my post and see that my iPad spell checker got me a few times, or i got myself. Plus, I was not punctuating correctly or something.
I'm really not that grammatically challenged, I was in a hurry to leave.
It's corrected, I think. 
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| 6/18/2014 11:41:12 PM |
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xashax
Union, NH
45, joined May. 2009
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On the NA thing, do you just mean people that look completely Caucasian that list themselves as NA?
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| 6/19/2014 1:24:34 AM |
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tall_xl_bbw
Saint Louis, MO
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On the NA thing, do you just mean people that look completely Caucasian that list themselves as NA?
Yep, also one guy was as Asian as you can get, but he listed, Native American. Lol, then when i asked him, he said he was Mexican and Korean. Riiigghhht. It isn't the origin choice itself, it's the combo of that and the engineering job or a military man, making 75k, oh and the Masters degree. Then the sad, sad sob story about his wife dying in a wreck, or leaving him after cheating. He is a single dad of a child living with him, but the kid is staying with an aunt, or nanny. Next he is stationed in another country or has a contract he is working on, but will be coming home so he is looking for love when he gets here.
When it's all combined, omg, that is fakety fake fake fake. I guess you just have to know how to spot em. I've seen some real NA people on here, and they are what they say.
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| 6/19/2014 7:31:30 AM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
63, joined Aug. 2008
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Since there are gentlemen who need to feel "superior"...or in command...I get mails whose senders have PhD(s). LOL...Too bad they can't put a sentence together
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| 6/19/2014 8:00:07 AM |
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xashax
Union, NH
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Since there are gentlemen who need to feel "superior"...or in command...I get mails whose senders have PhD(s). LOL...Too bad they can't put a sentence together
Yes I sometimes find that a little suspicious when people, male or female, are claiming to be degree holders and they are bordering on being functionally illiterate. They wouldn't have even been capable of passing college level general education courses.
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| 6/19/2014 8:10:04 AM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
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Yes I sometimes find that a little suspicious when people, male or female, are claiming to be degree holders and they are bordering on being functionally illiterate. They wouldn't have even been capable of passing college level general education courses.
college level general education courses? How about "not even grade school"?
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| 6/19/2014 2:57:20 PM |
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tall_xl_bbw
Saint Louis, MO
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Since there are gentlemen who need to feel "superior"...or in command...I get mails whose senders have PhD(s). LOL...Too bad they can't put a sentence together
Haha..that always makes me laugh duchessa. I just can't wrap my head around how stupid the fakes/liars are. They really expect women to think they have this doctorate degree. But when they message you and have no grammatical skills, up goes that big red flag. It's waving back and forth, I can't miss it.
To be fair, lots of guys on here are going through similar stuff. Lots of scandalous women out there (or men pretending to be women)
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| 6/19/2014 7:09:02 PM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
63, joined Aug. 2008
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I am bombarded with mails by guys a lot younger because I am retired and I don't have kids...They think I am stupid. I wouldn't be where I am id I was, dudes.
I love their "Age is only a number"....
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| 6/19/2014 10:11:26 PM |
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tall_xl_bbw
Saint Louis, MO
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I am bombarded with mails by guys a lot younger because I am retired and I don't have kids...They think I am stupid. I wouldn't be where I am id I was, dudes.
I love their "Age is only a number"....
LOL, yes yes yes..I'm so glad I'm not the only one dealing with this silliness. I would say 3/4 of the messages I get are from guys under 29, and I'm 48. I have had a 20 year old contact me.
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| 6/20/2014 2:44:25 AM |
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xashax
Union, NH
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I had an aggressive young man contact me. This had to have been over a year ago. I deleted the messages with no response. Then he sends this embittered one out of the blue saying "I was too old to still be this picky." 
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| 6/20/2014 6:20:18 AM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
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LOL, yes yes yes..I'm so glad I'm not the only one dealing with this silliness. I would say 3/4 of the messages I get are from guys under 29, and I'm 48. I have had a 20 year old contact me.
LOL...they may be thinking we are desperate old bags with no life.
Guys, please, read this thread.
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| 6/20/2014 6:21:57 AM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
63, joined Aug. 2008
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I had an aggressive young man contact me. This had to have been over a year ago. I deleted the messages with no response. Then he sends this embittered one out of the blue saying "I was too old to still be this picky."
Did you tell him to approach his mother...that for sure she would accept him with open legs? i would.
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| 6/20/2014 10:35:19 AM |
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cinnamonnhaze
Minneapolis, MN
53, joined Apr. 2014
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@ Xashax
I get "those" from every single age group. Grrr. First they send a message filled with various compliments (my looks, my attitude, blah blah blah) & they include their number & how they would do ANYTHING just to meet me. (and this does not include the scammers with phone numbers & emails) The next message is filled with insults (my looks, my attitude blah blah blah) It usually ends with the typical "you're an ugly old hag". The best ones are from men older than me - calling me old. (the beer bellied, baseball hat idiots that look like they haven't showered since the late 80's!!!)
One idiot started with a number of inappropriate questions & when I didn't respond, he finished with telling me to join the ASPCA. lmao. He was too stupid to even insult me correctly! He was searching for AARP.
I really really hate "stupid"!
P.S. I'm 50 & my youngest was 18 - looking for a "teacher"! Seriously?
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| 6/20/2014 10:46:57 AM |
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xashax
Union, NH
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Well the attention from youngins can be flattering in some cases I guess so I dont complain overtly about it. Usually they are nice enough and just run along if I tell them they are too young or I'm not interested in the brief, internet romantic pairings on here. However men of all ages that do that resentful name calling thing after you have declined their advances is a bit silly. It reminds of the "Fox and Grapes" story from childhood. The fox wanted the grapes but hey were hanging on a high vine and he couldn't reach them so he walks away in a huff claiming that the grapes were probably sour anyway.
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| 6/20/2014 11:16:04 AM |
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cinnamonnhaze
Minneapolis, MN
53, joined Apr. 2014
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^^^^^^
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| 6/20/2014 11:18:11 AM |
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aladytoo
Monroe, WI
60, joined Apr. 2006
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I think you'll always find something in profiles that maybe questionable.I tend to think men have same issues with woman.Confront the issue right away if you have concerns or just delete may be a better option.
If we all were perfect matches,then why are we on here?As always I think most tend to sift threw the hay stack.And may just end up with dust.
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| 6/20/2014 10:43:40 PM |
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socurious66
Beaverdam, VA
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starting to wonder if half the men are even real? You are right about the military guys...I busted one..in his profile it was an older guy, but he had other pics...said he lived in Manassas but was overseas...went by the name Ken Jacob ....on his uniform, it was a cross with the name "Hawkins" Found the real one on FB...poor guy...the real one is a married chaplan in the army...LMAO
other one today, emailed me asking for a favor...wanted to send me money to my bank acct and sent it back to pay hotel bill...WTF...since he was over there for a conference..
I did meet one really nice guy, would like to be his friend...
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| 6/28/2014 6:48:28 AM |
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nolovehere79
Bronx, NY
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Before you even get to the profile
never trust a man without a shirt in his pictures Big red flag. He only wants sex
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| 6/28/2014 12:04:02 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
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Say they willing to relocate..
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| 6/28/2014 5:14:27 PM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
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Say they willing to relocate..
and they get instantly blocked by me.
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| 6/28/2014 5:15:18 PM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
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Pics with their relatives...
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| 6/28/2014 7:01:37 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
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and they get instantly blocked by me.
and true
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| 6/28/2014 7:24:46 PM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
63, joined Aug. 2008
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and true
If I am in a playful mood I ask "Are you planning to buy a home in NY? " Their answer is always; "No, I will rent." LOL
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| 7/2/2014 11:15:46 AM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
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BTW, have you noticed the large number of """bald""" Native Americans that write to us?
Guys, please, we are not stupid....we know that only one in three thousand Native American loses his hair. Alopecy is not a condition suffered by the NA.
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| 7/4/2014 1:14:53 PM |
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meetmeinsc
Greenville, SC
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Davidjo69 asked me for my acct #...
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| 7/4/2014 5:34:35 PM |
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texasgirl_1978
Grapevine, TX
38, joined Sep. 2013
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A man who is in his 40's that still lives with his parent's and can't stand up to his family because he is afraid of hurting their feelings. No wonder no woman wants to date him. He is pathetic.
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| 7/12/2014 2:24:54 AM |
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dv82npb
Newport Beach, CA
29, joined Dec. 2013
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more than 0 pictures of them flipping of the camera 
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| 7/12/2014 12:33:31 PM |
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u_sabato
Oslo
Norway
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When his English is so bad you can actually hear(read) his accent.
Something tells me he might not actually be a native, nor is he from sodak...
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| 7/12/2014 9:04:42 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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When his panties are sexier than mine.
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| 7/14/2014 9:43:36 AM |
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cinnamonnhaze
Minneapolis, MN
53, joined Apr. 2014
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they have a penis
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| 7/15/2014 9:29:47 PM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
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When his English is so bad you can actually hear(read) his accent.
Something tells me he might not actually be a native, nor is he from sodak...
I am not a native, I have an accent and I am legit.
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| 7/17/2014 5:39:44 AM |
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roses_tulips
San Antonio, TX
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I found a lot of profiles being fake when they say they're Native American when it's obvious by their picture that they're not... Or also when they try to get you on yahoo messenger within the first message...
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| 7/17/2014 3:21:07 PM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
63, joined Aug. 2008
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I don't think of it as a red flag but I will mention it nevertheless.
When a man lives only about 30 miles from my home (25') but those 30 miles mean I must cross the George Washington bridge or drive through areas where the traffic will add one hour to the ride.
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| 7/18/2014 7:11:36 AM |
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1yolo
Crowley, TX
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I have experienced most of what everyone is saying. The one I have noticed is they are white as a sheet of paper, ethnicity wise, and say they are native American.
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