How far did you go to impress someone?

Too often the guy is good enough until they are married and then she expects him to change. Too many get the man to the alter and then try to alter the man. If you did not love me the way I am, then why did you love me?

I'm sorry but I have a difficult time trying to understand why anyone expects to change their s/o..you should have discovered if you're compatible before going further into the relationship..if not then why not move on to finding the right one for you..trying to change anyone just sets the relationship up for failure..it doesn't work trying to change anyone..my Mr right should fit me like a glove (metaphorically speaking)..

11/15/2014 12:52:12 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
pickygirl72 Pinon Hills, CA 46, joined Sep. 2011	Well you're divorced and again new to the dating world and you meet someone. You get a first date (meet n greet) you're a bit nervous... A. You end up saying or doing something you normally do not do? Liking making yourself stand out from the crowd? Or B. You are yourself and stick to what u know? This is not a poll u do not have to pick one. Just tell me what you do to make that first good impression. Of course this is about you meeting anyone not just a first date after a divorce. Have fun. Stay on topic and be nice Meet singles at DateHookup.dating, we're 100% free! Join now!
11/15/2014 1:16:14 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
mboots31 Albion, NE 35, joined Jun. 2014	Bought a mustang when i'm typically a chevy guy. It made a good work vehicle.
11/15/2014 3:44:23 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
pickygirl72 Pinon Hills, CA 46, joined Sep. 2011	Quote from mboots31: Bought a mustang when i'm typically a chevy guy. It made a good work vehicle. I said to impress others not yourself
11/15/2014 4:28:24 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
shucks_huck Hershey, PA 38, joined Jan. 2014	I try and just stay true to myself. Why try to be someone I'm not to impress someone? In the long run I want someone that wants me the way I am, not who they think I am. Maybe that's why I'm single?
11/15/2014 5:09:43 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
areyoumyking Madison Heights, VA 44, joined Jun. 2014	I've always been told and have learned in the past it's better to be yourself than to try to be something that you're not. In the long run the real you will surface. [Edited 11/15/2014 5:10:10 PM ]
11/15/2014 5:43:24 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
pickygirl72 Pinon Hills, CA 46, joined Sep. 2011	To the above poster that's so very true. A gal pal of mine went on a date with a bragger. He bragged about what he USED to have and who he USED to know. She asked him what he does for a living and he said "oh well now I am unemployed."
11/15/2014 8:55:58 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
nm_diogenes Albuquerque, NM 55, joined Mar. 2009	I've been divorced for 6 years now and on any dates I ever go on I've always been myself. I don't know how to be anyone else. Sometimes I may stand out in the crowd and other times not. In either case, it's the real me that whomever I'm with sees.
11/15/2014 10:56:43 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
purplerider1200 South Bend, IN 61, joined Aug. 2011	I save myself the grief of trying to impress anyone. You love me or hate me by whom I am. If I don't impress you, then you aren't worth knowing.
11/16/2014 1:17:44 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
pickygirl72 Pinon Hills, CA 46, joined Sep. 2011	I think men try to impress women more than women try to impress men.
11/16/2014 1:57:16 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
cavie59 Enid, OK 58, joined Feb. 2010	I gave up trying to impress women, it does not work. Sooner or later a man will do something wrong and fall flat on his face. It is better it fall sooner rather than later, that way if she sticks around she will remember that he is human and make mistakes.
11/16/2014 2:53:40 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
mboots31 Albion, NE 35, joined Jun. 2014	The more you try to impress the more they try to depress. It seems to go that way. Sometimes its the simplest thing you do without even knowing you do it that really does get the attention.
11/16/2014 9:13:12 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
areyoumyking Madison Heights, VA 44, joined Jun. 2014	As I had somewhat stated in my earlier post, why try to impress someone. Be yourself, by being yourself you will then find the right person that will accept you regardless of what you have or do not have, what you have done or have not done, that will accept the good with the bad and that will want to walk beside you in a relationship and not behind you. We all have flaws it's better to let the flaws be known rather than covering them up by trying to impress someone and after all in the end you will look back and think that you should have been yourself all along instead of trying to "impress". JMO
11/16/2014 1:06:46 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
love_language Speedwell, TN 44, joined Sep. 2014	Somedays I would like to be a little less impressive I think I'm a bit intimidating.
11/16/2014 2:24:24 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
lynyrd80 Wood River, NE 55, joined Jan. 2014	If you like me fine, if not oh well. At my age I may try to improve, but drastic changes are out of the question. [Edited 11/16/2014 2:26:17 PM ]
11/16/2014 2:25:55 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
lynyrd80 Wood River, NE 55, joined Jan. 2014	Quote from love_language: Somedays I would like to be a little less impressive I think I'm a bit intimidating. Maybe, but you will have to show that you're not attached more. Most men like me, a gentleman, will want solid proof.
11/16/2014 5:46:29 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
legaleye Columbus, OH 65, joined Mar. 2008	I am just me. I know who and what I am. I have no need to put on airs to impress anyone, nor do I, when it comes up in conversation, hide any of my accomplishments in life. It is interesting how many people write that they are nervous or scared when first meeting someone. I got over that decades ago, and when I meet someone, here I be, you either like or you dont like. If you base your conclusion on having a cup of coffee with someone, for example, and then walk away, oh well your loss. And life goes on. Live it well.
11/16/2014 7:21:30 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
shucks_huck Hershey, PA 38, joined Jan. 2014	Quote from love_language: Somedays I would like to be a little less impressive I think I'm a bit intimidating. You're not intimidating at all. You are a smart women however, and you know what you want and will not settle for less. That is only intimidating to all the men that don't measure up. [Edited 11/16/2014 7:22:06 PM ]
11/16/2014 8:25:20 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
pickygirl72 Pinon Hills, CA 46, joined Sep. 2011	No one has ever tried to impress someone? Really? My ex bf borrowed his sisters car for our first date. He said it was roomier and nicer. Good thing was he told me it was his sisters and didn't try to play it off as his own. So yes he tried to impress me with a car. See maybe deep down in a way we do try to impress each other. Is it a bad thing?
11/16/2014 9:01:41 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
mboots31 Albion, NE 35, joined Jun. 2014	Well then, kinda embarrassing anyway, my ex wanted to go to watch a movie so I went with her. The title of the movie made me think oh it's just some kinda basketball movie right no big deal. When I went in the theater there was nothin but women in there they kinda laughed when I walked in ok whatever. Well as it goes I did make it all the way through the movie covered my eyes a couple times. The movie was magic mike.
11/16/2014 9:04:09 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
shucks_huck Hershey, PA 38, joined Jan. 2014	Quote from pickygirl72: No one has ever tried to impress someone? Really? Does good old chivalry and common courtesy count?
11/16/2014 10:43:20 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
purplerider1200 South Bend, IN 61, joined Aug. 2011	Quote from pickygirl72: No one has ever tried to impress someone? Really? So yes he tried to impress me with a car. See maybe deep down in a way we do try to impress each other. Is it a bad thing? Not a good thing to do. I see plenty of people trying to impress others. Drive into any nice neighborhood. That puts more people into debt than anything. The one thing that I have going for me is- all of my old stuff IS my stuff.
11/17/2014 12:22:15 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
mboots31 Albion, NE 35, joined Jun. 2014	Quote from purplerider1200: Not a good thing to do. I see plenty of people trying to impress others. Drive into any nice neighborhood. That puts more people into debt than anything. The one thing that I have going for me is- all of my old stuff IS my stuff. You just said alot. Just because something is consider old/junk/trash people tend to overlook how it was taken care of. New never stays new. When a person actually owns what they have they can make it when times get tough. deep debt can split a couple in seconds. One thing I have noticed about my ex. She gets something she all excited gets tired of it she throws it away. Me on the other hand I look for potential, capabilities, longevity in every aspect of life. I don't want to get stuck with a lemon I want something that has the ability of a return. That is why I have older cars and work on them. That is why I have the job I have cause I can make the right decisions. You have to look down the road have a little fore sight.
11/17/2014 12:41:39 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
pickygirl72 Pinon Hills, CA 46, joined Sep. 2011	My ex'es sister car wasn't a Porsche. It was a little better than his Saturn. I am more impressed with a guy who takes care of an older car, than a guy with a nice new shiny car he can't afford. There is a difference of being proud vs being conceited.
11/17/2014 1:31:38 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
love_language Speedwell, TN 44, joined Sep. 2014	Quote from shucks_huck: You're not intimidating at all. You are a smart women however, and you know what you want and will not settle for less. That is only intimidating to all the men that don't measure up. Ummm...so says the one who..."measured up" Oh...and yes chivalry counts. [Edited 11/17/2014 1:33:29 AM ]
11/17/2014 4:03:28 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
ronleeseberg Mauston, WI 50, joined Jan. 2012	I married her.
11/17/2014 1:45:17 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
pickygirl72 Pinon Hills, CA 46, joined Sep. 2011	Quote from ronleeseberg: I married her. How did that work out for you?
11/17/2014 2:07:07 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
shucks_huck Hershey, PA 38, joined Jan. 2014	Quote from pickygirl72: How did that work out for you? You just proved why men shouldn't bother trying to impress women.
11/17/2014 2:26:29 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
pickygirl72 Pinon Hills, CA 46, joined Sep. 2011	Quote from shucks_huck: You just proved why men shouldn't bother trying to impress women. You are right. Problem is men should know they should not try to impress a gal. She needs to know from day one who he is and not who she thinks he is.
11/17/2014 2:45:37 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
shucks_huck Hershey, PA 38, joined Jan. 2014	Agreed, Now if only women could learn to be true to themselves also.
11/17/2014 7:06:54 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
love_language Speedwell, TN 44, joined Sep. 2014	Ehemm....
11/17/2014 7:11:13 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
mboots31 Albion, NE 35, joined Jun. 2014	Its alot easier to impress myself. Who needs flowers and chocolate when you can get a steak and some beer for about the same price or less and get more out of it!
11/17/2014 7:44:52 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
shucks_huck Hershey, PA 38, joined Jan. 2014	Quote from love_language: Ehemm.... You're an exception. Most women I have met are fake as hell.
11/18/2014 2:35:30 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
stargazzer Creighton, NE 68, joined Feb. 2007	Not far at all, I am what I am,I am.
11/18/2014 3:01:50 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
pickygirl72 Pinon Hills, CA 46, joined Sep. 2011	Most men I've run into have been honest about who they are and what they have. So that's good. I am honest from day one, heck i don't have anything to impress anyone with.
11/18/2014 9:09:33 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
lynyrd80 Wood River, NE 55, joined Jan. 2014	Quote from pickygirl72: Most men I've run into have been honest about who they are and what they have. So that's good. I am honest from day one, heck i don't have anything to impress anyone with. I seriously disagree. As a part-time photographer I look at things differently. You have a pleasant smile, and wonderful eyes. If you are as smart as I think you are, and have a good sense of humor. I'd date someone like you.
11/18/2014 9:09:46 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
lost4words73 Waverly, OH 44, joined Sep. 2014	Stay true to yourself. Pretending to be someone you're not doesn't work in the long run.
11/18/2014 9:17:01 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
shucks_huck Hershey, PA 38, joined Jan. 2014	Quote from lynyrd80: I seriously disagree. As a part-time photographer I look at things differently. You have a pleasant smile, and wonderful eyes. If you are as smart as I think you are, and have a good sense of humor. I'd date someone like you. I believe she was referring to material things, not her looks or personality.
11/18/2014 6:34:26 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
pickygirl72 Pinon Hills, CA 46, joined Sep. 2011	@Lynyrd80 thanks. but what I should of said is i do not have much of anything to try to impress people with, i.e good job or fancy stuff.
11/19/2014 9:40:46 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
pdforone Litchfield, OH 65, joined Jul. 2010 online now!	I bought a new cargo van! So dates would know I had a roof over my head! and a comfortable place to sleep!
11/19/2014 10:03:54 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
pickygirl72 Pinon Hills, CA 46, joined Sep. 2011	Nice idea. That van is roomy. Better than a two door sedan. [Edited 11/19/2014 10:05:01 AM ]
11/19/2014 10:38:15 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
lynyrd80 Wood River, NE 55, joined Jan. 2014	Quote from pickygirl72: @Lynyrd80 thanks. but what I should of said is i do not have much of anything to try to impress people with, i.e good job or fancy stuff. I don't give a rat's butt about how you earn a living. As far as fancy stuff, who cares! I grew up on a farm, never had it, don't want "fancy stuff". Oh, as long as your income is made in a legal way. I love the simple life.
11/19/2014 2:06:22 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
pickygirl72 Pinon Hills, CA 46, joined Sep. 2011	Quote from lynyrd80: I don't give a rat's butt about how you earn a living. As far as fancy stuff, who cares! This what i am talking about. Sure some people don't care (like the poster above) and are themselves, but some others do try to impress people by their income/job or fancy things. I live a simple life. Some can't handle simple. They think materialistic things will make them happy or impress others.
11/19/2014 5:22:02 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
mboots31 Albion, NE 35, joined Jun. 2014	Quote from pickygirl72: This what i am talking about. Sure some people don't care (like the poster above) and are themselves, but some others do try to impress people by their income/job or fancy things. I live a simple life. Some can't handle simple. They think materialistic things will make them happy or impress others. It's more impressive taking something that is considered junk and making something out of it. I hated it when I heard well so and so has this and so and so has that why don't I have that. My answer, well we have to pay all the other stuff off first.
11/19/2014 7:03:28 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
purplerider1200 South Bend, IN 61, joined Aug. 2011	Be impressed! I pay my bills. Care to share a pot pie?
11/20/2014 12:22:24 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
pickygirl72 Pinon Hills, CA 46, joined Sep. 2011	I grew up eating frozen pot pies. Heck those things took 45 minutes to cook. [Edited 11/20/2014 12:23:45 AM ]
11/20/2014 1:29:35 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
ronleeseberg Mauston, WI 50, joined Jan. 2012	Quote from pickygirl72: You are right. Problem is men should know they should not try to impress a gal. She needs to know from day one who he is and not who she thinks he is. Too often the guy is good enough until they are married and then she expects him to change. Too many get the man to the alter and then try to alter the man. If you did not love me the way I am, then why did you love me?
11/20/2014 1:43:35 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
lynyrd80 Wood River, NE 55, joined Jan. 2014	Quote from ronleeseberg: Too often the guy is good enough until they are married and then she expects him to change. Too many get the man to the alter and then try to alter the man. If you did not love me the way I am, then why did you love me? X2 ex wives
11/21/2014 12:20:25 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
pickygirl72 Pinon Hills, CA 46, joined Sep. 2011	Yes Ron many women try desperately to change their man. Why? I guess they think their life will be better if the guy changing into what SHE WANTS. Selfish.
11/21/2014 9:35:13 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
lynyrd80 Wood River, NE 55, joined Jan. 2014	Quote from pickygirl72: Yes Ron many women try desperately to change their man. Why? I guess they think their life will be better if the guy changing into what SHE WANTS. Selfish. You are a lot smarter than a lot of people I know, and honest. Damn I wish you lived closer.
11/21/2014 11:36:56 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
luckylouie42 Cedar Grove, WV 74, joined Mar. 2008	Quote from pickygirl72: Yes Ron many women try desperately to change their man. Why? I guess they think their life will be better if the guy changing into what SHE WANTS. Selfish. being married, and having it last, must be mutual compromises, she will take on some of your ways, and you will take on some of her ways, if your attitude is; my way or the highway, the marriage will fail now, how do i try to impress, i always like to take a lady out for a full dinner at a steak house, with all the trimmings, and i always pay.that pay part is not negotiable
11/22/2014 12:29:07 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
pickygirl72 Pinon Hills, CA 46, joined Sep. 2011	I agree ^^^^ When meeting for the first time no one should be trying out impress each other. Being yourself clearly shows the other person who u are. Like me or not. [Edited 11/22/2014 12:32:48 PM ]
11/22/2014 1:03:20 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
digitaldog Grove, OK 68, joined Dec. 2010	In order to " impress " I sometimes shower and comb my hair to pose as a nice guy in the hopes of finding a woman to date.. Am I really all that bad..?? -XoXoXoX-
11/22/2014 6:34:14 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
cherelu Wilmington, NC 41, joined Jan. 2014	you done. just be yourself.
11/22/2014 9:13:11 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
pickygirl72 Pinon Hills, CA 46, joined Sep. 2011	Some guy messaged me and tried to impress me with his bank account. He told me he has enough to spoil me and take me on trips. And he could be my sugar daddy. I said no thanks I am not a gold digging wh*re.
11/23/2014 6:42:39 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
purplerider1200 South Bend, IN 61, joined Aug. 2011	Quote from pickygirl72: Yes Ron many women try desperately to change their man. Why? I guess they think their life will be better if the guy changing into what SHE WANTS. Selfish. Women wish to change their men, and men wish that women wouldn't. I can accept women changing (within reason) due to age, and other factors. Why do women figure that we men need to change? Excuse me. A fair number of us are satisfied with where we are at.
11/24/2014 5:32:59 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
pickygirl72 Pinon Hills, CA 46, joined Sep. 2011	Quote from purplerider1200: Women wish to change their men, and men wish that women wouldn't. I can accept women changing (within reason) due to age, and other factors. Why do women figure that we men need to change? Excuse me. A fair number of us are satisfied with where we are at. I am not against the men. I am stating some of the things I've seen over my many years here on this Earth. i personally do not change anyone. I accept people as they are. Like i said b4 some women are not satisfied with things in their lives and probably feel better about themselves if they have control and try to change their men.
11/28/2014 6:35:43 AM	How far did you go to impress someone?
truckinmofo Winchester, KY 52, joined Dec. 2011	Took her to Burger King and bought her a whopper w/fries.
11/28/2014 7:28:41 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
ladiebugg55 Redding, CA 61, joined Jun. 2012	I don't believe in trying to impress anyone in order to catch their eye..I'm just being me no matter who he is..I don't get nervous prior to the date either..I just do my regular routine and I'm myself while on the date..it seems fake if someone tries to impress others..who wants to be let down once the real person emerges..
11/28/2014 7:30:03 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
ladiebugg55 Redding, CA 61, joined Jun. 2012	Quote from truckinmofo: Took her to Burger King and bought her a whopper w/fries. Bummer, I'd be sol with that date since I don't eat fast food, especially burgers..
11/28/2014 7:39:47 PM	How far did you go to impress someone?
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