| 1/24/2008 5:54:03 PM |
What KIND of MAN asks the EX for spousal support?!?! |
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houstonmale43
Houston, TX
age: 47
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do you know why divorces are so expensive???...because they are worth it!!!...
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| 1/24/2008 5:59:58 PM |
What KIND of MAN asks the EX for spousal support?!?! |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 47
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I've never ask any of my Xs for spousal support. I am not lazy enough to have a man support me. Now child support is a different thing.
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| 1/24/2008 6:04:40 PM |
What KIND of MAN asks the EX for spousal support?!?! |
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heraldsunshine
Huntersville, NC
age: 47
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Several of my girlfriends have been sued for spousal support. Ones husband went on an early mid-life crisis -- he quit his nice job with benefits and a government pension and went to work part-time as a DJ. They had the bills split so he paid the house payment and she paid everything else and bought the groceries. He stopped making the house payment and did not tell her until the house was in forclosure! She took the debt from her college when they split - she has it almost paid off now (she's been divorced six years) and had custody of the kids but because he only wanted to work part-time he sued her for spousal support! There are a lot of men who will use women for what they can provide financially -- I had one for a little while but was smart enough not to marry him back in '97. Eventually you figure out what they are after.
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| 1/24/2008 6:40:12 PM |
What KIND of MAN asks the EX for spousal support?!?! |
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luvinlifetothem
Biddeford, ME
age: 41
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""""He worked 40 hours a week while you had a part time job and went to school? How do you figure that you paid your own way? You paid for school. But who put food on the table and a roof over your head while you went to school? Most guys wouldn't ask for alimony. But I can understand why some do. Sounds to me..without knowing more..that without being married to him at the time you wouldn't have been able to go to school. Unless of course you never got married or had kids.
Women wanted to be treated equaly. This is just the price that you have to pay. I should have asked for spousal support. I am still paying for the exs screw ups. But you know.....you can't put a price on happiness. So to get rid of her I agreed to pay for everything. Money is easy and cheap. Your sanity is priceless.
I don't see anything wrong when a guy asks for spousal support. In certain cases. This isn't the 1900s anymore."""""
BASSMAN...YOU need to think a little before you answer. OBVIOUSLY..you have never been to nursing school. Its brutal, its a 24/7 job. But I did it. ON top of working every goddamn vacation, every time I had an hour or two between classes, and on top of the 36 to 40 hours of studying and reading and paperwork needed. Who put food on the table and roof over our head while I went to school? WE both did. Or maybe I didnt write the part where his paycheck was NOT enough to cover the mortgage..but he was okay with that. No motivation or ambition. And, a little FYI..if I hadnt been married to him at the time, I would have been able to receive help from the STATE to graduate, and it would have been more than he brought to the table. You are damn right its not the 1900's anymore. Now we women actually get credit for the ass busting we do. Treated Equally my ASS. He did his cushy ass job and came home and threw his feet up and said..oh..soooo tired.. Now, oh baby, why dont I just go fix you a turkey pot pie? Yeah..so after all my ass busting, he wants a piece of my pie, and you think thats okay? I worked 24/7, sweetheart..between my kids, my studies, and my part-time job you just belittled.
Thanks. Nice to know we still have cavemen around. 
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| 1/24/2008 6:44:37 PM |
What KIND of MAN asks the EX for spousal support?!?! |
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thegooddude24
Joliet, IL
age: 25
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"luvin" Some people don't understand the hard work of having an education, because they don't have one.  Don't waist your time on guys like bass. Just move forward and do what you need to for you and your kids.
[Edited 1/24/2008 6:45:33 PM]
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| 1/24/2008 6:45:11 PM |
What KIND of MAN asks the EX for spousal support?!?! |
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kfab1023
Jacksonville, FL
age: 51
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Luvin I agree with you and I applaud you for doing what you did. And even if you only had gone to school so what having and rasing kids and cleaning and cooking is hard work even if you aren't going to school but adding school and a job on top of that is even harder you go girl
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| 1/24/2008 6:48:09 PM |
What KIND of MAN asks the EX for spousal support?!?! |
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arreis
Cottonwood, AZ
age: 46
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Damn, Bass. You can be a hard azz sometimes.
luvin. I dont have your answer. I walked away with nothing but my life. And that I am greatful for. I figure what ever material thing he had stold from me, i could regain again. Except my life. Yes, I married a very bad man. But in the end, he will pay his dues.
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| 1/24/2008 6:51:01 PM |
What KIND of MAN asks the EX for spousal support?!?! |
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thegooddude24
Joliet, IL
age: 25
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Good answer arreis. I believe in karma.
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| 1/24/2008 6:51:53 PM |
What KIND of MAN asks the EX for spousal support?!?! |
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rockstar_xo
Biddeford, ME
age: 18
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Hes a retard that doesnt deserve anything..the ex husband I mean.
He should still be in jail
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| 1/24/2008 7:02:09 PM |
What KIND of MAN asks the EX for spousal support?!?! |
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luvinlifetothem
Biddeford, ME
age: 41
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Arreis hon..the sad thing is...he wasnt a bad man. We had 13 years of marriage..and it was the last four that sucked...he had a serious back injury, got hooked on his pain meds...and completely changed. Now, for myself? I could give a flying crap anymore after all he put me through. But for his sons? Thats a different story. PLUS...Im not asking him for spousal support...just to contribute to his children..at at level he can afford. But no, he worked TEN WHOLE YEARS...so now its my turn to support him? DUH..welcome to the real world..I have been working since I was 17! And I have always supported myself. So basically, I think its pretty sad when the men defend a man who has done nothing to deserve or support the children he has...has ignored them, never mind the physical and mental abuse. Put a roof over my head? HAH! We were a team, and a damn good one for a long time. Sadly, that is over.
PS.
Thanks RockStar. You are right on that one.
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| 1/24/2008 7:03:56 PM |
What KIND of MAN asks the EX for spousal support?!?! |
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collide64
Janesville, WI
age: 43
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Alimony? no you don't owe him alimony. Child support? not sure, not enough facts. I don't really want to talk child support as here in Wisconsin, only 5% of the women pay child support. The man is almost always expected to pay. It's a no-fault state.
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| 1/24/2008 7:05:23 PM |
What KIND of MAN asks the EX for spousal support?!?! |
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luvinlifetothem
Biddeford, ME
age: 41
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Thanks Kfab...I hate it when the guys dont give credit to how hard being a mommy is...I have eight patients at a time with huge amounts of problems and run my butt off from the minute I get to work till I get out...and its still easier some days then being MOM!
and nursing school? Try boot camp. YOU have to know everything the doctors know and then some....cuz we gotta keep them from making mistakes, you know....
Its our responsibility to keep the patients safe.
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| 1/24/2008 7:07:06 PM |
What KIND of MAN asks the EX for spousal support?!?! |
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ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41
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What KIND of MAN asks the EX for spousal support?!
A man with a blood sucking lawyer. Now you're going to have to get legal representation. This is what you're probably going to be doing for awhile 
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| 1/24/2008 7:08:10 PM |
What KIND of MAN asks the EX for spousal support?!?! |
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thegooddude24
Joliet, IL
age: 25
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......
[Edited 1/24/2008 7:12:43 PM]
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| 1/24/2008 7:08:12 PM |
What KIND of MAN asks the EX for spousal support?!?! |
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arreis
Cottonwood, AZ
age: 46
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luvin.....i sure would'nt want to be in your position. I had no children, with him. So, how about giving back what he is giving you. A fight, that is. Make the same requests.
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