10/6/2014 6:59:06 AM |
Is it ok to hold hands on the first date? |
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nicola33
Lawrenceville, GA
35, joined Sep. 2014
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I met this guy at the car wash. He approached me and we started to conversate. I gave him my number and he texted me later that day. We met up and went to see a movie and went to have drinks and a bite to eat. He was a nice guy smelled good, dressed good, and had a nice car, but he wanted to hold hands while we were walking as if we were in a relationship. As we were watching the movie he grabbed my hand and kissed it. It felt a bit awkward being that I just met you today. My question is: Is it ok to hold hands on the first date?
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10/6/2014 7:03:20 AM |
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gotheon123
Apex, NC
48, joined Jul. 2013
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Of course it's ok.
Now whether or not it's ok with you is your choice and it sounds like not so much.
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10/6/2014 7:10:04 AM |
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chitowngirl78
Oak Lawn, IL
37, joined May. 2014
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He's just holding your hand... its not a marriage proposal.
I've noticed--reading some of these forums--that a lot of women seem to get freaked out at the most gentlemanly (or polite, even) and innocent gestures.
-holding hands
-opening doors
-Simple "hello's"
-A complement!!
If youre not comfortable with it, then maybe you dont like him as much as you think you do.
Or maybe youre just weird...
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10/6/2014 7:22:02 AM |
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asiancawk
Houston, TX
49, joined Sep. 2014
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I met this guy at the car wash. He approached me and we started to conversate. I gave him my number and he texted me later that day. We met up and went to see a movie and went to have drinks and a bite to eat. He was a nice guy smelled good, dressed good, and had a nice car, but he wanted to hold hands while we were walking as if we were in a relationship. As we were watching the movie he grabbed my hand and kissed it. It felt a bit awkward being that I just met you today. My question is: Is it ok to hold hands on the first date?
No it's not, it's a bit creepy.
...but the good news is.. it's ok to f**k on a first date.
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10/6/2014 7:37:18 AM |
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bruceinsaginaw
Saginaw, MI
60, joined Mar. 2014
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If he paid for the date you need to put out.
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10/6/2014 7:57:49 AM |
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avgjoe0266
Grovetown, GA
50, joined Aug. 2008
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Sounds like you are very conservative.
Just move on til you find what you want.
It does help to be a little more open minded though
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10/6/2014 8:54:20 AM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
47, joined Jan. 2012
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I met this guy at the car wash. He approached me and we started to conversate. I gave him my number and he texted me later that day. We met up and went to see a movie and went to have drinks and a bite to eat. He was a nice guy smelled good, dressed good, and had a nice car, but he wanted to hold hands while we were walking as if we were in a relationship. As we were watching the movie he grabbed my hand and kissed it. It felt a bit awkward being that I just met you today. My question is: Is it ok to hold hands on the first date?
I think it depends on how BOTH of you feel. You kind of just know if there is chemistry there or not I guess. My current boyfriend I've been with for 2 years and he and I made out pretty heavy at the end of our first date. No sex but we made out. We didn't hold hands first! But we hit it off great the first day and had spent the whole afternoon and evening together and we just knew there was an attraction there.
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10/6/2014 8:55:15 AM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
47, joined Jan. 2012
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If he paid for the date you need to put out.
That's not true. And all the men here know that. If you met someone you really wanted to see something long term with you would respect her more than that.
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10/6/2014 9:43:18 AM |
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bruceinsaginaw
Saginaw, MI
60, joined Mar. 2014
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she meets a guy at the f**king car wash, and she agrees to go out with him, Id think she was a hooker....obviously she doesnt know what "date" means to men wanting to pay for sex
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10/6/2014 9:45:11 AM |
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fucq
Renick, WV
40, joined Aug. 2014
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for me? prolly not something I would do. I don't kiss on a first date either... but then again I have my own way of doing things.... always have.
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10/6/2014 9:45:40 AM |
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dixie_dancer
Kansas City, KS
27, joined Feb. 2013
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This sounds like a question a 12 year old would ask. How old are you really OP?
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10/6/2014 9:55:09 AM |
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danielchinku
Buckinghamshire
United Kingdom
25, joined Aug. 2014
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nothing to be serious... Just let u flow on this and see what happens in future,
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10/6/2014 12:22:07 PM |
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amusicluvr
Salem, OR
63, joined Nov. 2013
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OP - Are you 10 years old? Then it is not ok to even date. The guy is a queer who wants to use you as a cover, to make people think your are his lover, so they won't guess that he is queer. If that satisfies you, then go for it. If you want more from a relationship, and don't want to share your man with other men, move on and find someone else. Have group sex on a first date if you want to. Such choices are up to you, and those you date, and are no one else's business.
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10/6/2014 12:47:01 PM |
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zimzane2
High Point, NC
55, joined Jan. 2013
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Why not?
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10/6/2014 12:55:59 PM |
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woman_4_woman
Omaha, NE
28, joined Jun. 2014
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I have held hands on the first date. I think if you like each other its cool but if your not feeling that person than its uncomfortable
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10/6/2014 1:00:06 PM |
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kissmyattitude1
Baby
Brazil
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This sounds like a question a 12 year old would ask. How old are you really OP?
She's 12 and a half.
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10/6/2014 1:01:21 PM |
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slumg0d
Pensacola, FL
43, joined Jul. 2014
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I don't see a problem with it if you both are cool over it. Now if they start licking the back of your hand or try to move up your arm, that's over the line to creepsville! (well maybe not to everyone )
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10/6/2014 1:01:25 PM |
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morse81
Beacon Falls, CT
34, joined Sep. 2014
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No. You may contract Ebola.. A ridiculous reply to a ridiculous topic.
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10/6/2014 1:05:01 PM |
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kissmyattitude1
Baby
Brazil
33, joined Jul. 2014
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Op you might need a pregnancy test,that's how it usually happens.
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10/6/2014 1:19:24 PM |
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lookfamiliar
Portage, IN
59, joined May. 2014
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I think holding hands is the least of your worries. You have bigger problems at hand.
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10/6/2014 1:30:06 PM |
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cosmicgem
Springfield, MO
59, joined Jun. 2011
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she meets a guy at the f**king car wash, and she agrees to go out with him, Id think she was a hooker....obviously she doesnt know what "date" means to men wanting to pay for sex
Aww Brucie You're Such a Romantic.
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10/6/2014 2:43:38 PM |
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001snatch
Marysville, WA
56, joined Aug. 2013
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If you are into the guy then why not.
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10/6/2014 6:15:19 PM |
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thepatriot1776
Chesapeake, VA
53, joined Jul. 2014
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If both feel the magic the spark. Its cool
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10/6/2014 6:18:59 PM |
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whitl42
Beaver Dam, KY
44, joined Feb. 2014
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I think it's pretty sweet to hold hands.. Doesn't hurt a thing... The kiss was nice too... Lighten up op
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10/6/2014 6:30:47 PM |
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hugsnlaughter
McKeesport, PA
55, joined Jul. 2007
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Nothing wrong with a little hand holding unless of course, there is no spark, if not, don't hold his hand, he will get the wrong idea.
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10/6/2014 6:34:24 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
51, joined Jul. 2013
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Don't see a big deal op
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10/6/2014 6:40:29 PM |
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iheartidiots
Grove City, OH
38, joined Feb. 2012
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Well obviously you weren't comfortable. And that's ok. Some people just warm up sooner than others.
Be thankful he didn't whip it out and shove it in your mouth.
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10/6/2014 6:44:40 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
51, joined Jul. 2013
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Well obviously you weren't comfortable. And that's ok. Some people just warm up sooner than others.
Be thankful he didn't whip it out and shove it in your mouth.
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10/6/2014 7:00:34 PM |
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whitl42
Beaver Dam, KY
44, joined Feb. 2014
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Well obviously you weren't comfortable. And that's ok. Some people just warm up sooner than others.
Be thankful he didn't whip it out and shove it in your mouth.
I can't stop laughing at the statement!! ROFLMFAO!
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10/6/2014 7:02:39 PM |
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arabianknight01
Bronx, NY
29, joined Apr. 2014
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Hummm this is a very important matter!!!!!
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10/6/2014 7:04:01 PM |
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nicoli7
Louisville, KY
32, joined Jul. 2014
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There are no rules.....
Two people can hold hands whenever they want.....
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10/6/2014 7:05:00 PM |
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mari987
Jerusalem
Israel
27, joined Aug. 2014
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There is absolutely nothing wrong on holding hands on the first date.
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10/6/2014 7:16:16 PM |
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citychick89
Dover, DE
27, joined Aug. 2014
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I think it all depends on how comfortable you feel. For me I don't mind holding hands on the 1st date. But for others it may bother them
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10/6/2014 10:01:46 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
64, joined Oct. 2009
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Considering that most people skip the date and just start to f**k then it certainly is ok. You should be commended for your restraint.
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10/6/2014 10:24:42 PM |
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latinasm
Amarillo, TX
47, joined May. 2014
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Holding hands , there's nothing wrong with it on a first date ,it's actually sweet an old fashion, it's an intimate, sweet thing for a first date!
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10/7/2014 12:38:32 AM |
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rose1206
Gilbert, AZ
34, joined Jul. 2012
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Holding hands , there's nothing wrong with it on a first date ,it's actually sweet an old fashion, it's an intimate, sweet thing for a first date!
Agree 100%!
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10/7/2014 12:50:45 AM |
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blue3rose
Saint Louis, MO
40, joined Jun. 2013
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I think you should wait for date 375
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10/7/2014 12:53:06 AM |
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carmelcb
Tallahassee, FL
25, joined May. 2012
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I don't think you really liked him...if you had you wouldn't be asking this question.
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10/7/2014 1:04:33 AM |
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wedontgiveaf
Vancouver, WA
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10/7/2014 8:09:43 AM |
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like_aboss
Aberdeen, ID
38, joined Sep. 2014
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There is absolutely nothing wrong on holding hands on the first date.
I agree now since ur ok with it let's hold hands!
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10/7/2014 4:45:26 PM |
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mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
54, joined May. 2011
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I don't know, let me ask my mom.
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10/7/2014 8:06:52 PM |
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mrhankchinaski
Aurora, CO
54, joined Aug. 2014
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Here in NY you hold her hand when walking down the sidewalk.
You also walk in between her and the curb.
You never let your girl walk on the outside by the street.
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10/7/2014 8:11:10 PM |
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naturebiy
Bangkok
Thailand
40, joined Jul. 2011
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If you just met that person..and hours later holding hand and acting like yall have known eachother..
And you are asking if that is ok?
To some it would be..to some not so much..
Kind of rushing things like teenagers ehh?
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10/7/2014 11:03:52 PM |
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pickygirl72
Barrow, AK
45, joined Sep. 2011
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If you're not feeling it and it makes you uncomfortable than do not do it. Tell him "I appreciate your enthusiasm, but I am not ready to do that." He sounds a bit anxious to kiss and hold you. Just let him know what you want or don't want up front.
Good luck.
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10/7/2014 11:23:15 PM |
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virgosarmoire
Sarasota, FL
57, joined Jan. 2013
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Why read so much into it? Discard the dude. Sure sign of insecurity. If you have to question something as simple as hand holding, then don't freely give out your number. Keep safe!
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10/8/2014 2:49:07 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
56, joined Feb. 2010
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I met this guy at the car wash. He approached me and we started to conversate. I gave him my number and he texted me later that day. We met up and went to see a movie and went to have drinks and a bite to eat. He was a nice guy smelled good, dressed good, and had a nice car, but he wanted to hold hands while we were walking as if we were in a relationship. As we were watching the movie he grabbed my hand and kissed it. It felt a bit awkward being that I just met you today. My question is: Is it ok to hold hands on the first date?
If you did not want him holding your hand, YOU should have said something. Men are not mind readers.
As for me I will ALWAYS err on the side of caution, no touching unless she starts it.
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10/8/2014 8:56:04 AM |
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mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
54, joined May. 2011
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I don't know, let me ask my mom.
My mom told me not to talk to strangers so I can't answer you, OP.
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10/8/2014 8:57:34 AM |
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mari987
Jerusalem
Israel
27, joined Aug. 2014
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I agree now since ur ok with it let's hold hands!
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10/9/2014 7:11:49 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
61, joined Apr. 2011
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OP...in your picture....your mimicing kissing people you never met yet.
is that okay???????????????????????????
Get real huh
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10/9/2014 7:26:16 AM |
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larryconfer
Social Circle, GA
49, joined Oct. 2012
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I don't see anything wrong with that ! It's not sex ! And what message are you sending if you go out and a man doesn't even touch her ! I would think : he's not interested !
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10/9/2014 7:44:51 AM |
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bruce_2014
Dothan, AL
58, joined Jan. 2014
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a 55 year old dishonest man who knows better.
His point is to only see the younger generation feels or he has mental problems.
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10/9/2014 7:51:15 AM |
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bruce_2014
Dothan, AL
58, joined Jan. 2014
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OP is 55 year old woman who knows better.
Her point is to only see the younger generation feels or she has mental problems.
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10/9/2014 8:06:42 PM |
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jimmco
Monroe, NY
54, joined Sep. 2014
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It is OP if you feel the same he's feeling. If not, you're going to get that awkward feeling.... Yuck!
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10/9/2014 8:13:03 PM |
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happylauren
Crown Point, IN
54, joined May. 2013
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It's better than my last date. Don't ask I plead the fifth.
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10/9/2014 11:51:50 PM |
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glovestate
Westland, MI
40, joined Jan. 2014
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No it's not, it's a bit creepy.
...but the good news is.. it's ok to f**k on a first date.
aint that the truth
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10/10/2014 12:32:21 AM |
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kartusch
Logan, UT
41, joined May. 2014
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I think it sounds cute
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10/11/2014 3:20:03 PM |
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ambitiouswoman3
Albany, NY
27, joined Nov. 2012
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I wouldn't feel comfortable holding hands with a man unless it develops into an actual relationship. I think it's weird to hold hands with a man that I know nothing about & am not in a relationship with. To each their own, though. If you're comfortable holding hands, then do that. If not, then don't. Your opinion is the only one that matters in this scenario, or any other.
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10/11/2014 3:51:14 PM |
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tjir1l
Jacksonville Beach, FL
61, joined Feb. 2011
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x
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10/11/2014 3:52:06 PM |
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tjir1l
Jacksonville Beach, FL
61, joined Feb. 2011
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I met this guy at the car wash. He approached me and we started to conversate.
conversate:
A word used by backwards, ignorant, illiterate inner city trash who mean to say 'converse'. "Yo, I just needs to conversate witcha!" To which I replied, ...
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10/11/2014 5:02:17 PM |
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4uijack
New Port Richey, FL
80, joined Aug. 2013
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I usually just grab their ears and force it down their throat on the first date!1
den we convesate!!
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