| 7/26/2017 6:55:56 PM |
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peytonw
Manchester, CT
45, joined Aug. 2013
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My engagement ended due to his adult children(24&28) wrecking us. They are his daughters and are very attached to him. At first i thought it was sweet but then they started fighting to have him with them all the time and when i wanted to have dinner, they would make plans or our vacations, they would have to come and mess it up. Want to leave me behind so they can have daddy and me time. Really? The last straw was when they changed my wedding day which was in 3yrs to 7yrs and he said ok. SO wrong, i said i am not doing this and he walked out on me. Said they come first and i am gone! So i am a wreck and i have never heard from him since. Has anyone dealt with this issue? Its crazy 
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| 7/26/2017 6:56:35 PM |
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rightguyforu732
Lisle, IL
39, joined Jun. 2017
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Peyton are u f**kable?
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| 7/26/2017 7:08:36 PM |
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korbyn
Bat Cave, NC
98, joined Jun. 2013
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I been thru something like that where this woman wanted to have a relationship with me but her giant mutant adult sons frightened me off.
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| 7/26/2017 7:09:23 PM |
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anglicus_femina
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
43, joined May. 2016
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Perhaps you should of asked them to dinner with you and your partner to find out why they have a problem.
Clearly they do.
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| 7/26/2017 7:10:15 PM |
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spotforusername
Fernandina Beach, FL
51, joined Jan. 2013
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He walked out on you?
You are a wreck?
Sounds like you should have had some self respect and walked out a long time ago.
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| 7/26/2017 7:14:19 PM |
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lareveur
Clinton, TN
33, joined May. 2013
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You cannot force a man to choose between you and his biological children. But he also should not let his daughters dictate his life for him, as well. The fact that he seemingly does should showcase to you his lack of strength and balance in avoiding to play the middle ground.
In a lot of ways, it could have been worse for you. You could have married him and become destined to being victimized to his kids overbearing jealousy as well as his weakness for them - because I can assure you - it all would have come at your emotional expense for many years (if not decades).
The fact that they pushed your engagement far more into the future would have been a first taste of that decade. Does it sound ideal, simply because you love a man who wouldn't fight hard enough to make all happy (other than looking out for only himself in the name of comfort)? I hope not.
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| 7/26/2017 7:19:46 PM |
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4uijack
New Port Richey, FL
82, joined Aug. 2013
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Just did the same thing, OP!!
Wanna f**k, Peyton? 
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| 7/26/2017 7:20:57 PM |
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westy602
Phoenix, AZ
45, joined May. 2013
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The last straw was when they changed my wedding day which was in 3yrs to 7yrs and he said ok.
Why would people in their 40's make plans to get married that far away in the future??..
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| 7/26/2017 7:23:32 PM |
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rightguyforu732
Lisle, IL
39, joined Jun. 2017
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He walked out on you?
You are a wreck?
Sounds like you should have had some self respect and walked out a long time ago.
Damn. Ur a b*tch.
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| 7/27/2017 12:33:01 AM |
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lareveur
Clinton, TN
33, joined May. 2013
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Damn. Ur a b*tch.
Trying to reach the top shelf again, TightGuy - ehrr, I meant TightWad lol?
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| 7/27/2017 12:38:45 AM |
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john_cnc
Charlotte, NC
50, joined Jul. 2017
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I hate it when people say their kids come first. Number one, it's a captain obvious thing to say. Number two, it's just an excuse. Kids coming first is meant for urgent situations. Too many people use it as a reason to decide whether to stay home with the kids or go on a date. That isn't an urgent situation. If my kids were trying to dictate my dating/romantic life in such a measure, they'd be put in their place quickly.
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| 7/27/2017 12:41:23 AM |
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lareveur
Clinton, TN
33, joined May. 2013
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I hate it when people say their kids come first. Number one, it's a captain obvious thing to say. Number two, it's just an excuse. Kids coming first is meant for urgent situations. Too many people use it as a reason to decide whether to stay home with the kids or go on a date. That isn't an urgent situation. If my kids were trying to dictate my dating/romantic life in such a measure, they'd be put in their place quickly.
 Agreed. Especially when they are already over the age of 18 - they don't like it? Date someone of their own that they can approve of themselves instead of making someone elses business their own in a controlling manner.
And...
BUDDYYYYYY!!!!!
       
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| 7/27/2017 12:45:55 AM |
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john_cnc
Charlotte, NC
50, joined Jul. 2017
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Dreamer
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| 7/27/2017 2:48:48 AM |
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easttowest72
Bremen, GA
45, joined Sep. 2014
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Peyton that is a very strange situation. I have 2 kids about the same age. Over the weekend my daughter was with her husband and kids and my son worked then went out with friends. Time with daddy is just weird at that age. I get going out for father's day or bdays but to exclude you is messed up. It is probably more of your man's fault than you realize. When my son wants out of going somewhere he always tells the person he is doing work for me. Im his scape goat.
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| 7/27/2017 2:50:40 AM |
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Mercedes_3
New South Wales
Australia
90, joined Jun. 2016
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I hate it when john_cnc post's as Judy Patooty!~
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| 7/27/2017 3:51:01 AM |
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dances_in_woods
Henderson, TX
50, joined Mar. 2011
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I hate it when people say their kids come first. Number one, it's a captain obvious thing to say. Number two, it's just an excuse. Kids coming first is meant for urgent situations. Too many people use it as a reason to decide whether to stay home with the kids or go on a date. That isn't an urgent situation. If my kids were trying to dictate my dating/romantic life in such a measure, they'd be put in their place quickly.
Well said plus it also comes across that you'll Always come last no matter what.
I dated a guy briefly that so many times we'd have plans made & his grown kid would just decide to drop by and rather than telling her...Hey, can you come back tomorrow? Dad's got a date tonite ok? Nope he'd just cancel on me. I walked..
When I would just drive up on my parents unannounced like that & they were going somewhere they had no problem telling me they had plans but to catch them the next day. I'd understand & just say Oh ok, yeah I'll catch ya tomorrow...ya'll go have fun!
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| 7/27/2017 4:17:55 AM |
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Mercedes_3
New South Wales
Australia
90, joined Jun. 2016
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24 & 28 certainly aren't kids at all so it's obvious he wasn't
into you he just used his adult children as an excuse.
When you have young kids forget about dating because the kids
have to come first then when they become young adults then it's
you time.
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| 7/27/2017 6:19:28 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
25, joined Jan. 2016
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His children are 24 and 28. What the heck is the guy doing. He acts as though they are still kids.
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| 7/27/2017 7:05:21 AM |
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uncle_bulgaria
Houston, TX
50, joined Apr. 2017
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My engagement ended due to his adult children(24&28) wrecking us. They are his daughters and are very attached to him. At first i thought it was sweet but then they started fighting to have him with them all the time and when i wanted to have dinner, they would make plans or our vacations, they would have to come and mess it up. Want to leave me behind so they can have daddy and me time. Really? The last straw was when they changed my wedding day which was in 3yrs to 7yrs and he said ok. SO wrong, i said i am not doing this and he walked out on me. Said they come first and i am gone! So i am a wreck and i have never heard from him since. Has anyone dealt with this issue? Its crazy
Well reading that the problem was the guy not the daughters. if he allowed them to manipulate him, that's his fault.
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| 7/27/2017 7:10:26 AM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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OP, have you ever dated, successfully?
In all your alternate profiles you have some pretty off-the-wall BS experiences.
Good thing you're not a man and got the biotch pregnant and had to pay child support, huh?
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| 7/27/2017 7:12:22 AM |
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uncle_bulgaria
Houston, TX
50, joined Apr. 2017
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The daughters were 24 and 28? I'd have f**ked them too.
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| 7/27/2017 8:41:53 AM |
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easttowest72
Bremen, GA
45, joined Sep. 2014
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Were his 2 daughters too ugly to have boyfriends? Because that much time with dad screams incest.
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| 7/27/2017 8:54:07 AM |
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bosss_babe
Saint Paul, MN
44, joined Jan. 2017
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The daughters were 24 and 28? I'd have f**ked them too.
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| 7/27/2017 11:24:58 AM |
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Helly_Orchid
Oshawa, ON
37, joined Jan. 2017
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If he was a real man, he wouldn't let his obviously spoiled brats run his life.
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| 7/27/2017 11:33:35 AM |
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anglicus_femina
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
43, joined May. 2016
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If they were all adults they'd of talked to each other. Including the reasons why. Maybe they didn't think you were right for him. Maybe they don't like you or something you did and are acting like they are.
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| 7/27/2017 11:51:17 AM |
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mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
55, joined May. 2011
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Sounds more like they were his girlfriends, not his daughters.
Good thing you didn't get married. He wasn't right for you.
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| 7/27/2017 12:26:02 PM |
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kungfu_candy
Alsónémedi
Hungary
28, joined Aug. 2013
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Keep tabs on him.
See if they're still that clingy after they start their own family.
See how much "daddy-time" they want, when daddy's old and can't take care of himself anymore.
Sit back and sip some delicious champagne at the beautiful irony of it all.
Lets see if daddy can pull that with them once they have kids and men.
My moms ex-boyfriend let his kids break them up and then a few years down the road he came crawling back because suddenly his kids weren't all about daddy since they already had control of daddy's money.
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| 7/27/2017 5:53:08 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
52, joined Jul. 2013
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My engagement ended due to his adult children(24&28) wrecking us. They are his daughters and are very attached to him. At first i thought it was sweet but then they started fighting to have him with them all the time and when i wanted to have dinner, they would make plans or our vacations, they would have to come and mess it up. Want to leave me behind so they can have daddy and me time. Really? The last straw was when they changed my wedding day which was in 3yrs to 7yrs and he said ok. SO wrong, i said i am not doing this and he walked out on me. Said they come first and i am gone! So i am a wreck and i have never heard from him since. Has anyone dealt with this issue? Its crazy
Why wait til three years to get married? U should have had a discussion with him, where he spends time with u then he spends time with his adult kids
then have one day where y'all all go out together, I don't see u mention that
u had a talked with him about his adult kids and u not gone win sense he had to choose now his kids sitting back laughing cause they got what they wanted
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| 7/27/2017 6:50:34 PM |
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4uijack
New Port Richey, FL
82, joined Aug. 2013
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F**k all that
BS peyton, I'll f**k ya right!!!
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| 7/27/2017 6:50:37 PM |
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legaleye
Columbus, OH
65, joined Mar. 2008
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I remember all those profiles from women who stated "my kids come first." And then look at the kids are teenagers and not little kids. Move on to the next profile.
Years later I dated several women who were helicopter parents. They hover over their kids and try to run the kids lives. The kids are so dependent on mom that once an adult child called mom, who was out to dinner with me, and wanted to know where in the house they kept the toilet paper. Gotta be kidding.
Wedding is a foreign word for me. I wont be getting married again in this lifetime, but if I was, there would be a very short engagement, maybe a few weeks.
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| 7/28/2017 12:04:36 AM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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I hate it when people say their kids come first. Number one, it's a captain obvious thing to say. Number two, it's just an excuse. Kids coming first is meant for urgent situations. Too many people use it as a reason to decide whether to stay home with the kids or go on a date. That isn't an urgent situation. If my kids were trying to dictate my dating/romantic life in such a measure, they'd be put in their place quickly.
That excuse works when the children are minors and totally dependent and still growing up. Adult children of either sex should GET A JOB, MOVE OUT, get a place of their own and make their own rules and live their own lives. Mama and Daddy have a right to their own lives at that point and the kids ought to butt out, but this guy didn't have the spine of a jellyfish so he couldn't do that. You really wouldn't want to be married to a spineless wimp would you?
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| 7/28/2017 12:07:44 AM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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His children are 24 and 28. What the heck is the guy doing. He acts as though they are still kids.
The kids should have been booted out of the nest. They should get a job and set up for themselves.
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| 7/28/2017 12:09:57 AM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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Were his 2 daughters too ugly to have boyfriends? Because that much time with dad screams incest.
Perhaps, east, perhaps, but ugly enough to crack a mirror or not they should have been booted out of the nest, they should have had careers like a good feminist and set up for themselves.
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| 7/28/2017 12:48:17 AM |
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M4mischief
Grand Prairie, TX
99, joined May. 2016
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wow what a wimp...his kids act like they're 5 not grown ups...they should have no say in his dating life at all since he's a grown man.....
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| 7/28/2017 12:52:35 AM |
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Suzhi
Knoxville, TN
55, joined Aug. 2016
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Sounds to me like dude wanted out of the relationship.. Jmo..
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| 7/29/2017 4:31:39 PM |
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neal356
Oxford, AL
59, joined May. 2014
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if he really wants a relationship with you and you with him, he will make it happen
despite the children.
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| 7/29/2017 7:57:51 PM |
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peytonw
Manchester, CT
45, joined Aug. 2013
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I thought it was weird too. He is a lazy man that works nights. All he wants to do is sleep and eat so i think putting the effort into me was to much. Thanks for the advice
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| 7/29/2017 7:58:32 PM |
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peytonw
Manchester, CT
45, joined Aug. 2013
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if he really wants a relationship with you and you with him, he will make it happen
despite the children.
I agree. He walked out and never looked back. Today would have been our anniversary.. NOTHING. Hes a douche
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| 7/29/2017 8:29:36 PM |
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Helly_Orchid
Oshawa, ON
37, joined Jan. 2017
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Just keep remembering. There's no point in missing a douche.
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| 7/30/2017 5:00:25 PM |
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4uijack
New Port Richey, FL
82, joined Aug. 2013
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Do you still swallow, peyton?
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| 7/31/2017 5:08:01 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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And?
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| 7/31/2017 5:27:21 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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Kick them out
Make the darlings WORK!!!!!!!!!!!
Change the locks on the door.
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| 7/31/2017 6:13:25 PM |
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4uijack
New Port Richey, FL
82, joined Aug. 2013
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I'd f**k 'em all!!!
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| 8/3/2017 9:38:23 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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Grow up...
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| 8/4/2017 3:46:37 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
52, joined Jul. 2013
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| 8/5/2017 2:02:15 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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O.P., sounds like you dodged a bullet.
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| 8/5/2017 5:34:15 AM |
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_purdibirdi_
Nice
France
51, joined Apr. 2014
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My engagement ended due to his adult children(24&28) wrecking us. They are his daughters and are very attached to him. At first i thought it was sweet but then they started fighting to have him with them all the time and when i wanted to have dinner, they would make plans or our vacations, they would have to come and mess it up. Want to leave me behind so they can have daddy and me time. Really? The last straw was when they changed my wedding day which was in 3yrs to 7yrs and he said ok. SO wrong, i said i am not doing this and he walked out on me. Said they come first and i am gone! So i am a wreck and i have never heard from him since. Has anyone dealt with this issue? Its crazy
My children would definitely want to meet a fellow if a relationship were to ever get that serious; however, they wouldn't ever try and dictate my relationship.
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| 8/5/2017 5:40:24 AM |
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john_cnc
Charlotte, NC
50, joined Jul. 2017
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If I had adult sons, I'd allow them to date purdi.
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