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shardae_shardae
Warrenton, MO
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Do ya'll think there is a boundary when it comes to information as in "where you go? Who you with? When will you be home? Who texted you?
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| 6/29/2015 5:40:55 PM |
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fixingme
New Iberia, LA
60, joined Aug. 2010
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Beware of those who want too much control. They easily become abusive. ouch
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| 6/29/2015 5:44:17 PM |
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jeffb1981
Mendocino, CA
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Depends on the others actions... If your secretive, always out late never answer the phone during certain hrs. You may not be trustworthy... JS
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| 6/29/2015 5:57:11 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
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Beware of those who want too much control. They easily become abusive. ouch
I'm sure you know fron experience. You must have been married.
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| 6/29/2015 6:09:01 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
50, joined Jul. 2013
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Op that means somebody is having trust issues
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| 6/29/2015 6:15:07 PM |
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theloser2123
Manassas, VA
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Can you spell cheatin a** b*tch?
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| 6/29/2015 6:18:09 PM |
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pdforone
Litchfield, OH
64, joined Jul. 2010
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 Just keep the door well oiled? I didn't ask my ex questions, and throwing her out wasn't a problem either when she cheated.
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| 6/29/2015 6:52:52 PM |
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wpbjlp
Wildomar, CA
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Just keep the door well oiled? I didn't ask my ex questions, and throwing her out wasn't a problem either when she cheated.
The dirty wh*re
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| 6/29/2015 7:33:39 PM |
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pickygirl72
Phelan, CA
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There should be trust in a relationship. Privacy is important when your taking a shyt. I always tell my mate where I'll be, where I am going and who I am with. It is also important know who each others friends are. There should be no secrets in a relationship. 
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| 6/29/2015 8:10:19 PM |
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latinasm
Amarillo, TX
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^^^^^. This
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| 6/29/2015 8:12:17 PM |
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dasnixter
Jessieville, AR
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Fine! 
But I'm not revealing my ATM PW. 
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| 6/29/2015 8:36:57 PM |
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truckerdaddy915
El Paso, TX
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I don't report to no b*tch anymore. 
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| 6/29/2015 9:09:14 PM |
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wpbjlp
Wildomar, CA
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Ya truck we all know that
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| 6/29/2015 9:10:30 PM |
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wpbjlp
Wildomar, CA
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What happened to the cute smiling face picky girl?
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| 6/29/2015 9:49:01 PM |
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tjl503
Portland, OR
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I don't deal with women who sound like retards asking me shit like "where you go". Work on your communication skills, boo boo. If your gf/bf is texting you shit like this it's time to set those boundaries. Those are questions of an insecure person with trust issues. You have to tell them to stop asking you shit like that and trust you, if they don't you drop them. I don't need someone in my life trying to play detective and catch me in a lie. I say what I mean, trust me or f**k off.
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| 6/29/2015 10:18:34 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
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Fine!
But I'm not revealing my ATM PW.
U reveal u have one
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| 6/30/2015 1:54:56 AM |
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pickygirl72
Phelan, CA
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Fine!But I'm not revealing my ATM PW.
heck I never did that, never knew my ex's ATM pin either. We even had separate bank accounts.
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| 6/30/2015 2:01:10 AM |
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dasnixter
Jessieville, AR
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"U reveal u have one"
& the PW is a chocolate drink 
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| 6/30/2015 2:09:16 AM |
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dasnixter
Jessieville, AR
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"heck I never did that, never knew my ex's ATM pin either. We even had separate bank accounts"
Same here as I wouldn't share a joint account or 'puter.
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| 6/30/2015 2:57:44 AM |
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fancylizard77
Burlington Flats, NY
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There should be trust in a relationship. Privacy is important when your taking a shyt. I always tell my mate where I'll be, where I am going and who I am with. It is also important know who each others friends are. There should be no secrets in a relationship.
This ^^^^^^
Having separate bank accounts isn't a secret. $$$$ is $$$$
I had her pin she had mine. We just didn't go there.
If you can trust each other with each others money. The relationship is true and golden.
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| 6/30/2015 4:39:23 AM |
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grneyesrme
Sacramento, CA
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If those questions are being asked often it's time to let them go! Can't stand control freaks, jealous people.
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| 6/30/2015 6:03:49 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
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Well op...when I take your other thread into consideration.
I'd say it depends.
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| 6/30/2015 6:51:45 AM |
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twining
Anderson, SC
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According to E L James, this is very romantic. That woman had her behind handed to her on Twitter when she tried to do a Q and A on it. But, people did pay tons of money for the book and to see the movie which was only popular because of word of mouth. It's just sad.
Anyway, yes, that is crossing the line when it comes to privacy. Especially when they start looking at your phone and get the wrong idea. It's super annoying.
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| 6/30/2015 8:27:29 AM |
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pdforone
Litchfield, OH
64, joined Jul. 2010
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The dirty wh*re
The double standard? My yard is 1000 feet deep, she expected me to carry a walkie talkie in the yard so she could stay in contact with me.
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| 6/30/2015 9:05:19 AM |
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carbonblue96
Chicago, IL
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Yes. Any information I give anyone is VOLUNTARY.
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| 6/30/2015 9:07:47 AM |
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lareveur
Sun City, CA
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I can't stand "when will you be home?" As if there should be a deadline at home, too. Save that 'deadline' shit for work.
Also, "what are you doing / thinking?" if it's not obvious by merely looking at what I'm doing, then it's probably not obvious for a reason (privacy). As for my thoughts, those are especially private (thoughts in the mind was built silently for a reason).
Most of the time, I just give those nosy types a really mean spirited look as my answer lol.
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| 6/30/2015 9:09:09 AM |
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lareveur
Sun City, CA
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Yes. Any information I give anyone is VOLUNTARY.
^ Well said.
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| 6/30/2015 9:09:27 AM |
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dasnixter
Jessieville, AR
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Ve 'ave vays
of makin' you tok ...
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| 6/30/2015 9:12:08 AM |
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carbonblue96
Chicago, IL
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Depends on the others actions... If your secretive, always out late never answer the phone during certain hrs. You may not be trustworthy... JS
So if i dont answer my phone during certain hours like when I may be sleeping, that means i cant be trusted?!
Yeah thats logical
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| 6/30/2015 12:47:12 PM |
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truckerdaddy915
El Paso, TX
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Ya truck we all know that
Every so often she tries to get into my business and I have to regulate.
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| 6/30/2015 1:07:29 PM |
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forumlurkingfun
Chicago, IL
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Don't look for things that when you find them,you can't handle it! Everybody is an adult and free to be unmonitored, sharing what they want to share. It is easy to justify violating privacy but don't do anything to anybody that you don't want done to you.
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| 6/30/2015 2:52:40 PM |
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nyythawk
Denver, CO
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Depends on the relationship level.
Husbands and wives have the right of knowing with no limit. Anything less depends on where you are in your relationship. And THAT the individuals will have to gauge. E.g., a live-in has the right to most, but not all (because they're still not a SPOUSE). Whereas a new g/f doesn't have the right to anything... yet.
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| 6/30/2015 5:00:00 PM |
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candy0426
Newtown, PA
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This is a super hard issue for me. My ex was a control freak. I even had an app on my phone so he knew where I was at all times.
Now he has me so conditioned, I tend to over share. I say where I'm going, when my phone beeps who it is, if I get an email who it's from. It sucks, I always feel the need to stop any doubts anyone has.
I never cheated, always had the kids with me except for 2 hours on Tuesday morning. During which I'd get 20 texts and screamed at if I didn't answer within 2 minutes.
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| 6/30/2015 7:27:45 PM |
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carbonblue96
Chicago, IL
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Depends on the relationship level.
Husbands and wives have the right of knowing with no limit. Anything less depends on where you are in your relationship. And THAT the individuals will have to gauge. E.g., a live-in has the right to most, but not all (because they're still not a SPOUSE). Whereas a new g/f doesn't have the right to anything... yet.
That's overbearing bullschtick.... If I think my SO needs to know something, I will tell him. If I don't, I won't. No one has any right to anything that is my own, unless I choose to give it to them. I don't care what kind of relationship it is.
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| 6/30/2015 7:53:58 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
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You bet. If I'm in another relationship it will be platonic and she doesn't have the right to nag me like a wife or my mother.
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| 6/30/2015 7:55:17 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
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Can you spell cheatin a** b*tch?
You can't.
It's "CHEATING a** b*tch"
THERE! Now we have that cleared up!
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| 7/3/2015 6:29:27 PM |
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gamerman17
New York, NY
28, joined Apr. 2010
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Do ya'll think there is a boundary when it comes to information as in "where you go? Who you with? When will you be home? Who texted you?
To an extent, at least for me.
In terms of being concerned for your safety and concern, then it is justified a bit a least. He only has the best interest of heart for you and want to make sure that you are safe.
In terms of being controlling and manipulative, that is where the types of questions you bring up causes for concern because it isn't about your well safety at this point, it's about him letti g his insecurities show by fearing he needs to be in co trol of everythi g in order for the relationship to last. That's tbe sign of lack of trust, which will reveal more to his character than he lets on.
Just my two cents......gamer
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| 7/3/2015 6:49:50 PM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
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Personally i think both should be an open book...that's how trust is created...not keeping secrets from each other and creating mistrust....
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| 7/3/2015 6:56:26 PM |
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love2kiss8
Columbus, OH
24, joined May. 2013
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Yes boundaries exist I don't reply to messages with questions like that. If the guy has respect for me he wouldn't disrespect me with nosy questions. I think trust if in a relationship is good to have. Those questions border on being a bit controlling. I can understand being married and wanting to give out more information but it should be given in free will if wanted not asked.
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| 7/22/2015 7:15:14 AM |
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jjp184
Somerset, NJ
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Who cares, as long as the hole is vacant when I want it
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| 7/22/2015 7:29:26 AM |
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holly_z
San Antonio, TX
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Do ya'll think there is a boundary when it comes to information as in "where you go? Who you with? When will you be home? Who texted you?
While in a relationship? It can depend on what you may be doing. If you are secretive about what you're doing & where you're going, you're doing something you shouldn't be doing.
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| 7/22/2015 7:44:01 AM |
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
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Never give it any thought. Gamer has the right idea. Caring for each other, planning our day, coordinating our schedules..we are a partnership.
There is no demanding or one way reporting. We are both grown, respectful adults.
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| 7/22/2015 9:22:28 AM |
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forumlurkingfun
Chicago, IL
60, joined Mar. 2015
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Personally i think both should be an open book...that's how trust is created...not keeping secrets from each other and creating mistrust....
Respecting boundaries and personal space is not the same as keeping secrets.
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| 7/22/2015 10:01:15 AM |
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unique_woman
Omaha, NE
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Yes
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| 7/23/2015 1:25:59 AM |
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pickygirl72
Phelan, CA
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Yes. You are committed to someone. It is important to understand your life now has some limits and rules of understanding you MUST follow.
If you want to just run around freely than do not be in a relationship.
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| 7/23/2015 2:06:37 AM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
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Welll i know that...it gives the appearance of keeping secrets...there is nothing that i couldnt tell my partner and if there is...gee i probably shouldnt be doing it...this is suppose to be an "us" relationship not a him and i relationship....if i wanted that i would just stay single... I know all about boundaries and respecting them...if we're open books it becomes a non-issue....
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| 7/23/2015 9:07:55 AM |
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forumlurkingfun
Chicago, IL
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I VOLUNTARILY tell my man where I am going, etc. He does the same. No snooping or interrogating required. If he was evasive and avoidant we would not be together. I guess we agree.
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| 7/23/2015 10:13:37 AM |
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daneene
Allen Park, MI
51, joined Jan. 2014
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I have absolutely NOTHING to hide, and he'd better not, either. I'd happily surrender all of that information and more.
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| 7/23/2015 11:57:02 AM |
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mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
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If you have nothing to hide then why do you have clothes on?
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| 7/23/2015 12:17:40 PM |
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nyythawk
Denver, CO
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Sure there can boundaries. But where they are can vary. It's up to the individuals involved to determine just where they are. And they're something that should be understood going forward, should they ever move.
I'll add, spouses have way more rights to way more information than a boy/girlfriend. A spouse has definite rights to where, who and when. That could be vital info.
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| 7/23/2015 8:14:15 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Oct. 2009
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Can you spell cheatin a** b*tch?
Yes!!
CHEATING a** b*tch!
And I spelt it correctly.
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| 7/23/2015 8:20:52 PM |
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oppsii
Saint Matthews, SC
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Do ya'll think there is a boundary when it comes to information as in "where you go? Who you with? When will you be home? Who texted you?
depends. Are you married?
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| 7/23/2015 9:03:20 PM |
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forumlurkingfun
Chicago, IL
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Nobody has rights to anything, married or not. I have been married and it is not about ownership. Couples should be thoughtful and respectful of each other, married or not.
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| 7/23/2015 9:05:18 PM |
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twining
Anderson, SC
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I'll ignore the first two questions, answer the third, and slap the shit put of him with the phone on the forth.
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| 7/23/2015 9:11:22 PM |
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forumlurkingfun
Chicago, IL
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I don't give or take interrogation, don't think I asked my teenager that many questions, daggone it!
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