| 6/20/2016 9:55:05 PM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Jan. 2016
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Do you ever just get had enough of being rejected, betrayed, lied to, used and think Why again do I bother? Lol. Just recently I have come to the realization that I have become what I always despised in dating; someone who doesn't want to commit to anyone or anything. Idk how this happened but it didn't take long. Used to be in a world of flowers and butterflies where I wanted to commit straight away to any guy who came along lol.
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| 6/20/2016 9:58:04 PM |
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M4mischief
Grand Prairie, TX
98, joined May. 2016
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I wont/don't want to commit to the wrong person for me...soooooo no I am not quite willing to just commit anymore either...
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| 6/21/2016 12:34:59 AM |
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sperinkles
Three Sisters
South Africa
26, joined Jun. 2014
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Yes, I have officially given up. November of 2014 I hung my hat on the world of dating.
No more hoping, wondering, wishing, praying... no more leaving it up to fate to bring that special someone to me unexpectedly, lol. Oh no, no. No more.
But...I still do dream and fantasize. That I can and will do. 
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| 6/21/2016 4:11:21 AM |
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pickygirl72
Barrow, AK
45, joined Sep. 2011
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I have no intetest whatsoever to get in a relationship. Its too complicated and I just do not need that headache anymore. Was married for 20 yrs and then had a bf for a year after that...i m done with all that bullshit.
Im i giving up...no, i am choosing not to date. Life is good.
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| 6/21/2016 5:43:46 AM |
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Mercedes_02
AñatuyaAñatuya
Australia
100, joined Dec. 2014
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I wont/don't want to commit to the wrong person for me...soooooo no I am not quite willing to just commit anymore either...
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| 6/21/2016 10:14:00 AM |
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easttowest72
Bremen, GA
44, joined Sep. 2014
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Nothing wrong with taking a break from dating. Nothing wrong with dating and not having sex. You dont owe anyone anything.
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| 6/21/2016 10:19:28 AM |
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grande_mamon
Sacramento, CA
35, joined Sep. 2014
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Do you ever just get had enough of being rejected, betrayed, lied to, used and think Why again do I bother? Lol. Just recently I have come to the realization that I have become what I always despised in dating; someone who doesn't want to commit to anyone or anything. Idk how this happened but it didn't take long. Used to be in a world of flowers and butterflies where I wanted to commit straight away to any guy who came along lol.
Age. You're dating young men who are not interested in what you were/are seeking. A 23yr old dude only wants to f**k as many women as possible, and then f**k the girls mothers and aunts if possible.
You need to date an older man...older men seek women your age too..it's the perfect situation. You get what you're looking for and they get what they are looking for.
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| 6/21/2016 10:22:17 AM |
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xray6
Jacksonville, FL
28, joined Mar. 2012
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I just wait a month for the new blood to come into the area
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| 6/21/2016 10:39:29 AM |
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kungfu_candy
Alsónémedi
Hungary
27, joined Aug. 2013
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To be quit honest, giving up was the best thing I could have ever done for myself.
I know enough rejection to last me several life times.
I was always lied to for the most stupid and insulting of reasons.
You're still young. You're just discovering that marvelous flavor called "bitter". You keep this up and it'll settle in before you hit your 30's and you'll be an even more seasoned pro than the women in their 40's who actually still have hope and kind memories.
Now I just see hope as a fantasy that I can indulge in.
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| 6/21/2016 10:41:40 AM |
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grande_mamon
Sacramento, CA
35, joined Sep. 2014
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Kungu, your decision to reject my advances was/is your problem.
Had you accepted my offer of a traditional relationship your life would have been complete.
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| 6/21/2016 10:43:12 AM |
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kungfu_candy
Alsónémedi
Hungary
27, joined Aug. 2013
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If I'm not mistaken what you offered me was "anal".
Is that how you spell "relationships"? 
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| 6/21/2016 10:47:39 AM |
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grande_mamon
Sacramento, CA
35, joined Sep. 2014
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Always wanting to "categorize" rather than go with the flow... 
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| 6/21/2016 10:49:13 AM |
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kungfu_candy
Alsónémedi
Hungary
27, joined Aug. 2013
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Well maybe if things could easily "flow" through that vessel, I'd be more open about it.
How about we reverse the roles and you go with the flow.
I'll even prove the KY?
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| 6/21/2016 10:50:20 AM |
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grande_mamon
Sacramento, CA
35, joined Sep. 2014
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This river only flows in one direction...
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| 6/21/2016 10:51:31 AM |
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kungfu_candy
Alsónémedi
Hungary
27, joined Aug. 2013
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Forgive me for wanting to see your riverbed, Pocahontas.
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| 6/21/2016 11:38:46 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Jan. 2016
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And what do old guys want, no offence but seems just the same as young guys except they see me as a young delight lol
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| 6/21/2016 12:17:50 PM |
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doublethree
Germantown, TN
39, joined Oct. 2013
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I haven't dated in a long time.
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| 6/21/2016 12:35:27 PM |
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easttowest72
Bremen, GA
44, joined Sep. 2014
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| 6/22/2016 7:12:22 PM |
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doublethree
Germantown, TN
39, joined Oct. 2013
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And what do old guys want, no offence but seems just the same as young guys except they see me as a young delight lol
Do you know many girls your age who are gamers? My friend met some girl recently who he said was hot and 23 and she played even a lot of games he and I used to play when we were young. Now that would sure be a bonus if I found someone who is at least a little into gaming. I just always assume sports and gaming are two things 90% of females aren't too into.
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| 6/22/2016 7:54:15 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
64, joined Oct. 2009
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That's why I completely gave up on women in 1983. If I thought I had a chance at a date. don't you think I'd make a better effort to be charming before being REJECTED again?
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| 6/22/2016 9:32:58 PM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Jan. 2016
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Not many girls are gamers period. Let alone my age lol. Not to mention if they did game there is no gaurantee they play the games I play. Anyways Im cooling off on the gaming a bit. I was seriously addicted lol Need to get out and do other stuff. I seriously would be lucky ifI left the house 1 time in a month and Id stay awake for days only to go to sleep and basically sleep for days. Had enough of it ;p
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| 6/23/2016 4:43:10 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
57, joined Feb. 2010
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Do you ever just get had enough of being rejected, betrayed, lied to, used and think Why again do I bother?
Yep, happened to me almost six years ago.
I no longer bother at all.
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| 6/23/2016 7:39:01 AM |
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grande_mamon
Sacramento, CA
35, joined Sep. 2014
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Do you ever just get had enough of being rejected, betrayed, lied to, used and think Why again do I bother?
Yes but then my willy says "He mothefinger! go find me a p*ssy to poke" and being a sheep I do as I'm told.
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| 6/23/2016 9:08:09 AM |
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purdibirdd
Nice
France
72, joined Aug. 2014
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Do you ever just get had enough of being rejected, betrayed, lied to, used and think Why again do I bother? Lol. Just recently I have come to the realization that I have become what I always despised in dating; someone who doesn't want to commit to anyone or anything. Idk how this happened but it didn't take long. Used to be in a world of flowers and butterflies where I wanted to commit straight away to any guy who came along lol.
I used to feel like this^ due to demographics. However, it's just the opposite for me now... I'm finally swimming in the ocean-- and there's so many fish to choose from. 
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| 6/23/2016 9:03:35 PM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Jan. 2016
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Yeah i am in weird demographics too lol
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| 6/23/2016 9:10:36 PM |
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the_israelite
Rio de JaneiroRio de Janeiro
Brazil
34, joined Apr. 2016
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Some women get an attitude about guys who only want a "friend with benefits." I'm certainly not saying that people should go that route, but can't people understand that some men are tired of being hurt or tire of wining and dining women just to be put into the friend zone without love?
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| 6/23/2016 9:12:42 PM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Jan. 2016
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If they arent tactful and skilled at it yeah they will be friendzoned
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| 6/23/2016 9:22:39 PM |
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the_israelite
Rio de JaneiroRio de Janeiro
Brazil
34, joined Apr. 2016
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Well, I have always had the idea that man should at least pay for first dates, so that is what I do. But when you do that enough with them not turning into second dates for "lack of chemistry" or whatever, it gets old, really fast. Not only due to disappointment in itself, but due to having lighter pockets. So what is a man supposed to do?
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| 6/23/2016 9:27:31 PM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Jan. 2016
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Get to know them before that through texting so theres more of a chance they will like you when you meet 
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| 6/23/2016 9:28:17 PM |
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miss_trsh1
Mount Pleasant, MI
47, joined Sep. 2014
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Get to know them before that through texting so theres more of a chance they will like you when you meet 
how about not meeting over dinner/drinks
but maybe for lunch or coffee instead?
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| 6/23/2016 9:35:02 PM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Jan. 2016
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I meet them in the forest then eat them for dinner  lol jk
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| 6/27/2016 7:12:06 AM |
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testsignup
Springfield, VA
62, joined Sep. 2009
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Do you ever just get had enough of being rejected, betrayed, lied to, used and think Why again do I bother? Lol. Just recently I have come to the realization that I have become what I always despised in dating; someone who doesn't want to commit to anyone or anything. Idk how this happened but it didn't take long. Used to be in a world of flowers and butterflies where I wanted to commit straight away to any guy who came along lol.
Absolutely. It took me a long time, but I did finally figure out that when I or anyone else does this, they really are NOT "giving up on dating and relationships," as they think they are. Instead, they are reacting to understanding that the immediate games-in-progress, are all rigged, and they withdraw from the playing field, to search for NON-rigged games. So to speak.
It's a little bit of the "I'm taking my ball and going home" thing.
Since most of us who do that, really DO still want what we wanted to begin with, i.e. a REAL love relationship with a reliable and trustworthy mate, we will return again, once we regroup, put a few corrective protections from players into place, and then eventually come back and try again.
Perfectly logical strategy.
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| 6/27/2016 7:16:01 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Jan. 2016
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Pretty good post but the game rules of relationships still aren't appealing.
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| 6/27/2016 7:48:24 AM |
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testsignup
Springfield, VA
62, joined Sep. 2009
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I agree. The key is, to participate without playing. It takes a while to figure out how to do that, for each person, but since you are so forthright in expressing yourself, you have the primary basic skill in place.
As soon as you think someone is "gaming," you can call them on it. I would suggest NOT doing that in a hostile or aggressive manner, since most people (especially younger) genuinely think they are SUPPOSED TO play games. Offer the person a graceful chance to switch to honesty and directness.
Just a suggestion. But yes, the games aspect is probably the MOST enervating part of mate hunting.
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| 6/27/2016 9:39:16 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Jan. 2016
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Thanks. I just mean I like being single because I can see and do what I want and who I want. A relationship puts restraints on that freedom, as you said before. I get bored with guys quickly and enjoy talking to many so that really doesnt fit with a relationship
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| 6/27/2016 9:46:20 AM |
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the_israelite
Rio de JaneiroRio de Janeiro
Brazil
34, joined Apr. 2016
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testsignup, seems like a pretty smart guy.
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| 6/27/2016 9:47:50 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Jan. 2016
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Yeah he is. God I drank my banana milk too fast lol
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| 6/27/2016 10:04:33 AM |
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mr_zipzip
New York, NY
32, joined May. 2014
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Do you ever just get had enough of being rejected, betrayed, lied to, used and think Why again do I bother? Lol. Just recently I have come to the realization that I have become what I always despised in dating; someone who doesn't want to commit to anyone or anything. Idk how this happened but it didn't take long. Used to be in a world of flowers and butterflies where I wanted to commit straight away to any guy who came along lol.
I'm with ya, I have no romantic love in me whatsoever at this point.
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| 6/27/2016 10:11:59 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Jan. 2016
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I have romantic love but I also find entertainment talking to others and dont want to be chained down to one person lol
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| 6/27/2016 11:17:15 AM |
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sddnly_snoozin
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
42, joined Mar. 2016
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Do you ever just get had enough of being rejected, betrayed, lied to, used and think
Of course. I get sick of my boss at times too. So I have vacation time.
Why again do I bother? Lol
Yeah, but....
Just recently I have come to the realization that I have become what I always despised in dating; someone who doesn't want to commit to anyone or anything.
Oh no that isn't good.
Idk how this happened but it didn't take long.
I'm going to take a wild guess to what happened. The rejection, betrayal and lies.
sed to be in a world of flowers and butterflies
Still is with the right guy. Who doesn't reject you, betray you or lie to you.
where I wanted to commit straight away to any guy who came along lol.
Give it time 
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| 6/27/2016 8:04:16 PM |
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greeleybro
Longmont, CO
48, joined Oct. 2013
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Not many girls are gamers period. Let alone my age lol. Not to mention if they did game there is no gaurantee they play the games I play. Anyways Im cooling off on the gaming a bit. I was seriously addicted lol Need to get out and do other stuff. I seriously would be lucky ifI left the house 1 time in a month and Id stay awake for days only to go to sleep and basically sleep for days. Had enough of it ;p
Soooooo u don't work???
So mom and dad.pay your bills???
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| 6/27/2016 8:51:36 PM |
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micheleisgreat
Pittsburgh, PA
53, joined Nov. 2013
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Well, I have always had the idea that man should at least pay for first dates, so that is what I do. But when you do that enough with them not turning into second dates for "lack of chemistry" or whatever, it gets old, really fast. Not only due to disappointment in itself, but due to having lighter pockets. So what is a man supposed to do?
Try talking to them over the phone for a while before going on dates. Get to know them first. Then, try dates that don't cost much. Go for a ride in the country, ice cream, walks in the park, fishing, museums, fairs, etc.
Dinner and a movie is overrated and boring!
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| 6/27/2016 10:26:31 PM |
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the_israelite
Rio de JaneiroRio de Janeiro
Brazil
34, joined Apr. 2016
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Talking on the phone first might not be a bad idea. I am kind of phone shy when it comes to talking to women (and have been that way since probably middle school or high school), so I typically communicate via text until a first date.
But maybe talking on the phone can either make things more comfortable or weed people out.
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| 6/27/2016 10:55:52 PM |
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rubyrose2015
Seagrove, NC
29, joined Sep. 2015
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Do you ever just get had enough of being rejected, betrayed, lied to, used and think Why again do I bother? Lol. Just recently I have come to the realization that I have become what I always despised in dating; someone who doesn't want to commit to anyone or anything. Idk how this happened but it didn't take long. Used to be in a world of flowers and butterflies where I wanted to commit straight away to any guy who came along lol.
I agree~!
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| 6/27/2016 11:05:38 PM |
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sancho____
Jalisco
Mexico
34, joined Jun. 2014
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Didn't read
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| 6/28/2016 12:51:19 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Jan. 2016
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Why post if you are not going to make some kind of contribution 
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| 6/28/2016 1:09:04 AM |
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digital_knight
Grand Rapids, MI
44, joined Nov. 2012
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Talking on the phone first might not be a bad idea. I am kind of phone shy when it comes to talking to women (and have been that way since probably middle school or high school), so I typically communicate via text until a first date.
But maybe talking on the phone can either make things more comfortable or weed people out.
Hmm I used to be that way and what change me was getting a drunk and call a girl on the phone  . Only thing bad was I didnt remember what I had said but the girls kept talking to me after that tho.
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| 6/28/2016 1:22:40 AM |
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the_israelite
Rio de JaneiroRio de Janeiro
Brazil
34, joined Apr. 2016
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Yeah, I suppose liquid confidence can be a wonderful thing (at times). 
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| 6/28/2016 1:24:45 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Jan. 2016
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lol guys xD
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| 6/28/2016 1:39:04 AM |
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the_israelite
Rio de JaneiroRio de Janeiro
Brazil
34, joined Apr. 2016
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Me and sadlsticsienna lol
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