| 10/11/2017 8:04:01 PM |
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rosewarrior
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Jul. 2017
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1,I wanted to ask you all,
2.Are you taking care of yourselfs?
3,Are you trying to eat well,
I was just thinking about you all and wanted you men to know
I care Rosewarrior  :
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| 10/11/2017 11:49:23 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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I'm not a widow, but I'm retired and doing fine.
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| 10/12/2017 6:06:10 AM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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He is doing fine, Sing -- he remembers he's a male.
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| 10/12/2017 5:27:55 PM |
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rosewarrior
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Jul. 2017
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This is for widoers only!
If you're not a widoer pls move on I'm just cheak on my guy friends,Rosewarrior,
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| 10/12/2017 11:07:30 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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You weren't interested anyhow, rose, big deal.
Guess she really showed me, didn't she?
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| 10/20/2017 7:31:30 AM |
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havicknight
Spring Lake, MI
54, joined Oct. 2011
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Lost my wife of 27 years 8 months ago,feels like yesterday. STILL CANT BELIEVE IT. Being alone sucks,I dont see how or why people do it. My friends and family are more important now then ever.
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| 10/20/2017 7:56:37 AM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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Where did you "lose" your wife?
Have you check with Lost and Found?
 That, sir, is widow/widower humor.
Allow me to clarify:
During "grief counseling" a participant learns new coping fundamentals. The first of those is:
1) It's alright to laugh. It is not disrespectful to your deceased loved one to be alive.
The second thing a new widow/widower learns is terminology.
Say this:
"My wife/husband died.
My wife/husband died.
My wife/husband died."
Your wife/husband isn't LOST.
Your wife/husband hasn't GONE AWAY.
Your wife/husband isn't GONE.
Your wife/husband hasn't PASSED AWAY.
Your wife/husband has DIED. He/she is DEAD. He/she is deceased.
He/she is not coming back.
You are alive.
Love yourself and learn to live.
P.S.: If you are seeking a new relationship/companionship DO NOT make comparisons between the deceased spouse and the new acquaintance (believe it, or not, this is the hardest part of widowhood for MEN to overcome). NEVER say (__) did it this way, (__) said, (__) wouldn't have -- (__) is dead, let them go if you are serious about anew relationship. [The previous isn't to say one must shelve their emotions or memories of their departed loved one, especially when children are involved in that union, but merely as a reminder that a NEW relationship is not a continuation of a previous one.)
Good luck. Keep smiling and loving. You are not alone.
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| 10/22/2017 8:41:12 PM |
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whistlerblue
Lancaster, CA
60, joined Jun. 2010
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Allow me to clarify:
During "grief counseling" a participant learns new coping fundamentals. The first of those is:
1) It's alright to laugh. It is not disrespectful to your deceased loved one to be alive.
The second thing a new widow/widower learns is terminology.
Say this:
"My wife/husband died.
My wife/husband died.
My wife/husband died."
Your wife/husband isn't LOST.
Your wife/husband hasn't GONE AWAY.
Your wife/husband isn't GONE.
Your wife/husband hasn't PASSED AWAY.
Your wife/husband has DIED. He/she is DEAD. He/she is deceased.
Good luck. Keep smiling and loving. You are not alone.
I'd like to offer another point of view on this. I agree with most of the above except for one. I still say that my wife "passed away" because we feel that she passed from this world into the next. We were very fortunate in that we got to say "Good bye" to each other unlike most other couples. She knew she was going to die and we spent the last few hours together and unfortunately, I had to watch her die. But I knew she wasn't in pain anymore and that seemed to make it easier.
It is important to acknowledge a spouse's death but I think we each have to deal with it as we see fit.
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