=quote]Oh dear enigma, not all secrets have to do with your partner or your relationship. 
                  Ok orchid so if your man decide NOT to tell you he's got a wife and kids, that it "Doesn't Concern" you bcuz it was before y'all met... Is that cool for him to decide that for YOU!? 
                    
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                      sadlsticsienna
   
                      AñatuyaNew South Wales 
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                      Do you have secrets or things you just don't mention or tell your loved one? 
                      Is it healthy or unhealthy to have secrets? 
                      I mean I have some but it wouldn't impact them, important to note that. 
                      Especially when relationships don't tend to last long I don't see a reason to tell them every single little thing lol. 
                       
                      Are white lies ok in a relationship? 
                      Like if you I dunno didn't want to do something but said you felt sick so you didn't have to or faking orgasm   kinda more extreme but whatevar 
                       
                       
                       
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                      OrchideaPorpora 
                        
                      BadraoMilan 
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                      Yes I do keep some. But as you said it wouldn't impact them. They are just my secrets. 
                      
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                      mylegsarecold 
                        
                      Gainesville, FL 
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                      If they can't have any material effect on your partner then sure you can. 
                      And if you know that something could have a negative mental impact on them 
                      you might want to keep that a secret too. But that one 'depends' on what it is. 
                       
                      But don't ever ever keep a secret about where you have hidden the snack food. 
                      That is downright inappropriate.  
                      
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                      packersbabe920 
                        
                      Green Bay, WI 
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                      Wouldn't be wise 
                      
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                      lovethelake17 
                        
                      Henderson, NV 
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                      I also think he should keep secret what he really thinks of my mother. 
                      
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                      001snatch 
                        
                      Marysville, WA 
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                      Yes a few secrets wouldnt hurt. 
                      
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                      stupid_cheese 
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                      Depends on the secret. And relationship. 
                      
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                      OrchideaPorpora 
                        
                      BadraoMilan 
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                      any secret you care to share? lol 
                      
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                      stupid_cheese 
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                      Wouldn't be a secret then. 
                      
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                      OrchideaPorpora 
                        
                      BadraoMilan 
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                      Oh I thought it depended....from things and stuff... 
                      
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                      enigmaathand 
                        
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                      The simple answer: NO 
                      
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                      4uijack 
                        
                      New Port Richey, FL 
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                      You mean like secretly boning your mom, OP? 
                       
                      Keeping it in the family  
                      
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                      Light_bringer 
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                      Some things in your private life are best left in the dark.   
                      
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                      sadlsticsienna
   
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                          The simple answer: NO
                         why is that? 
                         
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                      frecklefarmer 
                        
                      Lebanon, MO 
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                      Nope...no secrets 
                       
                      Your gonna get found out 
                      And it's gonna be way worse than if you would have just been open about.. 
                       
                      Here's a best trick 
                      Don't do things you need to hide from 
                      
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                      enigmaathand 
                        
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                          why is that?
                         Did you like finding out about your last boyfriend's little secret?(We both know I already know the answer to this question) 
                         
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                      enigmaathand 
                        
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                          Wouldn't be wise
                         Thank you. Somebody that understands the importance of exclusive, open honesty 
                         
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                      sadlsticsienna
   
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                          Did you like finding out about your last boyfriend's little secret?(We both know I already know the answer to this question)
                         Obviously no but that is different from secrets that are irrelevant to the relationship. That was a big secret that does impact the relationship 
                         
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                      enigmaathand 
                        
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                      Secret os a secret, to me. There is no "in-between". 
                       
                      If it is a secret and it is hidden from me, it will only he a matter of time before I expose it. At that point, all trust is gone, regardless of the secret. 
                      
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                      sadlsticsienna
   
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                          Secret os a secret, to me. There is no "in-between". 
                           
                          If it is a secret and it is hidden from me, it will only he a matter of time before I expose it. At that point, all trust is gone, regardless of the secret.
                          
                        Ok I think it is important to note a secret is just something that you don't tell other people. Not all secrets are even important. You act like they are lol 
                         
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                      Mercedes_3
   
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                      I tend to keep things to myself as I look 
                      at it like it's my business. 
                       
                      If I'm ever asked a directive question I answer honestly. 
                      
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                      Mercedes_3
   
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                      Mercedes_3: I tend to keep things to myself as I look 
                      at it like it's my business. 
                       
                      If I'm ever asked a directive question I answer honestly. 
                       
                      Direct not directive ^^^^^^   
                      
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                      OrchideaPorpora 
                        
                      BadraoMilan 
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                      Thank you. Somebody that understands the importance of exclusive, open honesty 
                       
                      Oh dear enigma, not all secrets have to do with your partner or your relationship ffs.  
                      
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                      cavie59 
                        
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                      Everyone keeps something secret while in a relationship. 
                      
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                      sadlsticsienna
   
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                          Oh dear enigma, not all secrets have to do with your partner or your relationship ffs. 
                         I know right lol 
                         
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                      enigmaathand 
                        
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                        Thank you. Somebody that understands the importance of exclusive, open honesty
                        
                        Oh dear enigma, not all secrets have to do with your partner or your relationship ffs.   Doesn't matter to me. I keep no secrets from them, and I expect EQUAL treatment, because that is what women say they want: Equality 
                         
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                      sadlsticsienna
   
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                          Doesn't matter to me. I keep no secrets from them, and I expect EQUAL treatment, because that is what women say they want: Equality
                         I can't believe you'd tell them EVERYTHING 
                         
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                      frecklefarmer 
                        
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                          I can't believe you'd tell them EVERYTHING
                          
                         
                        Why would you keep secrets from a significant other?they're supposed to be your best friend (do you lie to your friends too?) 
                        Beyond that 
                        Keeping secrets keeps both people from knowing everything about eachother 
                        And that makes for a shifty untrustable person.. 
                        If there are things you don't want your other half to know, 
                        Then,you my dear 
                        Will never have a quality relationship 
                         
                         
                         
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                      bumblebee7 
                        
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                      I think most people have something, they don't want anyone to ever know. 
                       
                      But, if you withhold information, that's its only right going into a relation, or possible one that the other person should know...because it could effect things...then its not right to not tell about it. 
                       
                      as for white lies, its not a good thing, because if you get away with a few white lies, that will turn into telling more lies...and more and more. 
                      
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                      sadlsticsienna
   
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                          Why would you keep secrets from a significant other?they're supposed to be your best friend (do you lie to your friends too?) 
                          Beyond that Keeping secrets keeps both people from knowing everything about eachother 
                          And that makes for a shifty untrustable person..If there are things you don't want your other half to know,Then,you my dear Will never have a quality relationship
                          
                        I tell my friends way less. Lots of stuff is unnecessary to tell. 
                        I only don't tell them things that are not nessesary to be told and would be otherwise awkward or make me feel vulnerable to divulge lol. 
                         
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                      frecklefarmer 
                        
                      Lebanon, MO 
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                      I'm not religious 
                      But if you live by what God says 
                      You won't have secrets 
                      Or awkwardness 
                       
                      Simply because you didn't do anything to be secretive about 
                       
                      There is nothing I'm afraid of anyone knowing about me.. 
                      
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                      sadlsticsienna
   
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                      I'm an angel with a shotgun 
                      Fighting til' the wars won 
                      I don't care if heaven won't take me back 
                      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kTCNwWiEpD4 
                      
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                      frecklefarmer 
                        
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                      Are there casualties in anime wars? 
                      I mean,couldn't they get fixed up with some scotch tape? Or staples? Maybe some whiteout 
                      
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                      sadlsticsienna
   
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                          Are there casualties in anime wars? 
                          I mean,couldn't they get fixed up with some scotch tape? Or staples? Maybe some whiteout
                          
                        Of course 
                         
                          
                         
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                      enigmaathand 
                        
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                          I can't believe you'd tell them EVERYTHING
                         You always complain about men lying and not really caring about you. It has been a Feminist rhetorical chant, since the early 1990s.... 
                         
                        Well, I am NOT THAT GUY. So, they get full disclosure. 
                         
                        If it is just a fling, they know that from the very start. I don't hesitate or withhold anything, and I never pull my punches. 
                         
                        So, what do you women want? Lies and secrets, because they make you feel good at first, and worse after the breakup? Or, the absolute unbridled truth, that may make your stomach turn at first, but in the end you fully understand your prospective mate? 
                         
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                      packersbabe920 
                        
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                          Thank you. Somebody that understands the importance of exclusive, open honesty
                          
                         
                         
                        Yes Indeed  
                         
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                      M4mischief 
                        
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                      I choose to be an open book with my partner....transparency builds trust....  
                      
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                      lucky_1million 
                        
                      Pewaukee, WI 
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                      From the standpoint of my last boyfriend, I can see why he lied instead of being honest. Had he been truthful about what type of person he was or how he lived his life when I wasn't around him... I doubt that we would have lasted over a year. I would have been gone at the 2 month mark if he had been blunt and honest with me. 
                       
                      Not to say that I didn't enjoy the time that we spent together. 
                       
                      Sometimes the truth just ruins the illusions that you have. 
                       
                        
                      
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                      dr_i_got_answer
   
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                          Do you have secrets or things you just don't mention or tell your loved one? 
                          Is it healthy or unhealthy to have secrets? 
                          I mean I have some but it wouldn't impact them, important to note that. 
                          Especially when relationships don't tend to last long I don't see a reason to tell them every single little thing lol.
                           
                          Are white lies ok in a relationship? 
                          Like if you I dunno didn't want to do something but said you felt sick so you didn't have to or faking orgasm    kinda more extreme but whatevar
                          
                         
                        Let me tell you why your whole thread is as stupid as you are and how asking this truly show you know NOT A GOT DAMN THING about real relationships. And why living in cartoon fantasies taught you SHIT!   
                         
                        1. Secrets are secrets for A REASON! Secrets almost NEVER include anything positive. It's designed to HIDE shame, embarrassment, wrong doing and evil deeds. And the few times it is positive (like having millions) it's to PROTECT you from evil doers like feminist. 
                         
                        2.Its ALWAYS unhealthy to have secrets bcuz it destroys trust before it can be established good. Whoever thinks it's healthy are the ones to be avoided. 
                         
                        3. To decide for SOMEONE ELSE if your secrets will impact THEM is controlling, juvenile, shows a SERIOUS lack of experience, disrespectful and part of the feminist anthem. How the F**K can you decide that for other ppl?? 
                         
                        4. NOT telling key things about yourself from the is WHY RELATIONSHIP END dumbass! What if a man decided that a woman did NOT need to know that he's been sexing all his family member including his mom until 5 years into the relationship? That would be TO ASKING AWAY someone's choice to be involved. 
                         
                        5. White lies are just as destructive as black lies. It shows a serious propensity for lying to get their way. Stupid! 
                         
                        Like when women LIED about being sick to avoid sex. That could make a man feel she's f**king someone else. It does for women. But it'll also send him OUTSIDE to get off and the relationship ends anyway only more harsher. 
                         
                         
                         
                        See you think this shit cute and ok obviously or you wouldn't have made the post and admitted you do it yourself.   
                         
                        Mental patients aren't suppose to know these things bcuz the law doesn't allow retarded to f**k.   
                         
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                      dr_i_got_answer
   
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                          Yes a few secrets wouldnt hurt.
                          
                         
                        Hey baby!    
                         
                        Women most times find Mystery exciting and interesting bcuz they LOVE the thrill seeking and looking to find shit out which is why women (more so than men) enjoy shows like CSI, Criminal Minds and checking a man's phone for evidence. 
                         
                        But like said before women HATE rules and care NOTHING about their wants being detrimental to their future. So if a little mystery is fun for you NOW that's usually all that matters. Let's look at the logic and facts around this... 
                         
                        If YOU have secrets I don't get to decide what secrets you keep and what they are right? And the same works for me right. So what if I decide that it's cool to be sleeping with you and other women (raw) at the same time?? Now that might be mad fun for me but how would you feel when you find out 4 years and a relationship later?? 
                         
                        See my point??   
                         
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                      dr_i_got_answer
   
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                        You mean like secretly boning your mom, OP? 
                        
                        Keeping it in the family   
                         
                        And end up making another little retarded fool??   
                         
                        Don't do that!   
                         
                        You already see what kinda product that's being produced.   
                         
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                      dr_i_got_answer
   
                      Gwynn Oak, MD 
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                          Did you like finding out about your last boyfriend's little secret?(We both know I already know the answer to this question)
                          
                         
                        I doubt very seriously if THAT story is even true. But giving the benefit of the doubt, let's say for arguments sake it IS true.... 
                         
                        If she already supposedly had this experience but STILL ADKING this question and admitting to doing the very thing she didn't like done to her??   
                         
                        Now what does that say??   
                         
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                      dr_i_got_answer
   
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                          Obviously no but that is different from secrets that are irrelevant to the relationship. That was a big secret that does impact the relationship
                          
                         
                        Oh NOW I get it!   
                         
                        You're the muf**kn "Grand Master" of deciding for EVERYONE what secrets are important and which are NOT? YOU DECIDED that his secret was wrong bcuz you didn't like the outcome. And YOU DECIDE for others if YOUR secrets matter to them too?? 
                         
                        What happen to ppl DECIDING for THEMSELVES if your secrets matter??   
                         
                        Oh that's right... Bcuz you're the "Grand Master!" Right?   
                         
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                      dr_i_got_answer
   
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                          Ok I think it is important to note a secret is just something that you don't tell other people. Not all secrets are even important. You act like they are lol
                          
                         
                        Are you plum f**king or retarded to the 10th degree?   
                         
                        Didn't you hear that man say it destroys the trust stupid!!!   
                         
                        And you STILL talking about ALL secrets aren't important?? And to WHOM are they not important?? 
                         
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                      sadlsticsienna
   
                      AñatuyaNew South Wales 
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                      I'm an angel with a shotgun, shotgun, shotgun 
                      An angel with a shotgun, shotgun, shotgun 
                       
                      Get out your guns, battles begun 
                      Are you a saint, or a sinner? 
                      If loves a fight, than I shall die 
                      With my heart on a trigger 
                       
                      They say before you start a war 
                      You better know what you're fighting for 
                      Well baby, you are all that I adore 
                      If love is what you need, a soldier I will be 
                       
                      I'm an angel with a shotgun 
                      Fighting til' the wars won 
                      I don't care if heaven won't take me back 
                      I'll throw away my faith, babe, just to keep you safe 
                      Don't you know you're everything I have? 
                      And I, wanna live, not just survive, tonight 
                       
                      Sometimes to win, you've got to sin 
                      Don't mean I'm not a believer 
                      And major Tom, will sing along 
                      Yeah, they still say I'm a dreamer 
                        
                      
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                      dr_i_got_answer
   
                      Gwynn Oak, MD 
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                      quoteheader]Quote from OrchideaPorpora | 
                    
                    
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                      sadlsticsienna
   
                      AñatuyaNew South Wales 
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                          You always complain about men lying and not really caring about you. 
                          Well, I am NOT THAT GUY. So, they get full disclosure. 
                          If it is just a fling, they know that from the very start. I don't hesitate or withhold anything, and I never pull my punches. 
                          So, what do you women want? Lies and secrets, because they make you feel good at first, and worse after the breakup? Or, the absolute unbridled truth, that may make your stomach turn at first, but in the end you fully understand your prospective mate?
                          
                        I used to live in that fantasy land of telling them everything until I realized they lied to me about who they are and basically pretended to be someone entirely different. 
                         
                        When they have everything to lose they put on this fake act, when they have nothing to lose anymore that is when their true nature comes out. 
                        Not only that but telling them didn't actually impact anything and they were gone in the end anyway lol. So you know, now I don't make myself tell them sensitive things about me that they don't need to know. 
                        It's on a need to know basis really. 
                        I expect to be told necessary and important information, that's it really. Or does that even matter in the end, maybe not because, again, they always go anyway. 
                        I might as well make a rule up to dump them after 2-3 months since it always happens anyway. Although then I guess I wouldn't need that rule cos it just happens anyway lol.  
                         
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                      dr_i_got_answer
   
                      Gwynn Oak, MD 
                      50, joined Jun. 2014 
                      
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                          I'm an angel with a shotgun, shotgun, shotgun 
                          An angel with a shotgun, shotgun, shotgun 
                           
                          Get out your guns, battles begun 
                          Are you a saint, or a sinner? 
                          If loves a fight, than I shall die 
                          With my heart on a trigger 
                           
                          They say before you start a war 
                          You better know what you're fighting for 
                          Well baby, you are all that I adore 
                          If love is what you need, a soldier I will be 
                           
                          I'm an angel with a shotgun 
                          Fighting til' the wars won 
                          I don't care if heaven won't take me back 
                          I'll throw away my faith, babe, just to keep you safe 
                          Don't you know you're everything I have? 
                          And I, wanna live, not just survive, tonight 
                           
                          Sometimes to win, you've got to sin 
                          Don't mean I'm not a believer 
                          And major Tom, will sing along 
                          Yeah, they still say I'm a dreamer 
                          
                         
                        More of your retarded bullshit huh? This is what you run and hide behind to avoid dealing with reality. Talking shit that has NOTHING to do with the subject and this cartoon bullshit.   
                         
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                      | 3/26/2017 2:57:16 AM | 
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                      sadlsticsienna
   
                      AñatuyaNew South Wales 
                      Australia 
                      24, joined Jan. 2016 
                      
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                      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kTCNwWiEpD4 
                      Enjoy Dr Ret.ard lol 
                      
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                      | 3/26/2017 10:12:32 AM | 
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                      fixious 
                      Fort Collins, CO 
                      36, joined Apr. 2008 
                      
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                      I think it's healthy and okay to have secrets in a relationship. Being with someone doesn't mean you own them or your entitled to know everything about them. I think it's also good to acknowledge that the person you're with not only has secrets but has the right to keep them and not to get angry or offended if you stumble upon one. If you're going to be in a relationship with someone you have to be willing to accept them for who they are, and that includes accepting the fact that they have secrets they don't wish to share with you. 
                      
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                      | 3/26/2017 10:15:08 AM | 
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                      stratus55 
                        
                      Jackson, GA 
                      51, joined Jan. 2017 
                      
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                      no secrets,and nothing  to hide..were married to the same bride,she eats away from inside........  
                      
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                      | 3/26/2017 11:04:53 AM | 
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                      enigmaathand 
                        
                      Leavittsburg, OH 
                      36, joined Mar. 2013 
                      
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                        I used to live in that fantasy land of telling them everything until I realized they lied to me about who they are and basically pretended to be someone entirely different. 
                        
                        When they have everything to lose they put on this fake act, when they have nothing to lose anymore that is when their true nature comes out. 
                        Not only that but telling them didn't actually impact anything and they were gone in the end anyway lol. So you know, now I don't make myself tell them sensitive things about me that they don't need to know. 
                        It's on a need to know basis really. 
                        I expect to be told necessary and important information, that's it really. Or does that even matter in the end, maybe not because, again, they always go anyway. 
                        I might as well make a rule up to dump them after 2-3 months since it always happens anyway. Although then I guess I wouldn't need that rule cos it just happens anyway lol.   Women are worse than men, with doing this. And they ALWAYS LEAVE, when the cash flow dries up. 
                         
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                      | 3/26/2017 11:22:31 AM | 
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                      sadlsticsienna
   
                      AñatuyaNew South Wales 
                      Australia 
                      24, joined Jan. 2016 
                      
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                          Women are worse than men, with doing this. And they ALWAYS LEAVE, when the cash flow dries up.
                         I leave them when they make my vagina dry up 
                        LOl sorry,. couldn't stop myself   
                         
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                      | 3/26/2017 12:21:49 PM | 
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                      sadlsticsienna
   
                      AñatuyaNew South Wales 
                      Australia 
                      24, joined Jan. 2016 
                      
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                      ok ok ok who else thinks Noctis is hot?? 
                      such lovely hands too ugh   
                      would totally suck on his fingers     
                        
                        
                        
                      
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                      | 3/26/2017 12:54:43 PM | 
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                      lovethelake17 
                        
                      Henderson, NV 
                      58, joined May. 2009 
                      
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                      In a healthy relationship, there really isn't a need to keep secrets, other than like keeping secret a surprise party or something along those lines. You don't actively keep a secret from him or her because you trust them. 
                       
                      It may be more that you just haven't told him every detail or story about yourself. It's not that you're keeping a secret just that whatever detail or story hasn't come up yet, you don't remember it yourself, or it doesn't pertain to any current happening in your lives. 
                       
                      But that's what's kind of fun. As the years go by and the relationship endures, you still have things to reveal, so to speak. 
                       
                      I still say, though, keep to yourself if you don't like my best friend, or you hate my mother. If that's a secret, then so be it. I think it's probably more that you know it may affect those relationships rather than harm your own, and you don't want that to happen so you just don't mention it. 
                      
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                      | 3/26/2017 1:32:38 PM | 
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                      sadlsticsienna
   
                      AñatuyaNew South Wales 
                      Australia 
                      24, joined Jan. 2016 
                      
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                      Well some "stories" aka secrets, are painful and not fun to explain so I just don't tell them. 
                      Hell I tell the fun secrets lmao 
                      
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                      | 3/26/2017 1:52:00 PM | 
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                      lovethelake17 
                        
                      Henderson, NV 
                      58, joined May. 2009 
                      
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                      Everyone has those stories. 
                       
                      But they generally get told to someone you love and trust at some point in time. Not right away, but in time. When you're with someone to whom you've entrusted your heart and your self, you just share your stories--good or bad. 
                      
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                      | 3/26/2017 2:13:10 PM | 
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                      sadlsticsienna
   
                      AñatuyaNew South Wales 
                      Australia 
                      24, joined Jan. 2016 
                      
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                          Everyone has those stories. 
                           
                          But they generally get told to someone you love and trust at some point in time. Not right away, but in time. When you're with someone to whom you've entrusted your heart and your self, you just share your stories--good or bad.
                          
                        I like not telling because then I feel better when the relationship ends lol. Its kind of like I have something vulnerable about myself that I protect and when I don't tell it makes me feel good because they didn't get to see sensitive and vulnurable things about me. It is a really good feeling. 
                         
                        Kinda like your base has been raided but you had some important loot like ak74 and bolties stashed in a secret location and they didn't get to it. 
                         
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                      | 3/26/2017 2:50:26 PM | 
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                      lovethelake17 
                        
                      Henderson, NV 
                      58, joined May. 2009 
                      
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                      Ah. OK, then. 
                      
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                      | 3/26/2017 4:26:45 PM | 
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                      enigmaathand 
                        
                      Leavittsburg, OH 
                      36, joined Mar. 2013 
                      
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                        I leave them when they make my vagina dry up 
                        LOl sorry,. couldn't stop myself    That would require them being able to melt all the ice, first.... 
                         
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