| 12/5/2011 9:07:49 PM |
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justmesher
Minneapolis, MN
48, joined Nov. 2011
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Hello my friends... I lost my husband just about 7 months ago now and it has been tough. He was not only an awesome man, he helped make me the person I am today. I was blessed to have had 8 years with him and know that he continues to watch over me every day.
My heart goes out to each and everyone of you as I know and understand your loss/heartbreak.
I have been reading many of your posts this past week and can truly say how much I appreciate the fact that you are willing to share, much of which has helped me understand many of the feelings I have been having. I wonder daily if they are normal, if I think too much, if im just extra lonely, or if my wanting to move ahead and get on with my life so quickly is wrong. I can now see there is no right or wrong, there is no too soon or too long, there is just go with what you feel is right and be ok with your own decision. Thank you all for that.
I hope that you all can transition on with your life(as hard as that may be sometimes) and make the most of what you do have without losing the memories of what you once had.
Thank you and may each of you be as blessed as I........
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| 12/10/2011 11:40:51 AM |
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akateddybear
East Stroudsburg, PA
66, joined Nov. 2011
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I have a question to pose to this entire group men and women
Which gender do you feel is quicker to move on with their lives , and why do you feel that is so. The question is purely academic not personal
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| 12/11/2011 8:10:25 PM |
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2shacks
Concord, NC
53, joined Jun. 2010
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Men
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| 12/11/2011 8:24:52 PM |
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zydeco44
Metairie, LA
76, joined Nov. 2010
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I have a question to pose to this entire group men and women
Which gender do you feel is quicker to move on with their lives , and why do you feel that is so. The question is purely academic not personal
Hello all 
First.....let me apologize for not finding time to welcome all you new people to our
widow/ers group,and tell you how sorry we are that you had to lose a loved one,spouse,
partner or soulmate in order for us to meet in this lil group, I am sure we all would change this meeting situation if we could....so..grab you a  and make yourselves at home...join in and participate here..you will find love,understanding,friendship and
caring here...we all have been the path you are on now and want to help brighten you day
and help anyway we can...so welcome to Tango,Wildrose 11,Hasueppy.Barbarafox,Lostinbama,
Justmesher,and Akateddybear,and anyone we may have missed,so please join in and share your
sorrow with us and let us comfort you.  
 
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| 12/11/2011 8:38:50 PM |
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zydeco44
Metairie, LA
76, joined Nov. 2010
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I believe men move on faster...I have no studies to prove this only personal ideas
I am a widower for 14plus years and still have not found a partner to spend the rest
of my days with. Most all the women widows I have met seemed to be more reluctant to
move on, more un-sure, and afraid to expose their true feelings than men. 
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| 12/12/2011 9:15:13 AM |
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bigman22222
Arp, TX
52, joined Dec. 2011
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MY NAME IS JOHN I LOSSED MY JENNIE SUE TWO MONTHS AGO SHE WAS MY WORLD I WISH I COULD OF WENT WITH HER WE MADE A LOT OF PLANS I JUST DON'T KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH ALL OF THIS SO COULD SOMEONE HELP ME, 
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| 12/12/2011 10:24:22 AM |
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stormee046
Marshfield, MO
51, joined Nov. 2011
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hello all! I am newly widowed, and therefore new to this site. My husband, my best friend, died 2 months ago, on the day before his 50th birthday. I am slowly trying to adjust to being not quite whole, but no longer half of something that no longer exists. Each day is a new struggle/adventure for me and my sons. I'm glad I found this site, I hope it will help me heal and move forward.
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| 12/12/2011 3:29:20 PM |
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iminarut
Westboro, WI
54, joined Sep. 2010
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John and Stormee, welcome to our group. Stormee has the right idea so John just get comfortable here and read posts as much as you need and join in whenever you wish...we are all here to help each other and you will find friends who do know what you are going through here.
Bryan
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| 12/13/2011 3:53:27 PM |
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weaimtoplease
Geneva, OH
67, joined Dec. 2007
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Welcome to the newbies, I'm only sorry that you have to be in this particular group. All I can say is give yourself time to grieve. Don't let anyone tell you how YOU are supposed to grieve since we all do it in our own way and our own time.
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| 12/15/2011 5:31:18 PM |
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dawgfan68
Athens, GA
47, joined Dec. 2011
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I lost my husband to cancer in Jan. 2011, he was diagnosed in April 2010, had chemo and radiation, Nov. 2010, we were told he was in remission. In January he began having odd symptoms and two weeks after finding put the cancer was in his brain, he died. We were married for 16 years, and had two sons together. I am having up and down days, I function really well at work, but can't get motivated to do things around the house.
Suzanna
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| 12/22/2011 6:25:19 PM |
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barbarafox1956
Lafayette, LA
60, joined Oct. 2011
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Hi everyone...I`m back.It`s been a few months since I have posted anything but I have faced life head on since my last post.I thought if I seen someone I would be betraying my past husband.I felt guilty as heck when I just spoke to another man but some how I finally realized he wouldn`t want me to feel guilty.He would want me to move on and possibly some day find someone who loves me for who I am.It`s been 5 months he is gone and I realized life will go on without me if I don`t do something soon.I did.I found a great friend I so enjoy being around.I at one point realized I would forget about the fact that Jim was gone.Then I realized I had to let go to be happy.It was a decession that was made for me.It`s not so much as being with someone made me forget but it was the fact I had to make me happy to be able to move on. I found happiness within myself.
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| 12/23/2011 6:41:33 PM |
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capnr
Green Cove Springs, FL
67, joined May. 2010
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Hello, I was just psdding by and stumbled on this site. This poem helped me come to the realization that I had to go on, and to help me except my loss. After 35 years of finding and living with my true soul mate I had to give her up. It has been 4 years for me and am just renewing my quest for life. Good luck to you all.
GOD saw you tried and a cure was not to be.
So he put his arms around you and whispered "come to me"
with tearful eyes I watched you and saw you pass away
Although I loved you dearly I couldn't make you stay!
A golden heart stopped beating, hardworking hands at rest,
GOD broke my heart to prove... he only takes the best!!! .
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| 12/31/2011 1:02:45 AM |
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deepbrowneyes65
Little River, SC
50, joined Nov. 2011
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Hello, I am Mindy and I lost my husband at the of 39. It will be 3 years on January 2nd.
I miss you him everyday, I know it gets alittle easier, but the pain is still there. He was wonderful man, husband and father. We found out 3 years before he died that he had an massive brain aneurysm, the Biggest one Cleveland Clinic has ever seen. He had stroke, memory loss, could not read or write, seizures and extreme pain 24/7. But through it all he always smiled, he never let it get to him. He was a wonderful man, he would of done anything for anyone, he is greatly missed. My children were his step kids, but they loved like he was their father and he never called them step-children when he talked about him. I have family and friends trying to help with their kind words, but unless you go through it yourself, you just don't know the pain, anger, hurt and wondering how you will go on with out him. If it wasn't for my 3 kids I never would of made it. Please if anyone would care to chat about their loss, that would be great. thank you, Mindy
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| 12/31/2011 1:24:54 AM |
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deepbrowneyes65
Little River, SC
50, joined Nov. 2011
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MY NAME IS JOHN I LOSSED MY JENNIE SUE TWO MONTHS AGO SHE WAS MY WORLD I WISH I COULD OF WENT WITH HER WE MADE A LOT OF PLANS I JUST DON'T KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH ALL OF THIS SO COULD SOMEONE HELP ME,
I am sorry to hear of your loss. When I lost my husband I thought my world would end. I was lost with him. I cried everyday and all day. It took me 7 months to even want to go out with friends. It does get easier, but the pain is still there. My husband died 3 years ago this january at home, it was too hard for the kids to be there after that so we moved. It helped, the their pain like mine was still there. I know what you mean when you would wish you would of gone with her. When my husband died, I felt like he took half of me with him. Our dreams, of having grandkids someday, and watching our children have their own families. The first xmas with out him about killed and the kids,our daughter graduating, my niece having her son and naming him after my husband. It is hard, bu it will get easier, I promise. If you need to chat please feel free to contact me.
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| 12/31/2011 3:34:17 PM |
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vampzgl
Long Island City, NY
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| 1/1/2012 12:44:00 AM |
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hopelesstwo
Brooklyn, NY
70, joined Feb. 2010
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Hi I find it very lonely in Brooklyn NY since no places to meet people in our boat. I lost my husband 5 yrs Jan.07 . It hurts on holidays. You are always alone yet u have friends but something is missing. I feel sorry for all the widows and widowers for their loss Without your spouse you sometimes are lost in the crowd.
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| 1/4/2012 10:36:47 AM |
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varnajax
Jacksonville, FL
56, joined Dec. 2011
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Hello!My username is varnajax.I am a WIDOW for 1 year.Lost my beloved husband to sudden death-heart attack.Need to rejoin life again.I live in Jacksonville,Florida.I need to have new friends- widowers,widows,singles.I was happily married and now I am single against my will.Do not even know how to act single and what to do. I am 52,very attractive,blonde.Intelligent and kind.Need a WIDOWER friend from closer to me area,age 50-57.Best and warmest regards to all of you!
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| 1/7/2012 2:53:15 PM |
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patrick052
Augusta, ME
57, joined Jan. 2012
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This was read at my wifes funeral
She passed away early Xmass morning
I would like to share it with all
of you It's a beautiful Poem
When tomorrow starts without me
And I'm not there to see;
If the sun should rise and find your eyes
All filled with tears for me.
I wish so much you wouldn't cry
The way you did today;
While thinking of the many things
We didn't get to say.
I know how much you love me
As much as I love you;
And each time that you think of me,
I know you'll miss me too.
But when tomorrow starts without me
Please try to understand,
That an angel came and called my name
And took me by the hand.
She said my place was ready
In heaven far above;
And that I'd have to leave behind,
All those I dearly love.
But as I turned to walk away,
A tear fell from my eye;
For all my life, I'd always thought
I didn't want to die.
I had so much to live for,
So much yet to do;
It seemed almost impossible,
That I was leaving you.
I thought of all the yesterdays,
The good ones and the bad;
I thought of all the love we shared,
And all the fun we had.
If I could relive yesterday
Just even for awhile,
I'd say goodbye and kiss you
And maybe see you smile.
But then I fully realized
That this could never be;
For emptiness and memories
Would take the place of me.
And when I thought of worldly things
I might miss come tomorrow;
I thought of you, and when I did,
My heart was filled with sorrow.
But when I walked through heaven's gates
I felt so much at home;
When God looked down and smiled at me
From His great golden throne.
He said, "This is eternity
And all I've promised you;
Today your life on earth is past,
But here it all starts anew."
"I promise no tomorrow,
But today will always last;
And since each day's the same day,
There's no longing for the past."
"But you have been so faithful,
So trusting and so true;
Though at times you did do things,
You knew you shouldn't do."
"But you have been forgiven
And now at last you're free;
So won't you take my hand
And share my life with me?"
So when tomorrow starts without me,
Don't think we're far apart
For every time you think of me,
I'm right here in your heart.
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| 1/10/2012 9:13:31 AM |
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bobbi3553
Baton Rouge, LA
60, joined Jul. 2011
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hi i new to this group, i lost my husband two years ago it is very hard to start over we were married for 28 years, he died with a heart attack, was never sick, went to work all day that evening went to a friend house , i got a call he was bing taken to hospital my ambulance with me and my boys got their he was dead.. I did not even get to tell him good bye are i love you.. did not even talk to him that entire day. ,so life is short we do not know from day to day. be Blessed
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| 1/10/2012 9:21:04 AM |
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bobbi3553
Baton Rouge, LA
60, joined Jul. 2011
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it is hard but the pain will get a little easier each passing day. i just pray everyday for God to continue to give me the strength to go on... HAVE FAITH IT WILL GET EASIER
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| 1/11/2012 6:58:02 AM |
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samsonite87
Las Vegas, NV
29, joined Jan. 2011
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My ex fience passed away in the army, he got shot last month, a few weeks after we broke up. 
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| 2/7/2012 4:52:45 PM |
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zydeco44
Metairie, LA
76, joined Nov. 2010
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there
A big welcome to Samsonite and Bobbi3553,To Patrick and Varnatak,to DiYoung,Hopeless two
and Deepbrowneyes two and any other new Widows/widowers who wants to join in and meet all of our regulars. We try to help any widow/ers find peace and understanding after losing
a soulmate or partner. So just grab you a and join in as much as you want and meet new friends and people who understand your feelings...welcome
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| 2/9/2012 6:52:13 PM |
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aljean_574
Aurora, MO
59, joined Jan. 2012
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Hello, I just found this site tonight and was reading some of what people had to say and I too lost my husband like a snap of the fingers.He had a massive heart attack but i had enough time to put my arms around him and hear his last words. I am now a 55 yr old widow amd it hurts to think about him as he just passed this last July 18, 2011. We were married for 32 yrs so I was still a baby when we got married. I don't like living alone but i don't want to think about having to date again cause i know i still have alot of time with a nother partner in life and that is what i have thought about for about the last week. On the other side of the coin I think of the bible as to saying jesus comes like a thief in the night. and he still has plans for me to fulfill. aljean_574
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| 2/16/2012 6:50:18 AM |
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collie49
Norwich, CT
66, joined Feb. 2012
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Mel,
I'm so sorry for your loss. I have been a widow for almost 5 years now. He passed away on March 12,2007. To make it harder his birthday was May 12th and our anniversary was Oct, 12,1968. I found that I hate the 12th of any month now, As the days go by they do get a little easier.I find that I can smile when I think about the good times we shared and sometimes I can laugh about the funny things he did and sometimes I cry.
Anyone that hasn't gone through this has no idea of the hurt and pain that goes along with this. I have a friend that lost her husband 2 years ago. She is the best thing that could have happened to me. We talk about our husbands all the time. We have been able to get stronger and be able to move on with our lives a little better.
Try to be strong, think of the good times. Try to find a friend that is has experienced this and talk about it. It helps. Stay away from the ones who have no idea of what thier talking about. Coleen
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| 2/16/2012 5:21:03 PM |
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btime46
Desoto, TX
51, joined Feb. 2012
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Hello'
I just recently lost my wife and as everyone knows it is a day to day thing to get through this. I am not as bad as most people it just seem to creep up on me when I'm not paying attention. I do and I am going to get through this and become a stronger person after this.
I have a 22 year old that's in his last year of college. I recently moved to Dallas Texas trying to start a new life. I have not been out in the dating mode for years and the worst part about it is that I am still young enough to remarry.
People are not like they were when I got married 23 years ago when you meet someone you find
out you have a lot in common and you date because you like each other and what to get to know one another.
Now people don't date they texted, they skype and email each other about how they feel.
I think the art of getting to know people has been lost for years so I'm wondering how do I see myself in the future with this new way of dating.
Whatever happen to meeting someone and falling in love with who they are and not with what they do or don't do.
I guess todays women and men are more concern about their own futures and not the future that they can make together.
I am 46 years young I retired from the Army with 20 years of service as a officer and now for the past 6 years I have worked for the same company traveling.
I'm too old for the thug life and I am too young for the old folks home.
Ladies it does not matter what color you are I have seen it all.
just looking for someone to hangout with and to share our time together.
Let's turn back the clock and start at the place our parents started at "the porch"
Hopefully I'll see you there.
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| 2/16/2012 6:00:00 PM |
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blueeyedman1953
Conroe, TX
63, joined Dec. 2011
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hi i'm roy lost my loveing wife april 14 2010 i miss her every day but its time for me to move on so looking for someone that can help me make that move
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| 2/16/2012 8:42:32 PM |
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schnookies47
Longmont, CO
52, joined Nov. 2011
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Hi, my name is Lorali, i have been a widow for almost 6 yrs. Seems like yesterday, and dating has not been easy. I have come from New Jersey to Colorado to accomplish a fresh start in life. It is not easy being single after being married for 16 years. Any suggestions?
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| 2/18/2012 10:24:48 PM |
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blondsluck
Port Richey, FL
64, joined Jun. 2011
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Hello Everyone, My name is Pat, and I've been a widow for over 6 years. My husband was a good guy, and I was lucky to have him for almost 20 years. But life is always full of change and it's time to go on. Wishing the best to all of the people in this group.
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| 2/28/2012 12:10:26 AM |
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1932len
Dixon, CA
83, joined Apr. 2011
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My wife went home on Nov 11, 2008 at a mil hospital. She waited that day until I arrived for our daily visit. She was in a coma and 5 minutes after talking to her she took her last breath. Doc said she waited for me to arrive. Went to the hospital cafe and only about 10 people there. As I went through the line 2 other men my age were behind me. We all sat at same table. One said his wife was in ICU and not expected to live, I said my wife left 20 minutes ago. As we talked we both found out we were from Iowa, and a town in eastern Iowa, we attended high school. He was on the football team a couple years before I played in the band.
I told him I was blessed by the Lord, as he comforts us with friends. But he said, No He was blessed also.
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| 2/29/2012 1:06:04 AM |
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fiacha
Lorton, VA
39, joined Feb. 2012
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I just wanted to ask if it was ok for me to post here even though we weren't married?
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| 2/29/2012 5:56:10 AM |
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iminarut
Westboro, WI
54, joined Sep. 2010
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Welcome Aljean, Coleen, Btime, Roy, Lorali, Pat, Nance, Fiacha and all of the other new members to the group.
Fiacha, you are welcome to post here...this group is mostly about loss and helping each other deal with it. We are all here for the same thing. Sure, most were married but that doesn't mean we can't help each other. I myself don't care who it is you lost. I along with most, if not all, here will support you and hope you find some comfort and answers here. Feel free to read and post and ask questions if you need or want to.
Bryan
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| 2/29/2012 10:25:39 PM |
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fiacha
Lorton, VA
39, joined Feb. 2012
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Thank you, My fiance died when I was 28 from suicide. I met him when we were in high school and we became best friends before we really settled in together. All in all I knew him for twelve and a half years. It has been seven years in March that he has been gone and I miss him everyday.
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| 3/22/2012 7:59:05 PM |
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adozenredroses
Oak Lawn, IL
61, joined Jan. 2012
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HI
My name is adozenredroses. Been a widow for only 3 months. When does the hurt do away? People say I doing fine. But they are not with me 24/7. Its hard. Does it get easier?
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| 3/22/2012 8:50:22 PM |
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iminarut
Westboro, WI
54, joined Sep. 2010
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Hey Roses,
The hurt don't go away, but it does soften and we do learn to deal with it. I'm at 22 months tomorrow and it is easier to deal with...time does really help. You are still way early in this journey and you have to just go at your own pace. Just remember there is no right way to do this other than go through it. You will see better days at some point. You will know the day you catch yourself smiling at something when you don't expect it.
Best of luck to you...Bryan
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| 3/22/2012 9:57:34 PM |
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locahyna
Panorama City, CA
55, joined Oct. 2010
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hello everyone i lost my man july 12 2009 1 week b4 his birthday Thank u 4 this group some people even tho u have known them 4 years just dont get it ..its something u have 2 go threw 2 truly understand prayers & hugs 2 u all
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| 3/23/2012 12:25:01 AM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
57, joined May. 2009
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Mine died the day after yours, locahyna. Your date just jumped out at me. 3 days before his birthday. His memorial service was on his birthday.
[Edited 3/23/2012 12:25:45 AM ]
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| 3/25/2012 12:47:12 AM |
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thelordslamb
Harrisonville, MO
68, joined Jan. 2012
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My husband of 30 years died on March 10, 2001 in what would be called a freak accident. So it's been 11 years he's been gone. I am still living in the house he built for us as I have not been able to sell it. Now two of our three adult children are back home with me, one with her little daughter. This house is way too big for me by myself, so I am glad for their company.
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| 3/27/2012 12:35:39 AM |
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nwgentlemantx
Cedar Park, TX
67, joined Mar. 2012
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Hello everyone. My name is Glen. My wife passed Nov 9, 2011. Although my wife had hepatic encephalopathy for over 4 years, and I grieved a lot during that time, I find that I have spontaneous crying sessions on occasion triggered by a song...or I know not what. After 24 years together I expect that we were intertwined pretty thoroughly, and that allowing things to surface may take a while.
Whew...wasn't crying when I started this and now I'm all tears....guess just talking about it opened the door. Anyway, glad I found yawl. Looking forward to learning from the shared experiences. Thanks for being here.
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| 4/2/2012 1:52:19 PM |
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freakmaster666
Belleville, KS
49, joined Jan. 2012
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Hi everyone. I've been widowed 18 months now after 17 yrs with her. I'm trying to start "anew" but I live in a small town in Ks. I've been told that I have "ONE" major flaw (they're crazy cause I have WAY more than one) and that is that I'm too honest. I know who I am and what I want and if it's wrong I make no apoliges for it. It's just who I am.
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| 4/3/2012 11:29:00 AM |
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bjcountry74
Simmesport, LA
41, joined Jan. 2012
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hi my name is bj! i lost my love a lil over a year ago! he passed due to conj. heart failure. we were at home watchin tv when it accrued. i gave him his last breath and was the last thing he say. i still have the image in my mind just like yesterday.
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| 4/3/2012 3:56:13 PM |
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imnoangel62
Wichita, KS
53, joined Mar. 2012
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Hi I'm Karla and I lost the love of my life on Aug 23, 2007. He was sleeping when I left to run some errands when I returned I woke him up. He said he was getting up I went to the kitchen to make coffee and clean the mess the kids had left me that morning. I remembered something I needed to tell him and thats when I found him not breatheing my daughter called 911 and I started CPR. Later I found out that his death was caused by medication givin to him by the VA. He was 49 and we had been married just over 20 yrs Sadly they don't acknowlefge it was their fault and that has been hard to swallow. But thats the goverment I guess. Moving forward since his death has been difficult but with the love and support of my kids I am trying. Yes there has been both highs and lows good days and bad but I try to focus on the good ones like my daughter wedding and then the beautiful grandson she gave me a year later. I try to live by the motto live for today because life is too short
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| 4/3/2012 4:52:55 PM |
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24milkduds
San Francisco, CA
57, joined Mar. 2012
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I really enjoy this site..you can read and share your experience with others who understand... so THANK YOU ALL
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| 4/3/2012 6:40:23 PM |
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hicktowngirl
Live Oak, FL
52, joined Apr. 2012
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Hi Lost my husband Of 22 yrs married last Aug.He was 50 1 day and 30 minutes and he had a stroke.So his birthday had passed by 30 min and thats when it happened.He had heart problems and had a pacemaker since he was 39 yrs old.Had just 2 weeks prior had a pacer /defib placed.That was to prevent his heart from stopping.Well his heart did not stop.He had a stroke and it hit is brain.So after surgety he had no brain function.My Husband was a guitar player from a child.I know the last day he spent active.Was his birthday.He spent that whole day playing his guitar.
We have a 15 yr old Son.He is doing as well as can be expected.
I have looked before for a site to chat on .But funny I ran across one now.I have started to get back out slowly.Finding it very difficult.So hoping to meet others that maybe can give me some advice on this.Thanks so much for reading my story.I am 48 btw.
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| 4/3/2012 10:52:35 PM |
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bjcountry74
Simmesport, LA
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my love was 48 our baby had just turned 3 and his oldest daughter had just turned 22! i still wait for him to come home! some times i feel him in the house, like i can smell him! has this ever happen to anyone else? do you still feel them, smell them, not meaning your house is haunted! but lil things that let you know they are still around in spirit!
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| 4/3/2012 11:18:48 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
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I must have waited about a year or so for him to come home. Sometimes, I still catch myself.
When 5:30 would come round, I'd watch for him, kind of. Sometimes it seemed as though he was just on a business trip and would be home by Friday or something.
You know he's not. Maybe some of it is ingrained habit. And some of it is denial. And some of it is wishful thinking.
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| 4/3/2012 11:28:29 PM |
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bjcountry74
Simmesport, LA
41, joined Jan. 2012
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i guess you are right about that, but it does fee good think that hes watching over us like an angle!! i can still see his face when died!! like it was yest!! i miss him most at night!! it felt like he knew he was going to pass! he had made life in this house so great! like he was a different man! his death was very unexpected!! miss my big D
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| 4/3/2012 11:35:28 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
57, joined May. 2009
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I know what you mean.
Tomorrow is three years since my husband fell into a coma. I can still see, like it happened earlier this morning, everything that happened that day. It's really something I wish would fade.
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| 4/3/2012 11:40:52 PM |
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bjcountry74
Simmesport, LA
41, joined Jan. 2012
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aww love, its almost tom. i know you will feel it most on the exact hour!! sometimes i feel like im still in shock!! ive never had anyone die close to me must less hear it and see it!! horrible!! i feel for you love cause tom is gonna be a hard one for you! prayers from me to you!
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| 4/4/2012 10:11:48 AM |
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craftlady54
Gray, ME
59, joined Feb. 2011
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Hello everyone... I am a widow of two years and I still cry from time to time over my husband.. he was in the bathroom and he fell off the toliet and I tried to turn him over but he was to heavy.. I ran and got my son and by the time we got back to him he was blue.. but the 911 people still wanted my son to do cpr on him till they got there... I just knew he was gone..of course they had to take him to the hospital and I didn't go in the ambulance with him... I just knew.. my son and his wife took me in and they called everyone and of course when we got there they put us in a room... I didn't know why but it was to say that he was gone.. No he wasn't suppose to leave me... I had just had a heart attack and had to have two stints put in and was on the road to recovery..I was there for him through all of his illness and now I had to do mine by my self... not fair... my mom said that when I went in the room to see him I told him he wasn't suppose to leave me...so I have had my fits and stopping my feet and all that.. I do have a few days but he had told me that I was a special person and that any man would love to have someone like me so I have taken that and I have started dating.. It has helped.. when you have someone who will listen its good.. I still have a lot of health problems but I just keep going knowing that one day he will be waiting for me at the pearly gates as he had always told me... oh one of our dogs had passed away and we had her creamatied and when my husbands remains came back I put both of them together and I hope they are enjoying each other in heaven with God...
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| 4/4/2012 5:35:33 PM |
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kim63q
Somerville, NJ
52, joined Mar. 2012
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Hi .my name is Kim and @ 38 I became a widow shortly after 9/11..suport groups are great....at that.time AOL had a chatroom to discuss things...I met quite a few of tjse wonderful people..anyway I was kinda surprised to see a widow/widower chat on a dating site...but I guess its a good thing.....I have only dated a little...mostly raised.my kids..now they are older.'college and married....its time for me.....anyway I am in central NJ....looking for.someone special....
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| 4/4/2012 7:00:37 PM |
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zydeco44
Metairie, LA
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 :hi:
Welcome to all you new ladies,men and.have a coffeemake yourselves
at home....join in and give advice as you see fit...we are mostly all widow/ers and
are here to help anyone we can...so...feel free to comment ,laugh,cry or whatever
winds your clock...again welcome to our LIL group...
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| 4/4/2012 11:15:50 PM |
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bjcountry74
Simmesport, LA
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thats sweet zydeco! thanks im glad to know there are so many to talk with
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| 4/6/2012 8:29:17 AM |
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jacci10
Newark, OH
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Hi my name is Jacci i have been on here for a couple of days and i like the group and im a widow of 4 years with Jesus i handle it just fine and he is my guide and i want and hope i can be an asset to this group thank you God Bless jacci
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| 4/6/2012 8:33:59 PM |
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zydeco44
Metairie, LA
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Yea BJ thanks for the compliment but we try to help anyone we can because we have been there ...walking down the same roads ourselves and know where ya coming from...a lot of
people who have lost a partner,lover,spouse have no idea what it feel's like having not
gone thru it but here youcan see and feel the difference in the conversation and sharing
than other places ....make your self home ...join on in and enjoy the love and friendship
here and it will get better...  
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| 4/9/2012 1:58:12 AM |
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bjcountry74
Simmesport, LA
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thank you so much!
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| 4/9/2012 9:27:40 AM |
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sunnydee7777
Clermont, FL
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Hi...would like to introduce myself ...I am Sunnydee. .I am grateful for this forum..I think being a widow/widower we have alot on our plate to discuss and it definitely comes from the heart..
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| 4/9/2012 9:56:11 AM |
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sunnydee7777
Clermont, FL
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Its been almost 2 yrs since my husband died..I miss him everyday...28 great years..He was so sweet, kind, loving and hard working person...he would do anything for anyone..I often wonder..IF I ever meet someone again...I don't know that I can trust them like I did my husband...His word was his word..we both valued our wedding vows..I have seem to lost some of my trust in people since he died. Is that normal? 
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| 4/9/2012 10:12:02 AM |
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sunnydee7777
Clermont, FL
66, joined Aug. 2011
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btime 46..love your post...AMEN
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| 4/9/2012 4:52:23 PM |
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sharpangel
Michigan City, IN
64, joined Mar. 2012
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Its been almost 2 yrs since my husband died..I miss him everyday...28 great years. .He was so sweet, kind, loving and hard working person...he would do anything for anyone..I often wonder..IF I ever meet someone again...I don't know that I can trust them like I did my husband...His word was his word..we both valued our wedding vows..I have seem to lost some of my trust in people since he died. Is that normal?
I feel the same way on the trust issue. People find out you're a widow, it's like you're ripe for the picking - be it scams or whatever. My husband of 25 yrs. would always tell me, repairmen are going to have a field day when I'm gone conning you.
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| 4/9/2012 9:12:31 PM |
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sherun65
Florence, AL
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Matthew's heart beat for the last time at 12:44 AM 2 mo ago today. I miss him so bad. He left many video recordings of him singing. I love to watch them. It's the closest I will be to him until I join him. We have some beautiful memories that I'm so thankful for. I'm open to meeting someone new. But it will be a while before I can trust my judgement and my feelings. I'm very unfocused now. And tired. so tired.
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