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=quote]Oh dear enigma, not all secrets have to do with your partner or your relationship.

Ok orchid so if your man decide NOT to tell you he's got a wife and kids, that it "Doesn't Concern" you bcuz it was before y'all met... Is that cool for him to decide that for YOU!?

3/24/2017 12:36:40 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

sadlsticsienna
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Do you have secrets or things you just don't mention or tell your loved one?
Is it healthy or unhealthy to have secrets?
I mean I have some but it wouldn't impact them, important to note that.
Especially when relationships don't tend to last long I don't see a reason to tell them every single little thing lol.

Are white lies ok in a relationship?
Like if you I dunno didn't want to do something but said you felt sick so you didn't have to or faking orgasm kinda more extreme but whatevar



[Edited 3/24/2017 12:37:50 PM ]

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3/24/2017 1:17:20 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  
OrchideaPorpora
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Yes I do keep some. But as you said it wouldn't impact them. They are just my secrets.

3/24/2017 2:36:09 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

mylegsarecold
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If they can't have any material effect on your partner then sure you can.
And if you know that something could have a negative mental impact on them
you might want to keep that a secret too. But that one 'depends' on what it is.

But don't ever ever keep a secret about where you have hidden the snack food.
That is downright inappropriate.

3/24/2017 4:39:26 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

packersbabe920
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Wouldn't be wise

3/24/2017 5:18:17 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

lovethelake17
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I also think he should keep secret what he really thinks of my mother.

3/24/2017 9:20:20 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

001snatch
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Yes a few secrets wouldnt hurt.

3/24/2017 9:28:16 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  
stupid_cheese
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Depends on the secret. And relationship.

3/24/2017 9:29:28 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  
OrchideaPorpora
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BadraoMilan
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any secret you care to share? lol

3/24/2017 9:32:24 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  
stupid_cheese
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Wouldn't be a secret then.

3/24/2017 9:33:48 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  
OrchideaPorpora
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BadraoMilan
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Oh I thought it depended....from things and stuff...

3/24/2017 9:36:15 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

enigmaathand
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The simple answer: NO

3/24/2017 9:37:46 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  
4uijack
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You mean like secretly boning your mom, OP?

Keeping it in the family

3/24/2017 9:44:35 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  
Light_bringer
Bay Bulls, NL
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Some things in your private life are best left in the dark.

3/24/2017 11:27:55 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

sadlsticsienna
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Quote from enigmaathand:
The simple answer: NO
why is that?

3/24/2017 11:31:15 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

frecklefarmer
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Nope...no secrets

Your gonna get found out
And it's gonna be way worse than if you would have just been open about..

Here's a best trick
Don't do things you need to hide from

3/24/2017 11:34:41 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

enigmaathand
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Quote from sadlsticsienna:
why is that?
Did you like finding out about your last boyfriend's little secret?(We both know I already know the answer to this question)

3/24/2017 11:35:43 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

enigmaathand
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Quote from packersbabe920:
Wouldn't be wise
Thank you. Somebody that understands the importance of exclusive, open honesty

3/24/2017 11:42:00 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

sadlsticsienna
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Quote from enigmaathand:
Did you like finding out about your last boyfriend's little secret?(We both know I already know the answer to this question)
Obviously no but that is different from secrets that are irrelevant to the relationship. That was a big secret that does impact the relationship

3/24/2017 11:49:26 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

enigmaathand
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Secret os a secret, to me. There is no "in-between".

If it is a secret and it is hidden from me, it will only he a matter of time before I expose it. At that point, all trust is gone, regardless of the secret.

3/24/2017 11:52:15 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

sadlsticsienna
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Quote from enigmaathand:
Secret os a secret, to me. There is no "in-between".

If it is a secret and it is hidden from me, it will only he a matter of time before I expose it. At that point, all trust is gone, regardless of the secret.

Ok I think it is important to note a secret is just something that you don't tell other people. Not all secrets are even important. You act like they are lol

3/24/2017 11:55:23 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  
Mercedes_3
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I tend to keep things to myself as I look
at it like it's my business.

If I'm ever asked a directive question I answer honestly.

3/25/2017 12:12:27 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  
Mercedes_3
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Mercedes_3: I tend to keep things to myself as I look
at it like it's my business.

If I'm ever asked a directive question I answer honestly.

Direct not directive ^^^^^^

3/25/2017 12:19:38 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  
OrchideaPorpora
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Thank you. Somebody that understands the importance of exclusive, open honesty

Oh dear enigma, not all secrets have to do with your partner or your relationship ffs.

3/25/2017 1:41:44 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  
cavie59
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Everyone keeps something secret while in a relationship.

3/25/2017 4:08:39 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

sadlsticsienna
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Quote from OrchideaPorpora:

Oh dear enigma, not all secrets have to do with your partner or your relationship ffs.
I know right lol

3/25/2017 6:29:08 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

enigmaathand
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Quote from OrchideaPorpora:
Thank you. Somebody that understands the importance of exclusive, open honesty

Oh dear enigma, not all secrets have to do with your partner or your relationship ffs.
Doesn't matter to me. I keep no secrets from them, and I expect EQUAL treatment, because that is what women say they want: Equality

3/25/2017 7:27:06 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

sadlsticsienna
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Quote from enigmaathand:
Doesn't matter to me. I keep no secrets from them, and I expect EQUAL treatment, because that is what women say they want: Equality
I can't believe you'd tell them EVERYTHING

3/25/2017 7:50:52 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

frecklefarmer
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Quote from sadlsticsienna:
I can't believe you'd tell them EVERYTHING


Why would you keep secrets from a significant other?they're supposed to be your best friend (do you lie to your friends too?)
Beyond that
Keeping secrets keeps both people from knowing everything about eachother
And that makes for a shifty untrustable person..
If there are things you don't want your other half to know,
Then,you my dear
Will never have a quality relationship



[Edited 3/25/2017 7:51:52 AM ]

3/25/2017 8:05:44 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

bumblebee7
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I think most people have something, they don't want anyone to ever know.

But, if you withhold information, that's its only right going into a relation, or possible one that the other person should know...because it could effect things...then its not right to not tell about it.

as for white lies, its not a good thing, because if you get away with a few white lies, that will turn into telling more lies...and more and more.

3/25/2017 8:11:32 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

sadlsticsienna
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Quote from frecklefarmer:
Why would you keep secrets from a significant other?they're supposed to be your best friend (do you lie to your friends too?)
Beyond that Keeping secrets keeps both people from knowing everything about eachother
And that makes for a shifty untrustable person..If there are things you don't want your other half to know,Then,you my dear Will never have a quality relationship

I tell my friends way less. Lots of stuff is unnecessary to tell.
I only don't tell them things that are not nessesary to be told and would be otherwise awkward or make me feel vulnerable to divulge lol.

3/25/2017 8:17:51 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

frecklefarmer
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I'm not religious
But if you live by what God says
You won't have secrets
Or awkwardness

Simply because you didn't do anything to be secretive about

There is nothing I'm afraid of anyone knowing about me..

3/25/2017 8:37:31 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

sadlsticsienna
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I'm an angel with a shotgun
Fighting til' the wars won
I don't care if heaven won't take me back
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kTCNwWiEpD4

3/25/2017 8:47:43 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

frecklefarmer
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Are there casualties in anime wars?
I mean,couldn't they get fixed up with some scotch tape? Or staples? Maybe some whiteout

3/25/2017 9:01:54 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

sadlsticsienna
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Quote from frecklefarmer:
Are there casualties in anime wars?
I mean,couldn't they get fixed up with some scotch tape? Or staples? Maybe some whiteout

Of course



3/25/2017 4:31:23 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

enigmaathand
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Quote from sadlsticsienna:
I can't believe you'd tell them EVERYTHING
You always complain about men lying and not really caring about you. It has been a Feminist rhetorical chant, since the early 1990s....

Well, I am NOT THAT GUY. So, they get full disclosure.

If it is just a fling, they know that from the very start. I don't hesitate or withhold anything, and I never pull my punches.

So, what do you women want? Lies and secrets, because they make you feel good at first, and worse after the breakup? Or, the absolute unbridled truth, that may make your stomach turn at first, but in the end you fully understand your prospective mate?

3/25/2017 6:39:14 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

packersbabe920
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Quote from enigmaathand:
Thank you. Somebody that understands the importance of exclusive, open honesty



Yes Indeed

3/25/2017 8:11:34 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

M4mischief
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I choose to be an open book with my partner....transparency builds trust....

3/26/2017 12:11:40 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

lucky_1million
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From the standpoint of my last boyfriend, I can see why he lied instead of being honest. Had he been truthful about what type of person he was or how he lived his life when I wasn't around him... I doubt that we would have lasted over a year. I would have been gone at the 2 month mark if he had been blunt and honest with me.

Not to say that I didn't enjoy the time that we spent together.

Sometimes the truth just ruins the illusions that you have.



3/26/2017 12:44:20 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

dr_i_got_answer
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Gwynn Oak, MD
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Quote from sadlsticsienna:
Do you have secrets or things you just don't mention or tell your loved one?
Is it healthy or unhealthy to have secrets?
I mean I have some but it wouldn't impact them, important to note that.
Especially when relationships don't tend to last long I don't see a reason to tell them every single little thing lol.

Are white lies ok in a relationship?
Like if you I dunno didn't want to do something but said you felt sick so you didn't have to or faking orgasm kinda more extreme but whatevar


Let me tell you why your whole thread is as stupid as you are and how asking this truly show you know NOT A GOT DAMN THING about real relationships. And why living in cartoon fantasies taught you SHIT!

1. Secrets are secrets for A REASON! Secrets almost NEVER include anything positive. It's designed to HIDE shame, embarrassment, wrong doing and evil deeds. And the few times it is positive (like having millions) it's to PROTECT you from evil doers like feminist.

2.Its ALWAYS unhealthy to have secrets bcuz it destroys trust before it can be established good. Whoever thinks it's healthy are the ones to be avoided.

3. To decide for SOMEONE ELSE if your secrets will impact THEM is controlling, juvenile, shows a SERIOUS lack of experience, disrespectful and part of the feminist anthem. How the F**K can you decide that for other ppl??

4. NOT telling key things about yourself from the is WHY RELATIONSHIP END dumbass! What if a man decided that a woman did NOT need to know that he's been sexing all his family member including his mom until 5 years into the relationship? That would be TO ASKING AWAY someone's choice to be involved.

5. White lies are just as destructive as black lies. It shows a serious propensity for lying to get their way. Stupid!

Like when women LIED about being sick to avoid sex. That could make a man feel she's f**king someone else. It does for women. But it'll also send him OUTSIDE to get off and the relationship ends anyway only more harsher.



See you think this shit cute and ok obviously or you wouldn't have made the post and admitted you do it yourself.

Mental patients aren't suppose to know these things bcuz the law doesn't allow retarded to f**k.

3/26/2017 1:07:52 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

dr_i_got_answer
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Quote from 001snatch:
Yes a few secrets wouldnt hurt.


Hey baby!

Women most times find Mystery exciting and interesting bcuz they LOVE the thrill seeking and looking to find shit out which is why women (more so than men) enjoy shows like CSI, Criminal Minds and checking a man's phone for evidence.

But like said before women HATE rules and care NOTHING about their wants being detrimental to their future. So if a little mystery is fun for you NOW that's usually all that matters. Let's look at the logic and facts around this...

If YOU have secrets I don't get to decide what secrets you keep and what they are right? And the same works for me right. So what if I decide that it's cool to be sleeping with you and other women (raw) at the same time?? Now that might be mad fun for me but how would you feel when you find out 4 years and a relationship later??

See my point??

3/26/2017 1:12:08 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

dr_i_got_answer
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Gwynn Oak, MD
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Quote from 4uijack:
You mean like secretly boning your mom, OP?

Keeping it in the family


And end up making another little retarded fool??

Don't do that!

You already see what kinda product that's being produced.

3/26/2017 1:27:25 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

dr_i_got_answer
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Gwynn Oak, MD
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Quote from enigmaathand:
Did you like finding out about your last boyfriend's little secret?(We both know I already know the answer to this question)


I doubt very seriously if THAT story is even true. But giving the benefit of the doubt, let's say for arguments sake it IS true....

If she already supposedly had this experience but STILL ADKING this question and admitting to doing the very thing she didn't like done to her??

Now what does that say??

3/26/2017 1:36:08 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

dr_i_got_answer
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Gwynn Oak, MD
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Quote from stupidasssienna:
Obviously no but that is different from secrets that are irrelevant to the relationship. That was a big secret that does impact the relationship


Oh NOW I get it!

You're the muf**kn "Grand Master" of deciding for EVERYONE what secrets are important and which are NOT? YOU DECIDED that his secret was wrong bcuz you didn't like the outcome. And YOU DECIDE for others if YOUR secrets matter to them too??

What happen to ppl DECIDING for THEMSELVES if your secrets matter??

Oh that's right... Bcuz you're the "Grand Master!" Right?

3/26/2017 2:06:54 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

dr_i_got_answer
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Quote from stupudasssienna:
Ok I think it is important to note a secret is just something that you don't tell other people. Not all secrets are even important. You act like they are lol


Are you plum f**king or retarded to the 10th degree?

Didn't you hear that man say it destroys the trust stupid!!!

And you STILL talking about ALL secrets aren't important?? And to WHOM are they not important??

3/26/2017 2:09:05 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

sadlsticsienna
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I'm an angel with a shotgun, shotgun, shotgun
An angel with a shotgun, shotgun, shotgun

Get out your guns, battles begun
Are you a saint, or a sinner?
If loves a fight, than I shall die
With my heart on a trigger

They say before you start a war
You better know what you're fighting for
Well baby, you are all that I adore
If love is what you need, a soldier I will be

I'm an angel with a shotgun
Fighting til' the wars won
I don't care if heaven won't take me back
I'll throw away my faith, babe, just to keep you safe
Don't you know you're everything I have?
And I, wanna live, not just survive, tonight

Sometimes to win, you've got to sin
Don't mean I'm not a believer
And major Tom, will sing along
Yeah, they still say I'm a dreamer


3/26/2017 2:31:11 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

dr_i_got_answer
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quoteheader]Quote from OrchideaPorpora
3/26/2017 2:36:56 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

sadlsticsienna
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Quote from enigmaathand:
You always complain about men lying and not really caring about you.
Well, I am NOT THAT GUY. So, they get full disclosure.
If it is just a fling, they know that from the very start. I don't hesitate or withhold anything, and I never pull my punches.
So, what do you women want? Lies and secrets, because they make you feel good at first, and worse after the breakup? Or, the absolute unbridled truth, that may make your stomach turn at first, but in the end you fully understand your prospective mate?

I used to live in that fantasy land of telling them everything until I realized they lied to me about who they are and basically pretended to be someone entirely different.

When they have everything to lose they put on this fake act, when they have nothing to lose anymore that is when their true nature comes out.
Not only that but telling them didn't actually impact anything and they were gone in the end anyway lol. So you know, now I don't make myself tell them sensitive things about me that they don't need to know.
It's on a need to know basis really.
I expect to be told necessary and important information, that's it really. Or does that even matter in the end, maybe not because, again, they always go anyway.
I might as well make a rule up to dump them after 2-3 months since it always happens anyway. Although then I guess I wouldn't need that rule cos it just happens anyway lol.

3/26/2017 2:52:32 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

dr_i_got_answer
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Gwynn Oak, MD
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Quote from sadlsticsienna:
I'm an angel with a shotgun, shotgun, shotgun
An angel with a shotgun, shotgun, shotgun

Get out your guns, battles begun
Are you a saint, or a sinner?
If loves a fight, than I shall die
With my heart on a trigger

They say before you start a war
You better know what you're fighting for
Well baby, you are all that I adore
If love is what you need, a soldier I will be

I'm an angel with a shotgun
Fighting til' the wars won
I don't care if heaven won't take me back
I'll throw away my faith, babe, just to keep you safe
Don't you know you're everything I have?
And I, wanna live, not just survive, tonight

Sometimes to win, you've got to sin
Don't mean I'm not a believer
And major Tom, will sing along
Yeah, they still say I'm a dreamer


More of your retarded bullshit huh? This is what you run and hide behind to avoid dealing with reality. Talking shit that has NOTHING to do with the subject and this cartoon bullshit.

3/26/2017 2:57:16 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

sadlsticsienna
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kTCNwWiEpD4
Enjoy Dr Ret.ard lol

3/26/2017 10:12:32 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

fixious
Fort Collins, CO
36, joined Apr. 2008


I think it's healthy and okay to have secrets in a relationship. Being with someone doesn't mean you own them or your entitled to know everything about them. I think it's also good to acknowledge that the person you're with not only has secrets but has the right to keep them and not to get angry or offended if you stumble upon one. If you're going to be in a relationship with someone you have to be willing to accept them for who they are, and that includes accepting the fact that they have secrets they don't wish to share with you.

3/26/2017 10:15:08 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

stratus55
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no secrets,and nothing to hide..were married to the same bride,she eats away from inside........

3/26/2017 11:04:53 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

enigmaathand
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Quote from sadlsticsienna:
I used to live in that fantasy land of telling them everything until I realized they lied to me about who they are and basically pretended to be someone entirely different.

When they have everything to lose they put on this fake act, when they have nothing to lose anymore that is when their true nature comes out.
Not only that but telling them didn't actually impact anything and they were gone in the end anyway lol. So you know, now I don't make myself tell them sensitive things about me that they don't need to know.
It's on a need to know basis really.
I expect to be told necessary and important information, that's it really. Or does that even matter in the end, maybe not because, again, they always go anyway.
I might as well make a rule up to dump them after 2-3 months since it always happens anyway. Although then I guess I wouldn't need that rule cos it just happens anyway lol.
Women are worse than men, with doing this. And they ALWAYS LEAVE, when the cash flow dries up.

3/26/2017 11:22:31 AM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

sadlsticsienna
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Quote from enigmaathand:
Women are worse than men, with doing this. And they ALWAYS LEAVE, when the cash flow dries up.
I leave them when they make my vagina dry up
LOl sorry,. couldn't stop myself

3/26/2017 12:21:49 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

sadlsticsienna
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ok ok ok who else thinks Noctis is hot??
such lovely hands too ugh
would totally suck on his fingers




3/26/2017 12:54:43 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

lovethelake17
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In a healthy relationship, there really isn't a need to keep secrets, other than like keeping secret a surprise party or something along those lines. You don't actively keep a secret from him or her because you trust them.

It may be more that you just haven't told him every detail or story about yourself. It's not that you're keeping a secret just that whatever detail or story hasn't come up yet, you don't remember it yourself, or it doesn't pertain to any current happening in your lives.

But that's what's kind of fun. As the years go by and the relationship endures, you still have things to reveal, so to speak.

I still say, though, keep to yourself if you don't like my best friend, or you hate my mother. If that's a secret, then so be it. I think it's probably more that you know it may affect those relationships rather than harm your own, and you don't want that to happen so you just don't mention it.

3/26/2017 1:32:38 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

sadlsticsienna
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Well some "stories" aka secrets, are painful and not fun to explain so I just don't tell them.
Hell I tell the fun secrets lmao

3/26/2017 1:52:00 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

lovethelake17
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Everyone has those stories.

But they generally get told to someone you love and trust at some point in time. Not right away, but in time. When you're with someone to whom you've entrusted your heart and your self, you just share your stories--good or bad.

3/26/2017 2:13:10 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

sadlsticsienna
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Quote from lovethelake17:
Everyone has those stories.

But they generally get told to someone you love and trust at some point in time. Not right away, but in time. When you're with someone to whom you've entrusted your heart and your self, you just share your stories--good or bad.

I like not telling because then I feel better when the relationship ends lol. Its kind of like I have something vulnerable about myself that I protect and when I don't tell it makes me feel good because they didn't get to see sensitive and vulnurable things about me. It is a really good feeling.

Kinda like your base has been raided but you had some important loot like ak74 and bolties stashed in a secret location and they didn't get to it.

3/26/2017 2:50:26 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

lovethelake17
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Ah. OK, then.

3/26/2017 4:26:45 PM Is it ok to have secrets in a relationship?  

enigmaathand
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Quote from sadlsticsienna:
I leave them when they make my vagina dry up
LOl sorry,. couldn't stop myself
That would require them being able to melt all the ice, first....