| 2/3/2008 11:13:15 AM |
Why dont more more white women date black men? |
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luvswhitegirlz
Las Vegas, NV
age: 29
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Do they feel we have nothing to offer or are they afraid or what people might say?
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| 2/3/2008 11:18:17 AM |
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sue614
Elkhart, IN
age: 54
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I have a daughter you could meet. LOL But you have to be employed, respectful, have a car, and someone who doesn't steal from the homeless. You would be the current opposite of her present boyfriend.
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| 2/3/2008 11:22:56 AM |
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luvswhitegirlz
Las Vegas, NV
age: 29
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Lol, umm I am not sure of what kind of men are out there where you live but I have a six figure job and I am well educated. B ut see out here that doesnt really matter to most white women here your a black guy not just a guy.
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| 2/3/2008 11:28:54 AM |
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sue614
Elkhart, IN
age: 54
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Northern Indiana, where men are men, no matter what race or religion. The problem I have is that my daughter's boyfriend is worthless as a man. He got kicked out of the homeless shelter for stealing. He doesn't work, mooches off whoever will let him, rides a bike, and has stolen from me. My daughter is pregnant, and he hasn't contributed one dime. They claim he's providing "emotional" support. My response: That will put diapers on the baby. LOL
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| 2/3/2008 11:42:23 AM |
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luvswhitegirlz
Las Vegas, NV
age: 29
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Well I am not that type of guy whatsoever! I dont have any kids but i would like some in the future its just a matter of finding that special someone! as for your daughter why dont she just leave the guy alone?
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| 2/3/2008 12:47:09 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 47 online now!
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Why does someone have to be a particular color to date them??? Doesn't the person themself come into play??? Why is there color preferences??? Is one color better than another???
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| 2/3/2008 12:48:17 PM |
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sue614
Elkhart, IN
age: 54
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That is what I am trying to figure out. Self esteem issues I guess. We do argue about it a lot. She is pretty,smart and funny, and I would like for her to meet someone that at least has a job.
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| 2/3/2008 1:12:16 PM |
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katiescarlett72
Plano, TX
age: 35
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I'm going to go here. I'm probably going to get totally disemboweled for it. But, it's a fair question, so it deserves an honest answer from a different viewpoint.
I am utterly southern born and bred. I have a great-great grandfather who was a Colonel in the Confederate Army, and three of his brothers fought with him. None of them were slave owners, they were small but successful farmers, and baptist preachers. Like most of their contemporaries in Tennessee, they did believe in the superiority of whites, but they did not go so far as to believe that slavery was right. After the war ended, they moved to Texas immediately to get away from its effects, and they were preachers and merchants and ran farms here. My family on both sides has been here for five generations (in the case of my one Apache great great grandmother, God knows how many generations).
My dad's family was very prosperous, my mom's family, not so much. They were what you'd call rednecks, some of them white trash. Daddy's family moved to Dallas two generations ago as bankers, mom's stayed in the backwoods of Central Texas as moonshiners. You can kind of imagine where it's gone from there. Moving forward, here's what I've observed:
My dad's family never really expressed much of an opinion regarding other races, because their financial position meant that they didn't have much reason to run into them. When they did, it would be evident that they simply didn't see them as the same, if they "saw" them at all. My mom's family, being poor, ran into them all the time. None of them were KKK or actively spoke out against other races, there was simply an unspoken acceptance among them and the other families around them, that whites were superior. Racial jokes and terms like "colored" were always the norm. Intermixing socially or in any other way did not occur. It wasn't anything that was discussed with hatred or anger, it was just the way it was and no one really went outside the lines.
My mother was the only member of her family who escaped that life and made something of herself. She was determined that I wouldn't grow up racist, and tried very hard, but it's so difficult to fight your own raising. She'd catch herself every now and then and would always correct herself. My dad never made racist comments, but he was almost the worse way - his attitude was silently, and extremely, clear. There were things you did and things you did not do. Period.
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| 2/3/2008 1:32:09 PM |
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karie1970
Springfield, IL
age: 37
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Luvs, there are plenty of white women out there that are not intimidated by societies and communities racist and "i am better than everyone that is not white" attitude!!! Be patient we are out there!!!!  
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| 2/3/2008 1:34:58 PM |
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katiescarlett72
Plano, TX
age: 35
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I had to really think about this next part because I don't know how to get it across without offending. Maybe there simply isn't a way, maybe it is offensive. I don't know.
One of my best friends in high school was black. We were so close, had no problems talking about our racial differences. My parents loved her to death, and her family loved me. We spent a lot of time in each other's homes. I've honestly never looked at anyone and thought that they were better or worse than me based on their race. Now, I will plead guilty to looking at someone and, based on their BEHAVIOR, thinking something really, really unflattering, but I do that with ALL races, including my own. There's garbage in every race, no doubt about it. If only we could find the race that didn't have any and exterminate all the others LOL. As far as prejudice goes, I will admit to thinking that Asians drive like old ladies, okay. I'm sorry, but around here they just do.
As far as dating outside my race goes, though, I have found that I simply can't. I don't know why. I've tried and tried to examine my heart and my mind and figure out why, and come up with nothing. I have no doubt that a big part of it is that if I'd ever done it while my dad was alive, he'd have dropped dead instantly, and a big percentage of my mother's family still would. Part of it is definitely the fear that if I were to bring someone of another race around my family, one of my big brothers would drop one of their simply hilarious racial jokes without stopping and thinking about the fact that his audience was no longer entirely sympathetic. It would be hard to introduce you to my grandma, who still refers to the 40-something black woman who lives down the street as "that little colored girl down yonder" (with perfect affection, by the way, she thinks the world of her and has no idea how offensive that is, no matter how many times I wail, "grandma you can't SAY that!!!").
I just don't have the kind of motivation and will that it would take to face down all the challenges that are thrown at biracial couples; I don't want to. I admire people who are willing and able, but it's not me. Dealing with my family would be the hardest and most heartbreaking part, because there would certainly be people who would disown me, but that's just the beginning of it. And at base, I can't blame it on my family, because there's simply something in me that can't do it.
I don't know if that helps answer your question at all, I guess the short version of it is "my raising." But I wanted to clarify that it's not that I was raised by cross-burning neanderthals. They're not bad people, they're also the products of their raising and the times they've lived in, and they've done the best they could with what they've been given. God grant that the next generations will make leaps and bounds.
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| 2/3/2008 2:05:52 PM |
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immabluefish
Greer, SC
age: 43
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Interracial dating is everywhere...I know more white women who date blk men than white women who don't...I just don't find it that unusual
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| 2/3/2008 2:12:34 PM |
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osoroho
Mesquite, TX
age: 57
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Do you really want this question answered? Why do black guys start this at least once a week it only starts Sh## GOto the profiles and look you can learn a lot of info. there.At least one that answered here would be happy to steer you in the right direction....Willy
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| 2/3/2008 2:27:37 PM |
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luvswhitegirlz
Las Vegas, NV
age: 29
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I personally have a preference I really like the contrast. But to me its funny that you could have a black guy with the world at his feet and then a white with nothing going for him but the white woman will go after him! wont even give a brother a second thought! to me that is offensive
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| 2/3/2008 2:28:24 PM |
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luvswhitegirlz
Las Vegas, NV
age: 29
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thanks baby i appreciate your feedback
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| 2/3/2008 2:29:12 PM |
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luvswhitegirlz
Las Vegas, NV
age: 29
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I think its perfectly normal as well, but hey who knows!
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