| 11/24/2007 9:03:05 AM |
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sandbagger2u
Cochecton, NY
age: 61
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Bad things happen to good people. No sense crying about it. File an insurance claim if your covered, reevaluate the security there, get your daughter in a help group and move on with your life.
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| 11/24/2007 3:33:49 PM |
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nsew
Houston, TX
age: 36
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Confidence is very significant in life. The way you carry yourself - tells alot of who you are. I would suggest to stay positive and learn how to "let it go." Nothing is perfect and in my opinion that word shouldn't even exist. I hope you can pick your head up, live your life to the fullest and be thankful for all you got. Do you know how many millions of people wish they had just a percentage of what you do?
Please don't take that the wrong way...
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| 11/24/2007 4:04:38 PM |
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kilowatt047
Oklahoma City, OK
age: 31
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I think the "lesson" the girl learned was not to give your mother a key to your house.She was doing her part,you unlocked the door.The world is not to blame.YOU ARE.
[Edited 11/24/2007 4:05:31 PM]
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| 11/24/2007 4:10:59 PM |
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neverlie
Saint Joe, AR
age: 51 online now!
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Romie,
As to assigning blame, there are 3 people whose opinions matter about this: You, your daughter, and your maker.
As for what your proper course should be - that may depend on the opinion of either of the three.
If your master doesn't have direction in his scripture for you, the next most important person on the above list may be your daughter; then you would drag up the rear. It doesn't sound like an insurmountable task to pay all that stuff off if her opinion happens to be that it was your fault and if she doesn't and you disagree and do think it was your fault, since you, as the elder of the two, would normally be the wiser also, my advice would be to ignore her opinion.
Above all remember that she is watching you and may be influenced in a big way by how you react to this situation. Good side of it would be - it's an excellent opportunity to give her a valuable lesson in how to react to adversity.
Keep that head up.
An executive chef told me a good one. "When you get a work order in and you read it and think, 'it seems like a lot of work'; What do you do? You go to the cabinet and pull out the pan, and go to the fridge and get the eggs ..."
iaua bless.
many of us have been where you're at. Be comforted. You're not alone. Contact me in i can be of any more help.
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| 11/24/2007 6:17:30 PM |
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sweetromie
Sunderland, MA
age: 46
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I everyone, Just wanted to update everyone that my daughter is doing fine, we added a dead bolt to both her doors and we also talked to her landlord about adding more lighting outside, all 4 people that were involved on the theft were caught and are sitting in jail waiting for court on Monday, justice will be served, I noticed some one (KILOWATT)says I am to blame, the only people that are to blame are the theives themselves, kilowatt you are grossly wrong in your opinion of me, shame on you  I won't tell you what a jerk I think you are for what you said, youre the one that has to look in the mirror everyday. To Everyone else my family thanks you for your kind words and your very helpful advice. And for anyone that has gone through such an invasion our hearts go out to you.
Romie and Samantha
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| 11/24/2007 6:37:35 PM |
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bubbadt
Kennedy, NY
age: 65
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Romie, dont listen to that b*tch that blamed you.
It looks like one of the "bubbas" in jail took
that pix thru the inspection hole. He probably
has a sore butt. Me thinks, JMHO.
Probably been charged with Breaking and entering
and doing time for it.
Maybe he has been before the Judge so often,
hes trying to judge you.
Keep your chin up Little Lady.
Take care
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| 11/24/2007 11:56:02 PM |
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ylekiot
Carson City, NV
age: 51 online now!
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WTF? Who's this killowatt   asshole?
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| 11/25/2007 12:11:03 AM |
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pallyboy
Ramona, CA
age: 47
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Romie what a miserable Thanksgiving for you. And it is so low for the one to be responsible being a family member. I hope you make sure he pays restitution. There was no way for you to realize your nephew was a criminal or that something like that would happen. I'm glad to hear you got those new locks.
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| 11/25/2007 12:20:58 AM |
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superheroscoo
Garden City, KS
age: 24
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I am so sorry this happened Romie! You and your daughter did not deserve that. Don't put it completely on you. This is not your fault, it's the asshole who broke in. It's not your fault that people suck. I hope you have insurance coverage, but if you don't, at least you can work to get all the stuff back--even if you have to buy it again.
Cameras and video game systems can be replaced. Your daughter and yourself cannot. I am thankful that both of you are okay and I will pray for ya.
Peace
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| 11/25/2007 9:00:19 AM |
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historybuff
Waterville, ME
age: 42
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We all make mistakes, i know i am the king of mistakes. Instead of looking at what was taken, maybe you should look at the fact that she wasnt home when this person broke in. If she had been, it may have been worse. Things can be replaced, people cant. My suggestion is to just be there for her when she needs you. Make sure she knows how much you love her. I am sure she knows you didnt intentionally leave the door unlocked. Be there for her, help her through this difficult time.
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| 11/25/2007 10:19:37 AM |
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barbaque
Marble Falls, TX
age: 58
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Here is some unsolicited advice 1.change the locks (rekey)!!possibly he could have found a spare key .have the locksmith check the function of the lock .if thier is no deadbolt install one.if there was no deadbolt you may have locked the door.stop blaming yourself,a lock only keeps honest people honest.Next check nearby pawn shops for the stolen items.also 2nd hand stores.these creeps don't steal to keep and wear they sell and buy more dope.GOOD LUCK Phil (locksmith)
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| 11/25/2007 1:38:17 PM |
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tittlemouse
Lilburn, GA
age: 51
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Sorry Romie about your most unhappy Thanksgiving. I just saw the posts. I see some say just forgive and forget; but the best way to teach these kids something is to show them that there are consequences for their actions and hold them accountable. They are likely to be in more trouble later if they think they can get away with everything. The reaction of your sister is mind-boggeling. Maybe that says something about the kid's actions. I hope you and your daughter are doing well now and I hope you see that there is some good in the world as well. My heart goes out to you and your daughter. You are a good mother. 
Tom
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| 11/25/2007 1:59:50 PM |
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pirate72
Clinton, IN
age: 35
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Romie...I'll share with you a quote. I don't remember who said it, but it should make you feel better.
"Locks only keep honest people out."
Sorry that this happened on what was supposed to be a happy day of celebration, but don't blame yourself, and be thankful that a) both you and your daughter are safe, and b)that the thugs are going to be brought to justice. Who knows? You may even be able to get all of your daughter's stuff back if the police moved on these guys quickly enough.
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| 11/25/2007 2:08:06 PM |
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yankeeluvspeach
Athens, GA
age: 28 online now!
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I'm still waiting to hear what happened with the pie!!
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| 11/25/2007 2:15:00 PM |
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bamabob
Cullman, AL
age: 55
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Have not taken time to read the whole thread but got the gist of it. Lots of things I would do and who I'd look for if I was investigating...but that's not the point here. You're only responsible for not locking the door. It's the thief(s) that are responsible for their own actions....so, don't blame yourself for other's actions. Lots of burglars just wait for people to leave so they can take what others have. I've had it done to me more than once. Regaining faith and assurance is not easy. Look for but do not expect instant answers or instant healing from the injuries to emotions.
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