| 8/4/2015 5:14:50 PM |
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ms_holland
Danville, AL
52, joined Mar. 2014
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when you are in a relationship?
We all know each person has a different personality and quirks. However, list the things that you absolutely must have from that other person when you are in a serious relationship. What are your expectations?
Not list the reverse. What are some things you are willing to overlook when you are in a serious relationship?
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| 8/4/2015 6:02:08 PM |
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
53, joined Apr. 2014
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In no particular order, all of these things are non-negotiable requirements
Self-respect
Respectful of others
Internal strength
Personal dignity
Consistancy
Excellent communication skills
Happy disposition
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| 8/4/2015 6:05:38 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
50, joined Jul. 2013
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Totally respect, sense of humor, don't have to be serious all the time and be truthful, now it depends cause some things just can't be overlooked, if so umma need some answers, last but not least love a good conversation
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| 8/4/2015 6:07:20 PM |
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digital_knight
Grand Rapids, MI
43, joined Nov. 2012
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I expect her to be honest , respectful , laid back (meaning she doesn't get bored just being around me all day).
Things I can overlook if she is slow, clumsy and always talking (not nagging).
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| 8/4/2015 6:12:48 PM |
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inni_dreamz
Pasadena, CA
52, joined Nov. 2012
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I expect honesty, respect and acceptance.
I usually don't sweat the small stuff, so I don't consider it over-looking things.
If you do not like someone for who they are, including their quirks - it's best to keep moving.
The idea that you can change someone is silly. Most of us can change, over time, and if we want to - but it's never a good foundation to start a relationship [friendship or romantic] on... imho.
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| 8/4/2015 6:20:28 PM |
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iheartidiots
Grove City, OH
38, joined Feb. 2012
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Honesty
Sense of humor
Great communication. I need a talker as I am pretty quiet.
Witty
Respect
Kindness
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| 8/4/2015 7:30:39 PM |
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hugsnlaughter
McKeesport, PA
55, joined Jul. 2007
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The first and most important is Honesty.
Humor, got to be able to laugh, not at people but with them.
Hard Working, I am so hopefully you are.
Non Smoking - Sorry health issues, can't tolerate it.
Common Interests, not all but some.
Morals
Sensitivity
Ability to Communicate with me in both good and bad times.
No abusive or addictive personalities
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| 8/4/2015 10:53:03 PM |
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ms_holland
Danville, AL
52, joined Mar. 2014
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If you do not like someone for who they are, including their quirks - it's best to keep moving.
The idea that you can change someone is silly. Most of us can change, over time, and if we want to - but it's never a good foundation to start a relationship [friendship or romantic] on... imho.
 @Inni, the concept that you can change a man is for little girls that do not know better, not for a full grown mature woman.
Most men don't want to be changed, they want you to accept them the way the already are. Women are that way too.
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| 8/4/2015 10:59:05 PM |
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nothingneeded
Johnston, IA
46, joined Sep. 2014
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Honesty
Respect of others and self
Free of any criminal charges.
Disease free.
Self awarness
Loving
Narcissistic free
Dignity
Funny
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| 8/4/2015 11:09:10 PM |
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testsignup
Springfield, VA
62, joined Sep. 2009
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Big area in this question. Everyone's mentioned the most obvious stuff, like honesty and so on.
I guess genuine self-knowledge and self-awareness would be extra important to me. I've had lots of emotional mishaps with people who claimed to be a certain way, think a certain way and feel a certain way, but who were not. They weren't lying per se, just so caught up in saying what they thought they should say, and what they thought they should feel, that they never realized who they really were. I had to find out the hard way, by tripping over their delusions, like broken glass in a dark hallway.
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| 8/5/2015 1:12:40 AM |
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markjetson
Albuquerque, NM
59, joined Jan. 2013
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@Inni, the concept that you can change a man is for little girls that do not know better, not for a full grown mature woman.
Most men don't want to be changed, they want you to accept them the way the already are. Women are that way too.
Now here's a middle aged broad who obviously learned something from all those failed "relationships". I own my own house and vehicles, I have enough money, I'm only in my 50's, my ex's are no longer alive, my kids live in other states, my whole house is a man cave, I do what, when I want, for as long as I want. So a woman better bring something to the table besides a laundry list of "must haves." It's really not that tough, sometimes, just needing/wanting a decent man is enough.
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| 8/5/2015 6:15:45 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
60, joined Apr. 2011
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There are no expectations.
There will be "real" love and the right really important compatibilities and good character....or I move on.
I can accept the little differences and expected just being human as long as we get along well in general...and have what I first listed.
But what I'm seeing and hearing about in too many women 50 and up is.
If everything isn't perfect all the time...many will build a mountain from a molehill till it ruins the relation or they bail.(the dreaded issues)
Life isn't perfect, relations aren't either, there is no perfect person or perfect for us.
Its reality.
But if someone went thru too many marriage and/or relations....and they don't accept their wrong doings in those relation and faults too...or simple were not aware of them because of childhood conditioning.
Well, they end up jaded or with too many issues.
and no relation can survive that...
So that heads the list of huge red flags.
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| 8/5/2015 6:20:31 AM |
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tmarie4420
Cheyenne, WY
24, joined May. 2014
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I expect to still be me and be my own person. Have my own hobbies and things I like to do. With an equal amount of quality time. With my partner and do things together.
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| 8/5/2015 9:25:12 AM |
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ms_holland
Danville, AL
52, joined Mar. 2014
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Now here's a middle aged broad who obviously learned something from all those failed "relationships". I own my own house and vehicles, I have enough money, I'm only in my 50's, my ex's are no longer alive, my kids live in other states, my whole house is a man cave, I do what, when I want, for as long as I want. So a woman better bring something to the table besides a laundry list of "must haves." It's really not that tough, sometimes, just needing/wanting a decent man is enough.
Not always from failed relationships. Alot of it came from watching and seeing what other women were thinking.
Always lived by a motto: If you can't accept the person for who they already are then what makes you think that you love them?
One of requirements I have in looking for someone is that they need me in their life. Not in a clingy way, but in a way that makes them feel good about themselves.
The reverse is also true, if that don't need me, then I don't need them.
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| 8/5/2015 9:40:11 AM |
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cork_
Naples, FL
36, joined Aug. 2014
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a swallower
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| 8/5/2015 12:52:20 PM |
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ninjafacepierat
Metairie, LA
27, joined Apr. 2013
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His peanus in my mouth most of the time.
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| 8/10/2015 6:42:42 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Oct. 2009
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My expectations in a relationship are lower than humanly possible and even those modest expectations go unfulfilled.
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| 8/10/2015 7:03:35 PM |
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amusicluvr
Salem, OR
63, joined Nov. 2013
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I'm a Constructive Pessimist. I expect very little, and all of it bad. If it happens, I am ready for it. If it does not happen, I am pleasantly surprised. My low expectations are easily achieved, and even exceeded, so I am never depressed. I overlook most things...except: stupidity, infidelity, drug abuse, violent aggression, and STDs.
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| 8/10/2015 7:08:08 PM |
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pagal17
Lancaster, PA
50, joined May. 2012
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LOYALTY
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| 8/10/2015 10:47:41 PM |
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rredneck_rebel
Mason, TX
50, joined Jul. 2015
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Sammiches
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| 8/10/2015 11:01:50 PM |
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cubcougar
Lucerne, CA
62, joined Oct. 2010
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Pizza Hot Pockets ...
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| 8/11/2015 2:28:33 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
56, joined Feb. 2010
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I expect the worst from people in general, that way I am never disappointed when they are not civil.
If something good does happen, then I am surprised .
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| 8/11/2015 7:30:25 AM |
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pudiitatt
Barstow, CA
49, joined Aug. 2014
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honesty.
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| 8/11/2015 7:33:09 AM |
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idliketotalk
Punxsutawney, PA
53, joined Oct. 2013
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I expect nothing and can overlook a lot.
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| 8/11/2015 8:26:53 AM |
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
53, joined Jan. 2014
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I expect her to be honest , respectful , laid back (meaning she doesn't get bored just being around me all day).
Things I can overlook if she is slow, clumsy and always talking (not nagging).
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| 8/11/2015 8:45:57 AM |
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daneene
Allen Park, MI
51, joined Jan. 2014
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HONESTY!!
Integrity (be who you are, say what you mean, walk it the way you talk it)
Positive minded
Attentive
Physically demonstrative.
What I would overlook:
past addictions
marijuana use
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| 8/11/2015 9:20:46 AM |
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dixie_dancer
Kansas City, KS
27, joined Feb. 2013
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He must bring me Allsups burritos
He must put on clean underwear
He must not use up all the allergy medicine and not restock the cabinet
He must put a new toilet paper roll out when he uses one up
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| 8/11/2015 1:44:10 PM |
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masterofbacon2
Kirkjubæjarklaustur
Iceland
90, joined May. 2014
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In no particular order
Loyalty
Fidelity
Commitment
Honesty
Intelligence
Whit
Patience
Sweet disposition
Inner strength
Supportive/Encouraging
Loving
Affectionate
Ability to compromise
Doesn't take herself too seriously/Can laugh at herself
Reasonably fit
Attractive
Short
Sexually skilled
Open minded
Willing to try new things
Light to moderate drinker
420 ok
An appreciation for fine art
Diverse taste in music
I don't expect anything that I'm not willing to bring to the table myself. I'm not perfect and I don't expect it in my partner. I can overlook certain shortcomings as we are all growing on our journey thru life.
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| 8/11/2015 1:48:35 PM |
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mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
53, joined May. 2011
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His peanus in my mouth most of the time.
What if he as cashews?
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| 8/11/2015 3:23:18 PM |
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grneyesrme
Sacramento, CA
47, joined Aug. 2013
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Respect
Honesty
Humor
Affection
Responsible
I can over look different things we are or aren't interested in. Music, food, movies, sports etc...
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| 8/11/2015 4:58:52 PM |
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bouze
Durand, MI
54, joined Jul. 2010
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". TRUST..."
# 1 GOLDEN RULE : TRUST.
We can work through anything !
If I can TOTALLY TRUST YOU.
Anything else , can take second spot.
Except " SEX " gotta like SEX !
Anyplace anytime...
# 2. GOLDEN RULE
" DON'T BE A B*TCH."
CAN't / WON'T HAVE A LADY THAT'S A B*TCH..
Other than that we should have a pretty " GREAT SITUATION.."
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| 8/11/2015 7:06:05 PM |
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ms_holland
Danville, AL
52, joined Mar. 2014
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Nicely said.
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| 8/11/2015 11:36:36 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Oct. 2009
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I expect it's time for bed. Nite all!
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| 8/13/2015 9:37:08 PM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
60, joined Apr. 2011
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Well....what I would like.
and what I expect based on some experiences....are two different things.
So I found its better to expect nothing and just see what happens.
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| 8/14/2015 10:56:05 AM |
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pudiitatt
Barstow, CA
49, joined Aug. 2014
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a bling collar.
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| 8/14/2015 11:37:15 AM |
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wutevaaaa
Mocksville, NC
41, joined Sep. 2011
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Trust me.
Not only as far as fidelity (I know what it feels like to be cheated on and I won't even entertain the thought of doing that to someone else), but also my judgement, if I am insistent on something, it's because I have been there, done that, and know the possible outcomes.
I understand trust takes time to develop, I also understand it can be lost instantly.
Grace.
No matter what happens, good or bad, live with grace.
We aren't entitled to anything in this life, so when something good happens, accept it graciously and if something bad happens, understand that how we handle those situations can make it easier or harder to deal with.
People who complain incessantly annoy me to no end.
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| 8/16/2015 1:34:27 PM |
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legaleye
Columbus, OH
63, joined Mar. 2008
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Quote from markjetson:
I own my own house and vehicles, I have enough money, I'm only in my 50's, my ex's are no longer alive, my kids live in other states, my whole house is a man cave, I do what, when I want, for as long as I want. So a woman better bring something to the table besides a laundry list of "must haves." It's really not that tough, sometimes, just needing/wanting a decent man is enough.
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A decade or so ago I would have dismissed this comment. Not so much anymore. I have dated enough over the years and more importantly, been in enough relationships to understand what he is saying. I have come to understand myself and my needs and wants, and just as importantly, what I bring to a relationship and what I have to give, emotionally, etc. Unlike men who are more like "predators" wanting sex or money, I want that person who is right for me, but she has to bring something to the relationship as well. I have met way too many "takers" and way too few "givers." There is a balance out there, but it is hard to find.
So what is it all about? I dont date men, but a lot of the women I have met are just interested in their list and nothing more. They fail to understand what a relationship is all about. Very sad.
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| 8/16/2015 4:21:15 PM |
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barrydalmi
Baltimore, MD
52, joined Dec. 2007
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In no particular order, all of these things are non-negotiable requirements
Self-respect
Respectful of others
Internal strength
Personal dignity
Consistancy
Excellent communication skills
Happy disposition
Concur...
I'm not dumb. 
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| 8/16/2015 4:24:20 PM |
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
53, joined Apr. 2014
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Concur...
I'm not dumb.
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| 8/16/2015 8:36:33 PM |
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honest_noreally
Las Animas, CO
54, joined Mar. 2013
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Honesty & trust.
If you do not have honesty & trust in a relationship then, [in my opinion] you are with the wrong person.
*Why would you want to be with someone you could not trust in the first place? 
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| 8/18/2015 7:21:29 PM |
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browneyz
San Diego, CA
96, joined Jan. 2008
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Mental health
work ethic
sense of humor
joy
gentle spirit
ability to love, laugh
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| 8/19/2015 11:47:34 AM |
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evajoy
Reston, VA
59, joined May. 2012
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i expect to be the one and only
i expect to please my man in everyway
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| 8/19/2015 10:23:54 PM |
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ms_holland
Danville, AL
52, joined Mar. 2014
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i expect to be the one and only
i expect to please my man in everyway
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| 8/19/2015 10:54:19 PM |
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lareveur
Sun City, CA
31, joined May. 2013
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Self respect, honesty, loyalty, etc... are all stating the obvious. Here are more specific things I need from a relationship:
(1. Intelligence (I love good debates)
(2. Exciting to be with (I get bored easily)
(3. Creative
(4. Loves animals
(5. Reckless - I need a little adventure
(6. Romantic (as chivalry seems dead  )
(7. Old fashioned but open minded.
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| 8/19/2015 11:01:32 PM |
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liteguy
Scranton, PA
58, joined Dec. 2007
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Self respect, honesty, loyalty, etc... are all stating the obvious. Here are more specific things I need from a relationship:
(1. Intelligence (I love good debates)
(2. Exciting to be with (I get bored easily)
(3. Creative
(4. Loves animals
(5. Reckless - I need a little adventure
(6. Romantic (as chivalry seems dead )
(7. Old fashioned but open minded.
 
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| 8/20/2015 3:33:18 AM |
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lareveur
Sun City, CA
31, joined May. 2013
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In no particular order
Loyalty
Fidelity
Commitment
Honesty
Intelligence
Whit
Patience
Sweet disposition
Inner strength
Supportive/Encouraging
Loving
Affectionate
Ability to compromise
Doesn't take herself too seriously/Can laugh at herself
Reasonably fit
Attractive
Short
Sexually skilled
Open minded
Willing to try new things
Light to moderate drinker
420 ok
An appreciation for fine art
Diverse taste in music
I don't expect anything that I'm not willing to bring to the table myself. I'm not perfect and I don't expect it in my partner. I can overlook certain shortcomings as we are all growing on our journey thru life.
^ That's called a resume, or a Job advertisement for Hooters lol
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| 8/22/2015 4:33:20 PM |
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pudiitatt
Barstow, CA
49, joined Aug. 2014
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a human who picks up after themselves. 
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| 8/23/2015 9:27:07 AM |
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pdforone
Litchfield, OH
64, joined Jul. 2010
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No hassles! If you need a definition of a hassle? I don't need you around!
The spare key to my home back when I toss you out!
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| 8/23/2015 3:19:46 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
50, joined Jul. 2013
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