| 11/19/2014 9:29:55 PM |
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marlotho
Slippery Rock, PA
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So many people say "i love you, miss you, you're so sweet etc." these are just words I always say actions speak louder than words. I have been seeing JE for 3 months now he talks the talk but i have never been to his home says i am welcome but always has an excuse for me not to go. I get mixed feelings is he hiding some one or is it just a coincidence.
I feel like a 1 night stand comes late spends the night leaves early in the morning. I have asked him he says he is married to his job. Works 12 and 16 hours.
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| 11/19/2014 9:44:39 PM |
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stregaleonora
Atlanta, GA
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This guy is not open with you, and this is probably the way he relate to women .
He doesn 't matter what he is hiding, the point is that he is the kind of guy who keeps a distance between him and his woman.
You can either take it and go on having your life and enjoy the sex with him (when he is around), or seeking someone else.
Your life, your choice. 
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| 11/19/2014 10:02:59 PM |
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naturebiy
Mc Kenzie, TN
39, joined Jul. 2011
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When I am with a woman I always whisper dirty things in her ear..with the guarantee I will follow up later 
Its called mental foreplay.
Just tell the guy.. I want to be a part of your life..and I would like to come stay the night with you.
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| 11/19/2014 10:54:52 PM |
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nothingneeded
Johnston, IA
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So many people say "i love you, miss you, you're so sweet etc." these are just words I always say actions speak louder than words. I have been seeing JE for 3 months now he talks the talk but i have never been to his home says i am welcome but always has an excuse for me not to go. I get mixed feelings is he hiding some one or is it just a coincidence.
I feel like a 1 night stand comes late spends the night leaves early in the morning. I have asked him he says he is married to his job. Works 12 and 16 hours.
This is so sad....woman that don't have no dignity all about themselves.
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| 11/19/2014 10:59:23 PM |
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pickygirl72
Phelan, CA
44, joined Sep. 2011
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Ok first your profile doesn't reflect your current situation. Why?
Second, sounds like you are just his booty call.
Ask him to come and spend time with you during the day or u ain't giving it up. If he still makes excuses then u figure out want you want.
Being his booty call or move on? find a guy who has time your requesting. Don't be a pushover...decide.
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| 11/19/2014 10:59:51 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
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If u feel like a one night stand, then that is what u are, you're allowing this man to misused u and he could
be married but not to his job
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| 11/19/2014 11:03:19 PM |
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theloser2123
Radford, VA
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It amazes me how dumb women are on here. Open your eyes. Yes he's using you for probably terrible sex on your part. It's women like you that make it so easy for guys to get laid in one night. Just f**king pathetic
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| 11/19/2014 11:04:12 PM |
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legaleye
Columbus, OH
62, joined Mar. 2008
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Somewhere there is a balance between words and deeds. If after three months, that balance is not starting to appear, then it is time to have a conversation about it. Talk to him more than us.
A question.... what does he do on weekends? Perhaps this Sunday he can take you out to an early dinner and then visit his house to balance out where you are all spending your time. Even a couple hours would work. Not sure if he has significant collections of things, but if so there should be stories to tell, and hopefully you want to listen.
Personally, when seeing someone, I want a lot of face time. Some of that time may be at the all night diner at midnight, but its face time. A few hours each day on the weekend should be an easy thought.
I wont speculate. A lot of guys I know have relationship issues and are wary of anything that speaks to commitment. Dont assume, communicate.
Good luck.
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| 11/19/2014 11:25:10 PM |
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missamicable
Hurst, TX
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It amazes me how dumb women are on here. Open your eyes. Yes he's using you for probably terrible sex on your part. It's women like you that make it so easy for guys to get laid in one night. Just f**king pathetic
Couldn't have said it better myself. 
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| 11/19/2014 11:30:09 PM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
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My ex worked a lot like that...thrived on it, just how she was....and sometimes it was more talk, than walk.
I suggest this....just show up at his front door out of the blue.
If he ushers you away from the house in a hurry....there you go.
If not....who knows.
Even if he is legit...it seems a compatibility factor problem.
and it could be he only see's you as someone to get with and thats it.
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| 11/19/2014 11:36:46 PM |
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mehbleh
Glendale, AZ
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What do you call what you are doing?
You spouting words to internet strangers rather than showing your guy you have a problem with his behavior.
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| 11/19/2014 11:54:59 PM |
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purdiibirdi
Nice
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So many people say "i love you, miss you, you're so sweet etc." these are just words I always say actions speak louder than words. I have been seeing JE for 3 months now he talks the talk but i have never been to his home says i am welcome but always has an excuse for me not to go. I get mixed feelings is he hiding some one or is it just a coincidence.
I feel like a 1 night stand comes late spends the night leaves early in the morning. I have asked him he says he is married to his job. Works 12 and 16 hours.
three months of excuses.... umm, i'd be saying, "later....." 
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| 11/19/2014 11:55:51 PM |
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get2knowuwell3
Fort Worth, TX
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three months of excuses.... umm, i'd be saying, "later....."
no wait......my divorce is almost final 
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| 11/20/2014 12:10:51 AM |
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purdiibirdi
Nice
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no wait......my divorce is almost final
so, you keep saying!!! 
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| 11/20/2014 12:46:43 AM |
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ladiebugg55
Redding, CA
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Op, it's time for you to move on..you ARE his booty call girl..sorry to say but with the info given how can we think any other way..if you know where he lives then why not pop in for a surprise visit??..Good luck!..
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| 11/20/2014 6:57:14 PM |
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chelleleeanne
Camden, TN
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So many people say "i love you, miss you, you're so sweet etc." these are just words I always say actions speak louder than words. I have been seeing JE for 3 months now he talks the talk but i have never been to his home says i am welcome but always has an excuse for me not to go. I get mixed feelings is he hiding some one or is it just a coincidence.
I feel like a 1 night stand comes late spends the night leaves early in the morning. I have asked him he says he is married to his job. Works 12 and 16 hours.
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| 11/20/2014 7:07:42 PM |
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iheartidiots
Grove City, OH
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Those actions would speak clearly to me.
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| 11/20/2014 7:11:58 PM |
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jimmco
Monroe, NY
52, joined Sep. 2014
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Forget him please. Move the freak on. He's saying all these sweet nothings to you, to keep you where you are.
Use your noggin OP....put your heart on the shelf and think rationale about what's best for you....continuing to be blind, continuing to not accept what is, or realizing YOU are more important than to put up with his bulls%#&t
Up to you OP...
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| 11/20/2014 7:17:09 PM |
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jimmco
Monroe, NY
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Oh..... you said you feel like a "one night stand" then you probably have been for 3 months because you keep puttin' out even though he has not invited you to his home.
That's ridiculous....!! Would you have invited him to your place way before 3 months?
If so, you're the honest one.
He's playing games.
Your call OP
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| 11/20/2014 9:00:13 PM |
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marlotho
Slippery Rock, PA
58, joined Aug. 2012
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I thank all of you for your input. It has helped a lot. I am going to try to go to his house 1 more time this week if there are excuses then I am done. I have talked to him about feeling like a one night stand that is when he came up with his work.
Again Thanks
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| 11/20/2014 9:15:08 PM |
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4uijack
New Port Richey, FL
29, joined Aug. 2013
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Go over when he's at work, and meet his wifey!!
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| 11/20/2014 11:39:14 PM |
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miss277volts
Lakeland, FL
44, joined Mar. 2013
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Does he make you feel good about yourself? Apparently not as you are questioning him.. He is making you feel like a one night stand... Question answered...
Do you feel you deserve better? If so tell him bye bye.
If you are happy with how it is, keep going..
Good luck. 
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| 11/21/2014 12:36:44 AM |
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pickygirl72
Phelan, CA
44, joined Sep. 2011
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Hope she comes back and tells us the outcome.
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| 11/21/2014 1:16:05 AM |
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grneyesrme
Sacramento, CA
46, joined Aug. 2013
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If you aren't happy & it seems suspicious. It's probably because it is.
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| 11/21/2014 1:19:55 AM |
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ladiebugg55
Redding, CA
58, joined Jun. 2012
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If you aren't happy & it seems suspicious. It's probably because it is.
Yep..I agree..
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| 11/21/2014 6:20:52 AM |
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soulfullaussie
Victoria
Australia
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Yep they have to show you ...Actions do speak louder than words .. but sometimes word when said right can be Amazing .. especial if the guy has a sexy voice and I am blindfolded 
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| 11/21/2014 9:25:47 AM |
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
53, joined Jan. 2014
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Really, any decent man will want to spend as much time with you as possible. I do.
A relationship, a good one, has to be anytime anyplace.
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| 11/21/2014 10:18:37 AM |
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frappeyes
Houston, TX
67, joined Nov. 2011
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Read your own profile - you want to do things and make memories - nothing is happening in this relationship other than he comes to your house, you have sex, he leaves in the morning. Are these the kind of memories you were talking about? I suspect not. Its way past time to move on.
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| 11/23/2014 7:26:32 AM |
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cubcougar
Lucerne, CA
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...and the haters are going to hate, hate, hate.
and the taco sauce lickers are going to lick, lick, lick.
and the players are going to play, play, play.
and the illegals are going to lie, cheat, steal.
Shake it Off ... oh ... oh ... Shake it Off.
... and the caffeine addicts are going to d*ck, d*ck, d*ck.
and the stealers are going to steal, steal, steal.
and the Kool aid drinkers are going to drink, drink, drink.
and the Politicians are going to wh*re, wh*re, wh*re.
Shake it Off ... oh ... oh .. Shake it off, Shake it off, Shake it off.
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| 11/24/2014 1:21:54 AM |
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bill_i_am2
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| 11/25/2014 10:25:26 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
62, joined Oct. 2009
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OP you are dead on. I've said for years judge the guy by his ACTIONS not his words! You've got the right idea, OP.
The guy? I agree. Something stinks and it isn't you. Might be time to have the heart to heart talk and find out what's going on. He may be completely wasting your time.
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| 11/25/2014 11:16:47 PM |
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amusicluvr
Salem, OR
62, joined Nov. 2013
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OP - You are being played. Why waste your time on a guy like that?
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| 11/25/2014 11:22:41 PM |
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marlotho
Slippery Rock, PA
58, joined Aug. 2012
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Hope she comes back and tells us the outcome.
Well the out come is going well. He came to my place again this time NO sex he was ok with that. Said he thought more of me than just that. We slept in the same bed still no sex, later had a heart to heart talk. When he left I felt good. He gave me his address so I could visit him, gave me his land line phone number which is a good sign.(that's how I caught the last guy cheating "Nancy" called left a message and I heard it.)
I still say thank you every one.
If no one has read my profile I am new to the dating scene. My husband of 33 years died 5 years ago. I really don't know how to deal with these situations. 
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| 11/26/2014 6:45:21 PM |
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gamerman17
New York, NY
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So many people say "i love you, miss you, you're so sweet etc." these are just words I always say actions speak louder than words. I have been seeing JE for 3 months now he talks the talk but i have never been to his home says i am welcome but always has an excuse for me not to go. I get mixed feelings is he hiding some one or is it just a coincidence.
I feel like a 1 night stand comes late spends the night leaves early in the morning. I have asked him he says he is married to his job. Works 12 and 16 hours.
Words are just thoughts written, while actions are thoughts demonstrated. I rather demonstrate the thoughts in my mind rather than write it down and talk about as it does nothing to emotionally stimulate the person that I am interested in.
With that said, has he demonstrated how much he is committed to you as well as show his dedication in wanting to strengthen this relationship? If not, like you, I have serious question. But frankly, this is nothing but speculation on my part so until you ask him yourself and get him to be truthful to you, then all you can do is speculate......gamer
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| 11/26/2014 7:00:20 PM |
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ruthsan6
Orlando, FL
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Go with your FIRST instinct! There is something up with the dude...
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| 11/27/2014 1:19:00 AM |
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tooflyforawhguy
Oshkosh, WI
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So many people say "i love you, miss you, you're so sweet etc." these are just words I always say actions speak louder than words. I have been seeing JE for 3 months now he talks the talk but i have never been to his home says i am welcome but always has an excuse for me not to go. I get mixed feelings is he hiding some one or is it just a coincidence.
I feel like a 1 night stand comes late spends the night leaves early in the morning. I have asked him he says he is married to his job. Works 12 and 16 hours.
Right!?
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| 11/27/2014 7:01:59 AM |
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kingslayer99
Galveston, TX
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Big clue OP If a guy never has you over to his place he's full of shit he's married.
How can you be that dumb? Day two go to his place!
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| 11/27/2014 5:00:08 PM |
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hz_april
San Antonio, TX
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OP, something definitely isn't right. He's married or something else that's not right. You should have been to his place by now.
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| 11/27/2014 6:35:39 PM |
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lookin4him2012
Blue Diamond, NV
45, joined Jan. 2012
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I wouldn't take a man like that seriously. I've dated one like that. He ended up being
with his wife still that he had told me he was separated from 'and' he was cheating on
both me and her with other women at the same time. In fact, he had quite the busy
schedule. Just move on. If you like the sex that much then hang around but don't take him
seriously. He's not worth it.
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| 11/27/2014 6:46:09 PM |
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midnightangel33
Beverly Hills, CA
34, joined Nov. 2014
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Maybe he works so much his house is filthy and he's embarrassed.
Stop sucking his d*ck long enough to use your mouth to ask him why.
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| 11/28/2014 1:58:29 AM |
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carolinachic51
Westminster, SC
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Hmmm whose place is closest to his work?? Yours or his? If he is working that much, could it just be a convenience issue?
You really should discuss with him how you are feeling about all this. He may have issues with intimacy or any other myriad of reasons. Ask him!
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| 11/28/2014 4:49:33 AM |
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chambella
New South Wales
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So many people say "i love you, miss you, you're so sweet etc." these are just words I always say actions speak louder than words. I have been seeing JE for 3 months now he talks the talk but i have never been to his home says i am welcome but always has an excuse for me not to go. I get mixed feelings is he hiding some one or is it just a coincidence.
I feel like a 1 night stand comes late spends the night leaves early in the morning. I have asked him he says he is married to his job. Works 12 and 16 hours.
I would suggest that it is true what he says.. he says he is married but not to his job.
Say Next.
Big clue OP If a guy never has you over to his place he's full of shit he's married.
How can you be that dumb? Day two go to his place!
Ooops you had already said what i thought LOL
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| 11/30/2014 9:56:33 PM |
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marlotho
Slippery Rock, PA
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Words are just thoughts written, while actions are thoughts demonstrated. I rather demonstrate the thoughts in my mind rather than write it down and talk about as it does nothing to emotionally stimulate the person that I am interested in.
With that said, has he demonstrated how much he is committed to you as well as show his dedication in wanting to strengthen this relationship? If not, like you, I have serious question. But frankly, this is nothing but speculation on my part so until you ask him yourself and get him to be truthful to you, then all you can do is speculate......gamer
Finally he has thank you
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| 11/30/2014 10:02:53 PM |
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marlotho
Slippery Rock, PA
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Hmmm whose place is closest to his work?? Yours or his? If he is working that much, could it just be a convenience issue?
You really should discuss with him how you are feeling about all this. He may have issues with intimacy or any other myriad of reasons. Ask him!
His home is closest to his work. takes him an 90 min. to come to my place. We talked he wants to spend more time with me. He has talked of me moving in with him not today but near future. When I am ready. The fact that he travels that far to see me shows dedication. He even made the effort to meet my daughter.
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| 12/1/2014 8:43:27 PM |
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vagmasterflash
Durand, WI
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It worked itself out. No exlax was needed. All is good. Yay.
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