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tsoprano81
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 26
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seems to me it you that doesnt get it loves. i sleep with the ones i have feelings about. how about you? or does it not matter to you one way or another?
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| 2/1/2008 6:50:21 AM |
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tommyblue
Louisville, KY
age: 26
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Sluts never think they are.
A friend of mine sleeps with anyone because she got divorced and still wants to be with the guy, so she won't commit. Casual sex replaces the lost intimacy without losing the appearance of being able to get back with him at any chance.
In the last month there's been 8-9 guys, 2-3 girls and two couples.
A guy who didn't win her attention said "What am I the only person in Lou that can't hit it?"
She turns to me and goes....."Does he think I'm a hoe? F*ck him"
A spade's a spade
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| 2/1/2008 6:53:08 AM |
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lovesillusion11
Moab, UT
age: 24
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ok so yeah now i can't back out....
so sex is now self loathing? i thought it was human nature..... the course of producing and the good feelings it brings.... so if a woman likes sex it makes her a wh*re? so what does it make men who screw as many woman as they can? and as far as having no respect for women who have sex..... i don't get it? don't you want your woman to have sex with you? and what if it don't work out in the long run..... would that make her a wh*re because ya'll had sex? i think you are taking your self loathing out on women because one has screwed you over...... tends to be typical for some, you need to grow up and move on.. don't dog others because of your own self hate!
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| 2/1/2008 6:57:48 AM |
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tsoprano81
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 26
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there is no self hate here. read what i wrote again and stop jumping to conclusions about your own life. i respect a woman that has enough worth to be in a relationship before she just jumps into bed with everything that moves or breaths. yes sex is wonderful, with someone you care about. why are you so angry at this loves? i dont get it, do you just have sex to have sex and it doesnt matter with who it is? if that the case then you have some issues that you need to look inside to figure out. that is what i call a slut! respect and love yourself not for what a guy says or does to you but for how you look at yourself.
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| 2/1/2008 7:01:42 AM |
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tommyblue
Louisville, KY
age: 26
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There's no self hate here. Believe that.
There's a huge difference between f*cking some guy at the club or several of them,
and meeting someone, letting your lust turn into passion and into love and then having sex.
We love sex from a woman, and most men say the best part of getting it was the thrill of the chase. This means deep down we like you to be a tease, as long as we eventually get it.
A relationship that ends with no marriage and had sex is not wh*reish.
A few guys that are f*cked and forgotten is.
Same goes for men. Players are manwh*res. The difference in perspective for most folks lies in typical gender roles and their individual traits looked on as best by society. I've explained that.
I have no self loathing. I pride myself on the many women who try to get with me. Key word try. I have such pride and self worth that I do not need those girls to validate me.
Turning them down and seeing hotter guys attempt them and fail gives me more of a boost than a string of one night stands.
I am a prize, and I will wait for the girl who deserves me.
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| 2/1/2008 7:03:17 AM |
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lovesillusion11
Moab, UT
age: 24
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the point i am getting at is simply where do men get off thinking they can talk down to women like that or anyone for that matter... what people do is their business...
we are not put here to judge.... and we all have to live with our wrongs and rights...
i took offence to it as a woman..... not because it is something i do.... and for you to assume that is how things are.... just makes you look more aerogent (spelling)
i think maybe you should quit worring so much about what other people do and focus on improving yourself for a while... i could really care less what people think about me anymore.. i learned that... because for every person out there who don't like me.... there is someone who will.... i am me and feel that you either like me or you don't
my point is...... to sit and call women wh*res.... is not respectable at all... to judge people is not your place..... and to lable people is not your place... what works for one may not for another... that is the great thing about having our own minds....
for example...... you think women are wores and i think your an asshole.... don't mean everyone else has to....
but if your looking for a woman..... i don't suggest you go around postin that lable for them!
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| 2/1/2008 7:07:53 AM |
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tsoprano81
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 26
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i dont lable all women in that way, just the ones that sleep with whomever, whenever. why is that so hard for you to understand? tell me loves, why are you so offended about this? is that you? dont you care with whom you sleep with? or does it just make you feel better about you when you are having sex with as many as you can? its just a post for opinions and to see others views, right?
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| 2/1/2008 7:07:59 AM |
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tommyblue
Louisville, KY
age: 26
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I never said women are wh*res.
The fact that the word wh*re has a definition means there are qualifiers for being a wh*re.
Anyone who fits those qualifiers is a wh*re. There is no judgement involved.
This is a forum to discuss opinion focused on love/ sex. Why do you continue to promulgate that its improper to discuss opinion and theory?
Your self loathing is what has shown through. You crave daddy, which has led you to crave a man, who has betrayed you just like dad.
Sex is your answer for poverty of love, like crack is the answer for poverty of life.
[Edited 2/1/2008 7:21:05 AM]
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| 2/1/2008 7:08:17 AM |
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lovesillusion11
Moab, UT
age: 24
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btw i love and respect myself fine.... but i posted my point on the offence thing... and yes i have had sex before just for the act of it... so i'm guilty... but i don't screw everything that walks my way.....
i have had what i thought would be a one night stand before... it turned into a 5 yr marraige and 2 kids...
i am not saying that was the best choice out there.... got lost in the moment... a strong attraction.... who knows....... but i am not a slut or a wh*re because of it.....
THE POINT IS..... you don't know their reasonings for it..... no one thinks the same.... deal with it.... and if you don't respect it.... then stay away from em....
don't sit here and complain about it and start lableing people for your own kicks
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| 2/1/2008 7:13:02 AM |
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tsoprano81
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 26
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you say that you love yourself, hmmm do you really? most women dont and would never do that. sounds like you have major issues with yourself. im not here to judge you. i do pitty you though. all i wanted to know from the start is why women do that? sorry if i struck a nerve with you. just take it for what its worth
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| 2/1/2008 7:15:52 AM |
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tsoprano81
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 26
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well spoken tommy. seems like we are on the same page with this one
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| 2/1/2008 7:20:30 AM |
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lovesillusion11
Moab, UT
age: 24
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so why do you seem to think jus women do that? and don't f*cking pitty me! i am doing just fine thank you!
i don't hate myself.... i supose at one point there was some issues with that but i grew up!
i take offence to things like that because i have met men who called me a wh*re because i WOULDN'T have sex with them... go figure... i understand your point.... but what is good for you to lable some women that way...... is good for women to lable men that way too then right? can you lable men that way?
what i guess really set me off is the fact that it has always been looked at in that perspective.... a man can sleep with a million women..... but a girl sleeps with more then one and she's a slut or wh*re....
and yes i do care who i sleep with... i don't just walk down the street and snag up every man that comes my way....
oh and by the way tommy what is this thing with my daddy? since when did you know a damn thing about me except for the fact that i feel it's wrong for people to put a name on others like that.....
i think EVERY woman should take offence....... weather they sleep around or not....
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| 2/1/2008 7:23:35 AM |
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tsoprano81
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 26
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no i have no respect for the men that do that either. that just shows thier lack of self worth and disrespect for women. i cant stand guys that brag about it. to me, if there are no feelings involved its not worth it. no matter what, i am the one that has to love me. not have to wh*re myself out to know im worth something!!!
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| 2/1/2008 7:23:53 AM |
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grneyedluvr
Waverly, NY
age: 42
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im so sick of the double standard its pathetic. i want a woman with experience. i dont want some prude lil miss priss who gets scared if i tell her to turn over . theres more to life than the missionary position. if guys are pissed cuz women left them and sleep around then they should have f*cked them correctly to begin with. sheeesh
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| 2/1/2008 7:24:52 AM |
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tommyblue
Louisville, KY
age: 26
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Why are you so redundant?
YES MEN CAN BE WH*RES, AND ARE.
I've answered this twice, if the 3rd aint a charm, I give up on you.
Women are valued for looks and sex. Men are valued for status and ambition.
That is the answer to you why are women wh*res and men pimps for being a floozy.
What "the world" thinks is bullshit. Why do you care about it?
If you really valued yourself, and had innate self esteem, this would not phase you.
How do you think I get looked at for not f*cking these girls?
I get called gay for having some f*cking self worth.
Its bullshit, but I don't care. I am a self respectful hetero who is waiting for a wife.
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