| 8/16/2016 12:14:17 PM |
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soflwill
Durham, NC
57, joined Jan. 2012
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I know that there are a lot of problems with on line dating but one that seems to be a reoccurring theme with me is a lack of commonality. Even when there seems to be some similar interest without having some real life connections there tends to be little common ground.
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| 8/16/2016 12:15:57 PM |
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countryladypoet
Clarion, PA
50, joined Dec. 2012
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distance seems to be my issues
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| 8/16/2016 12:16:26 PM |
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brandycool1
Syracuse, NY
46, joined Jun. 2013
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I don't think it's much different than meeting/dating in rl, unless you're just talking online forever.
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| 8/16/2016 12:18:28 PM |
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grande_mamon
Houston, TX
50, joined Sep. 2014
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I know that there are a lot of problems with on line dating but one that seems to be a reoccurring theme with me is a lack of commonality. Even when there seems to be some similar interest without having some real life connections there tends to be little common ground.
Maybe try the gay dating sites if you're looking for someone the same as you with the same equipment.
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| 8/16/2016 12:20:13 PM |
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Albachiara
BadraoMilan
Italy
44, joined Jun. 2016
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I know that there are a lot of problems with on line dating but one that seems to be a reoccurring theme with me is a lack of commonality. Even when there seems to be some similar interest without having some real life connections there tends to be little common ground.
But you do feel attracted, right?
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| 8/16/2016 12:22:16 PM |
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playingindirt
Eugene, OR
61, joined Mar. 2014
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no not everybody wants to be a ballroom dancer.
just like not everybody likes my heavy metal music.
the best way to find out how compatible you are with someone is to meet them face to face and get to know them to find out.
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| 8/16/2016 12:28:22 PM |
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
55, joined Apr. 2014
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I don't think it's much different than meeting/dating in rl, unless you're just talking online forever.
Agreed. Being online doesn't change who people are and it's the people that matter, not the venue.
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| 8/16/2016 12:33:07 PM |
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archer513
Cincinnati, OH
44, joined Dec. 2014
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Online dating is like picking people out of a catalog.
It'd be cool if there were reviews like on Amazon.
"Didn't fit,sent it back"
"Doesn't look like pics"
"False advertising,it's really small"
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| 8/16/2016 12:33:57 PM |
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lurky_lurker
Norcross, GA
41, joined Feb. 2016
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When it doesn't result in free surf-n-turf or free coffee or a free round putt-putt
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| 8/16/2016 12:35:34 PM |
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
55, joined Apr. 2014
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Online dating is like picking people out of a catalog.
It'd be cool if there were reviews like on Amazon.
"Didn't fit,sent it back"
"Doesn't look like pics"
"False advertising,it's really small"
 so I've heard. Personally, I only had a problem like that once.
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| 8/16/2016 12:54:24 PM |
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mortara
Pittsburgh, PA
64, joined Feb. 2014
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I know that there are a lot of problems with on line dating but one that seems to be a reoccurring theme with me is a lack of commonality. Even when there seems to be some similar interest without having some real life connections there tends to be little common ground.
If you watch the TV show catfish, you can see words mean nothing until the rubber meets the road in meeting. You can tell each other you are in love with each other for years and it really doesn't matter. The best is meeting within 48 hours of the first email message. Some people now have the rule. Meet me in 48 hours or be blocked.
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| 8/16/2016 1:05:36 PM |
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Albachiara
BadraoMilan
Italy
44, joined Jun. 2016
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48 hours seems a pretty short time. You have ti give it sometime to see if there is any connection, attraction or curiosity about the other person. Otherwise if you hae to meet within 48 hours with everybody that contacts you it becomes a job.
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| 8/16/2016 1:10:37 PM |
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stl1
Saint Louis, MO
63, joined Jun. 2007
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The problems with dating on-line are whether to use monofilament or braided line and what lb. test line to use. It may require well over 200 lb. test line to fish in some of these waters.
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| 8/16/2016 1:12:22 PM |
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
55, joined Apr. 2014
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I was aways an advocate of meeting quickly. Never had a set time but in my experience, if we didn't meet within a week of initial contact, we likely never would. The back and forth msging would just just taper off to nothing.
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| 8/16/2016 1:25:00 PM |
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archer513
Cincinnati, OH
44, joined Dec. 2014
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Meeting fast 
I don't want to date you online. The online thing is a tool. Let's grab a beer or coffee and see what's up. Messaging back and forth for an extended period is nonsense.
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| 8/16/2016 1:29:29 PM |
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Albachiara
BadraoMilan
Italy
44, joined Jun. 2016
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I am not saying like for a long period but really, 48 hours? I am only saying that you need a certain "selection" frpm all those who might contact you.
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| 8/16/2016 1:30:01 PM |
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houston_rocker
Houston, TX
46, joined Aug. 2014
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| 8/16/2016 2:17:52 PM |
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mortara
Pittsburgh, PA
64, joined Feb. 2014
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48 hours seems a pretty short time. You have ti give it sometime to see if there is any connection, attraction or curiosity about the other person. Otherwise if you hae to meet within 48 hours with everybody that contacts you it becomes a job.
Well a very bossy Chinese lady wanted to meet within 48 hours. Actually it was the second day of the first message. She informed me she would be at the Starbucks around 1pm and we can meet there. Problem was, I got the message around 8am that morning.
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| 8/16/2016 7:59:50 PM |
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ol39er
Cicero, IL
45, joined Jul. 2011
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There is a lot of bitterness, delusional thinking, excessively high expectations, and no shortage of crazies.
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| 8/16/2016 8:26:56 PM |
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Albachiara
BadraoMilan
Italy
44, joined Jun. 2016
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Well a very bossy Chinese lady wanted to meet within 48 hours. Actually it was the second day of the first message. She informed me she would be at the Starbucks around 1pm and we can meet there. Problem was, I got the message around 8am that morning.
You see? Give it some time. At least you can read the msg.
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| 8/16/2016 8:28:09 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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That's exactly the problem, OPie. It's nice to get that  date over so you know if you want to do a real date or run as fast as you can.
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| 8/16/2016 8:29:17 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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There is a lot of bitterness, delusional thinking, excessively high expectations, and no shortage of crazies.
LOTS of crazies, but I routinely keep my expectations lower than humanly possible.
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| 8/16/2016 8:33:06 PM |
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bruce_2014
Dothan, AL
60, joined Jan. 2014
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A lot of loser women who do the online thing subconsciously know they aren’t going to get laid by the man of their dreams, so they throw all reason and sobriety to the wind and just go hog wild laundry listing their fantasy criteria. For these women (admittedly greater in number now than every before in Western history), it’s more about ego catharsis than about actually meeting a man. ASCII therapy with a public audience of like-minded Medusas one-upping each other to the top of the entitlement heap.
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| 8/16/2016 8:41:13 PM |
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M4mischief
Grand Prairie, TX
99, joined May. 2016
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You could end up dating one of your alts if you have so many you forget the names....
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| 8/16/2016 8:43:01 PM |
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barrydalmi
Belleville, IL
54, joined Dec. 2007
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Good luck. Try to remain the genuine you and just use the online aspect as the tool to "search" and find people that interest you. Once you are okay with meeting them, meet and live real life.
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| 8/16/2016 8:58:51 PM |
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
55, joined Apr. 2014
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There is a lot of bitterness, delusional thinking, excessively high expectations, and no shortage of crazies.
Like I said..pretty much the same.
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| 8/16/2016 9:04:34 PM |
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
55, joined Apr. 2014
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You could end up dating one of your alts if you have so many you forget the names....
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| 8/16/2016 9:23:32 PM |
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mustangwriter
Boerne, TX
56, joined Nov. 2009
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I went thru the whole online dating thing.
Heck, that was the primary reason for joining this site 6 years ago.
Then I got caught in the web of forums and free real time entertainment.
But I digress....
The problems with online dating is you can't kiss 'em when ya wanna (not to mention WHERE ya wanna)
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| 8/16/2016 10:46:24 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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How much time you got?
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| 8/17/2016 1:09:18 AM |
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frozenheat
Farmington, NM
50, joined Mar. 2014
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The biggest problem for me is distance. How do you meet so quickly if you are long distance? If I could work that out, I might actually have someone...
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| 8/17/2016 1:34:41 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
36, joined Mar. 2013
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There is a lot of bitterness, delusional thinking, excessively high expectations, and no shortage of crazies.
You spelled "Single Mothers" wrong......
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| 8/17/2016 2:40:32 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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I know that there are a lot of problems with on line dating but one that seems to be a reoccurring theme with me is a lack of commonality. Even when there seems to be some similar interest without having some real life connections there tends to be little common ground.
Online dating is all about picking the best looking person. If you do not meet someones standards of good looking, you can have all the commonality in the world and it will not mean a thing.
So many want instant gratification from online, that they will not take the time to really get to know someone.
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| 8/17/2016 10:27:33 AM |
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soflwill
Durham, NC
57, joined Jan. 2012
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In real life for me anyway is you have interactions with people for a period of time and get to know them and then move to the dating and other aspects. I have a lot of women on line contact me and say they like to dance but it turns out that they are at a novice level of dancing and really don't know much about it and to go out dancing with them becomes a job of teaching them how to dance. I tend to meet 2-3 women a month for lunch or dinner but there never seems to be a real connection with them. Not talking lust or attraction because I think the majority of women are attractive in their own right, but the kind of thing where you think I really like this person.
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| 8/17/2016 10:28:44 AM |
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grande_mamon
Houston, TX
50, joined Sep. 2014
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In real life for me anyway is you have interactions with people for a period of time and get to know them and then move to the dating and other aspects. I have a lot of women on line contact me and say they like to dance but it turns out that they are at a novice level of dancing and really don't know much about it and to go out dancing with them becomes a job of teaching them how to dance. I tend to meet 2-3 women a month for lunch or dinner but there never seems to be a real connection with them. Not talking lust or attraction because I think the majority of women are attractive in their own right, but the kind of thing where you think I really like this person.
As I was saying...
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| 8/17/2016 10:30:08 AM |
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purdibirdd
Fort Collins, CO
52, joined Aug. 2014
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You spelled "Single Mothers" wrong......
 
oh, staaapit!!
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| 8/17/2016 10:30:49 AM |
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celyn67
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Jan. 2016
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You could end up dating one of your alts if you have so many you forget the names....
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| 8/17/2016 10:36:48 AM |
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sir_hugo_drax
Greenville, SC
24, joined Apr. 2014
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No Frat parties!
You never really know a woman until you've seen her chug 4 beers through an oil spout...
 
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| 8/17/2016 11:09:01 AM |
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amusicluvr
Salem, OR
65, joined Nov. 2013
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Online dating is best for finding commonality....and quickly...IF you use it properly. You CAN screen thousands...tens of thousands...or potential dates / mates in a matter of days / weeks, and so find someone who has: common interests, common goals, common attitudes, etc. If you are a stay at home who prefers watching TV, you can skip over all of those who love to go out and attend concerts, hike mountain trails, etc, and so find someone who is recreationally compatible with you. You can screen for: religious, political, educational, allergy, diet, etc, compatibilities, and so screen out un-suitables quickly. If you do NOT do so, the fault is YOURS...not online dating's. Once you find a suitably compatible person, THEN you can make contact, do some distance wooing via email, messages, phone calls, etc, and see what develops. Keep doing it all, over and over, until you find a compatible person worth meeting, and then meet in person, and take it from there.
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| 8/17/2016 11:18:09 AM |
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amusicluvr
Salem, OR
65, joined Nov. 2013
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The biggest problem for me is distance. How do you meet so quickly if you are long distance? If I could work that out, I might actually have someone...
You should not meet quickly...whether you live a thousand miles apart, or across the street from one another. Spend a few weeks to months getting acquainted by messages, emails, phone calls, etc, to test the waters, and see how their daily speech, etc, matches their profile, site forum postings, etc. If they claim to be an English Professor at a prestigious university, but mis-spell every third word, you know they are BS-ing you, and you should NOT meet them face to face. If they claim that they have no children, in one message, and then back out of a face to face meeting by saying they have to attend their daughter's birthday party, you know better than to arrange another meeting appointment. People who lie often usually forget which lies they told to which people, and they eventually screw up and reveal themselves...IF you give them a chance to do so...by communicating with them often...by phone, email, and such.
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| 8/17/2016 2:11:48 PM |
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acdmv
Binghamton, NY
49, joined Aug. 2014
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I know that there are a lot of problems with on line dating but one that seems to be a reoccurring theme with me is a lack of commonality. Even when there seems to be some similar interest without having some real life connections there tends to be little common ground.
Not a bad thing...Not getting a connection means the person is being honest with him/herself, and not settling for whatever comes close......or just comes along.
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| 8/17/2016 2:57:09 PM |
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tourette_tranny
Ocala, FL
97, joined Dec. 2014
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My biggest problem is my 80s mullet and my alcohol and drug abuse
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| 8/17/2016 3:44:05 PM |
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jake_is_fake
Avenel, NJ
79, joined Jun. 2015
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^^ and true
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| 8/17/2016 3:59:19 PM |
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doublecaring
Droichead Nua
Ireland
49, joined Aug. 2015
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Haven't a problem with online dating . I don't do it.
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| 8/17/2016 9:20:53 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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Disconnection
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| 8/18/2016 11:56:55 AM |
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bruce_2014
Dothan, AL
60, joined Jan. 2014
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A lot of loser women who do the online thing subconsciously know they aren’t going to get laid by the man of their dreams, so they throw all reason and sobriety to the wind and just go hog wild laundry listing their fantasy criteria.
For these women (admittedly greater in number now than every before in Western history), it’s more about getting their ego stroked than about actually meeting a man.
Forum therapy with a public audience of like-minded Medusa's one-upping each other to the top of the entitlement heap.
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| 8/18/2016 1:10:39 PM |
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iam_resurrected
Reno, NV
46, joined Jul. 2014
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you have to be a place in your life to where online dating can even apply.
that includes keeping in constant contact and finding ways to meet.
it is a lot of work and generally you have to be in the right time and moment for it to work.
ultimately, for it to work one has to be willing to move.
just a lot of hassle.
these forums are great to chat and bounce ideas around.
but online dating is for people who are just in that moment.
you either are or not.
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| 8/18/2016 6:28:28 PM |
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rainydaze48
Columbus, OH
52, joined Jun. 2015
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Relationships seem to be technology based today...online dating is a great way to meet people as long as you keep if local.
Maybe a fairytale romance could happen where distance has no boundaries 
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| 8/18/2016 11:40:09 PM |
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tourette_tranny
Ocala, FL
97, joined Dec. 2014
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I loved alcohol and cocaine and heroin while my kiddos starved and were abused and abandoned. I have no remorse for what i did to them
I am a selfish fat ugly evil lonely old woman
I get drunk and high every day to take the edge off my misery
I will die alone soon and no- one will even notice or care
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| 8/19/2016 3:32:04 AM |
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hottieinnw12
Bellingham, WA
28, joined Dec. 2012
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Well for starters - you can be whoever you want to be online. You can lied and mislead people. Then there is the distance issue. As well as being completely compatible with someone online only to realize it's the opposite in person.
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| 8/19/2016 3:35:48 AM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
52, joined Jul. 2014
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some are nice an truthful,i have dated some nice local ones off here..you must communicate with an audible voice though,an show yourself to be friendly,both parties.i stopped being shy way many years ago.thanx to my wife i had,an being a lead guitar player that people like the way i play an unbore them......
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