Quote from Mercedes_3:This is out of my league

You must - don't let this thread crash without a starting chance! Go find RightGuy and remind him that even though you're not married you still want a divorce. His reaction will tell me EVERYTHING lol
That there is not enough jet fuel to even turn his face into a charitable donation.

Damn, and I was just turning single, too.
Tsk tsk...

How can you make an long distance relationship last ?

How can you make an long distance relationship last ?

Pretty much what Mercedes said.
You're stealing my thunder, missy lol.

I would say long distance relationships are more difficult to maintain because half of what's needed to sustain it is already gone via absence. So, the best way to sustain it (or have higher odds in doing so) is to mimic a face to face meeting as closely as possible. This means engaging his / her emotions (with the tone and sound of your voice), stimulating him / her psychologically (by having intelligent dialogue) and enticing him / her physically (by visually looking good in front of a webcam over Skype / give great webcam sex, etc..). That way he / she is fulfilled emotionally, psychologically and physically.
But there is still half that's missing. And that other half (to his / her emotional, psychological and physical fulfillment) is the hierarchy of his / her wants, needs and desires.
Typically, they are paired like this:
Emotional = NEED
Psychological = WANTS
Physical= DESIRE

Example:

Your partner likes how the sounds of your voice assures his / her emotions... but sometimes - he / she just NEEDS a hug (but you can't do that because you're not there)

Your partner likes the intelligent dialogue - it engages his/ her psychological side (but he / she really WANTS to have it around all the time, not have to open up a laptop or login to Facebook to do it)

Your partner likes it when you undress and entice him / her. But seriously DESIRES to have it with you in real life, and is tired of giving you those hand-jobs in the form of typing on a keyboard...He / she wants his hands to tire for the real deal lol

So what bridges that missing half is progress - and you can simply achieve that by making the more serious commitment of making all of his / her wants needs and desires to come true. "I hope you like my dance on webcam for you, babe. That's why I can't wait to actually meet you on this (this date)."

Because even though having long distance relationships is great, the torment of missing that person and craving their presence will eventually eat away at you so much - that the great interactions that you two have shared will only slowly remind you more and more how much you want to make it a real reality (and not a virtual reality). Hope this helps a bit in putting it more into perspective for you.

Trust/Patience/Shit load of communication.

Don't make promises that are too far fetched.

What does it mean when guys message you a lot on dating sites, to the point you add them to facebook but then they end up messaging you less. Usually after I won't meet up straight away.
To the point where they often don't talk for a few weeks, then suddenly talk and
literally ask me for a date lol
They can't be serious?
or am I too needy? expecting to be talked to more often to take them seriously to meet?

It usually means that they were after your facebook (to check out your photos on your facebook profile - and to keep checking you out on facebook) to compare you with other women he has "captured." So, he is interested, but because his communication fell out right around that time, it usually means his interest / attraction for you is peripheral rather than central. That could be caused by too many reasons to list: example: the other women he has on facebook upload more visually stimulating pictures of themselves, seem more interested in providing him what he wants on a more progressive level (rather it be sex or long term commitment).
In a lot of ways, getting a woman's facebook info is a lot better than just a number - because not only can you reach them more conveniently, you can check by and see their photos, see what they're up to, who their friends are (if they seem more attractive) the list goes on, and on...
This should prove to you how calculating it (he) is - if a man asks for facebook rather than your number. Facebook is less personal - and waaay more visual (which usually means lust and / or infatuation) rather anything with substance to it.
But a phone number is less visual and more personal (because you have to call them to hear the sound of their voice, really know who they are when they share their deepest thoughts, actually respect them enough to ask for a photo through their cell phone, etc...)
It typically means (although not always - only you have to decide on this) but it typically means you have an opportunity to find a man who cares to know you more personally, rather than just adding another VISUAL contact notch on his belt. Never settle for ANY man who treats you as an option, rather than a chased priority Hope this helps.