| 3/17/2015 7:28:37 PM |
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momtimes3
Bremen, GA
41, joined May. 2011
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I recently met a man on here and we started dating which led to marriage. I am unable to trust him. I keep feeling like he will cheat. I don't know if it is my insecurity or it is him. All I know is he has not deleted his profile on here which is why I have not deletex mine. He says he has friends he talks to on here. Should I trust him as he says he loves me and does spend alot of time with me.
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| 3/17/2015 7:57:27 PM |
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dr_i_got_answer
Gwynn Oak, MD
48, joined Jun. 2014
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Him deleting his profile doesn't mean he's true no more than keeping it means he's cheating.
But what you're talking about is something that shoulda been covered LONG before you marry.
You don't marry first THEN try to resolve your trust issues. This is why men hate when yall wanna JUMP into relationships FIRST then learn as you go. 
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| 3/17/2015 8:00:39 PM |
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l380
Alabaster, AL
42, joined Sep. 2014
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Stand over him as he sleeps and wait for him to wake up to see you lurking over him.
If he reacts with a start, that's his conscience telling off on him....
Shoot that f*cker where he lays.
you're welcome
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| 3/17/2015 8:18:20 PM |
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BrandonIron4
Alpine, UT
28, joined Mar. 2015
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Are these "friends" females?
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| 3/17/2015 8:24:25 PM |
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4uijack
New Port Richey, FL
29, joined Aug. 2013
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What a dumb b*tch!!!
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| 3/17/2015 8:28:13 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Oct. 2009
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Him deleting his profile doesn't mean he's true no more than keeping it means he's cheating.
But what you're talking about is something that shoulda been covered LONG before you marry.
You don't marry first THEN try to resolve your trust issues. This is why men hate when yall wanna JUMP into relationships FIRST then learn as you go.
You're absolutely correct, Doc!!! If there's a divorce lawyer in here I think he'll be getting some business. They don't sound like they have a chance of a successful marriage.
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| 3/17/2015 8:28:40 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Oct. 2009
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What a dumb b*tch!!!
YOU said it but I agree.
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| 3/17/2015 8:34:20 PM |
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snhgirl
Scottsboro, AL
44, joined Nov. 2008
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Recently met?Married?And your wondering about him?I think you both need an intervention with Dr.Phil!
[Edited 3/17/2015 8:34:53 PM ]
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| 3/17/2015 8:36:52 PM |
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happy_geezer
Patchogue, NY
56, joined Sep. 2014
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Good god... 
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| 3/17/2015 8:37:22 PM |
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momtimes3
Bremen, GA
41, joined May. 2011
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You are a stupid f**ker. Dont call me no b*tch
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| 3/17/2015 8:38:01 PM |
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happy_geezer
Patchogue, NY
56, joined Sep. 2014
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You are a stupid f**ker. Dont call me no b*tch
I like irony. 
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| 3/17/2015 8:38:04 PM |
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momtimes3
Bremen, GA
41, joined May. 2011
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Mind your own business hag
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| 3/17/2015 8:39:24 PM |
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happy_geezer
Patchogue, NY
56, joined Sep. 2014
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Mind your own business hag
Since you posted your business on a public forum it is now everyone's business. 
[Edited 3/17/2015 8:39:37 PM ]
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| 3/17/2015 8:40:07 PM |
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momtimes3
Bremen, GA
41, joined May. 2011
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I like irony.
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| 3/17/2015 8:41:40 PM |
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happy_geezer
Patchogue, NY
56, joined Sep. 2014
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*Dont call me no b*tch*======Double negative. Thus, you want to be called a b*tch.
This message might annoy you a bit, however we want to make sure more than a couple of people get a chance to respond in a thread. The 'chat' forums and groups don't have this restriction, only a few forums actually have it. You will almost never get this message if you post thoughtful, on-topic replies.
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| 3/17/2015 9:01:51 PM |
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vagmasterflash
Durand, WI
49, joined Nov. 2014
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May I suggest you change your user name to c*nttimes3?
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| 3/17/2015 9:02:51 PM |
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momtimes3
Bremen, GA
41, joined May. 2011
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May I suggest you change your user name to c*nttimes3?
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| 3/17/2015 9:04:13 PM |
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vagmasterflash
Durand, WI
49, joined Nov. 2014
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Send your husband my way so I can b*tch slap him, and ask him what the F**k was he thinking marrying you hoo.
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| 3/17/2015 9:05:01 PM |
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vagmasterflash
Durand, WI
49, joined Nov. 2014
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Eat shit c*nt. Block button on the bottom of my profile you twat.
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| 3/17/2015 9:05:35 PM |
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naturebiy
Mc Kenzie, TN
39, joined Jul. 2011
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Perhaps a better question may be..
Why am I with a man that I do not trust?
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| 3/17/2015 9:06:43 PM |
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momtimes3
Bremen, GA
41, joined May. 2011
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Eat shit c*nt. Block button on the bottom of my profile you twat.
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| 3/17/2015 9:07:23 PM |
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dezweather
Phoenix, AZ
42, joined Oct. 2014
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Rushing into marriage rarely works.
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| 3/17/2015 9:09:19 PM |
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slutfoluv
Colorado Springs, CO
36, joined Jan. 2011
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I recently met a man on here and we started dating which led to marriage. I am unable to trust him. I keep feeling like he will cheat. I don't know if it is my insecurity or it is him. All I know is he has not deleted his profile on here which is why I have not deletex mine. He says he has friends he talks to on here. Should I trust him as he says he loves me and does spend alot of time with me.
You recently met...but your already married...sounds like a train wreck about to happen
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| 3/17/2015 9:09:35 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
56, joined May. 2009
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Note that she said she thinks he "will" cheat, not that he has, or that she suspects he has.
So, yes. It's her own insecurities speaking.
Why do you think he'll cheat, OP? He's given you no reason to think so, according to you. Why is it one of the first things you thought about him?
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| 3/17/2015 9:13:39 PM |
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dasnixter
Jessieville, AR
57, joined Jul. 2010
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Because he refuses your advances
in buggery?
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| 3/17/2015 10:31:43 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
49, joined Jul. 2013
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Op that don't make sense, u show trust him enough to married him, don't let your insecurities get the best of u
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| 3/17/2015 11:05:25 PM |
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wildfir
Albany, IN
43, joined Sep. 2013
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OP how long after u met him on DH did u 2 marry. That's my ?. if u 2 met and in say a month or 2 got married than u 2 were doomed from the start. U cant know someone in 1 or 2 months time. I must chat and meet for months and see if sparks fly before I would marry the guy. He may have friends on here OP.But if he wont delete his profile ask to see who hes chatting up. He ows u that much. I would demand he delete his profile. Trust is earned and u don't trust him so its not earned yet.So your marriage is doomed if u cant trust him. But he must be openly honest to u about who hes chatting up on here and let u see. If not divorce and move on.
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| 3/17/2015 11:52:50 PM |
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bigbiker33
Opelika, AL
39, joined Jul. 2008
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Oh really your married!?!???!!!! Well i was lied to by you now thats f**ked up
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| 3/17/2015 11:59:51 PM |
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Champaree
Australian Capital
Australia
84, joined Jan. 2015
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| 3/18/2015 12:35:27 AM |
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love2kiss8
Columbus, OH
23, joined May. 2013
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You recently met him and you are already married? this should have been discussed during the dating phase probably something skipped...
OP the question is can you be with someone you don't trust? maybe he is really on here for the forums like you are here asking us this question, or maybe he is looking for someone else you never know. If you dated for a while longer you might have been able to have gotten a better grasp of his personality instead of asking us something we don't know of.
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| 3/18/2015 12:51:47 AM |
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unique_woman
Omaha, NE
27, joined Dec. 2014
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| 3/18/2015 2:20:35 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
59, joined Apr. 2011
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Maybe her profile name is a clue to why she got married this fast.....
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| 3/18/2015 2:25:21 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
55, joined Feb. 2010
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I recently met a man on here and we started dating which led to marriage. I am unable to trust him. I keep feeling like he will cheat. I don't know if it is my insecurity or it is him. All I know is he has not deleted his profile on here which is why I have not deletex mine. He says he has friends he talks to on here. Should I trust him as he says he loves me and does spend alot of time with me.
If you do not trust him, WHY IN THE HELL DID YOU MARRY HIM???????
No trust, equals, no marriage. You should talk to a lawyer and get a divorce.
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| 3/18/2015 9:04:35 AM |
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oppsiidazi
Orr, MN
45, joined Oct. 2014
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This situation could be touchy.
For me, if we met on here, dated, and then eventually got married - it would seem reasonable that we both delete. Any good friends we've made would understand and there would be an exchange of personal numbers to keep in contact with them outside of this forum.
The internet can/will forever always be a medium where people can leave their real lives/relationships behind a computer screen... and become someone they aren't or get
some fulfillment they may not be getting. Me, personally? I would not want to be untrusting of my partner - until given reason to suspect something is amiss. However, nor, do I want to be naive either.
my best answer?
I would just trust him, my instincts, and the fact that I'm not an ignorant woman... and go from there. 
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| 3/18/2015 9:06:01 AM |
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kawkasian
Houston, TX
47, joined Sep. 2014
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All I know is he has not deleted his profile on here which is why I have not deletex mine.
Because two... "perceived"... wrongs make a right
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| 3/18/2015 9:23:49 AM |
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cubcougar
Lucerne, CA
62, joined Oct. 2010
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Stand over him as he sleeps and wait for him to wake up to see you lurking over him.
If he reacts with a start, that's his conscience telling off on him....
Shoot that f*cker where he lays.
you're welcome
Yup ...  she picked another Swartzn**ger to lick taco sauce off of.
I say shoot the f**ker as well.
She knows how to pick them ...
IT is NOT HER THAT IS THE PROBLEM ... it is HIM !!!
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| 3/18/2015 9:27:58 AM |
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spaceface79
Des Moines, IA
35, joined Mar. 2014
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Soooo... He can read all of this, right?
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| 3/18/2015 9:35:22 AM |
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pickygirl72
Phelan, CA
44, joined Sep. 2011
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Marriage is serious stuff. Many people jump too quickly in to it; it's a shame  . You should have trust going into a relationship, without it you are doomed.
Your solution:
1. Seek therapy for yourself To boost your self esteem.
2. Sit down with him to discuss how you REALLY feel.
3. YOU can not control or change people.
4. GET OFF THIS SIT.
Good luck.
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| 3/18/2015 3:30:59 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
49, joined Jul. 2013
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Oh really your married!?!???!!!! Well i was lied to by you now thats f**ked up
Oh op lied to u
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| 3/19/2015 6:16:32 AM |
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dr_i_got_answer
Gwynn Oak, MD
48, joined Jun. 2014
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may I suggest u mind your own damn business mother f**ker
OP mad as shit! 
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| 3/19/2015 6:19:59 AM |
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dr_i_got_answer
Gwynn Oak, MD
48, joined Jun. 2014
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die and go to hell
Got damn she mad.
Vag you better leave her along before she curse your next breakfast.
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| 3/19/2015 6:23:23 AM |
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dr_i_got_answer
Gwynn Oak, MD
48, joined Jun. 2014
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Note that she said she thinks he "will" cheat, not that he has, or that she suspects he has.
So, yes. It's her own insecurities speaking.
I didn't hear anything conclusive or damming either.
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| 3/19/2015 6:26:10 AM |
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dr_i_got_answer
Gwynn Oak, MD
48, joined Jun. 2014
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Oh really your married!?!???!!!! Well i was lied to by you now thats f**ked up
I'm curious to know what this lie was. ????
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| 3/19/2015 6:32:54 AM |
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sea_
Kent, WA
62, joined Oct. 2013
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It doesn't matter how long anyone knows each other, I known people who have married after 3 days and still married and then others who have dated, lived together for years got married then divorce after a couple of years, so that part shouldn't even matter..It is called trust, He must of given you a reason to feel this way or you wouldn't be asking..but you had better be right before accusing..To get a man to marry is work in it's self...lol...so he must really love you to make such a big step..So you just may be worrying over nothing...
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| 3/19/2015 6:34:42 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
59, joined Apr. 2011
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Here's a novel idea...I guess a person could ask their So....why they keep their profile on here.
and hope for a reasonable explanation and way of solving this.
but no....that's too easy.
Some people just don't like easy....some are just too stupid to figure out what easy is.
now...someone suggested because of this rushed marriage that the couple should see Dr. Phil.
NO....do not do that...he'll f**k it up worse that is now.. and you'll end up suspecting him even more as much as wondering if he is in the Mafia....to being a serial rapist....to being the incarnation of Sadam Hussain.
Stay away from that kook who makes money off of telling women what they want to hear.
small wonder relations fail so much these days.
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| 3/20/2015 11:08:20 AM |
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mylegsarecold
Green Bay, WI
52, joined May. 2011
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You are making the assumption that he is thinking the same as you are thinking.
You don't trust him because you don't trust yourself not to cheat.
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| 3/20/2015 11:50:40 AM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
46, joined Jan. 2012
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I recently met a man on here and we started dating which led to marriage. I am unable to trust him. I keep feeling like he will cheat. I don't know if it is my insecurity or it is him. All I know is he has not deleted his profile on here which is why I have not deletex mine. He says he has friends he talks to on here. Should I trust him as he says he loves me and does spend alot of time with me.
If you are married then I hope he says he loves you and spends a lot of time with you. sounds like if YOU were serious about the marriage you wouldn't play games with someone you are supposedly married to and you would just delete your profile. If he doesn't delete his and he is still coming on this site then whatever. But feeling the need to play games over it is stupid IMO.
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| 3/20/2015 11:52:14 AM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
46, joined Jan. 2012
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Mind your own business hag
You posted this in a public forum on a free dating site. Are you really that stupid? No wonder this guy is still on this site looking for someone else to get away from you. Wow. You sound like an angry old b8tch. Poor guy jumped too quick.
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| 3/20/2015 2:48:04 PM |
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wildheart722
Sunset, SC
51, joined Feb. 2015
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Him deleting his profile doesn't mean he's true no more than keeping it means he's cheating.
But what you're talking about is something that shoulda been covered LONG before you marry.
You don't marry first THEN try to resolve your trust issues. This is why men hate when yall wanna JUMP into relationships FIRST then learn as you go.
Women hate when men do that too, but I agree with what you're saying.
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