Why are women more forgiving than men when it comes to cheating?

A mans love is more than deep, it's sacred! After the union began your sins have been forgiven and you both have a fresh new start. Violating his trust with infidelity is pissing upon holy grounds and you spat in the face of the God who brought you two together.

Women are much more forgiven in this area bcuz their love isn't as deep. Oh its real but not as deep. Thats why its so easy to make an excuse to forgive him. "Well he said its over" and "He said it was just that one time" and "He was drunk" and "He said he didn't love her, it was just sex" or "He said he didn't even enjoy it that I was better anyway!"

Plus being emotional creatures, women see the pain of losing him altogether as GREATER than the pain of infidelity. And they would rather deal with the lesser pain. That explains those crazy excuses.

NOW PLEASE... I am NOT talking the occasional man who forgives for cheating bcuz if his personal insecurities and lack of confidence or the occasional woman that'll dump his a** for looking at another woman too damn hard bcuz these are exceptional cases NOT to be confused with the norm and these cases do not speak for the majority.

Of couse some might disagree just bcuz its MY post. lol If so, wby are women more forgiving for cheating than men are? Why are men so unforgiving if not for my reasons?

^^^^I might be able to forgive, but all trust would be lost & I would not stay with him. There are many forgiving women, but no one should have to stay with someone who betrays by cheating on them.

I say it depends on the circumstance & the people involved. I've been cheated on a few times. I moved on & didn't look back. Once you cheat, you lose my trust. If I don't or can't trust you their is nothing left to fight for.

I say it depends on the circumstance & the people involved. I've been cheated on a few times. I moved on & didn't look back. Once you cheat, you lose my trust. If I don't or can't trust you their is nothing left to fight for.

1. Can you give me an example of the circumstance it would be ok to forgive?

2. Is it possible to rebuild the trust once its been broken?

Why are women more forgiving than men when it comes to cheating?

A mans love is more than deep, it's sacred! After the union began your sins have been forgiven and you both have a fresh new start. Violating his trust with infidelity is pissing upon holy grounds and you spat in the face of the God who brought you two together.

Women are much more forgiven in this area bcuz their love isn't as deep. Oh its real but not as deep. Thats why its so easy to make an excuse to forgive him. "Well he said its over" and "He said it was just that one time" and "He was drunk" and "He said he didn't love her, it was just sex" or "He said he didn't even enjoy it that I was better anyway!"

Plus being emotional creatures, women see the pain of losing him altogether as GREATER than the pain of infidelity. And they would rather deal with the lesser pain. That explains those crazy excuses.

NOW PLEASE... I am NOT talking the occasional man who forgives for cheating bcuz if his personal insecurities and lack of confidence or the occasional woman that'll dump his a** for looking at another woman too damn hard bcuz these are exceptional cases NOT to be confused with the norm and these cases do not speak for the majority.

Of couse some might disagree just bcuz its MY post. lol If so, wby are women more forgiving for cheating than men are? Why are men so unforgiving if not for my reasons?

I don't know about other women, but I don't deal with any man cheating. I'll walk away or fade out of his life altogether rather than deal with a man who is a player/cheater. why should i waste my time when I deserve a man's full attention if we are in a committed relationshi? If he's cheating- then he deserves to have his freedom to bed all the women he wishes.. He just WON'T BE BEDDING ME ANYMORE.

No.


There many powerful & influential men on the face of this earth... why in the heck would I believe he'd be the only one I'd ever meet. Now, granted, our heart wants what the heart wants but the truth of the matter is we are very capable of loving more than one person in our entire lifetime.

We often have little crushes on people. They either evolve into something more(committed relationships) or they don't. If acting upon a crush and it doesn't evolve(even when we'd like it to)... Then if it does and he cheats on the relationship and the woman leaves sure, we feel a sense of hurt/sadness/pain etc. but people "do" eventually get over the heartache, move-on and do become enamoured with a new crush repeating the process- being capable of loving again, are we not?

So, having this^ in mind... Why in the fuq would I ever stay with a man who's behavior exhibits he is incapable of keeping his willy in his knickers? When I know there ARE men who wish/like being in such committed relationships? It's a total WASTE of one's life & time... and I prefer not too waste "MY" time pursuing such dysfunctional shitheads when I can give him his freedom to pursue all the women he wishes. As I, myself, pursue a greater happiness in being "FREE" of him.


btw: Hey, doc-


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Let's not forget about the women who purposely sit around waiting on a guy who is already married to another woman and she refuses to move on to another available man. I know some men does it as well but I find more women will do it for longer period of time .

You can forgive someone and still not take them back after they cheat. You can love someone at the same time your walking away from them also.

Neither men nor women love more deeply than the other..that is not a valid statement. They may express that love differently and there do appear to be trends regarding that expression that follow gender lines but how deeply is not gender specfic.

However, there is quite a bit of information out there about who cheats, why they cheat and how often reconcilliation occurs.

There is substantial data supporting the assertion that women will take back a cheating man more often than a man will take back a cheating woman. It doesn't have much to do with how "deeply" a person loves, rather, it's about why and when people cheat.

Men are more likely to simply give into to their physical desires and can more easily/readily compartmentalize that activity as not having anything to do with their committed partner. They love their partner, they just choose to get their rocks off. ..and yes..as much as women don't like the inferrence, if she is not providing the sexual intimacy he wants he will find it elsewhere BUT in many cases is still quite content to be married to the woman he loves.

Women, on the other hand, tend to cheat because they lack something emotional and they seek to fill that void. When a woman steps out in that manner, she has often already "ended" the current relationship in her mind, so reconcilliation is unlikely.

in other words, men "step out" and women "step away"

obviously this doesn't apply to all men or all women though it has remained somewhat consistant in numerous surveys and psychological studies.. this is just one aspect of relationship dynamics, one very tiny aspect

My love is sacred. Look, I was cheated on in both of my long-term/marriage.

The longterm one, I was young and dumb. I thought if I forgave him, he'd never do it again. I was wrong.

My marriage, well we were better off friends so we both did a disservice to ourselves in terms of marrying. I did tell him, go ahead cheat, just don't divorce me bc I truly loved him. He was my best friend.

I hurt him. I hurt him alot. Bc I wasn't emotionally there. I was distant. So I know I hold the blame for it all. If only I could go back...

I see your point and I'm guilty of all of these. But no more. Bc I worked on myself and I know I am deserving of a faithful man.

Once a woman can learn to fix herself, then she's set.

Why are women more forgiving than men when it comes to cheating?

A mans love is more than deep, it's sacred! After the union began your sins have been forgiven and you both have a fresh new start. Violating his trust with infidelity is pissing upon holy grounds and you spat in the face of the God who brought you two together.

Women are much more forgiven in this area bcuz their love isn't as deep. Oh its real but not as deep. Thats why its so easy to make an excuse to forgive him. "Well he said its over" and "He said it was just that one time" and "He was drunk" and "He said he didn't love her, it was just sex" or "He said he didn't even enjoy it that I was better anyway!"

Plus being emotional creatures, women see the pain of losing him altogether as GREATER than the pain of infidelity. And they would rather deal with the lesser pain. That explains those crazy excuses.

NOW PLEASE... I am NOT talking the occasional man who forgives for cheating bcuz if his personal insecurities and lack of confidence or the occasional woman that'll dump his a** for looking at another woman too damn hard bcuz these are exceptional cases NOT to be confused with the norm and these cases do not speak for the majority.

Of couse some might disagree just bcuz its MY post. lol If so, wby are women more forgiving for cheating than men are? Why are men so unforgiving if not for my reasons?

Why are women more forgiving than men when it comes to cheating?

Of couse some might disagree just bcuz its MY post. lol If so, wby are women more forgiving for cheating than men are? Why are men so unforgiving if not for my reasons?

I will forgive. I will also never trust him again so it is definitely over. I was cheated on once and walked away the moment I found out.
I am a stickler for loyalty.
Some ppl are conditioned by experience. That may be all they know and have learned it is acceptable. Kinda like a batter spouse syndrome.

I'm trying to figure out what the lesson here is!

Someone fill me in?

So Adam and Eve cheated on each other and only Eve forgave Adam?

I don't really get how you think...I learned no lesson!

I do see a lot of questions about cheating and forgiveness....but they are not lessons!

Who'd they cheat with?

I thought it was just them two in the beginning.

Not always.