| 11/21/2014 9:49:37 PM |
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mboots31
Albion, NE
35, joined Jun. 2014
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What is the crap that you have dealt with post divorce that it seems the ex just doesn't get it. Continues to irritate you. The stuff that makes you feel like should have went away when you divorced?
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| 11/21/2014 9:59:27 PM |
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freckleyez
Perrysburg, OH
36, joined Oct. 2014
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Him thinking he can speak down to me. He thinks I have to step in line with what he wants ..  
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| 11/21/2014 10:53:39 PM |
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mboots31
Albion, NE
35, joined Jun. 2014
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Him thinking he can speak down to me. He thinks I have to step in line with what he wants ..
My ex is taller than me and of course will talk down at me. It's ridiculous she always thinks she has total control over what I do still! She is divorced because she (thinks) she is in control of another man her sister's now ex husband.
All I have is stupid people have big mouths eventually their foot will find its place there.
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| 11/21/2014 11:32:33 PM |
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mboots31
Albion, NE
35, joined Jun. 2014
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My ex has done just about anything to make me miserable. I should be able to relate to most all of the post. I was late 45mins one day and was threatened with contempt of court. That is one day out of 365 each year. My only crime marrying her and having kids.
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| 11/21/2014 11:33:46 PM |
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ronleeseberg
Mauston, WI
50, joined Jan. 2012
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I don't have to deal with her anymore.
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| 11/22/2014 12:12:07 PM |
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mboots31
Albion, NE
35, joined Jun. 2014
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I don't have to deal with her anymore.
I envy you!
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| 11/22/2014 12:51:25 PM |
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freckleyez
Perrysburg, OH
36, joined Oct. 2014
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I have to deal with mine because of my son
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| 11/22/2014 1:17:38 PM |
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mboots31
Albion, NE
35, joined Jun. 2014
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I have to deal with mine because of my son
I have two boys with my ex I have to see her two to three times a week. There is never anything that comes out of her mouth that is decent. It has been a long two years and I have 12 more to go. I have two awesome boys and I will never let them be with a woman that is this shitty when they grow up.
Oh yeah she claimed she would be a better mother without me.
LOL!!!! I am a better father without her!
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| 11/22/2014 2:17:06 PM |
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freckleyez
Perrysburg, OH
36, joined Oct. 2014
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Yeah I have 15 years to go. My ex is a good father when he is around out son but as soon as he is not around it's out of sight out if mind.
He called me the other day and the first thing he said was this is how it's going to be.... I cut him off saying excuse me but you don't get to talk to me like that anymore. I'm not just going to lie down and take it. He thinks I'm a shitty mom but his a** has only had his son 3 times since July and probably has only seen him about 6 times. And the 3 times he has had him has spoiled him rotten and bought him expensive things. He doesn't realize that he shouldn't be buying his affection, but that's ok. I am the consistent one.
Sorry I went off on a rant, lol
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| 11/22/2014 3:57:15 PM |
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mboots31
Albion, NE
35, joined Jun. 2014
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Yeah I have 15 years to go. My ex is a good father when he is around out son but as soon as he is not around it's out of sight out if mind.
He called me the other day and the first thing he said was this is how it's going to be.... I cut him off saying excuse me but you don't get to talk to me like that anymore. I'm not just going to lie down and take it. He thinks I'm a shitty mom but his a** has only had his son 3 times since July and probably has only seen him about 6 times. And the 3 times he has had him has spoiled him rotten and bought him expensive things. He doesn't realize that he shouldn't be buying his affection, but that's ok. I am the consistent one.
Sorry I went off on a rant, lol
You have to vent somewhere. People tend to tire of us who are working on giving their children stability I can't judge someone who is trying and dealing with similar garbage.
I made this thread to vent in. Can't bottle it all up and just take it.
My ex wanted communication and she got it. She tried to take me back to court afterwards.
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| 11/22/2014 9:21:17 PM |
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
46, joined Sep. 2011
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My ex husband walked out in silence and barely speaks to me now. No conflicts.
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| 11/22/2014 10:19:41 PM |
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mboots31
Albion, NE
35, joined Jun. 2014
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My ex husband walked out in silence and barely speaks to me now. No conflicts.
That's sad in some ways to go that way. But I have heard of it. When mine went out the door finally she took everything with her. I came home after work and it was like I just bought the place empty house. I slept on the floor for a couple weeks figuring out how to rebuild my home. My kids had beds first.
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| 11/23/2014 6:28:12 PM |
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purplerider1200
South Bend, IN
61, joined Aug. 2011
online now!
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Mine tries once in a while to call. Leave a message, I'll ignore you later.
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| 1/12/2015 8:06:26 PM |
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gamangodawgs
Ringgold, GA
63, joined Aug. 2014
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if you want to piss them off just ignore them 
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| 1/12/2015 8:45:02 PM |
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cinnamonnhaze
Minneapolis, MN
53, joined Apr. 2014
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My ex has done just about anything to make me miserable. I should be able to relate to most all of the post. I was late 45mins one day and was threatened with contempt of court. That is one day out of 365 each year. My only crime marrying her and having kids.
Dude, you are one jaded SOB (I've read some of your other posts).
You shouldn't be on a dating site. You should be on a couch talking out your extreme anger issues with a professional. Seems to me you are so obsessed with your ex & you would do just about anything to get her to notice you. You sure seem to notice every last tiny thing she does. Take a little time for yourself. I don't think the opposite sex is the answer to your problems right now.....
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| 1/13/2015 7:58:35 PM |
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happily2014
Birmingham, AL
53, joined Dec. 2014
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I've been through quite a bit with mine. We have four children and he does what he can to hurt whenever he can. I've learned to avoid him as much as possible. I raise the kids pretty much alone, but a peaceful house is priceless. It gets better with time. Time and space are a good thing.
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| 1/14/2015 7:33:06 AM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
49, joined Jan. 2012
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Quote from pickygirl72:
My ex husband walked out in silence and barely speaks to me now. No conflicts.
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I wish I were so lucky.  My ex is like a jekkyl and hyde. Never know which one he will be.
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| 1/14/2015 10:21:34 PM |
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
46, joined Sep. 2011
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My husband was very quiet in our relationship. I never knew what he thought about things and never really knew if he was mad or truly happy about things. Post divorce he kept to himself and than after being just roommates for a few yrs he just walked out in silence. He is not giving me any trouble now.
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| 1/16/2015 3:59:22 AM |
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up2youandme
Chandler, AZ
42, joined Jan. 2014
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Well that's sad but my ex still cooks me dinner whenever I'm in town .... maybe that's a bad thing ? 
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| 1/17/2015 10:51:23 AM |
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freckleyez
Perrysburg, OH
36, joined Oct. 2014
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I would love to be able to have a civil relationship with my ex. But I swear he is bipolar... He will be nice one mine and then the next it's a complete opposite. Sigh, I almost wish he would do what he did with his other kids and just ignore my son... But I don't want that for my son
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| 1/17/2015 1:40:58 PM |
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mboots31
Albion, NE
35, joined Jun. 2014
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Dude, you are one jaded SOB (I've read some of your other posts).
You shouldn't be on a dating site. You should be on a couch talking out your extreme anger issues with a professional. Seems to me you are so obsessed with your ex & you would do just about anything to get her to notice you. You sure seem to notice every last tiny thing she does. Take a little time for yourself. I don't think the opposite sex is the answer to your problems right now.....
Jaded is the exact word. Being on a dating sight is the best thing for me. Moving forward weather good bad or indifferent is the way to go. I may not get to date for whoever knows how long but I can at least see what is out there and know what women are looking for.
As my divorce ages I have been getting better and ignoring her does help but I have to keep an eye on things. Not looking for a chance to be with her but make sure she is not trying to stir the pot.
for the record I have faded out of her focus for the time being and I am enjoying the hell out of it. It is nice getting off the front lines of her soap opera.
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| 1/17/2015 2:39:26 PM |
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jmgarc
Stockton, CA
45, joined Aug. 2014
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I can relate to all of u I have a 12 year girl who is my world but needs her mom as she growing into a young lady.shes with me most cause cause her mother always gone partying sais shes working late I tell shes hurting our daughter notme.but theres getting through we start arguing and sais its me i cant get over her .thats how ignorant she is .all I can say her loss, when my daughter doesnt want to c her anymore she did it to her self
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| 1/23/2015 12:14:24 AM |
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jenny_oo
American Falls, ID
40, joined Jul. 2014
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Dude, you are one jaded SOB (I've read some of your other posts).
You shouldn't be on a dating site. You should be on a couch talking out your extreme anger issues with a professional. Seems to me you are so obsessed with your ex & you would do just about anything to get her to notice you. You sure seem to notice every last tiny thing she does. Take a little time for yourself. I don't think the opposite sex is the answer to your problems right now.....
This ^^^
Get some therapy. Seriously.
B*tching about your ex sending over your sick kids who in turn got you sick is just weird.
Your anger and rants after two years are excessive. You need help.
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| 1/25/2015 9:15:46 PM |
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mboots31
Albion, NE
35, joined Jun. 2014
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This ^^^
Get some therapy. Seriously.
B*tching about your ex sending over your sick kids who in turn got you sick is just weird.
Your anger and rants after two years are excessive. You need help.
Hi jenny
If you want you can go to therapy with me might be different this time.
Thinking on this the fact that she is a nurse. Wouldn't you want out of a divorce, the person who is a professional in the field doing their part using their skills with your children.
I have gotten my boys sick so much it doesn't make sense. Before all the BS they hardly were ever sick.
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| 1/25/2015 11:42:08 PM |
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jenny_oo
American Falls, ID
40, joined Jul. 2014
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I'd be happy to take care of my children healthy or sick. What greater privilege than making sure they are snuggled up on the couch, bringing them soup and Tylenol and making sure they are all comfy and cozy?
So you're saying if I had an ex who is a doctor, then my ex should soley take care of our sick kids? Lol you've got your head so far up your a** I'm not sure anybody telling you any differently would help.
You're not willing to listen. You're angry and have a ton of resentment towards your ex that you need to resolve. Until then, you're not even a suitable partner for another lady.
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| 1/26/2015 8:44:28 PM |
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cinnamonnhaze
Minneapolis, MN
53, joined Apr. 2014
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Hi jenny
If you want you can go to therapy with me might be different this time
How exactly would this work?
About sick kids, I always stayed with my sick niece. I watch my neighbors sick kids all the time. We are not related.
OP, you post comments in Man's Land all the time saying the worst possible, most degrading things you can possible dream up about women. You are so damn angry that there's no way on Gods green earth you can pull off ANY relationship right now. If you date your new gal pal will drop you like a hot potato - trust me. Do you want a half dozen women to b*tch & moan about? And now you want a woman from CA to get counseling "with" you? The more you say the more I wonder why your wife waited so long to leave you.
See a shrink. There's nothing wrong with that. Until then, lay off any thoughts of dating. It's clear that you only want to date to piss off your ex. Guess what? She doesn't give a damn.
Go back & read YOUR original post on this thread. It speaks volumes.
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| 1/27/2015 12:06:57 AM |
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jenny_oo
American Falls, ID
40, joined Jul. 2014
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Eh, I thought he was being sarcastic.
I'm pretty sure He hates me after I've told him many times how weird he is. 
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| 1/27/2015 10:43:02 AM |
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catti_brie
Springdale, AR
43, joined Jul. 2013
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I wish I were so lucky. My ex is like a jekkyl and hyde. Never know which one he will be.
Sadly that's mine. For weeks we can be fine. Getting along, laughing..reminding me of who he used to be. Then one day I say something and the volcano erupts and I'm in my own personal hell.
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| 1/27/2015 4:58:11 PM |
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mboots31
Albion, NE
35, joined Jun. 2014
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Cinnamon and jenny
I see both your points.
I came on here with some still unsorted thoughts.
I was yes sarcastic about jenny going to therapy with me, but I do value her opinion and yours too cinnamon.
I am glad that you girls can bring down a hammer on me I do need it sometimes.
I am not pissed at either of you. Keep up the good work!
Thank you!
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| 2/6/2015 2:43:18 PM |
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jenny_oo
American Falls, ID
40, joined Jul. 2014
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Well that's sad but my ex still cooks me dinner whenever I'm in town .... maybe that's a bad thing ?
No. Just means you weren't that bad of a husband.
Shame on you, didn't you know that Exes are supposed to be a**holes
My ex brings me food if I'm sick or if I'm stopping by his shop, he'll get me some lunch or a coffee. To me it means that two adults are finally able to set aside their differences and be at peace with one another.
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| 2/23/2015 3:27:27 AM |
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want2bnlove2013
Fort Wayne, IN
38, joined Apr. 2013
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I try to ignore him as much as possible, but sometimes that's difficult because of the kids. He basically has nothing to do with them, except when he wants to look like the good father out in public. We technically are separated because I'm on his insurance. He would rather pay premiums on that then anything else for the kids. So there are still some times we need to talk but I early have to bite my tongue and be the "mature" party in any conversation.
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| 3/7/2015 12:02:12 PM |
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mary_e0612
Kalamazoo, MI
59, joined Nov. 2014
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Has come back to my house during the settlement and broke in. Stole my dog, jewelry, and items from the shop.
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| 3/7/2015 12:04:24 PM |
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up2youandme
Chandler, AZ
42, joined Jan. 2014
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I try to ignore him as much as possible, but sometimes that's difficult because of the kids. He basically has nothing to do with them, except when he wants to look like the good father out in public. We technically are separated because I'm on his insurance. He would rather pay premiums on that then anything else for the kids. So there are still some times we need to talk but I early have to bite my tongue and be the "mature" party in any conversation.
I can relate. ...
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| 3/11/2015 10:57:44 AM |
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inknpink
Castle Rock, CO
32, joined Feb. 2015
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I haven't delt with any. He's not around and has no contact what so ever, it's going to stay that way.
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| 3/11/2015 12:09:40 PM |
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mary_e0612
Kalamazoo, MI
59, joined Nov. 2014
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I haven't delt with any. He's not around and has no contact what so ever, it's going to stay that way.
To be so lucky. I wish my ex would stop screwing with me.
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| 3/11/2015 8:13:40 PM |
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cole_tanner
Fort Pierre, SD
35, joined Dec. 2012
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There's no biting my tongue the b*tch is still costing me money so I figure if I have to pay for stuff anyway I'm going to say what I want
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| 5/9/2015 1:07:16 AM |
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prettylittlebbw
Stroudsburg, PA
45, joined Apr. 2015
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We don't talk at all.
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| 5/9/2015 12:29:51 PM |
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pdforone
Litchfield, OH
65, joined Jul. 2010
online now!
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I had one issue with the last wife after our divorce, she text me one day and said she was coming over to get my dog because hers was lonely. I replied it wasn't going to happen, take your crazy shit elsewhere.
Then she threatened to steal him or sue me to get him, I replied, you know I show all your crazy shit to our kids? It's been peaceful ever since!
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| 5/12/2015 2:04:03 PM |
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ladybugruth58
Patton, PA
58, joined Feb. 2014
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last time I talked to my ex, was at our daughters wedding.. we both cried and hugged each other... we did make something beautiful...
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| 5/13/2015 5:41:33 PM |
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debyduh
Hamburg, PA
54, joined May. 2014
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Lies.
Been going to court for support for 1 1/2 years. I don't think I can stand anymore lies.
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| 5/14/2015 9:42:36 PM |
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ladybugruth58
Patton, PA
58, joined Feb. 2014
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I visited my daughter and my ex in laws were going to visit too... my ex mother in law is so sweet, pops is a d*ck just like his son... I left before they arrived.
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| 5/25/2015 11:53:01 AM |
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debyduh
Hamburg, PA
54, joined May. 2014
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I have been getting calls for the ex from bill collectors. When he left he took his car payment and one credit card. Over 7 years ago. He stuck me with all the other bills. Some how they got my cell phone number which is a monthly phone that doesn't register my name to it anywhere. I have had this phone since last August. The guy told me he gave my number as a reference.
I am about ready to flip. I had to shut all my kids cells off because he would use them when they were visiting and they would get the collector threatening them.
Pray for me. LOL
Support court is 6-2 he has not paid a dime and she(enforcement officer) made it clear he had to make 3 payments and half the recent arrears.
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| 5/25/2015 12:57:44 PM |
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luckylouie42
Cedar Grove, WV
74, joined Mar. 2008
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my old pappy told me; that the best way to get over one woman, is to get on top of another one. 
[Edited 5/25/2015 12:58:09 PM ]
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| 5/26/2015 8:44:02 AM |
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
55, joined Jan. 2014
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Blocking visitation.
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| 5/26/2015 11:02:04 AM |
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blondie855
Chicago, IL
61, joined Aug. 2014
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What is the crap that you have dealt with post divorce that it seems the ex just doesn't get it. Continues to irritate you. The stuff that makes you feel like should have went away when you divorced?
I had Blue cross Blue Shield but now cancelled with the X a few days after our divorce last October. But he still has his, and I am still receiving my Medical Bills through him instead of Blue Cross sending them to me direct!
I've talked to them many times and each time they of course guarantee it is straightened out, which it isn't...
So... The X opens the mail, makes copies of ALL my Medical records, then sends them (copies that he paper punches to put in a notebook) to me months later!!!!
GRRRRRRRR!!!!!!  .. .... ..
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| 5/27/2015 7:57:33 AM |
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
55, joined Jan. 2014
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I had Blue cross Blue Shield but now cancelled with the X a few days after our divorce last October. But he still has his, and I am still receiving my Medical Bills through him instead of Blue Cross sending them to me direct!
I've talked to them many times and each time they of course guarantee it is straightened out, which it isn't...
So... The X opens the mail, makes copies of ALL my Medical records, then sends them (copies that he paper punches to put in a notebook) to me months later!!!!
GRRRRRRRR!!!!!! .. .. .. ..
Call the insurance company back, and demand to speak to the supervisor, or give them a comment on their web site.
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| 5/27/2015 9:05:18 AM |
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luckylouie42
Cedar Grove, WV
74, joined Mar. 2008
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ex-husband providing you with health insurance, should of been negotiated in divorce
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| 5/31/2015 10:41:52 PM |
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blondie855
Chicago, IL
61, joined Aug. 2014
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Call the insurance company back, and demand to speak to the supervisor, or give them a comment on their web site.
I've done that many times to no avail. And just received more "copied" papers yesterday....
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| 6/1/2015 5:45:01 PM |
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ladybugruth58
Patton, PA
58, joined Feb. 2014
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see the hand? not me anymore, call my lawyer..
my fiancé ex, he says to her, do you want to talk to ruth.. she hangs up... lol
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| 6/2/2015 8:55:27 AM |
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
55, joined Jan. 2014
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see the hand? not me anymore, call my lawyer..
my fiancé ex, he says to her, do you want to talk to ruth.. she hangs up... lol
After I thought about it later, I kinda came up with the same idea.
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| 6/22/2015 9:49:17 AM |
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mary_e0612
Kalamazoo, MI
59, joined Nov. 2014
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After I thought about it later, I kinda came up with the same idea.
That and or put it in an email. I don't want to hear your voice or see your face.
Not to mention email can (and has been) be used in court.
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| 6/23/2015 3:41:49 AM |
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crysin77
Steelville, MO
40, joined Oct. 2014
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okay this is Crazy But I need help.... My ex and I have been divorced for almost three years Sept 2012 , separated end of June 2012... he left me for my supposeably my best friend anyway the ex went and filed for a divorce and got custody of our daughter.... when I get her she is so unhappy, I can say I made a decision and listened to my daughter " she is fearful to go to her dads... the g/f is mean.... The day after i did a child protection order on the g/f for my daughter.... the day after I done that the g/f was arrested for child abuse/endangerment on her own.... I would be completley stupid to let her go back.... what does everyone think???? please help she is also on Drugs, I am a recovering opiate addict been clean and sober for 17 months.
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| 6/23/2015 9:09:39 AM |
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
55, joined Jan. 2014
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First of all, glad you're cleaning up yourself.
Second, I'd talk to a lawyer/legal aid.
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| 8/2/2015 1:15:12 AM |
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mary_e0612
Kalamazoo, MI
59, joined Nov. 2014
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I had Blue cross Blue Shield but now cancelled with the X a few days after our divorce last October. But he still has his, and I am still receiving my Medical Bills through him instead of Blue Cross sending them to me direct!
I've talked to them many times and each time they of course guarantee it is straightened out, which it isn't...
So... The X opens the mail, makes copies of ALL my Medical records, then sends them
If this is still going on call BC BS and straight up tell them that by FEDERAL LAW they are in danger of being sued due to HEPPA. They by law can NOT share your private info with anyone AFTER your ex stops paying the bills. I just went thru all of this and my lawyer had me do just this and I gave them my lawyers name and number. Here in Michigan we have no stipulation for medical coverage after the divorce but I won enough monthly alimony that he will pay for my private medical in my own name, so maybe thats an option too modification of alimony - Spousal Support for medical coverage on your own???
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| 8/2/2015 6:51:57 PM |
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sorpstar
Wayne, NJ
64, joined Oct. 2009
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okay this is Crazy But I need help.... My ex and I have been divorced for almost three years Sept 2012 , separated end of June 2012... he left me for my supposeably my best friend anyway the ex went and filed for a divorce and got custody of our daughter.... when I get her she is so unhappy, I can say I made a decision and listened to my daughter " she is fearful to go to her dads... the g/f is mean.... The day after i did a child protection order on the g/f for my daughter.... the day after I done that the g/f was arrested for child abuse/endangerment on her own.... I would be completley stupid to let her go back.... what does everyone think???? please help she is also on Drugs, I am a recovering opiate addict been clean and sober for 17 months.
Get to child protection services and. Get help from legal aide..he obtained full custody when you were at your worse. Get proof of recent recovery records etc,.,child protection may investigate and see you're on path of being the betta parent and revaluation may happen..find reputable witnesses too..good luck
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