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belizeanblist
North Las Vegas, NV
27, joined Feb. 2013
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I finally got my life together , met the love of my life and got married now we're expecting our first child ! Now , I need some advice on how to get my husband to understand my sensitivity towards almost everything .
How did you men handle your s/o emotions during their pregnancy ?
How did you ladies get through your emotions ?
How did you guys balance out around this time ?
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8/7/2016 5:20:58 PM |
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chairman_drth
Toronto, ON
47, joined Dec. 2015
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sensitivity towards almost anything?
what does that even mean?
Perhaps he may not be as sensitive or forgiving if his pregnant wife is on the forums on a dating site?
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8/7/2016 5:29:50 PM |
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belizeanblist
North Las Vegas, NV
27, joined Feb. 2013
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sensitivity towards almost anything?
what does that even mean?
Perhaps he may not be as sensitive or forgiving if his pregnant wife is on the forums on a dating site?
That means almost anything shifts my mood and he knows this , I've been here for years . Nothing new and nothing inappropriate since there are many married couples here for forums only .
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8/7/2016 5:33:47 PM |
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houston_rocker
Houston, TX
47, joined Aug. 2014
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Your s/o needs to suck it up for the family good. Not only own his half but pick up another part of your half to support you.
You should make sure he understands the cliffs you are throwing him off of and ask forgiveness as this will happen kind of thing.
He accepts the challenge and you found your equal or he cowers out.
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8/7/2016 5:38:32 PM |
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my2sunshine
Pulaski, NY
51, joined Apr. 2013
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I didn't have swinging emotional issues. Maybe you should see a doctor or get back on your medication you stopped taking!
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8/7/2016 5:50:26 PM |
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belizeanblist
North Las Vegas, NV
27, joined Feb. 2013
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I didn't have swinging emotional issues. Maybe you should see a doctor or get back on your medication you stopped taking!
I was never on meds and every pregnancy is different .
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8/7/2016 6:24:15 PM |
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digital_knight
Grand Rapids, MI
45, joined Nov. 2012
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I hate to mention this person but look up Sheraseven1 on YouTube she may have some answers you seek
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8/7/2016 8:18:03 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
52, joined Jul. 2013
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Belize, Congrats
Could be cause your'e pregnant, it is common to be over sensitive during pregnancy and normal
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8/7/2016 9:05:11 PM |
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belizeanblist
North Las Vegas, NV
27, joined Feb. 2013
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Belize, Congrats
Could be cause your'e pregnant, it is common to be over sensitive during pregnancy and normal
Thank you and yes , it's definitely the pregnancy because before hand I had a tough skin .
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8/7/2016 9:21:43 PM |
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thekinghasrisen
San Diego, CA
33, joined Nov. 2013
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I finally got my life together , met the love of my life and got married now we're expecting our first child ! Now , I need some advice on how to get my husband to understand my sensitivity towards almost everything .
How did you men handle your s/o emotions during their pregnancy ?
How did you ladies get through your emotions ?
How did you guys balance out around this time ?
First off, congratulations on your marriage. That is a very good and oddly fleeting thing in today's society.
That being said, no two men handle a woman's sensitivity the same. Admittedly, a man who is more in touch with his feminine side will do better, particularly if the pregnancy was 'planned by both of you'.
If this is the man's first child, than he's actually going through quite a bit himself. He's going to be a father, and that creates a wide range of emotions that he has to contend with in addition to your emotions. The best thing that I can recommend (and probably the hardest) is the strengthen the lines of communication. It's alright to sit him down and just 'talk' about what is about to happen in your lives. Children come with a great deal of uncertainty. The marriage just got more serious, your lives just got more serious, and the world around you just got more serious. I promise that there is enough emotions to go around.
My only recommendation is that you share them effectively. This journey will take both of you.
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8/7/2016 11:35:52 PM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
52, joined Jul. 2014
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love comes softly..and is kind.
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8/7/2016 11:43:57 PM |
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sddnly_snoozin
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
43, joined Mar. 2016
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I agree you should share how you both feel.
Hopefully, you will be able to support each other.
Your body has just also had an influx of hormones so don't be so hard on yourself.
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8/7/2016 11:54:21 PM |
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brandycool1
Syracuse, NY
47, joined Jun. 2013
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Whilst pregnant any medical professional can tell you, and your husband, that large growth/ fluctuations in hormones can cause that. It's nothing to worry about.
Have your husband read about the changes and the massive strain that pregnancy puts on a woman's body, or have your OB explain. That might help.
Some women have more trouble than others. My friend was like a peasant and sailed through pregnancy and delivery. The baby practically crawled out.
I was terribly Ill with low blood pressure, weight loss, constant vomiting my entire pregnancy, two surgeries to keep the twins in, kept going into labor, and got tearing and a broken tailbone from a four pound and a five pound baby. I have no health problems, am educated, and was daily physically active...so you never know.
I'd ignore any b*tchy comments if I were you.
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8/8/2016 12:11:56 AM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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Never made anyone pregnant not that I ever had the opportunity.
I guess I'd just keep more to myself since she's so busy concentrating on her stuff that she has no time for me anyhow. This is HER time, not mine. The guy is just there to pay the bills and take her shit. She'll just blame her pregnancy and hormones if you argue so it is pointless to begin.
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8/8/2016 12:17:43 AM |
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brandycool1
Syracuse, NY
47, joined Jun. 2013
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Driver, a loving and emotionally supportive man makes all the difference. Men actually are important....I'm sorry you feel that way.
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8/8/2016 2:44:49 AM |
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sddnly_snoozin
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
43, joined Mar. 2016
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Never made anyone pregnant not that I ever had the opportunity.
I guess I'd just keep more to myself since she's so busy concentrating on her stuff that she has no time for me anyhow. This is HER time, not mine. The guy is just there to pay the bills and take her shit. She'll just blame her pregnancy and hormones if you argue so it is pointless to begin.
Driver it is a time for you both. It's a beautiful experience when shared , brings you closer together.
The leaving her to her time is shutting yourself out and her and that makes it a lonely time for you both.
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8/8/2016 3:25:44 AM |
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Mercedes_02
AƱatuyaAƱatuya
Australia
102, joined Dec. 2014
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Are you telling me you married a bloke who hasn't
a clue about your emotions?
He sound's like an insensitive prick to me.
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8/8/2016 6:56:41 PM |
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belizeanblist
North Las Vegas, NV
27, joined Feb. 2013
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First off, congratulations on your marriage. That is a very good and oddly fleeting thing in today's society.
That being said, no two men handle a woman's sensitivity the same. Admittedly, a man who is more in touch with his feminine side will do better, particularly if the pregnancy was 'planned by both of you'.
If this is the man's first child, than he's actually going through quite a bit himself. He's going to be a father, and that creates a wide range of emotions that he has to contend with in addition to your emotions. The best thing that I can recommend (and probably the hardest) is the strengthen the lines of communication. It's alright to sit him down and just 'talk' about what is about to happen in your lives. Children come with a great deal of uncertainty. The marriage just got more serious, your lives just got more serious, and the world around you just got more serious. I promise that there is enough emotions to go around.
My only recommendation is that you share them effectively. This journey will take both of you.
Thank you so much , this is awesome advice .
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8/8/2016 7:37:59 PM |
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lightbrownie1
Johnston, IA
49, joined Feb. 2016
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Congratulations
First, if your in your first trimester, more than likely your sensitivity will get better.
As far as your husband, he's going through some things too..without the actual hormones, so understand that when he sees you and the baby doing well, he'll come around and before you know it you'll both will start enjoying the coming of your baby.
Once your sensitivity starts disappearing, he will start doing better.
Then you'll be like...now your showing it
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8/8/2016 10:29:16 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
59, joined May. 2009
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Congratulations!
You're in your first trimester? Hopefully, most of your sensitivities will disappear once you start your second trimester. For the most part, that happened for me, though smells drove me crazy my whole pregnancy. I could smell milk about to go sour 4 blocks away. There were places I could not go because the smells were overwhelming. There were tastes I couldn't handle.
My husband had been through the pregnancy thing with his former wife so he was pretty good about realizing how things might affect me and he was incredibly supportive and helpful and would run out and get me whatever I was craving, or rub my feet, or my back, and all that. He pretty much went to all my appointments with me, too.
I know there were times when I wasn't as sweet and loving as I could be and he never rose to the bait, so to speak. He just understood how it was. I had a high risk pregnancy and we both worried about it the whole time I was pregnant.
If this is your husband's first, he's going to be just as anxious and excited and worried and happy as you. He's going to have thoughts about becoming a family and the extra responsibilities that adds to the relationship. He's thinking about what a daddy is just as much as you're thinking about what a mommy is and how you're both going to be at it.
So cut him some slack, too, and talk with him. He might not realize just what is going on in your body what with all the hormones and the life growing within you. Maybe his only experience is what his mother has told him, or watching how his sister was, or something along those lines, and all pregnancies are different. He might not really get that, yet.
Has he been to any appointments yet? Your doctor can probably help him understand how your body is changing and how growing a baby can affect a woman.
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8/8/2016 11:55:08 PM |
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belizeanblist
North Las Vegas, NV
27, joined Feb. 2013
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Congratulations!
You're in your first trimester? Hopefully, most of your sensitivities will disappear once you start your second trimester. For the most part, that happened for me, though smells drove me crazy my whole pregnancy. I could smell milk about to go sour 4 blocks away. There were places I could not go because the smells were overwhelming. There were tastes I couldn't handle.
My husband had been through the pregnancy thing with his former wife so he was pretty good about realizing how things might affect me and he was incredibly supportive and helpful and would run out and get me whatever I was craving, or rub my feet, or my back, and all that. He pretty much went to all my appointments with me, too.
I know there were times when I wasn't as sweet and loving as I could be and he never rose to the bait, so to speak. He just understood how it was. I had a high risk pregnancy and we both worried about it the whole time I was pregnant.
If this is your husband's first, he's going to be just as anxious and excited and worried and happy as you. He's going to have thoughts about becoming a family and the extra responsibilities that adds to the relationship. He's thinking about what a daddy is just as much as you're thinking about what a mommy is and how you're both going to be at it.
So cut him some slack, too, and talk with him. He might not realize just what is going on in your body what with all the hormones and the life growing within you. Maybe his only experience is what his mother has told him, or watching how his sister was, or something along those lines, and all pregnancies are different. He might not really get that, yet.
Has he been to any appointments yet? Your doctor can probably help him understand how your body is changing and how growing a baby can affect a woman.
Thank you ! It is both our first for everything including marriage . Yes , I'm currently 5 weeks but I don't see a doctor til next week so we haven't been to any appointments and when I found out I was at the hospital for some abnormal bleeding but he was at work so nothing was explained to him . I try to understand but I get so emtional at the simplest things that I can't even explain myself why it's bothering me .
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8/9/2016 6:10:39 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
62, joined Apr. 2011
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If you have to ask these questions: then you haven't got your life together after all.
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8/9/2016 7:15:56 AM |
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grande_mamon
Houston, TX
50, joined Sep. 2014
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I finally got my life together , met the love of my life and got married now we're expecting our first child ! Now , I need some advice on how to get my husband to understand my sensitivity towards almost everything
Erm...probably something you should have figured BEFORE getting married and pregnant
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8/9/2016 8:13:28 AM |
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apokernut
Elk Grove Village, IL
55, joined Jan. 2008
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You married the wrong guy!
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8/9/2016 10:24:52 AM |
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belizeanblist
North Las Vegas, NV
27, joined Feb. 2013
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I'm just trying to get advice and life experiences from other people , that doesn't mean I'm completely cluless .
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8/9/2016 10:26:32 AM |
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grande_mamon
Houston, TX
50, joined Sep. 2014
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I'm just trying to get advice and life experiences from other people , that doesn't mean I'm completely cluless .
Advice, before your next marriage (and there will be more ) make sure all these questions are answered BEFORE you say yes.
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8/9/2016 10:30:44 AM |
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digital_knight
Grand Rapids, MI
45, joined Nov. 2012
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I think you moved a little too fast @bel .
It wasn't that long ago you went out on date with a guy that didn't have car .
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8/9/2016 2:18:15 PM |
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belizeanblist
North Las Vegas, NV
27, joined Feb. 2013
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I think you moved a little too fast @bel .
It wasn't that long ago you went out on date with a guy that didn't have car .
That was over a year or 2 ago...
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8/12/2016 9:48:05 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
59, joined May. 2009
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Thank you ! It is both our first for everything including marriage . Yes , I'm currently 5 weeks but I don't see a doctor til next week so we haven't been to any appointments and when I found out I was at the hospital for some abnormal bleeding but he was at work so nothing was explained to him . I try to understand but I get so emtional at the simplest things that I can't even explain myself why it's bothering me .
Oh my. The emotional thing? It's gonna happen throughout most of your pregnancy. Stupid things will make you cry, and you won't even know why. Other things will piss you off, and again, you won't know why. Still other things will make you feel absolutely awed, and you won't know why. Mostly, though, with all the emotions you'll feel, crying is probably going to be the biggest one. You'll tear up at the littlest things. You won't always be able to explain it to your husband. He'll just have to take it in stride.
Wait 'til you first hear your baby's heartbeat, or feel him or her moving inside you. You'll cry because it's just so amazing.
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8/12/2016 10:03:46 PM |
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ivaiva
Goleta, CA
49, joined Oct. 2007
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Now , I need some advice on how to get my husband to understand my sensitivity towards almost everything .
You can't make him, he will either understand or not depending on his feelings towards you.
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8/12/2016 10:55:33 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
59, joined May. 2009
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His feelings about the whole thing, don't you think?
Besides, it's really early in her pregnancy, and he needs time to adjust to the new future you both have. You both do. I'm assuming you weren't planning on getting pregnant right now?
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8/12/2016 10:59:02 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
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8/13/2016 11:54:13 PM |
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cubcougar
Lucerne, CA
64, joined Oct. 2010
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You married the wrong guy!
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