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lovesillusion11
Moab, UT
age: 24
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grneyedlvr!
YOU GET IT! that rocks
as far as havin no respect for men either.... then you should of put a more general lable on your orignal post..... and said people instead of women....... then i wouldn't of taken offence to it!
like i said work on your wording if you don't want people to take offence to your posts!
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| 2/1/2008 7:52:36 AM |
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grneyedluvr
Waverly, NY
age: 42
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live and let live.........great words to live by
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| 2/1/2008 7:56:40 AM |
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stormygrl
Longmont, CO
age: 41
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Men and Women both do it and both can be wh*res!! to me random sex does not validate who i am, sure I've done it but hey it was to get laid plain and simple. At this point in my life I choose to not have casual sex at all.....got toys for that. When that special man comes along then it will be different.
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| 2/1/2008 7:58:19 AM |
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lovesillusion11
Moab, UT
age: 24
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stormy...... i have a few toys... would that make me a toy "wh*re"?
does having toys also mean i hate myself and have issues with the daddy thing?
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| 2/1/2008 7:59:04 AM |
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elaine47
Petersburg, IN
age: 47
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It's NOT being with as many as we can ding dong!!!!!!!!!
It's trying to find one with values and remembers what is like to have a Good woman.
NO self pity here, Just cautious.
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| 2/1/2008 8:02:26 AM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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Wow!
Lots of emotion in this thread...
I think "lumping" becomes such an issue in threads - please be careful in tossing around "generalities"
Women are like fish.
Just because you caught a salmon - doesn't mean we're all salmon. (Personally I am a rainbow trout)
Green eyes - I LOVE and enjoy sex. I am very comfortable with my body and with my lover who is my choice.
However - I am not a slut. I can still count on my fingers the number of men I have made love with (or as some so politely say F&^K!)
I asked this question yesterday - the words wh*re and slut get tossed around in here and at what point, at what NUMBER of partners does a woman become a wh*re? And are those numbers inside your head DIFFERENT when applied to a man???
I have NEVER asked a man - so how many women have you done?
But I am asked that question by men....
Double standard?
I chose celibacy - while raising my children because I didn't want sons who grew up with a MOM who jumped in and out of bed with every man she dated.
Because eventually they would figure out - when they grew to be men - that people come and go in your life - if you SLEEP with every "possible" true love by the end of your life how many people have you F&*ked?
I also chose not to just F _ _ K just for the sake of it.
What makes a wh*re, a wh*re?
And is it the same - man or woman?
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| 2/1/2008 8:07:10 AM |
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lovesillusion11
Moab, UT
age: 24
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i think my biggest thing was taking offence to the disrespect of useing the word wh*re.... and directing it strictly towards women
what would be wrong with saying "sexually over active"?
btw i have yet to meet a man who hasn't wanted sex sortly after meeting.. don't mean i gave it to him.... but i have had a few who wouldn't see me anymore because i wouldn't give it up!
and they labled me as a wh*re.... so does that mean you are damned if you do damned if you don't?
when i meet a man who isn't in it to get in my pants.. maybe i won't take such offence to people wording their posts such as he did!
[Edited 2/1/2008 8:10:38 AM]
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| 2/1/2008 8:09:39 AM |
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willowgrace
Roan Mountain, TN
age: 47
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ok, somewhere the question got lost sight of, I think.
Validating ones self.....
I do not need a man to validate myself. I know who I am and have confidence in myself. It is just nice to be able to share what you have with someone else. An intimate relationship is the most wonderful experience, but it should be for the right reasons. Which can vary between people, as long as you agree on the reason you are together and be respectful of each other.
I like myself and see myself as someone worth getting to know. What do we bring to a relationship or friendship is what we should be concerned about, not want we will get out of it.
peace to all,
willowgrace
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| 2/1/2008 8:12:05 AM |
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tsoprano81
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 26
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sexualy over active would be fine, but when it comes to many many partners, thats not over active, thats just plain slutty..i cant think of to many men that would want to be with a woman like that except for her to spread her legs. i guess she would be used to that though. just like the old some goes, "looking for love in the wrong places". time to look inside for these MEN AND WOMEN.
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| 2/1/2008 8:15:26 AM |
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grneyedluvr
Waverly, NY
age: 42
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what is wrong with using what we were given to make ourselves feel good? like i said, live and let live. if it feels good do it. just because ya get hurt and then get turned down , doesnt mean you have to hate and call people names. ive had my share of rejection and hurt , trust me, but if i lived my life feeling bitter and resenting all the women that have hurt me id be resorting to toys also. im only on this earth for so long so i say get as much pleasure as i can without hurting someone. my goal is to find someone as freaky as me to spend my life with, but its not easy to find and im not going to condemn someone just because they turned me down. you go girls, get yaself some!
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| 2/1/2008 8:16:16 AM |
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tsoprano81
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 26
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ok so loves then the next question would be, why give it up at all till you find that guy. or does having any feelings for the person just not matter? dont take offence, its just a question trying to figure how you rationalise this in your mind
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| 2/1/2008 8:17:03 AM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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The thread had a lofty, high brow title, willow but read the thought or question accompanying it...
This isn't REALLY about women valuing and believing who they are within is sufficient..it's about lumping women into one bag and pulling out wh*res...
Who you put in your "bag" to begin with may be the problem - as lovesillusion just said
Baby cakes look at what you wrote - if EVERY guy you have ever gone out with is EXPECTING sex right away
possibly the problem isn't that the guys are all creeps, maybe you're just choosing alot of creeps???
Not saying that to insult your taste in men, or to make you appear unintelligent...
We women have a tendency to choose what has come to be known as "bad boys", I have seen you be really flrty on here with some hotties that are awfully attractive and very charming but in the end - those boys want sex...
(don't we all?)
The right guy - pushed all those buttons, but waits until you both are in the relationship a sufficient amount of time to warrant the act.
Maybe I'm wrong but to me that is where the difference comes between being a woman who doesn't seek validation "between her legs" for who she is, but knows that she is worth the wait and IF he's the right guy - he'll WANT to wait for her...
JMO
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| 2/1/2008 8:26:14 AM |
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grneyedluvr
Waverly, NY
age: 42
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omg this is starting to sound like a romance novel . holy hell
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| 2/1/2008 8:27:54 AM |
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tsoprano81
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 26
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babe very well said. i have seen some her posts too and hmmm makes me wonder.
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| 2/1/2008 8:30:51 AM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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Well - ug! No.
Isn't the topic in here - a woman validating and valueing herself???
I can F*CK anyone I want to -
but it's about who I choose to, isn't it.
Green eyes - you have made many statements here about the mood, the moment and "going with the feeling" and not wanting a prude, a priss or anything of that nature...
So I guess I'm interested...do you not believe there are any wh*res then?
Our original author of this thread raised the topic....
Are all of those women you've been "going with the feeling" great, good, excellent women of quality and integrity?
Just asking?
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