| 1/10/2016 10:14:39 PM |
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pinacoladamama7
North Port, FL
45, joined May. 2014
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My BF of over 7 years (on and off) passed away 12/31 a.m. I texted him that morning to see how they were doing. He responded but never mentioned his mom passed away. On Saturday, I asked him if I could go see her at the hospital on Sunday. He texted saying he wanted to be alone with his mom. He said he hoped I understood. Last time I heard from him via a text was Monday. He has not responded to my texts. I looked at his cousins facebook and I found out his mom passed away and never told him anything. As we were texting each other, he didn't share that information. His mom liked me alot. I don't understand why he did that. I can only imagine that he didn't want me to meet his family which he doesn't get along with. Apparently the family were having arguments during the memorial services. I would have understood if he asked me not to attend the services because of the family but lying about it is very strange. Not hearing from him at the moment is understanding, he is grieving, he is hating the world and he just wants to be alone.
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| 1/10/2016 10:21:26 PM |
BF mom passed away-have not heard from him |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
64, joined Oct. 2009
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I think this is about him and his grieving and his relationship with his family. This isn't always all about you you you you you you you you you. Give him some slack, k? His mother died. Everything doesn't always have to be about YOU. If you're waiting for an apology I think you'll be waiting a long time and if you're waiting for him to beg you to take him back I think the wait will be even longer. Give the guy some slack. There's been a death in the family.
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| 1/10/2016 10:33:14 PM |
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pinacoladamama7
North Port, FL
45, joined May. 2014
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I know its about him. I'm not thinking about me at all. What I don't understand is that he lied about her passing away. You obviously did not read all the way through when I said I understand he is grieving and wants to be alone. I have not said anything more to him after I found out she passed away. I know there is a possibility I will never hear from him for a long long time or maybe never again. He tends to run away when he has problems. I'm pretty sure it was his mother who told him to look for me when he walked away twice from me within the 7 years we've been together.
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| 1/11/2016 12:38:28 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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I know its about him. I'm not thinking about me at all. What I don't understand is that he lied about her passing away. You obviously did not read all the way through when I said I understand he is grieving and wants to be alone. I have not said anything more to him after I found out she passed away. I know there is a possibility I will never hear from him for a long long time or maybe never again. He tends to run away when he has problems. I'm pretty sure it was his mother who told him to look for me when he walked away twice from me within the 7 years we've been together.
It sounds like he omitted the issue, other than straight lying about it. Hard to tell why, since he has withdrawn himself and has apparent family issues.
Let me ask you this: What day is his Birthday?
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| 1/11/2016 1:38:43 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
61, joined Apr. 2011
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For now....just give him some space...it sounds like he needs it.
I had two past girlfriends, that when someone died that they knew....just kind of disappeared for a little while.
I didn't understand it and figured they'd need my support....but everyone acts differently at these times...and its worse if there are problems in the family.
7 years off and on....maybe you need to consider something moving on, if you feel there is no real future in it.
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| 1/11/2016 5:20:15 AM |
BF mom passed away-have not heard from him |
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pinacoladamama7
North Port, FL
45, joined May. 2014
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His birthday at the end of this month. What does that have to do? He's not going to celebrate it with his mom just passing away.
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| 1/11/2016 5:36:05 AM |
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viper1e
Jeannette, PA
58, joined Dec. 2013
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My BF of over 7 years (on and off) passed away 12/31 a.m. I texted him that morning to see how they were doing. He responded but never mentioned his mom passed away. On Saturday, I asked him if I could go see her at the hospital on Sunday. He texted saying he wanted to be alone with his mom. He said he hoped I understood. Last time I heard from him via a text was Monday. He has not responded to my texts. I looked at his cousins facebook and I found out his mom passed away and never told him anything. As we were texting each other, he didn't share that information. His mom liked me alot. I don't understand why he did that. I can only imagine that he didn't want me to meet his family which he doesn't get along with. Apparently the family were having arguments during the memorial services. I would have understood if he asked me not to attend the services because of the family but lying about it is very strange. Not hearing from him at the moment is understanding, he is grieving, he is hating the world and he just wants to be alone.
It will make more sense when you lose your mom.
It changed me forever when it happened.
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| 1/11/2016 6:18:02 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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His birthday at the end of this month. What does that have to do? He's not going to celebrate it with his mom just passing away.
I wanted an idea of his zodiac sign. Which should put him as an Aquarius. Aquarians aren't known for being very emotional creatures, such as a Pisces, Cancer, or Scorpio.
Since I know nothing about his personality, I was going to start there.
I will say, that until he is willing to tell you what he is feeling, you may have to place it on the back burner.
I know that isn't what you really want to hear.
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| 1/11/2016 7:24:21 AM |
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idliketotalk
Punxsutawney, PA
53, joined Oct. 2013
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I'd suggest you offer your condolences, say something nice about his mother and let him know you are there for him if and when he wishes to talk about it or see you.
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| 1/11/2016 7:58:16 AM |
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jjp184
Somerset, NJ
52, joined Jun. 2013
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Funerals are a good place to pick up woman
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| 1/11/2016 8:13:25 AM |
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grande_mamon
Houston, TX
49, joined Sep. 2014
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OP, as someone else said, it's not about you....and we sure don't have any answers for you other than leave him the f**k alone if he doesn't want to talk to you right now.
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| 1/11/2016 12:42:35 PM |
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up2youandme
Chandler, AZ
41, joined Jan. 2014
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7 years and you're not in the pecking order? There's a lot to be said in that scenario and none of it is good for you.
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| 1/11/2016 1:29:14 PM |
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nyythawk
Denver, CO
53, joined Nov. 2010
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1. This is confusing.
2. Unless procedures have changed, Hospitals don't allow on and off girlfriends to view the deceased. That was for immediate family. They wouldnt've let you see her anyway. You should've just waited for the wake... if the family had/has one.
3. Don't think this dude is really as close to you as you think.
4. If you really understand the guy's grieving, wants to be alone etc., don't think you'd write all the shyt.
5. A bunch of strangers on this site can't tell you POSITIVELY the reason(s) for his action. Wait till he's ready and TALK TO HIM about it.
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| 1/11/2016 1:44:39 PM |
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Jack__daniels
Jacksonville, FL
58, joined Oct. 2015
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did you post this already?
something tells me this just for attention
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| 1/11/2016 1:48:02 PM |
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mortara
Pittsburgh, PA
62, joined Feb. 2014
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I just know saying your mother just died is a great way to get out of a date. Hey, just saying!!!
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| 1/11/2016 4:27:08 PM |
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ms_holland
Danville, AL
52, joined Mar. 2014
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7 years and you're not in the pecking order? There's a lot to be said in that scenario and none of it is good for you.
What I was thinking.
My guess is op all you had was a fwb thing going. Just about sex. Why it is on and off again.
A lot of women do not seem to see the signs that they are only this and nothing more. An object to be played with with the itch comes.
A sign you are just this: You are not included in family activities, especially, at a family members death. You are just an outsider nothing more.
Move on and find a man that values you the right way.
If you really had a relationship he would have asked for your comfort.
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| 1/11/2016 5:59:53 PM |
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alls_fair
Thorlákshöfn
Iceland
96, joined May. 2011
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I think this is about him and his grieving and his relationship with his family. This isn't always all about you you you you you you you you you. Give him some slack, k? His mother died. Everything doesn't always have to be about YOU. If you're waiting for an apology I think you'll be waiting a long time and if you're waiting for him to beg you to take him back I think the wait will be even longer. Give the guy some slack. There's been a death in the family.
Amen bro!
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| 1/11/2016 6:04:53 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
51, joined Jul. 2013
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Maybe he took another woman to the funeral, so he had to pretend like he didn't want u around, if he wanted to have sex with u I bet he woulda reached out, trust me he doesn't hate the world nor his family so obey his wish, very strange u didn't meet his family, u been with him for 7 years off and on
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| 1/11/2016 6:10:42 PM |
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renee398
Chilhowie, VA
36, joined Jan. 2015
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The man needs his time to come to terms with his loss,to control his pain,and to find himself again.don't push him,wait for him.don't judge him,just be there with arms open when he walks into them..
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| 1/11/2016 6:28:57 PM |
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digital_knight
Grand Rapids, MI
44, joined Nov. 2012
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I wanted an idea of his zodiac sign. Which should put him as an Aquarius. Aquarians aren't known for being very emotional creatures, such as a Pisces, Cancer, or Scorpio.
Since I know nothing about his personality, I was going to start there.
I will say, that until he is willing to tell you what he is feeling, you may have to place it on the back burner.
I know that isn't what you really want to hear.
Huh ? I'm Pisces and I swear people in hear say I whine so much about how women treat me
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| 1/11/2016 8:19:23 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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Huh ? I'm Pisces and I swear people in hear say I whine so much about how women treat me
Pisces are water elementals. They are naturally intuitive. Represented by the sign of the Fish, and they can be just as elusive.
Most artists and musicians tend to fall under this sign as well.
They can be emotionally sensitive, as all the water signs are, and extremely vengeful when they are betrayed. Pisces, however, are not known for being quite as brutal in vengeance, as a Cancer or Scorpio.
Scorpio is the worst, of the three, and it doesn't take much to provoke that stinger. And when we strike, it is intended to kill, not wound.
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| 1/12/2016 3:02:17 AM |
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grneyesrme
Sacramento, CA
48, joined Aug. 2013
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People grieve in different ways, some withdraw from everyone. It's hard to be able to say without us knowing him. 
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| 1/12/2016 10:40:17 AM |
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4uijack
New Port Richey, FL
81, joined Aug. 2013
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Wanna suck up dis d*ck, OP?
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| 1/12/2016 11:44:44 AM |
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idliketotalk
Punxsutawney, PA
53, joined Oct. 2013
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Well OP, have you offered your BF your condolences on his mother's death yet?
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| 1/12/2016 8:39:34 PM |
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ms_holland
Danville, AL
52, joined Mar. 2014
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I think op has left the building. 
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| 1/12/2016 8:42:55 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
51, joined Jul. 2013
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She's still here
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| 1/12/2016 10:49:52 PM |
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ms_holland
Danville, AL
52, joined Mar. 2014
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She's still here
Well I reckon she forgot how to reply then.
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| 1/13/2016 10:32:15 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
61, joined Apr. 2011
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I past away once....and I heard from no one too.
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| 1/14/2016 5:25:37 AM |
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countrymomhere
Sparta, MI
36, joined Jun. 2013
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7 years and you're not in the pecking order? There's a lot to be said in that scenario and none of it is good for you.
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| 1/14/2016 6:25:37 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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The man needs his time to come to terms with his loss,to control his pain,and to find himself again.don't push him,wait for him.don't judge him,just be there with arms open when he walks into them..
Remember, Renee, the man-hating feminists in here are going bash the OP for a lengthy relationship that has been off and on, and in that premise alone.
Like myself, you and green eyes have said, we don't know the whole situation. It is too hard to tell why he has shut her out. Death affects people, differently.
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| 1/14/2016 7:42:26 AM |
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grande_mamon
Houston, TX
49, joined Sep. 2014
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It is too hard to tell why he has shut her out.
Well I'm no rocket scientist but....
Body: Full figured
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| 1/15/2016 8:13:18 PM |
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pickygirl72
Barrow, AK
45, joined Sep. 2011
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Love your profile OP. "Trustworthy"...really?
Do you tell your new DH dates "don't mind me that I am still dating this other guy on and off for the past 7 yrs", hey I am totally in to you though." 
OP this guy is not into you and his mothers passing is a good opportunity for him to stop things with you. Why don't you move on from him and join us in the dating world.
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| 1/15/2016 10:46:28 PM |
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gar1
Richmond, KY
63, joined Oct. 2007
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What I was thinking.
My guess is op all you had was a fwb thing going. Just about sex. Why it is on and off again.
A lot of women do not seem to see the signs that they are only this and nothing more. An object to be played with with the itch comes.
A sign you are just this: You are not included in family activities, especially, at a family members death. You are just an outsider nothing more.
Move on and find a man that values you the right way.
If you really had a relationship he would have asked for your comfort.
right here is the true answer
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| 1/17/2016 8:20:23 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
61, joined Apr. 2011
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Love your profile OP. "Trustworthy"...really?
Do you tell your new DH dates "don't mind me that I am still dating this other guy on and off for the past 7 yrs", hey I am totally in to you though."
OP this guy is not into you and his mothers passing is a good opportunity for him to stop things with you. Why don't you move on from him and join us in the dating world.
Well.....speaking of her profile.
It does say specifically what age she is seeking.
Well....right there, we have a potential cheater on our hands.....and your questioning his trustworthiness???????????????
anyway....for all we know the reason why the relation was on and off....could be due to her and not him.
We....shouldn't assume things, we don't know for sure.
Because what if she followed your advice and you were wrong....that makes you responsible for breaking them up.
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| 1/17/2016 8:29:54 AM |
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idliketotalk
Punxsutawney, PA
53, joined Oct. 2013
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The OP made this thread several days ago and we have not heard from her since.
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| 1/17/2016 8:48:03 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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Love your profile OP. "Trustworthy"...really?
Do you tell your new DH dates "don't mind me that I am still dating this other guy on and off for the past 7 yrs", hey I am totally in to you though."
OP this guy is not into you and his mothers passing is a good opportunity for him to stop things with you. Why don't you move on from him and join us in the dating world.
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