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dejavugirl
Miami, FL
42, joined Feb. 2013
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Hi DHers.
I have a topic for you to discuss.
First: You meet and greet...You don't look at any red flag because you want to have a good time and you click nicely with your datemate.
Second: You decide to keep seeing that person because you liked his/her company a lot and you have a.lot of chemistry throughout your dates and when you get physical and every time you see him/her is satisfactory for you. Like never before....
Third: What do you do next? It's time to b exclusive, go to the next level, get serious, etc.
You keep her/him in the shadows because you don't want to commit.
You say you met her/him from a friend because just to say 'Datehookup' people would b judging you. Or you just lie and say I met her/him from a decent dating site. Lol
You try your best to enjoy the relationship and face your family and friends because at the end of the day is your life not theirs.
You just stay like let's see how it goes...if he/she is the one I'll get exclusive and maybe...maybe marry her/him.
Share your thoughts on how you develop a relationship out a successful date from 'Datehookup'
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| 1/2/2017 10:06:49 PM |
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_Flapjack_
Bloomingdale, GA
50, joined Sep. 2016
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I wondered what happened to you, you met a lucky guy?
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| 1/2/2017 10:10:11 PM |
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Mercedes_3
New South Wales
Australia
90, joined Jun. 2016
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First of all why after the third date do woman have this thing about getting all exclusive?
Second of all there is no way in hell I would root by the tenth date let alone the
bloody second or third date.
Third of all if you spread em it doesn't make you exclusive in their eye's
so I suggest you keep em closed.
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| 1/2/2017 10:12:36 PM |
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bluecougareyes
Chelan, WA
73, joined Nov. 2008
online now!
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You try your best to enjoy the relationship and face your family
and friends because at the end of the day is your life not theirs.
  
It's your life not theirs...
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| 1/2/2017 10:12:38 PM |
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_Flapjack_
Bloomingdale, GA
50, joined Sep. 2016
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To root or not to root...
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| 1/2/2017 10:16:38 PM |
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killerbugs53
Palo Cedro, CA
53, joined Oct. 2016
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Candy doesn't work,I tried..these women are spoiled in here. ...jk..... seriously, honesty is the best action.if he or her doesn't want a committed relationship,or marriage down the road they should be up front about it.....I do know people that are in a relationship he has his place and she has hers,it works for some,some people like their privacy and space sometimes, where they don't feel like they're being smothered. But for as it goes for anybody else other then you and him,it's nobody's else's business.do what makes you feel good ,after all you only live once, so why not be happy.
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| 1/2/2017 10:25:11 PM |
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dejavugirl
Miami, FL
42, joined Feb. 2013
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First of all why after the third date do woman have this thing about getting all exclusive?
Second of all there is no way in hell I would root by the tenth date let alone the
bloody second or third date.
Third of all if you spread em it doesn't make you exclusive in their eye's
so I suggest you keep em closed.
Dear Mercedes this topic is about how embarrassing can be when you want to develop a relationship from a dating site like this...
Most of the users here don't line to commit due to the variety of possible dates they can get out of this Site...jealousy...insecurities, a lot of mixed feelings come out.
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| 1/2/2017 10:57:37 PM |
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M4mischief
Grand Prairie, TX
99, joined May. 2016
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Mehhhhh I don't care if people know where we met...the main thing is we're happy together and will do things our way not as other people see fit...I think the worst thing you can do...deja is to develop a blue print of how you think things should develop rather than going with the flow....and good to see you back g/f....happy new year....  
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| 1/2/2017 11:01:29 PM |
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killerbugs53
Palo Cedro, CA
53, joined Oct. 2016
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| 1/2/2017 11:04:59 PM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
62, joined Apr. 2011
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""""""""""Share your thoughts on how you develop a relationship out a successful date from 'Datehookup'"""""""
My thoughts, at this time I wouldn't date anyone from DH.
So, there is no point in answering the rest.
But...My format is the same whether it was a person from here or where ever.
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| 1/2/2017 11:06:37 PM |
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mindya
Vancouver, BC
64, joined Jan. 2009
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I just go with the Flo...
Flo, are you out there??
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| 1/2/2017 11:07:30 PM |
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justmysay
Wichita, KS
46, joined Mar. 2009
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First off enjoy it if you met someone for "real" on here. Who cares where you met, hell yeah it worked for me (is what I'd say) and exclusive, well that is what I aim for and he'll know it from the get go. (and if that's not for him he can move the hell on) 
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| 1/2/2017 11:10:02 PM |
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M4mischief
Grand Prairie, TX
99, joined May. 2016
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I just go with the Flo...
Flo, are you out there??
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| 1/2/2017 11:10:08 PM |
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Mercedes_3
New South Wales
Australia
90, joined Jun. 2016
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mindya: I just go with the Flo...
Flo, are you out there??
Woman your age no longer have a flow
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| 1/2/2017 11:11:00 PM |
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Mercedes_3
New South Wales
Australia
90, joined Jun. 2016
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My sons have their own lives so where I meet my Mr Right it is my life.
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| 1/2/2017 11:20:58 PM |
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lurky_lurker
Norcross, GA
41, joined Feb. 2016
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I'd fib and say we met on www.Iputoutfordollarstoregifts.com
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| 1/2/2017 11:21:44 PM |
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killerbugs53
Palo Cedro, CA
53, joined Oct. 2016
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| 1/2/2017 11:26:02 PM |
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justmysay
Wichita, KS
46, joined Mar. 2009
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I'd fib and say we met on www.Iputoutfordollarstoregifts.com
That's where I seen your name before.. 
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| 1/2/2017 11:40:29 PM |
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uber_goober
Danielsville, GA
51, joined May. 2016
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The folks that consistently say that they would never date anyone from this site... I wonder if they've gotten involved in their state chats ever. That's where I started in 2011. Met lots of nice REAL folks in person at the events. Events which the gods of DH don't allow people to post anymore. I've been on several dates through here. Fun ones! Two of which wound up becoming exclusive relationships. And I couldn't have been happier. I was lucky. GA Chat was very lively until two years ago. The busiest if all the state chats. Nothing but tumbleweeds blowing through there now.
As to when to become physical, or exclusive, or whatever, is, as always, what works best for the two parties concerned and what their inclinations are. This isn't the Victorian Era.
Good luck on your next romance OP. I hope you find it here. I hope the same for myself.
Oh yeah. And I honestly couldn't give a shit what people think of where I met the woman who captured my interest. Hopefully she'll feel the same way.
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| 1/2/2017 11:45:12 PM |
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dejavugirl
Miami, FL
42, joined Feb. 2013
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Happy New Year thexy!
I just think it must be complicated to handle a serious relationship from this site... TV
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| 1/2/2017 11:46:21 PM |
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M4mischief
Grand Prairie, TX
99, joined May. 2016
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It really depends on who its with...that's the key.....
Keeping your relationship private and not living it in the forums is one thing I would suggest.....
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| 1/2/2017 11:48:42 PM |
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belphegor1943
Austin, TX
34, joined May. 2012
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Whether 'tis Nobler in the mind to suffer. The Slings and Arrows of outrageous Fortune, Or to take Arms against a Sea of troubles, And by opposing end them: to die, to sleep.
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| 1/2/2017 11:52:09 PM |
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dejavugirl
Miami, FL
42, joined Feb. 2013
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It's not about me...it's actually how complicated it gets when the two parties involved decide to close their profiles for peace of mind...and start making questions of how many people they have met or got involved with etc...l
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| 1/2/2017 11:54:44 PM |
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M4mischief
Grand Prairie, TX
99, joined May. 2016
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Mehhhhh...one just has to remember its the past and it doesn't matter.....
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| 1/2/2017 11:57:15 PM |
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killerbugs53
Palo Cedro, CA
53, joined Oct. 2016
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Bring up past relationships with a new relationship is never a good idea, js..I have made that mistake myself.
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| 1/3/2017 12:02:02 AM |
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uber_goober
Danielsville, GA
51, joined May. 2016
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It's not about me...it's actually how complicated it gets when the two parties involved decide to close their profiles for peace of mind...and start making questions of how many people they have met or got involved with etc...l
I deleted my profile for two years for the duration of my first relationship from here. For the second one, we both kept ours open because our state chat was a fun group and we all knew each other and bantered on the threads and host parties for members and such. All our private stuff was kept private of course. We didn't have to put up with anonymous trolls like here in the national and global forums. So that was one less burden at least. DGD is positively lousy with them. Ugh! 
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| 1/3/2017 12:02:24 AM |
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dejavugirl
Miami, FL
42, joined Feb. 2013
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Whether 'tis Nobler in the mind to suffer. The Slings and Arrows of outrageous Fortune, Or to take Arms against a Sea of troubles, And by opposing end them: to die, to sleep.
No more; and by a sleep to say we end The heart-ache and the thousand natural shocks That flesh is heir to, 'tis a consummation Devoutly to be wish'd. To die, to sleep; To sleep: perchance to dream: ay, there's the rub; For in that sleep of death what dreams may come When we have shuffled off this mortal coil, Mustgive us pause: there's the respect That makes calamity of so long life;
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| 1/3/2017 12:14:30 AM |
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dejavugirl
Miami, FL
42, joined Feb. 2013
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I'd fib and say we met on www.Iputoutfordollarstoregifts.com
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| 1/3/2017 12:16:34 AM |
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Mercedes_3
New South Wales
Australia
90, joined Jun. 2016
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M4mischief: It really depends on who its with...that's the key.....
Keeping your relationship private and not living it in the forums is one thing I would suggest.....
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| 1/3/2017 12:16:43 AM |
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
65, joined Oct. 2010
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Hey Dejavugirl! Always nice to see you posting.
When love finds you, or you find it, it is always a miracle in the works.
So, it don't matter where you found it, or how.
Just be happy that you found it, and no one needs to know anything you're not willing to tell!
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| 1/3/2017 12:24:23 AM |
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belphegor1943
Austin, TX
34, joined May. 2012
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For who would bear the whips and scorns of time,
The oppressor’s wrong, the proud man’s contumely,
The pangs of despised love, the law’s delay,
The insolence of offic, and the spurns
That patient merit of teh' unworthy takes,
When he himself miht his quietus make
With a bar bodkin? Who would fardels ber,
To grunt and sweat under a weary life,
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| 1/3/2017 12:32:55 AM |
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iam_resurrected
Reno, NV
46, joined Jul. 2014
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if you get to the 3rd date and have no real excitement to define where you are at then you probably need to try a new path.
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| 1/3/2017 12:36:58 AM |
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dejavugirl
Miami, FL
42, joined Feb. 2013
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For who would bear the whips and scorns of time,
The oppressor’s wrong, the proud man’s contumely,
The pangs of despised love, the law’s delay,
The insolence of offic, and the spurns
That patient merit of teh' unworthy takes,
When he himself miht his quietus make
With a bar bodkin? Who would fardels ber,
To grunt and sweat under a weary life,
But that the dread of something after death,
The undiscover'd country from whose bourn
No traveller returns,
puzzles the will
And makes us rather bear those ills we have
Than fly to others that we know not of?
Thus conscience does make cowards of us all;
And thus the native hue of resolution
Is sicklied o'er with the pale cast of thought,
And enterprises of great pith and moment
With this regard their currents turn awry,
And lose the name of action.
—Soft you now! The fair Ophelia! Nymph,
in thy orisons Be all my sins remember'd.
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| 1/3/2017 12:50:54 AM |
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
65, joined Oct. 2010
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For who would bear the whips and scorns of time,
The oppressor’s wrong, the proud man’s contumely,
The pangs of despised love, the law’s delay,
The insolence of offic, and the spurns
That patient merit of teh' unworthy takes,
When he himself miht his quietus make
With a bar bodkin? Who would fardels ber,
To grunt and sweat under a weary life,
May I use that?
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| 1/3/2017 12:53:55 AM |
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mindya
Vancouver, BC
64, joined Jan. 2009
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I know that contumely bar bodkin..
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| 1/3/2017 12:54:30 AM |
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Mercedes_3
New South Wales
Australia
90, joined Jun. 2016
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ishnthec: May I use that?
Looks like they were made for each other.
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| 1/3/2017 1:00:04 AM |
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belphegor1943
Austin, TX
34, joined May. 2012
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May I use that?
Don't ask me, ask Shakespear
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| 1/3/2017 1:00:40 AM |
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Mercedes_3
New South Wales
Australia
90, joined Jun. 2016
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| 1/3/2017 1:01:33 AM |
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Mercedes_3
New South Wales
Australia
90, joined Jun. 2016
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Shakespear bores the shit out of me.
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| 1/3/2017 1:02:03 AM |
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killerbugs53
Palo Cedro, CA
53, joined Oct. 2016
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| 1/3/2017 1:05:49 AM |
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belphegor1943
Austin, TX
34, joined May. 2012
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But that the dread of something after death,
The undiscover'd country from whose bourn
No traveller returns,
puzzles the will
And makes us rather bear those ills we have
Than fly to others that we know not of?
Thus conscience does make cowards of us all;
And thus the native hue of resolution
Is sicklied o'er with the pale cast of thought,
And enterprises of great pith and moment
With this regard their currents turn awry,
And lose the name of action.
—Soft you now! The fair Ophelia! Nymph,
in thy orisons Be all my sins remember'd.
Good my lord,
How does your honor for this many a day?
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| 1/3/2017 1:08:29 AM |
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Mercedes_3
New South Wales
Australia
90, joined Jun. 2016
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Good Gawd,
How does your Hoo Haa for this manly hunk appeal to thee
Possible 'chatting' detected. You have already posted in this thread recently. Please wait for some other people to reply before posting in this thread again, or wait like an hour or so, whichever comes first. Sorry for the inconvenience.
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| 1/3/2017 1:22:10 AM |
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Albachiara73
Milan
Italy
44, joined Sep. 2016
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Best advice, IMO.
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| 1/3/2017 1:25:50 AM |
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killerbugs53
Palo Cedro, CA
53, joined Oct. 2016
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I agree too
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| 1/3/2017 7:13:37 AM |
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dejavugirl
Miami, FL
42, joined Feb. 2013
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To be serious or not to be serious....
From a site like this is my topic not about the story of my life. I am not looking for advice... I have my mom for that...lollol
I have seen this phenomenon from a lot of people and friends who ask me for advice and I already know the outcome...but if you try your best you can develop a Truthful relationship if you are honest a your
Partner but Chances are you can get hurt by getting involved w a person from the online word. Friends and family want to support or get to know the person and most of my friends keep the relationship in secret until it gets serious or something.
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| 1/3/2017 7:40:27 AM |
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ohdannyboy59
Arlington, TX
98, joined Sep. 2012
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I don't believe in rules or set time periods for certain levels of dating/relationship building. Everybody is different and every two people together are different. I just go at a pace that's comfortable for both and do what is comfortable for both. It's "right" when you both say it is.
Oh, and I keep it far far away from this lunatic asylum!
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| 1/3/2017 7:46:37 AM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
58, joined May. 2009
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The chance of being hurt is the same as if you meet them at the grocery store or through your best friend. It's the nature of relationships. It's the nature of opening your heart to someone. There is always risk.
It really doesn't matter what the venue is or the circumstances of how you meet. But I have to think that being embarrassed of how you met is something to deal with because the person him or herself is the important thing, not the way.
I've met some really great people through this site, and in particular the person I'm with. I think it's silly to think that a dating site or being online is a problem for anyone. Especially, this day and age. It's like the norm now and no one thinks twice about it. This generation grew up being online. They're certainly not thinking it's bad.
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| 1/3/2017 8:02:07 AM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
58, joined May. 2009
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And this.
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| 1/3/2017 8:20:10 AM |
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sinceresammy
Dayton, OH
62, joined Mar. 2014
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Many of you I prefer not to be, since you are horrible people!
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| 1/3/2017 8:25:18 AM |
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sandycrabs
Land O Lakes, WI
49, joined May. 2011
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We met at the zoo while feeding the animals is truthful.
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| 1/3/2017 8:38:48 AM |
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belphegor1943
Austin, TX
34, joined May. 2012
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Good Gawd,
How does your Hoo Haa for this manly hunk appeal to thee
Uhhh... you might want to use the Shakespearean insulter to help you out there.
http://www.pangloss.com/seidel/Shaker/
Thou wh*reson mandrake, thou art fitter to be worn in my cap than to wait at my heels.
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| 1/3/2017 9:04:35 AM |
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dejavugirl
Miami, FL
42, joined Feb. 2013
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We met at the zoo while feeding the animals is truthful.
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| 1/3/2017 9:11:57 AM |
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dejavugirl
Miami, FL
42, joined Feb. 2013
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Many of you I prefer not to be, since you are horrible people!
Many many....
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| 1/3/2017 10:47:54 AM |
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playingindirt
Eugene, OR
61, joined Mar. 2014
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Hi DHers.
I have a topic for you to discuss.
First: You meet and greet...You don't look at any red flag because you want to have a good time and you click nicely with your datemate.
Second: You decide to keep seeing that person because you liked his/her company a lot and you have a.lot of chemistry throughout your dates and when you get physical and every time you see him/her is satisfactory for you. Like never before....
Third: What do you do next? It's time to b exclusive, go to the next level, get serious, etc.
You keep her/him in the shadows because you don't want to commit.
You say you met her/him from a friend because just to say 'Datehookup' people would b judging you. Or you just lie and say I met her/him from a decent dating site. Lol
You try your best to enjoy the relationship and face your family and friends because at the end of the day is your life not theirs.
You just stay like let's see how it goes...if he/she is the one I'll get exclusive and maybe...maybe marry her/him.
Share your thoughts on how you develop a relationship out a successful date from 'Datehookup'
you're already worrying about too much jazz. you're picking apart what is instead of just enjoying it. let the guy go before you start making his life miserable and yours or just enjoy what awesomeness ya'll have together with all ya'll got.
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| 1/3/2017 10:56:50 AM |
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seth097
Arvada, CO
49, joined May. 2014
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If he is sincere, the subject should be comfortable for him and he may even initiate such a conversation.
I am all for sex and fun but i will say that many men are hard-wired to differentiating between sex and relationships. The length of time between the initial meeting and sex is also indicative of how much the male will respect the female. Just my opinion based on my experience.
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| 1/3/2017 11:19:12 AM |
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joebrown80_agai
Opa Locka, FL
36, joined Jan. 2016
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If he is sincere, the subject should be comfortable for him and he may even initiate such a conversation.
I am all for sex and fun but i will say that many men are hard-wired to differentiating between sex and relationships. The length of time between the initial meeting and sex is also indicative of how much the male will respect the female. Just my opinion based on my experience.
Everytime youve had sex you had to pay for it. So youre paying for time with a hoe.
They are your type right
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| 1/3/2017 11:25:03 AM |
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playingindirt
Eugene, OR
61, joined Mar. 2014
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If he is sincere, the subject should be comfortable for him and he may even initiate such a conversation.
^^^^^
this is exactly what I was thinking.
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| 1/3/2017 11:34:56 AM |
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seth097
Arvada, CO
49, joined May. 2014
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Everytime youve had sex you had to pay for it. So youre paying for time with a hoe.
They are your type right
Whatever you say, silly girl. You know me better than i know myself...oh, wait...it's vice versa. Find a dictionary...because that is important.
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| 1/3/2017 11:56:11 AM |
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dejavugirl
Miami, FL
42, joined Feb. 2013
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I just go with the Flo...
Flo, are you out there??
Mindya!
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| 1/3/2017 12:01:17 PM |
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stanleyzee
Dayton, OH
60, joined Dec. 2012
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Hi DHers.
I have a topic for you to discuss.
First: You meet and greet...You don't look at any red flag because you want to have a good time and you click nicely with your datemate.
Second: You decide to keep seeing that person because you liked his/her company a lot and you have a.lot of chemistry throughout your dates and when you get physical and every time you see him/her is satisfactory for you. Like never before....
Third: What do you do next? It's time to b exclusive, go to the next level, get serious, etc.
You keep her/him in the shadows because you don't want to commit.
You say you met her/him from a friend because just to say 'Datehookup' people would b judging you. Or you just lie and say I met her/him from a decent dating site. Lol
You try your best to enjoy the relationship and face your family and friends because at the end of the day is your life not theirs.
You just stay like let's see how it goes...if he/she is the one I'll get exclusive and maybe...maybe marry her/him.
Share your thoughts on how you develop a relationship out a successful date from 'Datehookup'
Z 
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