My last boyfriend broke up with me little over 2 years ago. I was left baffled when we broke up without notice. We had a great relationship. Never ague, not even once. I supported him in all he did and never judged him for his faults. We where, what I thought, a perfect match.

Perfect minus 2 facts.
1. He had abandonment issues and let that fear hold him back. He felt his life was doomed to live alone and was unworthy of everlasting love. (Which is just non-sense because he was the sweet, humble, considerate, and caring.)
2. His nature is very calm and low key. Im German, my family known to talk louder, show emotions, and famous for having anxiety....At least that is how it works in my family. I've worked years on toning this trait down. While I will never be perfect, I do strive to be the best person I can and treat others with kindness. To think of others before myself.

Each of use had one large flaw, and overall, I thought we were perfect together. One day when he says he wants to end our relationship (but still be friends)....I was in total shock and heartbroken.

I just assumed that time would pass and things would work out. We still went on dates a few times and send text messages. All of which were friendly in nature. No X rated events. But as time passed the messages became fewer. I tried to move on and focus my time on work and my son. I even left the door for dating open.

I just learned that he got married. My heart suddenly felt heartbroken all over again. She looks just like me too, so I know is decision to leave was not based on looks.Obviously, I was not the right one for him.

On one side of the coin: Im happy that he finally found peace and happiness, I wish him a very happy marriage. He truly deserves the best and she is very lucky to have such a wonderful guy. And she must be a great gal to have earned his trust.

On the other side of the coin: I am jealous, I think some. Im hurt. Im sadden by the possibility that never will be. Im disappointed in myself for not being good enough (Which is just non-sense because I am also sweet, humble, considerate, and caring)

We broke up a little over 2 years ago. I have been ready to move on for some time now. This news just threw me back a bit. So perhaps this post is just to blow off some steam? Or perhaps you might have some good advise or words of encouragement? Im sure many of you have had the experience of an Ex getting married to someone else.

Yeah when a good one comes along.

This may sound harsh but its what helps me get over people, forget about him he doesn't love you or care that much about you.
You need to realize its over and you don't want to be with him even if you could because he has hurt you and you no longer feel the same.
I ended things with every boyfriend I've ever had and all wanted to have me back but I wouldn't. I'm just good at getting over people when I don't see their is a future there with them.

Thank you to those that shared kind works of encouragement. I am feeling better today, though my heart is still sad. Closure is not something that is easy when the other person is so vague. All I got was: I'm a great person, a best friend, a great girlfriend, but I wanted more than he did and he never wanted to get married. Obviously not completely true.

Yes, it does seem as though he has a "type" as I was totally surprised when I saw her photo.

I get that some guys just dont want to bring up anything negative to keep the lady happy. Im big into communication. If something is truly bothering, it's best to calmly and politely talk about it. No need to drag it out. A five minute conversation to discuss the topic like an adult is more than adequate. Knowledge is power. Perhaps the brake up would have not been so out of the blue and I left confused if he communicated any negative feelings. While I can not change who I am, I can twink bad habits that are bother. If nothing else I have a better understanding where he stood.

But that is OK, because I'm sure a great future awaits. I shall be grateful for all that I have now.

Wishing them both well does help me find some peace. Everyone deserves happiness.

I would just run with what he said to you. You are a great person, a best friend, and a great girlfriend. So, be it. He's married now. The book is about closed as it ever will get.

It's time to write your own story with a happy ending.

I've been in your ex's shoes. So, I doubt it if he would want you to feel bad about things and he probably hopes that you find exactly what you are looking for. He probably liked you very much, but just NOT enough to give up his freedom and make a lifelong commitment to you. He was attracted to you, that's why he chose someone who looked like you.

Unless you ask him, you'll never know why things didn't work out. Something might have happened early in the relationship to turn him off from the idea of "forever" with you... or maybe he hadn't yet warmed up to the idea of marriage and needed more time to process his feelings... but then there was pressure to move forward. When he met this other woman who reminded him of you, it was easy to fall in love and... well... she was a blank page without any issues.