Say if she is upset at him or about something else etc, is it ok or not ok?

Men have you ever gotten mad or left a girl because she with held sex too much?

Do you expect her to still do it and think its not acceptable if she witholds it?

One evening last week, my girlfriend and I were getting into bed. Well, the passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says, 'I don't feel like it, I just want you to hold me.'

I said, 'WHAT??!! What was that?!'

So she says the words that every boyfriend on the planet dreads to hear...

'You're just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough for me to satisfy your physical needs as a man.'

She responded to my puzzled look by saying, 'Can't you just love me for who I am and not what I do for you in the bedroom?'

Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night, I went to sleep.

The very next day I opted to take the day off of work to spend time with her. We went out to a nice lunch and then went shopping at a big, big unnamed department store. I walked around with her while she tried on several different very expensive outfits. She couldn't decide which one to take, so I told her we'd just buy them all. She wanted new shoes to compliment her new clothes, so I said, 'Lets get a pair for each outfit.'

We went on to the jewelry department where she picked out a pair of diamond earrings. Let me tell you... she was so excited. She must have thought I was one wave short of a shipwreck. I started to think she was testing me because she asked for a tennis bracelet when she doesn't even know how to play tennis.

I think I threw her for a loop when I said, 'That's fine, honey.' She was almost nearing sexual satisfaction from all of the excitement. Smiling with excited anticipation, she finally said, 'I think this is all dear, let's go to the cashier.'

I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, 'No honey, I don't feel like it.'

Her face just went completely blank as her jaw dropped with a baffled, 'WHAT?'

I then said, 'Honey! I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while. You're just not in touch with my financial needs as a man enough for me to satisfy your shopping needs as a woman.'

And just when she had this look like she was going to kill me, I added, 'Why can't you just love me for who I am and not for the things I buy you?'

Apparently I'm not having sex tonight either.

Bad excuse to cheat. That is just what it is an excuse

Of course, but they've been "showing heir power in the relationship" since EVE and adam. Then the guy finds a REAL woman and she divorces him though it's her fault and wonders where all the REAL MEN are!!!






Have you noticed that in the last year or so folks don't make whiny posts like that anymore? Yes, that IS an improvement in the site.

Hey Sarah, we both know, that I KNOW, what SOME of your immediate needs are. So, quit while you are ahead.

So what you are saying is, a woman can start a normal relationship with a man, having sex and taking care of each others need, wants and desires. Then somewhere down the line she desides that she no longer wants to have sex and stops.

She turns down his advances all the time, yet still expects him to cater to her wants, needs, and desires knowing that he will never have sex with her again, and he should be happy about it and do nothing.

Seems like a VERY ONE SIDED relationship, and believe me they are not fun.

That is why I divorced my last ex wife.

I have the same level of sex drive, now, as I did at the age of 21.

So, I don't know where you think we lose our sexual drive as we get older.

When I dated Kat, for the short time we were together, we had sex 4-5x a day, multiple times a week. And I was 30 years old, at that time.

Maybe YOUR sex drive has declined. I assure you, mine is a matter of WILLPOWER.

When I find those rare gems, that I think are truly worth the investment of everything I can offer, my sex drive goes into "Overdrive".

If she's upset with him, it's likely she's not going to be in the mood for sex, and that's not withholding, that's just being mad.

If she withholds just to control or manipulate him in some way (btw I've known of men who have done that, too) then it's wrong and it's her character that's in question.

I don't understand the whole bite off your nose to spite your face thing.

Pardon me, OP -- may I advertise for a b/f in your thread to test your theory and be able to respond appropriately?

You're talking about enig.^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Just elope with enig instead of trying to make him jealous of cartoons

Nah about my ex from 2.5 years ago. His name is Todd and he's 28.

So did this start or end 2.5 years ago?

So, you are 24, now?

You got with your ex, Jason, at 16. How does Todd fit into this picture, considering you had dated Jason for almost the full 7 years up to this point?

Something isn't adding up in your story.....

He doesn't want me because he wants ME, it's more because he is just desperate and lonely and that's kinda meh. Like I don't want to be with someone just to fill some sorta void they have.

It's true. She is one of those gorgeous young women, that could easily acquire some old, rich guy, that wants to drink from the "Fountain of Youth".

Oh no...Desperate, lonely, and horny... not a good combination.

No wonder why you aren't sexually attracted to that.