| 1/24/2008 7:14:32 PM |
What KIND of MAN asks the EX for spousal support?!?! |
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thegooddude24
Joliet, IL
age: 25 online now!
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I had to repost here because I made no sense at all... ha!
All I was saying that if there was any hope at all in a relationship, divorce will most of the time destroy it...
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| 1/24/2008 7:17:33 PM |
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aniceguy4you2lv
Visalia, CA
age: 43
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Most states start with a 50/50 split before they start adding and subtracting all of the things that help the make the final decision. He may be entitled to half of everything but don't forget that includes half of the bills too! Remind him of that 
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| 1/24/2008 7:18:56 PM |
What KIND of MAN asks the EX for spousal support?!?! |
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thegooddude24
Joliet, IL
age: 25 online now!
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50/50 ................. HAHAH
They try.. That isn't how it works though..Again the laws protect women and children.. Even divorce laws. UPDATE.. The laws make it look like it's 50/50 and they try to be fair. BUT..... Women come first as they should, and the laws state that in a form most don't see.. I shouldn't say state that. I should say the way it's usally enforced . LOL
[Edited 1/24/2008 7:26:09 PM]
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| 1/24/2008 7:20:05 PM |
What KIND of MAN asks the EX for spousal support?!?! |
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arreis
Cottonwood, AZ
age: 46
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 dude24.....your right. Isnt that why we are here. To hopefully, find "The One". That will not end.......
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| 1/24/2008 7:20:58 PM |
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anniebrown57
Warrington, PA
age: 50
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My EX. Also filed for a protection from abuse and dropped the papers in my window the night before court. Got home midnight and had to be in court 10am the next day.
All for him to wait for it to go to judge then give her a note dismissing the complaint 3hrs later. Also icepicked 3 of 4 tires the day of spousal suport hearing
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| 1/24/2008 7:21:12 PM |
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luvinlifetothem
Biddeford, ME
age: 41
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Oh, he made sure of that...he took out a credit card and hid it from me, Home Depot, baby...bought all the things he wanted to to make a shed for his new 4-wheeler..and when I went to refinance our house...wow...found out my credit score of 768 had dropped by more than 150 points. Why? because of 3 missed 30 DOLLAR PAYMENTS?!?!?
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| 1/24/2008 7:23:19 PM |
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luvinlifetothem
Biddeford, ME
age: 41
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Yeah, see, Annie, I guess I shouldnt be b*tching. He didnt go that far...he was messed in the head but not that messed..just because he ruined our future and his kids future...
compared to some of the other stories I have heard I suppose I should be grateful.
But back on topic....where is your male ego, asking your wife to pay you support, when you could damn well be making wwwaayy more $$ than you are now?
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| 1/24/2008 7:30:31 PM |
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anniebrown57
Warrington, PA
age: 50
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thats not even the half of it and by no means is it done yet. I just keep telling my self how bad i miss him but my aim is getting better.  No In His Lifetime it will happen
I'll get my day in court when he wants me to sign the papers.
See he'll want that fast because he has to help with unreimbursed medical.
He gave a child up just so not to have to pay support.
I'll get new tires before I sign the papers
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| 1/24/2008 7:55:33 PM |
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aniceguy4you2lv
Visalia, CA
age: 43
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WOW I guess that I got a great divorce! I got everthing including the kids, all I had to do was give her lawer a copy of the video that she forgot to take with her, the one of her and her exploits with the boys (and one girl) from the nieborhood, all of them were underage. I just told her that either I got what I wanted or the cops got a copy too! She signed the papers that day! The day after it was final the cops got a copy of the tape, I don't know who gave it to them....  I haven't seen or heard from her in ten years.
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| 1/24/2008 8:04:27 PM |
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bassman1959
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 49
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Yeah,
I can be a hard ass at times. But I bet neither one of you have done what I have done either I started out with 10,000.00 and now I own equipment that cost more than the house most of you own.
However, if you paid attention to what I wrote I never said I agreed that your husband should get spousal support.
I said I can see why some do get it.
Ps, I am related to 3 nurses and dated 2. So I am well aware of the work.
[Edited 1/24/2008 8:05:01 PM]
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| 1/24/2008 8:15:54 PM |
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landing007
Palmyra, NY
age: 55
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Divorce is a very messy thing. There are no winners and the only losers end up being the kids. You can ask for anything you want in a divorce - it doesn't mean your going to get it. The courts don't really care who is screwing who, nor do they care who did what for whom. I'm sure you can get some of the financial expenses removed from your responsibility but that is a tough one.
It really comes down to the skill of your lawyer. Whether you like it or not - your going to be suck with this guy for the next 20 years with the kids and such. Even in today's world - the women still has the protection of the courts and can make life real tough on the guy. You can make that clear to your X that you can make his life a living hell - that might convince him to play more fair.
good luck to ya;
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| 1/24/2008 8:20:27 PM |
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dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 44
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UUUMMMM! Definitely not a real man. More like a douche bag. A vindictive lowlife.
Sorry you were married to one.
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| 1/24/2008 9:09:06 PM |
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michaelcee
Sarasota, FL
age: 51
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shouldn't chime in on this but I guess I will.....
First wife.... we kindah "did it" together
At first I was an electrician but decided to go back to my passion of playing music.
She helped me purchase the necessary gear to be competative (gear) but after that I WAS competative and the monetary rewards started flowing in.
Enough rewards to put her thru law school (full time student)
Yeah yeah yeah.... she took care of our daughter while I was touring.
HEY!..... I paid for the babysitter while she was in school.
(and I WONT mention the couple times I was off for a few days and flew home just to watch Fraggle Rock with my daughter..... glad I didn't mention that.... LOL)
She wound up getting her law degree...... AND screwing around with our neighbor's brother.
I dropped her like a bad habit.
I was stuck paying child support for years.... for a kid I couldn't see
(paid 3 years of support AFTER she and her new hubby had *adopted* my daughter... w/o my knowledge)
Alimony??? yeah.... no?
I dunno...
I believe the first wife owes me *something*
Not sure what it is.
Not even sure if it's a monetary thing....
Maybe take back all the negative things she's said about me so I can have (or restart) a decent relationship with MY daughter???
Fast forward many years.....
Newly remarried.... she was THE one.
Looks, charming, smart..... made quite a bit of money to boot.
I worked.... she worked.... life am grand?
She made quite a bit more money than I did at the time.
She had her "blonde" moments when it came to paying bills tho....
HER house.... but she was consistantly late making payments (add $400 a month late fees) so I cashed in my 401K and just paid the damn house off.
That settles that.... or so it seems.
She still made a LOT more money than I did.... In her opinion my job was menial (salary) so I should be able to take off from work to pick up our (her) kids from school and/or deliver the kids to the social/atheletic function of the day.
On top of all that..... I don't think it would be a stretch to ask who do you think did all the cooking, grocery shopping and cleaning around the place.
I was OK with all that when it was appreciated..... but when it became expected I balked.
Enter Budweiser.... stage left.
She found "beer".
She lost her security clearance AND her job in one fail swoop.... yet expected the same stuff from me.
Never for financial reasons.... but I ultimately left her.
She had the audacity to sue ME for alimony... of course her parents funded her suite
Took me close to a year to recover from all that nonsense.... but recover I have...almost
Part of me wants to rake her over the coals once (IF) she ever goes back to work... but the other part of me is comfortable with the knowledge that HER son stays in contact with me on, at least, a weekly basis.
If there ever was a case for the male suing for alimony, I think I have one.
But WHY??
Success is the best revenge.
Michael
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| 1/25/2008 8:22:48 AM |
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luvinlifetothem
Biddeford, ME
age: 41
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Mike,
Those are the best words I could have heard.
Success is the best revenge. And I have done it. I have my RN degree, and can pretty much work anywhere, anytime. So, basically, I will write a letter to the court pointing out the basics, We both worked to put me through school, while I handled all the child care, housing stuff..and did all the bills. So I dont think I owe him anything. and I think he should step up, be a man and take some resposibilitiy for his children, doncha think? Especially after the domestic violence and mental abuse.
sorry about your bad luck. Sheesh, so many nightmare stories....
You would think some of us would get lucky and find a nice, normal human within 100 miles of us...LOL....
Thanks...
Luvin
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| 1/25/2008 8:27:37 AM |
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luvinlifetothem
Biddeford, ME
age: 41
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Bassman, if you are aware of how hard it is to get through nursing school, then how can you say that me going to school, and working, (every day off from school, every single vacation day, and full time summer breaks, plus between classes)...PLUS the fact that he worked the 2pm to 9pm shift and I took care of the house and the kids...
Well, it was brutal, and some days I didnt know how I was going to get through...14 chapters to read, demands of two little boys who need time and attention from mommy, bills to pay, plus all the fun stuff like laundry. I guess it just felt like you were diminishing what I went through. I NEVER got a vacation or a day off..for four years!
He got his 3 paid vacations a year, and would go hunting for a week, or fishing, or just stay at home and hang around the house...sigh. It was tough not to resent that..
and now to have him feel like I OWE HIM?
thats the trouble Im having here.
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