| 2/1/2016 12:57:44 AM |
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dlee8612
New Caney, TX
30, joined Feb. 2014
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Ok I have a girl I've been with for almost 5 yrs an we both have done some messed up stuff but have always been drawn back to each other. Awhile back we split for a few months an I moved, we dated other people. I missed her an visited her one day an she asked to come back home,I did. Come to find out she had been messing with meth so I did it with her an turned into a everyday and I said we had to stop. Eventually it came down to she moveing to her dad's (source of the dope) an now she is horribly mean an hateful. She claims to not love me,I'm annoying cuz I wanna be around her/ call her- actually goes days an weeks without communication,completely could care less about me an hates me.. but hard part is, is we have a wonderful 3yr old daughter together that I have fulltime, my love is very very strong..I'm torn cause I dont know what to do an if I go there I'm stalking or makes me look bad..pretty much one day saying she's in love an the next she's gone.. plz don't be rude just friendly advice. Hopefully from people that have gone through something similar.. and if it helps: I'm a cancer an she is Virgo.. ty
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| 2/1/2016 1:06:18 AM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
48, joined Dec. 2014
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Unfortunately she loves the drugs more...you wont have a healthy relationship with this woman until she can kick drugs and be healthy herself....
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| 2/1/2016 1:44:30 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Jan. 2016
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I don't think it's that safe to be around her while she's on meth, perhaps get a bit of distance until she is off it.
She's also trying to push you away so it makes it easier to just let her have space.
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| 2/1/2016 4:42:50 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
57, joined Feb. 2010
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You need to walk away for your daughter. Your girlfriend has made her choice and it is METH. You will never win against that drug.
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| 2/1/2016 5:01:33 AM |
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alls_fair
Thorlákshöfn
Iceland
96, joined May. 2011
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I don't give advice...but I am full o' shit and suggestions...
You are a codependent enabler...
And need to do some serious in house cleaning...
F**k the crack head in your life...
The damage you two shit birds are doing to that youngster is CATASTROPHIC!
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| 2/1/2016 5:27:09 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
61, joined Apr. 2011
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Ok I have a girl I've been with for almost 5 yrs an we both have done some messed up stuff but have always been drawn back to each other. Awhile back we split for a few months an I moved, we dated other people. I missed her an visited her one day an she asked to come back home,I did. Come to find out she had been messing with meth so I did it with her an turned into a everyday and I said we had to stop. Eventually it came down to she moveing to her dad's (source of the dope) an now she is horribly mean an hateful. She claims to not love me,I'm annoying cuz I wanna be around her/ call her- actually goes days an weeks without communication,completely could care less about me an hates me.. but hard part is, is we have a wonderful 3yr old daughter together that I have fulltime, my love is very very strong..I'm torn cause I dont know what to do an if I go there I'm stalking or makes me look bad..pretty much one day saying she's in love an the next she's gone.. plz don't be rude just friendly advice. Hopefully from people that have gone through something similar.. and if it helps: I'm a cancer an she is Virgo.. ty
I wish people would be together for a few years before they have any kids....this way if their relation or marriage or life gets messed up....there won't be a kid involved and it have to go thru this mess and it effected their life too....and it will.
Small wonder things are so f**ked up in this society we have.
Dude...take the kid and get that all legal....then lose this chick and never go back.
Give the child a good up bringing....then seek a good woman.
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| 2/1/2016 5:27:25 AM |
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jjp184
Somerset, NJ
52, joined Jun. 2013
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Sounds like a perfect relationship, pop over, take care of business, go home and EBay
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| 2/1/2016 5:30:12 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
61, joined Apr. 2011
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Unfortunately she loves the drugs more...you wont have a healthy relationship with this woman until she can kick drugs and be healthy herself....
Don't you think its better, that he just leaves her and not look back???
I'm quite sure that's the advice you would be giving a woman, if she had written this thread.
In fact...why am I seeing women on this page say what your saying too....but if it had been a man, they'd all be telling the girl to dump his ass????
Come on....your all losing more credibility here.....ridiculous.
He needs to get the child legally his....then leave this women and never look back.
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| 2/1/2016 6:24:15 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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You can't save this situation. A drug addict is an addict by choice. Nobody made her start taking Meth. She is responsible for her choice, and as such, she will not get off of the Meth until she is in so much pain from being an addict, that the pain of changing to a clean lifestyle is less.
In the best interests of the child, it will be important to get the child AWAY from that situation. If the child asks why, it is important to make sure your daughter understands that her mommy made a very unhealthy and illegal decision, that could lead to harm to both of them.
The damage being done, by having the child around it is not present now, BUT it WILL be present when the child is older. Children of addicts follow one of two paths: They either never touch drugs/alcohol or they become addicts just like their parents did.
You need to stay clean, get a lawyer, file for custody on the premise of the mother's drug addiction. The courts, in many states(except p*ssy-whipped, Feminist Ohio) WILL grant the father custody in a scenario such as yours. Do not let the media brainwash you into thinking you are f**ked in the courtroom. I have looked up the custody laws for every state, in the U.S.
Courts, unanimously(except Ohio) will always rule in the best interests of the child.
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| 2/1/2016 6:35:30 AM |
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blurussian
Tarawa Terrace, NC
27, joined Dec. 2015
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^this.
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| 2/1/2016 6:38:25 AM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
51, joined Jul. 2014
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yes,drugs are the end.. 
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| 2/1/2016 6:41:43 PM |
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dlee8612
New Caney, TX
30, joined Feb. 2014
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I went this morning to the courthouse in downtown Houston not really sure how to do this but I walked out at 11 with a temporary custody for 180 days plus a restraining order incase of retaliation.. last night I thought about everything an realized she not who I fell in love with 4 yrs ago.. thank you everyone
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| 2/1/2016 6:42:46 PM |
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lucky_1million
Pewaukee, WI
49, joined Jun. 2013
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we have a wonderful 3yr old daughter together that I have fulltime
I can sort of understand how you feel. Unless someone is BLATANTLY BAD NEWS for you and your daughter, it is difficult to cut them off 100% completely because you keep hoping that they will change.
You still see some good in them.
The problem is without God's love and mercy, people rarely change until they hit rock bottom... and they usually drag you through sh!t until then.
   
Since you have a child, I commend you for leaving the METH alone and staying away from this lifestyle choice.
My general advice for people still hung up on their ex and prone to the on and off relationship is... once a month contact, just well-wishes to see how things are going, and to look for someone new.
This is something I would do.
But... I would cut off 100% someone who is blatantly bad news... no problems... 
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| 2/1/2016 9:33:38 PM |
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steamyviolet
Beaverville, IL
46, joined Jun. 2009
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I went this morning to the courthouse in downtown Houston not really sure how to do this but I walked out at 11 with a temporary custody for 180 days plus a restraining order incase of retaliation.. last night I thought about everything an realized she not who I fell in love with 4 yrs ago.. thank you everyone
Good for you. Focus your attention on that little one. It's so sad when a parent chooses meth over their child. Be a good role model for her, and don't be so quick trying to find a new mom for her. Good luck Op
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| 2/1/2016 10:17:35 PM |
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blurussian
Tarawa Terrace, NC
27, joined Dec. 2015
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I went this morning to the courthouse in downtown Houston not really sure how to do this but I walked out at 11 with a temporary custody for 180 days plus a restraining order incase of retaliation.. last night I thought about everything an realized she not who I fell in love with 4 yrs ago.. thank you everyone
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| 2/1/2016 11:21:29 PM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
48, joined Dec. 2014
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Don't you think its better, that he just leaves her and not look back???
I'm quite sure that's the advice you would be giving a woman, if she had written this thread.
In fact...why am I seeing women on this page say what your saying too....but if it had been a man, they'd all be telling the girl to dump his ass????
Come on....your all losing more credibility here.....ridiculous.
He needs to get the child legally his....then leave this women and never look back.
I didn't say he should still maintain a relationship with her...what's the chances of her getting off drugs?...he has to decide if he wants a healthy relationship or this sick one and the expense of his child...that's not for me or anybody else to decide....
Ahhhh I see he decided....good for you op.....
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| 2/2/2016 12:30:28 AM |
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amusicluvr
Salem, OR
63, joined Nov. 2013
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Do the world a favor. Kill: her, her family, all kids any of you have, and yourself. It will save us all the time, and money, of imprisoning you all, medicating you all, etc.
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| 2/2/2016 12:49:21 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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I went this morning to the courthouse in downtown Houston not really sure how to do this but I walked out at 11 with a temporary custody for 180 days plus a restraining order incase of retaliation.. last night I thought about everything an realized she not who I fell in love with 4 yrs ago.. thank you everyone
Good Luck, OP. It is gonna be hell to recover from this experience, but it is a better, healthier choice than staying where you were at.
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| 2/2/2016 11:38:37 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
64, joined Oct. 2009
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DON'T have anything to do with the GF, at least when she's hi. She had to choose between you and meth and meth won. It's a horrible drug.
Keep your child and raise her and build your whole world around her. She's lost her Mom and she can't lose you too.
DON'T date. Your #1 priority should be work and supporting your daughter and being there for her. It's hard I know, but that's what a real man does.
DON'T let Mom have anything to do with the daughter without supervision and the same goes for Grampa if he's the source of her drugs. He ought to be in prison.
DON'T take Mom's comments personally. It's the meth talking. She needs treatment. Of course she loves and hates you. She sees what she could be straight but hates you because you'd come between her and meth and she's obviously not ready to give it up yet.
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| 2/2/2016 11:48:26 PM |
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aintmyb_tch
Ponchatoula, LA
96, joined Aug. 2015
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I went this morning to the courthouse in downtown Houston not really sure how to do this but I walked out at 11 with a temporary custody for 180 days plus a restraining order incase of retaliation.. last night I thought about everything an realized she not who I fell in love with 4 yrs ago.. thank you everyone
Awesome. You have 6 months to start a new life for you and your daughter. Make it a life you are happy with and dont look back. Nothing worth having is ever easy, but you already took the hardest step. Will say a prayer for yall. Wish you the best.
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| 2/2/2016 11:52:46 PM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
51, joined Jul. 2014
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o no..your here too,stalkin me girly......
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| 2/2/2016 11:56:33 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
67, joined May. 2010
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What are you thinking about doing, OP?
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| 2/3/2016 9:21:04 AM |
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nyythawk
Denver, CO
53, joined Nov. 2010
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First, I think just another DH bullshyt story.
But if it is true (possible but doubt it), you're both sad cases and the saddest thing is the child. Try to place the child with family. And family not on drugs who want and can care for the child's well-being indefinitely. Because that child's future is awfully dim with crackhead/methmouth parents raising him/her.
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| 2/3/2016 9:37:33 AM |
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grande_mamon
Houston, TX
49, joined Sep. 2014
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Ok I have a girl I've been with for almost 5 yrs an we both have done some messed up stuff but have always been drawn back to each other. Awhile back we split for a few months an I moved, we dated other people. I missed her an visited her one day an she asked to come back home,I did. Come to find out she had been messing with meth so I did it with her an turned into a everyday and I said we had to stop. Eventually it came down to she moveing to her dad's (source of the dope) an now she is horribly mean an hateful. She claims to not love me,I'm annoying cuz I wanna be around her/ call her- actually goes days an weeks without communication,completely could care less about me an hates me.. but hard part is, is we have a wonderful 3yr old daughter together that I have fulltime, my love is very very strong..I'm torn cause I dont know what to do an if I go there I'm stalking or makes me look bad..pretty much one day saying she's in love an the next she's gone.. plz don't be rude just friendly advice. Hopefully from people that have gone through something similar.. and if it helps: I'm a cancer an she is Virgo.. ty
If someone doesn't love you there is NOTHING you can do to change that, all the stalking/begging does is make you look worse in front of her and lower your chances even more.
Let her go, if she does love you she'll come back
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| 2/3/2016 10:16:26 AM |
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truly000
Fort Dodge, IA
37, joined Dec. 2011
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I went this morning to the courthouse in downtown Houston not really sure how to do this but I walked out at 11 with a temporary custody for 180 days plus a restraining order incase of retaliation.. last night I thought about everything an realized she not who I fell in love with 4 yrs ago.. thank you everyone
Many blessings to you. You made the right decision.
Stay away from the meth and just focus on raising your kiddo.
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| 2/3/2016 12:58:50 PM |
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lilbigmomma
Burlington, NC
31, joined Nov. 2015
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Short n sweet: Gotta cut them ties boo. Not healthy for yall baby. It'll hurt for a lil bit but you'll be better for it in tha end. Hope everything works out tho. 
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| 2/3/2016 1:04:52 PM |
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mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
54, joined May. 2011
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I hope some woman can overlook my addiction to root beer floats. 
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| 2/3/2016 1:16:39 PM |
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celyn67
San Antonio, TX
49, joined Jan. 2016
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We could drink root beer floats together.
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| 2/3/2016 7:43:42 PM |
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sarahgoldsmith
Norfolk, VA
45, joined Jan. 2014
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Dlee, let her go. You just do your job as a dad. Take care of your daughter & that's it. Let the girlfriend go. The girlfriend is an adult, if she doesn't know right from wrong by now, she never will. Your only obligation is to your daughter. Let the girlfriend do what ever she wants to herself, she is an adult, she should know better by now. If the girlfriend doesn't care about herself, then she doesn't care about other people either. Go find yourself a new girlfriend.
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| 2/3/2016 7:58:49 PM |
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celyn67
San Antonio, TX
49, joined Jan. 2016
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Drugs help mess up a relationship. You did the Meth with her once. If you aren't doing it anymore but she is, you should get out of that relationship.
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| 2/3/2016 8:13:40 PM |
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sarahgoldsmith
Norfolk, VA
45, joined Jan. 2014
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You cannot find another form of entertainment besides doing drugs, op? Drugs are for the weak. There are other ways to have fun instead of doing drugs.
I am against smoking pot & against doing drugs.
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| 2/4/2016 12:11:35 AM |
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sobe111
Miami Beach, FL
39, joined Oct. 2013
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You're a full time dad....proud of you.
Dont expose your daughter to her mom your daughter deserves better...break away.
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| 2/4/2016 12:18:25 AM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
51, joined Jul. 2014
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and astrology means nuthin,just a curious thing..not really a good thing
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