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petitekitten72
Portland, MI
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How long does it USUALLY take for a man to propose marriage? I'm trying to figure out how long to wait for that kind of commitment...
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| 12/29/2014 5:09:17 PM |
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extortionegos
Hayward, CA
37, joined Apr. 2014
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After months of living together in a good healthy environment
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| 12/29/2014 5:09:38 PM |
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italianroyalty
London
United Kingdom
21, joined Jul. 2014
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It'll be longer than you have to live.
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| 12/29/2014 5:15:24 PM |
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petitekitten72
Portland, MI
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I don't want to "LIVE" with someone until I'm married. I know that sounds old fashioned, but... I am pretty sure that if I moved in with him, he would be even S-L-O-W-E-R about asking me to marry him... afterall, why would he HAVE to marry me if I was doing everything for him at that point?
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| 12/29/2014 5:28:48 PM |
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extortionegos
Hayward, CA
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Well I can't help you because what you seek is the broken home I come from
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| 12/29/2014 5:30:46 PM |
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bweuser11
North Myrtle Beach, SC
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The average engagement is 11 months. But you're a little past the average age for engagements. By about 20 years.
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| 12/29/2014 6:15:29 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
49, joined Jul. 2013
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Could take months, years who knows op, depending if he's ready to
marry u
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| 12/29/2014 6:46:21 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Oct. 2009
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At least a year.
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| 12/29/2014 6:49:13 PM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
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How long does it USUALLY take for a man to propose marriage? I'm trying to figure out how long to wait for that kind of commitment...
uhhh...ummmm.....OP are we talking about in regards to you?
Yeah, I got nothing. 
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| 12/29/2014 7:00:52 PM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
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I don't want to "LIVE" with someone until I'm married. I know that sounds old fashioned, but... I am pretty sure that if I moved in with him, he would be even S-L-O-W-E-R about asking me to marry him... afterall, why would he HAVE to marry me if I was doing everything for him at that point?
That's true...once your married, you can stop doing anything for him.
Maybe, men are just smarter these days and learned from their predecessors.
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| 12/29/2014 7:19:12 PM |
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eyes4unow
Pomfret, CT
45, joined Dec. 2013
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1st off, what is his take on marriage? Is it just something you want or does he eventually want it to?
Personally speaking, no marriage for me. Cohabiting is good enough for me.
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| 12/29/2014 7:40:52 PM |
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cubcougar
Lucerne, CA
62, joined Oct. 2010
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(this post has been flagged as inappropriate, sorry.)
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| 12/29/2014 8:24:53 PM |
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scottytwo
Euless, TX
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rough estimate, you will get one next week
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| 12/29/2014 9:08:00 PM |
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4uijack
New Port Richey, FL
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How long does it USUALLY take for a man to propose marriage? I'm trying to figure out how long to wait for that kind of commitment...
The night after you take it deeeep in your a** and swallow the whole load!!!
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| 12/29/2014 10:10:54 PM |
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mistermister81
Opa Locka, FL
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How long does it USUALLY take for a man to propose marriage? I'm trying to figure out how long to wait for that kind of commitment...
How bout when he is good and ready. Beside marriage is becoming more of a sham than anything else.
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| 12/29/2014 10:26:09 PM |
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forumfriendly2
Norfolk, VA
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a year minimum ...don't rush it
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| 12/29/2014 10:27:33 PM |
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forumfriendly2
Norfolk, VA
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I been with my girl 7 months ...I will be proposing to her in 3 months
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| 12/30/2014 12:58:39 AM |
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lucky_1million
Pewaukee, WI
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A man usually will know if he wants to marry a woman within a year of dating her.
So, a year and a half seems like long enough.
Just ask him to be honest with his feelings.
Some men don't want to get married at all, but they want to be in a relationship.
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| 12/30/2014 1:28:16 AM |
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sarahgoldsmith
Stamford, CT
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How long does it USUALLY take for a man to propose marriage? I'm trying to figure out how long to wait for that kind of commitment...
Don't wait, girlfriend. Be straight forward and ask him. Why wait for him to ask u? You should be the one popping the question. Just tell him, hey, let's get married. Wait to see his reaction.
What is the worst thing that could happen. He might say no, then u move on & find yourself another fish. There is more than one fish in the sea.
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| 12/30/2014 3:25:21 AM |
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happylauren
Crown Point, IN
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I'm going to shoot myself in the foot with my answer. I had a wonderful marriage, he passed away ten years ago. I only knew him 3 weeks when we were married. We fell madly in love. There is no set time period for engagement. Follow your heart. I have no regrets that I married him so quickly.
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| 12/30/2014 5:44:36 AM |
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tnbadboy1965
Gallatin, TN
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How long does it USUALLY take for a man to propose marriage? I'm trying to figure out how long to wait for that kind of commitment...
Why does he have to propose marriage? Personally I will never get married again and I let anyone interested in that I won't.
It's a piece of paper that does nothing to a relationship except puts it in writing.
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| 12/30/2014 6:37:02 AM |
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testsignup
Springfield, VA
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It's an absurd thing to ask. In order to ask such a general question, you have to start by assuming that all men are alike, and they are not.
Maybe if you started by culling people so that you are only talking about men who are actively dating for the purpose of finding a wife (not the majority of all males, from what I can see), you could come up with some sort of a number of dates or experiences, but even that would ignore how varies the reasons are for people to want to marry, or to decide against it.
More than anything else, though, my reaction to the question itself, is that anyone who asks it seriously, doesn't understand the world well enough that any proposals they managed to get would be meaningful.
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| 12/30/2014 9:08:17 AM |
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chitowngirl78
Oak Lawn, IL
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Whenever you can say you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with someone. May take years... who knows. Do you like him?! Are you happy?! If yes, then who cares how long it takes
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| 12/30/2014 9:11:44 AM |
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chitowngirl78
Oak Lawn, IL
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That's true...once your married, you can stop doing anything for him.
This mindset is the reason why so many marriages end up in divorce....
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| 12/30/2014 12:33:09 PM |
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hurryme
Bloomingdale, GA
50, joined Mar. 2011
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Marriage is the leading cause of divorce. 
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| 12/30/2014 12:53:12 PM |
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pdforone
Litchfield, OH
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yYwpnG-rkHI
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| 12/30/2014 12:57:07 PM |
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kawkasian
Houston, TX
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I read the screen name and was disappointed by the photo. 
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| 12/30/2014 2:13:47 PM |
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mr_freds
Abilene, TX
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It isn't something you can put a timer on...but I would say stick to your guns op. Don't lower your standards. Are you guys friends? When you argue, do you come out better afterwards..is your relationship stronger? Is he worth losing half your money/assets to if it doesn't work out i.e. divorce? I think Marriage is saying I know I stand to lose everything but you know what?? you're worth that risk.
If you shack up, you don't really have the legal backing as with marriage and also if heaven forbid if he dies, who inherits especially if your money/assets went into his assets...If it is in his name, his next of kin will. You would want to be protected.
With that said..it all takes time. You don't want to go into marriage or shacking up lightly and don't do it to up your standard of living i.e. 2 paychecks are better than one and we can afford more crap. You don't want to make it all about you and what you want either . If he doesn't wanna marry don't nag, beg, plead etc. Either be happy where you are or move on.
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| 12/30/2014 2:23:15 PM |
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dr_i_got_answer
Gwynn Oak, MD
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It takes 2 yrs if its done right. One yr of courtship and one yr of commitment. If he don't know after that than the answer is no.
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| 12/31/2014 10:30:59 AM |
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hisbaby4ever13
Ramseur, NC
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I have never been engaged but I will in May.
We've been together since last May and our two year anniversary is on the 10th.
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| 12/31/2014 1:42:16 PM |
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prettyyoung90
Lake Orion, MI
25, joined Jul. 2013
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I want to get married
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| 1/1/2015 1:14:19 AM |
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luxorus
Peoria, IL
36, joined Apr. 2014
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contemplating the invitation of your governor to the wedding is a sad notion...
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| 1/1/2015 8:54:46 PM |
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soflwill
West Palm Beach, FL
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I don't want to "LIVE" with someone until I'm married. I know that sounds old fashioned, but... I am pretty sure that if I moved in with him, he would be even S-L-O-W-E-R about asking me to marry him... afterall, why would he HAVE to marry me if I was doing everything for him at that point?
Wrong, you really don't understand how men think, stop projecting how you would do things on to other people. Living together will just quicken the process one way or the other, he will realize either he doesn't want to live without you, or that he can't live with you, then he will make his decision accordingly. Holding out just makes him more unsure of your compatibility and slower to move forward.
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| 1/1/2015 8:59:55 PM |
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kof1
Cedar City, UT
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No ring means freedom and If everything is working out good for both of you, why would you want to lose your freedom?
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| 1/2/2015 7:33:06 AM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
46, joined Jan. 2012
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I been with my girl 7 months ...I will be proposing to her in 3 months
If you are that involved with someone then why hang out on a free hook up dating site. Like most men, just figure you will find something better right? 
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| 1/2/2015 10:14:50 AM |
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my2sunshine
Pulaski, NY
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A man usually will know if he wants to marry a woman within a year of dating her.
So, a year and a half seems like long enough.
Just ask him to be honest with his feelings.
Some men don't want to get married at all, but they want to be in a relationship.
This...
Ask him!
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| 1/4/2015 9:24:15 PM |
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petitekitten72
Portland, MI
42, joined Apr. 2012
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he does say things that make it clear that marriage crosses his mind... I just want to be sure he isn't saying things to string me along... that's why I wanted to know how long people GENERALLY date prior to an engagement.
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| 1/4/2015 9:30:09 PM |
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lilod
Rochelle, IL
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I think if you're "waiting for a proposal," there's probably a bigger problem than timing.
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| 1/4/2015 9:32:43 PM |
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hunting4mine
Phoenix, AZ
35, joined Mar. 2012
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Pieces of paper are ridiculously overrated
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| 1/4/2015 9:33:16 PM |
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pk0357
Eastlake, OH
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How long does it USUALLY take for a man to propose marriage? I'm trying to figure out how long to wait for that kind of commitment...
I think this makes the top 20 stupidest questions ever asked...
There is no handbook, set time limit, or rules to something like that...
With this kind of thinking,
It's no wonder there are so many failed marriages and relationships.
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| 1/4/2015 9:58:22 PM |
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topnotchslam
Gibson City, IL
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Without even reading another word from after the title and pic if hes not your age and been married before dont count on it
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| 1/4/2015 10:23:55 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
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I've been busy, OP, but I think I'll do a platonic with MS Right and marry MS Perfect.
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| 1/4/2015 10:56:00 PM |
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lilod
Rochelle, IL
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Why does he have to propose marriage? Personally I will never get married again and I let anyone interested in that I won't.
It's a piece of paper that does nothing to a relationship except puts it in writing.
And changes the manner in which you can hold joint property, including the automatic passing of your house to your spouse's full possession without probate processes or inheritance taxes. And makes that person your next of kin for medical purposes and inheritance. And allows your spouse to collect social security benefits if you happen to predecease him/her. And allows one of you to cover the other on his/her medical insurance policy. And ensures you access to his/her hospital room even if his/her blood relatives have some kind of grudge and want to bar you. Just for starters.
I'm not saying marriage is necessary; I'm not all that interested in it myself. But, the effects are more far-reaching than you pretend.
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| 1/5/2015 12:03:48 AM |
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pickygirl72
Phelan, CA
44, joined Sep. 2011
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To my ex husband 8 yrs.
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| 1/5/2015 2:27:26 AM |
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chambella
New South Wales
Australia
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| 1/6/2015 6:01:50 PM |
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audlove515
Jasper, IN
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Maybe you should stop waiting for one?
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| 1/6/2015 6:28:50 PM |
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eyes4unow
Pomfret, CT
45, joined Dec. 2013
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Pieces of paper are ridiculously overrated
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| 1/7/2015 6:31:04 PM |
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browcottoncandy
Nottingham, MD
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It took my brother 10years to propose to his gf.Depends on the guy or girl.
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| 1/7/2015 6:33:09 PM |
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lilod
Rochelle, IL
48, joined Aug. 2012
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Maybe you should stop waiting for one?
Aud! Did someone go out and hunt you up? The boys had a whole thread going about how they missed you a day or two ago.
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| 1/7/2015 7:06:28 PM |
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wildheart51
Sunset, SC
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Learn to enjoy it for what it is. Perhaps when you're less anxious about it, he'll be more inclined to move forward with things.
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| 1/7/2015 8:46:01 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Oct. 2009
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STILL? It's been weeks now!
Just start throwing your weight around.
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| 1/8/2015 8:15:04 AM |
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stringopearls
Huron, SD
58, joined Jul. 2009
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why would he HAVE to marry me if I was doing everything for him at that point?
Why would anyone HAVE to marry? Sounds like you think marriage can be forced. Perhaps it can, but how rewarding would that be?
I lived with a guy thinking that marriage was only a piece of paper - that I was as happy as I could be (and I was until he died and his family decided to take things that not only belonged to both of us, but some things that were mine before I met him). If we had been married, I still would have been devastated, but I would not have had the vultures in my home.
I now understand the value of marriage, but still only think it gives legal rights rather than changing how I feel about someone. However, some people think marriage will change expectations. Hope both people going into the marriage are in complete agreement about any expected changes.
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| 1/8/2015 8:19:18 AM |
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kawkasian
Houston, TX
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How long does it USUALLY take for a man to propose marriage? I'm trying to figure out how long to wait for that kind of commitment...
I've been married twice and never proposed once.
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| 1/8/2015 8:20:18 AM |
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kawkasian
Houston, TX
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Pieces of paper are ridiculously overrated
I'll take those ones marked '20' and '100' off you then...
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| 1/8/2015 10:00:48 AM |
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cubcougar
Lucerne, CA
62, joined Oct. 2010
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(this post has been flagged as inappropriate, sorry.)
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| 1/8/2015 9:45:30 PM |
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theringhand
Kalamazoo, MI
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I can understand your observation on not wanting to live with him until you're married, however think of this idea. What is it about having a wedding and signing a contract that makes you think he THEN really loves you? Why do you need the contract to feel like you're a loving monogamous couple exclusive to each other and both focused on the common goal of a shared successful and loving existence?
I'm just wondering if you want the cohesive bond or the party and the leverage? You guys can still establish a trust, co-own property and debt, and all that. Unless one of you is in some cake a** government job with free benefits, it's not like you're saving money on insurance to any substantial degree.
I guess if you're looking for your own personal prize package then this all goes against that theory, but I figured marriage was because of love and not social ascension.
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| 1/8/2015 10:24:46 PM |
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evajoy
Reston, VA
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no set rules
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| 1/9/2015 11:55:21 AM |
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latinleprekahn
South San Francisco, CA
45, joined Sep. 2014
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If you're tired of waiting propose to him!
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| 1/9/2015 7:48:28 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Oct. 2009
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Stillllllllllllllllllll???????????????? Try posting a different pic. That one does absolutely nothing for youand lose 2/3 of your body weight.
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| 1/10/2015 9:35:35 AM |
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ocgirl1978
Buena Park, CA
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Better to live with him before marriage than to do it after! You can't truly know someone until you've lived together. Been there- done that- would never do it again....
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