I think most guys want a little bit of both: for a girl to bat her eyelashes at him AND for her to show obvious interest in him. I know what you mean, because in the past when I showed this one guy that I was interested in him and started a convo with him, he played it off like it was a slutty thing for me to do and that I was only coming on to him to "get laid". As soon as I got that vibe from him and read between the lines from the crap he was saying to me, I immediately stopped talking to him and turned my attention to other people. Then he was like, "wtf" and then said I was stuck-up because I stopped talking to him! Sometimes a girl can't win. She's damned if she does and damned if she doesn't ~

So, I was chatting in email with a fellow dh'er. Who stated a comment that said "men don't want to be propositioned, they want to be seduced".


I don't disupute that, and I know it don't apply to the hit it and quit it guys, players, and the assortment of undesirables. It only applies to the average guy lookin' for the same thing we are.


So, my thoughts on this, at the moment are somewhere along this ride, I've lost my ability to be "meek and mild", I just can't pull it off. I can bat my eyelashes and smile till the sun comes up, but, once I have a sincere interest in someone, it's obvious, and that seems to backfire one me, like you wouldn't believe. Anything different than that seems like a "game" to me, and I'm not into keeping score.


So, my question is for the guys, but I'd love women's input as well...

So boys, what do you personally respond to? Do you lose interest when she starts showing it?

there is no simple answer to this question its just not that easy if it were we would all be in a happy relationship. Men think completely different than women do for us it tends to be show me what u got and for women its show me how u feel for most men and women not all

And I agree, i've done it every way possible and still went home empty handed.


From what I can tell the guys are either blind or stupid or both. I get the same thing,be emailing,then talk on the phone and everything is going to what i think is fine,with flirting and general conversation. Then all of a sudden nothing,they stop all contacts or replies,or,you set up the first date/meeting and they don't show up or even give you the respect to give an excuse why,just the all contact being cut off. I just dont get it.

hrmmm...I guess I'm just me, I have never really thought about approaches or how to seduce/attrack someone. For me it just boils down to they like me or they dont?

This thread is just depressing the hell out of me.

It does seem as if you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. Sometimes I feel as if I'm not being clear at all, either with my interest or with my just being friendly.

I don't know ironman, there is a girl at our hangout who looks great, flirts well and then trys an intelligent conversation and loses the game totally! She thought the geese decoys were the real birds one day when the hunting channel was on! I think it takes a little more inquiry than a physical attraction!lol

I lost it! Half the guys didn't even pick up on it! They were busy thinking they had a chance!lol Wow, gotta love Ron White: You cant fix stupid!!!!!

hrmmm...I guess I'm just me, I have never really thought about approaches or how to seduce/attrack someone. For me it just boils down to they like me or they dont?

So, I was chatting in email with a fellow dh'er. Who stated a comment that said "men don't want to be propositioned, they want to be seduced".


I don't disupute that, and I know it don't apply to the hit it and quit it guys, players, and the assortment of undesirables. It only applies to the average guy lookin' for the same thing we are.


So, my thoughts on this, at the moment are somewhere along this ride, I've lost my ability to be "meek and mild", I just can't pull it off. I can bat my eyelashes and smile till the sun comes up, but, once I have a sincere interest in someone, it's obvious, and that seems to backfire one me, like you wouldn't believe. Anything different than that seems like a "game" to me, and I'm not into keeping score.


So, my question is for the guys, but I'd love women's input as well...

So boys, what do you personally respond to? Do you lose interest when she starts showing it?

I do my own thing regardless

Too many eye lid batting and one gets immune to it

What do I mean I do my own thing?

This morning (Saturday) my usual ritual I went fishing (prospecting) I got tired in the book shop sat down to a cup of coffee I noticed a woman in her mid forties sitting opposite alone. Usual surveillance reveals ,no rings no male lurking etc. She seems agitated looking around etc

So I went to her and said

"Yours didn't turn up ? mine neither!" she was for a second either horrified or shocked but then very quickly smiled.

so while she was drinking her coffee and I was drinking mine we talked for an hour. I will be buying lunch tomorrow and who knows? I do my own thing regardless

i think the physical attraction must start in the real world..u get vibes from people that u dont get via the internet..sure u can be attracted to someone online but in a sense its a shallow attraction its all about what u think the other person is not in reality what the other person is..so when it comes down to the meet people tend to back out without regard cuz they really dont know who they are goin to meet and are afraid it may not be as good as it was online..cuz really its about gut instict when choosing a potential mate and u must be present to win

Cin, I'm with you, babe..

Any man I'm interested in is gonna know it..he won't have to play guessing games. My ego is sufficiently intact and I get 'no means no'...and 'maybe' means diddle..