| 1/27/2010 10:37:11 AM |
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jstlfe010
Suncook, NH
64, joined Jan. 2010
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hi , i dont know how to be faithfull, i have a great girlfriend but i cant get off these dating sites, i travel in an 18 wheeler , next thing you know, im here look'n 4 a babe....its not normal, but i cant help it, my girls sweet, faithfull, kind, loving, what should i do, shes caught me on here nd i tell her shes nutz an' then yell at her...any advice???? the minute her backs turned, im back at it....rich
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| 1/27/2010 12:28:52 PM |
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muffienh
Concord, NH
59, joined Aug. 2008
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WISH I KNEW YOUR GF ID TELL HER WHAT YOU ARE DOING JERK 
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| 1/28/2010 11:27:04 PM |
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tazzzzzz
Newport, NC
53, joined Dec. 2009
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| 1/31/2010 6:14:28 PM |
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keithrespectful
Dover, NH
36, joined Jan. 2010
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Rich for my great advise, please tell your (girlfriend) how you feel about your feelings and her's too because I really do think you do care for her, infact from coming too the forums and asking why you do that...
I also think you should probably just delete this and talk to her cause if you don't, you would just end up alone and be lable a (cheater)
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| 2/1/2010 8:01:11 PM |
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strollingwithu
Manchester, NH
64, joined Jan. 2010
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Rich, Admitting what you do here is your first step in admitting that what you are doing is wrong. What you really need to do is sit down with your girlfriend and do your "true confessions" to her.
Being someone's girlfriend means they deserve the right to honesty and respect from you and from her to you. Your actions show little respect at all. Maybe you are not ready to be in a relationship with one person which causes you to stray. On the other hand, a committed relationship might be what you desire, but you are unable to participate in. You may need some outside help to deal with your ways.
Please sit down calmy with your girlfriend and discuss what you each want in a relationship. Then consider if it's something you are able to give. It just might be that the two of you are not right for eachother. You may end up going seperate ways if you BOTH can't see the situation changing. If you decide to work it out, then you probably should get some outside help with it. Best of luck to both of you.
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| 2/10/2010 6:53:53 AM |
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sweetaspie123
Hollis, NH
47, joined Jan. 2010
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My dearest Rich from Suncook NH. You obviously havent love for your girlfriend if your still looking for something else. Maybe you are a sex addict, and need therapy. If your job makes you that lonely, take your woman with you, or find something new. the enonomy is coming back, slowly but surely. I just picked up the paper and I can see some good jobs in it. There could be so many reason for you doing what you do, but it is not ok that you hurt her in the process.
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| 2/10/2010 5:52:00 PM |
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bigman76
Suncook, NH
32, joined Mar. 2008
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BE A MAN
take responsibility for yourself
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| 2/15/2010 6:53:30 PM |
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missredfox
Nashua, NH
36, joined Dec. 2009
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if you tell your girlfriend the same thing that you have written on here she will respect you more. You seem to care about her but have a problem. You both have feelings and you need to think about where she is coming from and how you would feel. My best advise is you may want to decide if you really want a girlfriend or a toy cuz yout playin with her emotions
Good luck
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| 2/25/2010 3:47:41 PM |
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mctosh
Alstead, NH
28, joined Feb. 2010
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i would never cheat on someone i love ! iv been cheated on and it hurts so y would i want to do that to some one
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| 2/25/2010 6:13:26 PM |
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djunique
East Middlebury, VT
37, joined Oct. 2008
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amen sister,we need more ladies like yourself in my area,damnit. cheaters suck!
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| 2/27/2010 3:45:31 AM |
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mdstar10
Swanzey, NH
46, joined Feb. 2010
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amen to that cheaters are wrthless i mean come on
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| 3/8/2010 4:20:55 AM |
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dazzlinblueeyes
Lowell, MA
52, joined Feb. 2010
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Sounds like you don't appreciate what you do have. How would you feel if she was doing that to you? Would you stay with her? Probably not. You need to take ownership for your actions and there will always be others out there, you just need to decide is she worth losing over trying to find someone else? It all gets old after awhile, if you have someone who treats you wonderful, don't waste it on what could be with others or you will probably end up alone in the end.
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| 3/8/2010 6:05:49 AM |
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maniacmassager
Lawrence, MA
51, joined Mar. 2008
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Your just following the natural insticts of a man. nothing wrong with that, but you shouldnt be in a relationship. thats not fair to the girl. 
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| 3/11/2010 2:34:50 AM |
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lookin4luv18
Canaan, NH
28, joined Mar. 2010
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Your a stupid man, your gunna break her heart, she deserves better than you, don't sit here and blame the fact that you can't keep it in your pants on some kind of mental problem!!! You might as well punch her in the face cuz a broken heart hurts more than any physical pain u could imagine..delete this site and be faithful or she's gunna leave your a** as well she should!!!!
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| 4/9/2010 4:47:56 AM |
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lucyistheone
Townsend, MA
67, joined Apr. 2010
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I think it is good that you know that you like that girlfriend enough to want to be true to her..and that you are aksing for help..maybe you cold talk it out with caring good friends or even a councelor? Is she finds out you are dong this it will hurt her and if she doesn't it will hurt your relationship anyway I would think...keep asking and trying to stay off of here while you are lucky enough to have someone that seem to love or care for you and vice versa...and as someone else said too and I am big on is put yourself in her shoes..do you really want her on here while she is with you?
I am in a not good relationship so am cheating too by being on here..but I am not trying to hurt anyone..the hurt and damange have been long done..and I would leave if I had a job..that being..I even feel that it isnt really a good place for me to be..right now..as I probably need to be alone (though honeslty it is as if I am anyway...only unlesant.I like my aloen time!) before I find someone I am for and who is for me...hey and I am speaking witha councelor...
If you like or love someone flirting and looking on here is cheating though I do agree..and hurtful...bottom line..
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| 4/12/2010 8:37:33 PM |
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xashax
Union, NH
45, joined May. 2009
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I dont think you really need to be so hard on yourself. You just aren't a one woman type. Not all men are. However, its not fair to your girlfriend to carry on and hurt her in this manner and it sounds like its been ongoing. Just drop her as you are not boyfriend material and relish in your promiscuity as thats what you seem to require.
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| 5/16/2010 10:43:13 AM |
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justbeu2001
Belmont, NH
50, joined May. 2010
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It's only my opinion but what your doing is totally wrong. If ya can't get off the sites, then you need to be honest with her, and let her go. I am in the exact same situation with my boyfriend. He too is a truck driver (18 wheeler). He has gotten rid of the computer. If ya can't do that then, I suggest letting go of her, as she would be better off with someone who can be faithful to one person, and who can truely love her like she should be. If you have children together, then get rid of the computer, out of site out of mind. Diane
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| 7/30/2010 1:05:23 AM |
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lmugsyg
Rindge, NH
57, joined Jun. 2010
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Get professional before you loose her.
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| 7/31/2010 8:04:58 PM |
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jandow
Nashua, NH
53, joined Jul. 2010
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you rock!!!!!!!!!!! love what you have to say;.............. and your totally hot!
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| 7/31/2010 8:05:49 PM |
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jandow
Nashua, NH
53, joined Jul. 2010
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your hot!
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| 8/1/2010 7:17:08 PM |
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jimg1
Leominster, MA
58, joined Dec. 2008
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it is guys like you that give the rest of us guys a bad name. quit while your ahead, and let her go so you won't hurt her. Sorry dude I call it the way I see it.
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| 8/11/2010 1:47:01 AM |
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dochollyday
Bremerton, WA
89, joined Feb. 2010
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In my honest opinion you don't love her because you care more for your pleasures and wants over her. That's not love. She is only fufilling the need to have someone "always there" for you and since you say she's a great person,she doesn't deserve to be cheated on. Neither do you deserve her, so until you are actually READY to settle down with one person you need to let her go so she can have a chance to find someone better. That also leaves you free to do your thing without any guilt.
Tell her a prostitute gave you herpes or something when you come back from your next road trip.
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| 9/7/2010 12:10:07 PM |
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morningowl67
Manchester, NH
50, joined Aug. 2010
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There's obviously something missing in your relationship and it isn't cool to just let it go. Get some counseling. If she's so incredible, then you should be faithful, even if she isn't, you should be faithful. If you aren't happy, get out of the relationship and save her the heartache.
I also agree that it is guys like you that make it so hard for those of us who don't lie or cheat. You aren't doing our gender any favors right now man.
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