| 2/1/2008 9:00:50 AM |
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crowdog3
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
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Metu suck my....... 
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| 2/1/2008 9:02:17 AM |
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waytogo51
Prairie Grove, AR
age: 51 online now!
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Metu I will only kiss you. 
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| 2/1/2008 9:04:09 AM |
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grneyedluvr
Waverly, NY
age: 42
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no apology needed. like i said, live and let live. cmere metu daddys got a treat for ya!
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| 2/1/2008 9:07:07 AM |
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metu
Ramona, CA
age: 46
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Ooh! You just said "Daddy"! Don't look Way! Ok! You can peek a little!
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| 2/1/2008 9:25:05 AM |
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pallyboy
Ramona, CA
age: 47 online now!
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TS I have to say it, if you want to know the reasons why someone comes on a site like this look inside yourself. There is no difference between your reasons for being here and a lot of the women on here. We are all looking for some kind of connection with another person and it doesn't always mean sex. When you say you could never see yourself with a woman from a site like this because you think they are all after one thing, the same thing could be said by them about you. You have to trust that people are telling you the truth until you find out different, but covering everybody with the same blanket statement is the wrong thing to do.
Just my opinion.
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| 2/1/2008 9:31:48 AM |
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mindyb
Bloomington, IL
age: 42
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and that is why i love being the Queen!....oh wait rather than write what I think i got this poem i write about two years ago, yes it was for a pychobeast...let see..
found it
here it is
Wide spread panic
What is it with women
Then we wonder why
Guys get the premise that they are all basket cases
Why do those desperate females go to such extremes
They expect so much from a guy, yet so little from themselves.
Most are not capable of being honest
Most offer attitude because they confuse it for confidence
Confidence needs no parade
They put on the game face,
climb into some poor guy’s head
Play with his emotions
use sex as a tool
Ah yes such wide spread panic
Laying down so easy
never know what love really is
with eyes wide shut they infest their wide spread panic
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| 2/1/2008 9:36:28 AM |
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katiescarlett72
Dallas, TX
age: 35
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First, Lovesillusion needs noone and nothing to validate her. Period. She has a great head on her shoulders, especially for being so young and coping with the responsibilities that she is.
Having said that, I'm going to disagree with her just slightly on here, but for different reasons.
We're programmed biologically for men to be less sexually discriminate than women, for the sake of species survival. That means that when we see men or women acting in opposition to our biological attunement, it generates a bone-deep sense of something being wrong with them. We could no more change it than legislate our own heartbeats. The extent that we allow it to affect us consciously is definitely on an individual basis, but we all have the same basic dna.
As far as why a woman should not sleep around, that's just flat-out a practical matter. In general (keep in mind, I said in general) woman are simply the ones who pay the price for sexually indiscriminate behavior. You hear people say all the time, "why is it that they both participated in having sex, and he walks away scot-free while she deals with all the consequences???" The answer is, because he can. Whether it's right or wrong, which you can argue until the cows come home, it's reality. Historically speaking (and currently in some countries), all the stigma from an unwed pregnancy would fall on the female, with consequences ranging from embarrassment to death. I get so sick of listening to people (Oprah in the lead) go on and on about how unfair it is. It is what it is, okay? Until women wake up and accept that this is the hand that nature dealt us, and accept responsibility for being the stewards of the bodies we've been given rather than blaming men for our poor choices, nothing is going to get solved with regard to sexually-related dilemmas in this country or any other.
When it comes to STDs, the risk is higher to women. In just one scary example, when a man and a woman have sex, an HIV-positive male is TWO TIMES more likely to transmit the virus to an HIV-negative female, than an HIV-positive female is to transmit the virus to an HIV-negative male. (except in Africa, males and females are on a level playing field with transmission there, and I promise you don't want to know why). There is some evidence that other STDs are more likely to be transmitted male-to-female than female-to-male.
Annnnnd then there's the bonus: When women get STDs, we risk the survival of the species, because we can and often do pass them on to our children in the form of birth defects or simply the disease itself.
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| 2/1/2008 9:46:41 AM |
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katiescarlett72
Dallas, TX
age: 35
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Having said all that, I am not on a high horse here. I had to learn some of the above lessons the hard way. Although I've never been a woman who slept around easily, my first two children were total surprises, born when I was in relationships but not marriages. I can excuse myself by saying that I had been told by a doctor in my teens that I would have a hard time getting pregnant as an adult and would probably need fertility assistance, but it was still my decision to be irresponsible about birth control, especially the second time when I had realized that if someone sneezed around me, I was likely to get pregnant.
Neither dad had anything to do with the kids for several years, no child support, nada. Having grown up a completely spoiled brat, I was totally baffled as to what to do; "UT Sorority Girl" turns out to not be big on resumes. My parents basically said, we'll give you a hand here and there, but this is your bed, hop on in. They put $3,000 in a bank account, my bedroom furniture in a truck, and said when that cash runs out, you're on your own LOL. It got down to the last $100 before I got my first "real" job, and I've been making it on my own ever since.
The point is not that I'm special, because I'm not. I don't see my children as mistakes, I see them as gifts God gave me, because I needed them to learn the lessons He wanted me to learn to become the person I am now. But although I could have sat there and wailed about how those guys were present just as much as I was, what good would that have done? Wouldn't have put any food on my table, and it was energy that I didn't need to spend on something negative. I'll tell you the first and foremost thing that I learned though - to get on and STAY on EXTREMELY regular birth control, and to be even more careful about who I slept with and when I did it. Now I'm ultra choosy and I see sex as something I'm not willing to share with someone just 'cause they happen to think I'm cute. I am cute, thinking I am does not make you special LOL. Show me why you are, and maybe we'll talk.
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| 2/1/2008 9:48:09 AM |
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lovesillusion11
Moab, UT
age: 24
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thank you katie! i do understand that it is the way it is.... but to sit there and ask the question of why women have self hatred...... you pretty much explained the reason why! because society has put it there... now every situation is different and some handle it better then others.... i was trying all in all to get the point across that when some people use such harsh words and names...... it plants seeds in others that tend to grow into something bigger... i didn't feel that throwing around the hatered was very respectful... and felt that he didn't understand that it could quite possibly play a roll into why some women are that way....
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| 2/1/2008 9:53:46 AM |
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lovesillusion11
Moab, UT
age: 24
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the way i see it is you cant change your past or anyone elses...... but i don't see the point in judging people from their past.... things and people do change... not always but it does happen...
katies my children are in no way shape or form mistakes! they are my life savers! i drank a lot when i was younger... if it wouldn't of been for getting preggy with my son... god only knows where i would be now! prob dead or in a rehab center somewhere...... i quit drinking and refuse to let that in my life now.... don't get me wrong i could go for a drink every now and then on a date or a girls night out... but i didn't drink for about 6 years.... and have dranks twice since the divorce.. so like i said they are my little life savers.... they keep me in line and keep my thinking more clear!
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| 2/1/2008 9:54:47 AM |
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willowgrace
Roan Mountain, TN
age: 47
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ok, now that I got it, it is the stupidest thing I ever heard!!!!
And if anyone, male or female, thinks sex is a way to validate themselves is in real trouble! Come on lets get real here.
peace
willowgrace 
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| 2/1/2008 11:03:32 AM |
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pallyboy
Ramona, CA
age: 47 online now!
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Yep, only a man could come up with something like that.
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| 2/1/2008 11:45:54 AM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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hmmmmmmmmmmmmm you step away to focus on work for awhile and look at what happens...?
Green eyes - I'd toss that hat so far it'd be on Mars with the Yetty's!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Bring your hot self closer to Iowa!
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| 2/1/2008 11:47:02 AM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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And GOASH dang I love it when Katie Scarlett cuts LOOSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
WOo hoo!
Loves - baby - you'll get there and you rock for being a good momma cuz it ain't easy!
We got your back.
Now kids play nice and look and listen to each other!
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| 2/1/2008 12:19:26 PM |
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ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41
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I find it humorous that we have all of these shithouse psychotherapists trying to play the quaint game called "What's your psychosis as to why are you here?". Who cares if someone is having sex or having it often? I guess it only matters to those not getting any. Does it mean that you're on a dating site just looking for sex? Sex is a possible effect where connecting on another level with another person is the cause. It doesn't have to be but is only a possibility. You can't take the effect and make it the cause. 
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