10/11/2008 7:52:20 PM |
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blueshand
Syracuse, NY
age: 57
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Sometimes i think about how the Canadian Government use to deal with this issue(ended in the '60's, if i remeber correctly). If a man beat his wife or children, a team would come to your house, strap him across the table and take a "Cat and 9 tails" to him. It was later abolished because it was considered abusive punishment. However, i wonder what types of deterents work on an abuser? Obviously he won't go to counciling before the problem becomes worse. The laws only allow for DSS investigations which, take time and a few visits to the home. To me , that is too late, as the damage is done. So, what we are left with is one's own responsibility to get out of that house immediately; and get help from every, agency, legal council through DSS, and especially counciling.
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10/11/2008 7:57:43 PM |
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blueshand
Syracuse, NY
age: 57
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*****Update*****
This is an addendum to this tread. Anyone harassing anyone on this thread WILL be blocked immediately and reported. This is a serious topic and any disruption will not be tolerated...period!
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10/11/2008 8:02:20 PM |
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kitise
Greenwood, SC
age: 30
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*****Update*****
This is an addendum to this tread. Anyone harassing anyone on this thread WILL be blocked immediately and reported. This is a serious topic and any disruption will not be tolerated...period!
is that a threat?? block me
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10/11/2008 8:13:47 PM |
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zumba4me
Midlothian, VA
age: 47
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i used gun powder and lead. he hever bothered me anymore. oh ya , ought to mention ,i missed, he lives.. hate it when my scope is off.
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10/11/2008 9:04:32 PM |
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blueshand
Syracuse, NY
age: 57
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is that a threat?? block me
I trust you kitise...
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10/13/2008 3:31:42 PM |
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rocker_chic
Syracuse, NY
age: 38
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I have had my share of abusive relationships and I will not forget what has happened to me from my past relationships and even child hood. But I also have learned not to drag those in my new relationship. I was abused as a child and when I grew up and got married he abused me also. So I kind of have my guard up and am very cautious now a days. I have to be for my sake. Cause you just never know who your going to meet on the internet. He could be a serial killer for all I know. My past relationships just make me a better and wiser person today and try to watch out for those signs and red flags. These men forget I am not no child I am a grown woman who has a pretty good head on her shoulders. I learn to let my past go but just learn from it and not bring it into the new relationship.
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10/13/2008 4:09:29 PM |
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lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 51
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we all have known some form of abuse emtional physical etc..Our abusive past has made us what and who we are today it is there in our thought patterns our fears our needs etc our desires our wants our cravings...We most of us through our experience know what we do not want and we seek that which we do want in our lives....It is possible to heal forgive and move on but I doubt that many of us can ever truly forget...I do not bring past issues into my present day life but the ghosts are in the shadows and if something occurs in the present that invokes a memory I am honest enough to say old fears return to haunt me.. And no I do not ever compare there is no comparison with each new person you meet you must accept them for who they are unless they show you otherwise...
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10/13/2008 5:18:26 PM |
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sweetbtsassy
Painesville, OH
age: 43
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From my experiences and I had all forms of beatings to name calling and so on. It takes time to heal! for me it was years and every know and then It still sends shivers up the back on my neck on certain days of the year. You dont forget you have to choose to move on. I have learned the signs and will never let a man do what my ex did to me and yes i have 2 kids thankfully thy never say anything or understood because thy were little. I pray and thank God every day Im still alive and have my kids, It does get better. We woman as well as men should never hit the ones we love or the ones we say we loved! To any woman or man in an Abusive Relationship Get Out KNow! Stay safe.My heart goes out to anyone who has lost a loved one because of Domestic Relationships!
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