| 1/13/2011 7:03:28 AM |
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dateable1
Berea, KY
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Heard this on the radio this morning.
Have you ever been broken up with via text message?
Do you think it's okay to break up with someone via text message?
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| 1/13/2011 7:12:59 AM |
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cdn_iceman
Etobicoke, ON
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Heard this on the radio this morning.
Have you ever been broken up with via text message?
Do you think it's okay to break up with someone via text message?
No its not okay, its a chicken shit way of doing, I have no respect for anyone who does that.
The next thing will be popular is Divorce by text and or someone proposing by text...
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| 1/13/2011 7:14:18 AM |
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bangers_n_mash
Houston, TX
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Yes I have.
Obviously I do....she was a nucking fut who I no longer wanted to deal with, the text was merely a courtesy rather than completely ignoring her.
It's all about the circumstances as everything is, if the person is a reasonable person then I would not do it that way, if they are unreasonable (re: f**king crazy)...then a impersonal text/email is fine as you don't need to deal directly with them.
Restraining orders are another way to go.
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| 1/13/2011 7:24:14 AM |
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dateable1
Berea, KY
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^^^^ Good point. I also think the length of time dating would determine the nature of the break up. If the two had only been dating a couple of weeks, I would think a text message would be reasonable. Not preferred, but reasonable.
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| 1/13/2011 7:26:43 AM |
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kauaigrown56
Lihue, HI
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I think that's cowardly 2 do. Why not be straight up 2 there face!
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| 1/13/2011 7:34:23 AM |
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bangers_n_mash
Houston, TX
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It's only cowardice if you are scared to do it face to face.
If you have zero respect for the person because of their behavior/something they have done, then why waste your time any further.
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| 1/13/2011 7:40:28 AM |
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lotus68
Tokyo
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that is a cowardly way,must be face to face even it hurt no need to run like chicken.
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| 1/13/2011 7:43:05 AM |
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bangers_n_mash
Houston, TX
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Scenario:
Mother and child flee the house of a physically abusive father. She texts him, I'm gone, don't try to find me.
Is she a coward?
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| 1/13/2011 7:59:46 AM |
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dateable1
Berea, KY
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Bangers brings up a good point that under certain circumstances, it isn't necessarily a bad thing. There are few things in life that are "one-size-fits-all".
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| 1/13/2011 9:15:37 AM |
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cdn_iceman
Etobicoke, ON
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Scenario:
Mother and child flee the house of a physically abusive father. She texts him, I'm gone, don't try to find me.
Is she a coward?
give me a break, were not physical abuse now are we?
Look....Im referring to the average person dating, maybe that should of been made clear, the average person in a relationship, of course if someone was involved in a abusive relationship that's a total different situation and exit strategy
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| 1/13/2011 9:29:06 AM |
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cdn_iceman
Etobicoke, ON
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oops i should proof read, I mean we are not talking about physical abuse.
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| 1/13/2011 9:35:27 AM |
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bangers_n_mash
Houston, TX
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give me a break, were not physical abuse now are we?
Look....Im referring to the average person dating, maybe that should of been made clear, the average person in a relationship, of course if someone was involved in a abusive relationship that's a total different situation and exit strategy
..which is what I said.....depends on the circumstances.....
The question was an open question and not addressed ONLY to one demographic.
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| 1/13/2011 9:40:25 AM |
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bangers_n_mash
Houston, TX
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I can give you an example of where breaking up via text would have been a better option for a GUY I used to work with.
He went around to break up with his crazy girlfriend....she invited him in...one thing lead to another..she said 'once more for old times sake'.
Next day he got arrested for rape. Took about 18 months out of his life from him. He was eventually exonerated but it took it's toll on him.
Moral of the story....even the 'normal' daters can end up shit creek.
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| 1/13/2011 9:45:29 AM |
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kathair
Murfreesboro, TN
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The last guy I dated broke up with me via e mail and said I quote "I'm not doing this because I'm a coward!" Whatever!!!
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| 1/13/2011 9:47:24 AM |
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grneydsnglmale
Glenwood Springs, CO
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Happened to me...Im glad the chicken shit little wench decided to do it like that..saved me time, money and anguish...
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| 1/13/2011 10:21:10 AM |
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afrosirene
Brooklyn, NY
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Personally, I hate texting....
But to dump a person via text...?
Well, it depends....
If you're dealing with a logical person, then a face to face, sit-down is more respectful.
But if you're dealing with someone who manipulates, unstable, or psychotic, then, by all means...break it off via text. 
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| 1/13/2011 10:23:14 AM |
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bangers_n_mash
Houston, TX
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Personally, I hate texting....
But to dump a person via text...?
Well, it depends....
If you're dealing with a logical person, then a face to face, sit-down is more respectful.
But if you're dealing with someone who manipulates, unstable, or psychotic, then, by all means...break it off via text.
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| 1/13/2011 11:41:03 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
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You should be upfront and do it in person, but if you don't want a ton of drama, then I can see where people would resort to electronic means. Seems like the coward's way out though, but I'll bet most kids under 25 have done it multiple times.
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| 1/14/2011 6:42:05 AM |
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crimsonreality7
Lexington, KY
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Heard this on the radio this morning.
Have you ever been broken up with via text message?
Do you think it's okay to break up with someone via text message?
Nope, but one did do it via phone, and another one pulled the vanishing act. Breakup via text wouldn't make me feel any different as I would if they just vanished on me. No, I do not think it's okay. I think that you should always let the other party know when you want to end things, whether it be just casually dating or serious to the point of engagement.
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| 1/14/2011 7:45:45 AM |
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violet78
West Monroe, LA
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LMAO! I just had a long talk with my son over this! It kills me how young they starat with the bad insensative ways of handling things! I think to break up with someone over a text is Horrible! Now I will say...if they are a total nut case, maybe it is acceptable....but I still think I would suck it up and just give them a phone call....what can they do over the phone?? You can hang up with them if they become stupid. If you have been seeing each other for a good while...have the decensy to do it face to face...
My son and all his friends boys and girls alike have had this asking each other to go out ( like they have cars and can really go out! LOL)....and then seeing how fast they can dump the other and get another BF Or GF before the other.......Well me and my best friedns started checking cell phones and we did not like what we saw with our kids...the coldness and just absolute no regard for someones feelings.....and it starts out while they are young...it doesnt go away when they get older.....so we all decided our kids are too young to do this whole "dating" thing......if they are too young to know how to respect on another and trwat one another as a human being then they are too young to go out! My son has been grounded for the way he broke up with a girl by text....He has alot of growing up to do obviously...and it's up t me to teach him how to treat people....
For Gods sake...I have heard of people getting fired from their job through a text nowdays.....It is RIDICULOUS!
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| 1/15/2011 3:51:21 AM |
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newbegining38
Richview, IL
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yes i have been. its better than just being ignored and not knowing.
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| 1/15/2011 4:30:14 AM |
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shaary
Atlanta, GA
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Heard this on the radio this morning.
Have you ever been broken up with via text message?
Do you think it's okay to break up with someone via text message?
You should be happy that such an idiot who cannot even face you is out of your way finally.
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| 1/15/2011 4:36:29 AM |
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shaary
Atlanta, GA
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yes i have been. its better than just being ignored and not knowing.
It's like to compare a light brown shit, with a dark brown shit... (ok sorry but it what it is)
if a guy ignores you he is just another idiot, ignore him too, especially when the idiot will call, don't pick up. Don't even waste 50 cents to send a messages. Save your energy to find a better person.
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| 1/15/2011 2:11:10 PM |
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mizzwva
Charleston, WV
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I feel breaking up by text or email is the very cowardly way to do it ...
People just do not realize how hurtful this can be!
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| 1/15/2011 2:17:50 PM |
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vanguard06
Mount Morris, IL
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Well let's see about it anyone with access to your cell phone could pick it up and send a message to your lady or man. So just think about it? I'd rather be more sincere, genuine and upfront. I would only marry someone who is an amazing woman and a text message is not going to cut it. Not even a phone call, unless it's to get her to come to my discrete dinner. That's the only way I would either text message or call, but not the proposal itself. Think about it. This question is pretty lame.
I was broken up on a social site. I know how it feels, so unless you are a coward and want to defy the other person go ahead. IF you do you're an, I do not know how to nicely put this, a jerk.
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| 1/15/2011 2:25:10 PM |
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binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
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I feel breaking up by text or email is the very cowardly way to do it ...
People just do not realize how hurtful this can be!
Depends on how long you've been dating. I know someone that was "happily" married for 12 years and got an email from her husband telling her he was done. That's brutal.
But I see a place for it, and I see it as "safe" rather than "cowardly".
If you don't know how a person is going to react to the news, then it's safest to do it over the phone or email. Who needs to be put in the position of danger, whether that's physical danger or the danger of having someone falsely accuse you of something to get even.
There are a BUNCH of whacko's out there, CYA is sometimes the only way to go.
Edited to add: Should've known beanz was on top of this!
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| 1/15/2011 2:41:31 PM |
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ronpaulforpres
Monroe, LA
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I don't care. I wouldnt do that myself. like a lady above said. at least you know whats up
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| 1/15/2011 5:33:32 PM |
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pebbles_40403
Richmond, KY
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Texting is fun but most of the time it is not very personal and breaking up with someone and hurting them is very personal. I broke up with my boyfriend over the phone but only because he lives 6 hours away now. I would have preferred to have spoken to him face to face. He is a good guy, but it just was not going anywhere and I moved!
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| 1/16/2011 12:55:22 AM |
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tmck2011
Madison, WI
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I think it's ok, as long as it wasn't a real meaningful relationship.
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