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4/7/2012 1:13:20 AM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
sincere_9999
Edmonton, AB
50, joined Mar. 2012


Im 45 but I havent dated in 10 years and I dont even know where to begin. There is nothing wrong with me just haven't bothered trying




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4/7/2012 1:17:45 AM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  

audlove515
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (11,266)
Jasper, IN
28, joined May. 2011


Walk up to the first woman you see and ask her if she'll have sex with you.


That's the best start I can think of.

4/7/2012 1:18:46 AM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
sincere_9999
Edmonton, AB
50, joined Mar. 2012




4/7/2012 1:21:49 AM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  

tonic451
Over 2,000 Posts (3,139)
Saint Marys, GA
35, joined Aug. 2011


Where do begin with a woman? Hello.

4/7/2012 4:05:42 AM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
soloman99
Bakersfield, CA
48, joined Jul. 2011


Wayne Gretzky Drive? Maybe there are some hot chicks there. Can't do wrong when you start with the Great One.

4/7/2012 6:53:55 AM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  

winterhawk1002
Orlando, FL
60, joined Mar. 2012


Quote from audlove515:
Walk up to the first woman you see and ask her if she'll have sex with you.


That's the best start I can think of.


Thats actually not a bad idea.Hell if you can pull that off the rest should be easy.

4/7/2012 7:51:43 AM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  

fearless8841
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (14,114)
North Pole, AK
44, joined Jan. 2012


At the beginning.

4/7/2012 8:00:00 AM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
lady0343
Lawrenceville, GA
62, joined Sep. 2011


Just saying hello and keep pushing the edges of your comfort zone a bit at a time.

4/7/2012 8:00:19 AM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  

lovemonkeynh
Concord, NH
30, joined Mar. 2012


Start where eer you want. Just stay focused on whats really important

4/7/2012 11:03:29 AM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
sincere_9999
Edmonton, AB
50, joined Mar. 2012


A lot of good comments. I live just around the corner from Wayne Gretsky Drive

4/7/2012 1:34:53 PM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
afrosirene
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,192)
Brooklyn, NY
40, joined Dec. 2010


For starters...

When you DO meet this woman, DON'T tell her you haven't dated for 10 yrs.

4/7/2012 2:03:57 PM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  

quequequotable
Over 4,000 Posts! (6,128)
Houston, TX
49, joined Jul. 2011


Start out simple. Just find a nice lady to enjoy an evening out with. Don't think of your first date as a potential relationship, or you'll freak yourself out. Just think of her as someone to have fun with. It will get easier each time. Hopefully, after a few dates, you'll get the sex out of the way . Use a condom!!!!

I also went 10 years without dating, so I know what I'm talking about.

4/7/2012 2:14:02 PM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
sincere_9999
Edmonton, AB
50, joined Mar. 2012


Well first off all I'm not ashamed of it and second of all I'm honest and if they don't like it then they aren't worth it anyway. I can see you are someone who judges people but I'm not that type. But thanks for the advice

4/7/2012 2:20:07 PM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  

quequequotable
Over 4,000 Posts! (6,128)
Houston, TX
49, joined Jul. 2011


Dude, you had better not be talking about me. I was f**king nice to you!!!!

4/7/2012 2:21:21 PM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
shocktopbest
Myrtle Beach, SC
37, joined Apr. 2012


meet a girl on here for head

4/7/2012 2:27:32 PM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
icebergtheory
Lebanon, CT
53, joined Jan. 2012


Quote from sincere_9999:
Im 45 but I havent dated in 10 years and I dont even know where to begin.


Here's what you'll do:

1) Have the insane notion that you'll try waiting to see if women come to you. You might even try trolling in forums with wounded lamb posts. Just get beyond this step as soon as possible.

2) Unsure of yourself, you will contact some women who are not really up to your standards. You might go on a date or two with them, maybe sleep with a couple to get beyond the "I haven't been with someone new in a decade" feeling. You will become dissatisfied, however, and start looking again.

2.5) This step may or may not appear in your dating path. You will meet someone who enthralls you like never before, and you will bond with her emotionally like Krazy Glue*. Sadly, you'll have virtually nothing else in common, and after a time the glue will fail and you'll fly apart. You will chase this high for awhile as you regain your bearings.

3) With some post-long term relationship experience and a clearer perspective on today's dating landscape, you will wait, and date (or at least try to), until something good comes along.


Good luck out there!

* Krazy Glue Corporation does not endorse my posts, nor do I endorse their products in a professional capacity.



[Edited 4/7/2012 2:28:16 PM ]

4/7/2012 2:28:14 PM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
60freebird
Over 4,000 Posts! (5,712)
Atlanta, GA
66, joined Sep. 2010


Start with meeting for coffee or a drink after work. No biggie to just sit and chat and sip a little refreshment for an hour. If all goes well, you can always turn it into lunch or dinner or a walk in the park. Oooops! You've just had a first date and neither of you had to plan a thing. If all goes well, then you can actually plan a REAL date and go from there. If it's not such a great meeting..........then, you've had an hour of "practice".

4/7/2012 2:54:02 PM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
sincere_9999
Edmonton, AB
50, joined Mar. 2012


definetly not you. You had the best advice on her. The one that said dont tell anybody its been 10 years

4/7/2012 3:07:38 PM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
sincere_9999
Edmonton, AB
50, joined Mar. 2012


thanks iceberg. Makes sense

4/7/2012 3:11:32 PM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
philpain
Over 2,000 Posts (3,042)
Mansfield, OH
40, joined Mar. 2012


Quote from audlove515:
Walk up to the first woman you see and ask her if she'll have sex with you.


That's the best start I can think of.


*walks up... Will you have sex with me?

4/7/2012 3:13:15 PM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
philpain
Over 2,000 Posts (3,042)
Mansfield, OH
40, joined Mar. 2012


Quote from lovemonkeynh:
Start where eer you want. Just stay focused on whats really important


And what is really important?

4/7/2012 3:27:00 PM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
soloman99
Bakersfield, CA
48, joined Jul. 2011


Quote from sincere_9999:
A lot of good comments. I live just around the corner from Wayne Gretsky Drive



That guy is my idol He's is after all the Great One.

4/7/2012 5:38:15 PM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
lookin4ones
Over 4,000 Posts! (5,437)
Hurst, TX
57, joined Oct. 2010


<---------Don't have time to train.

4/7/2012 11:52:33 PM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  

driver406
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (56,076)
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009


I haven't bothered trying since 1983. I'm more lost than you are. I keep my expectations as low as possible, but I'm open to dating and a relationship if the right one comes along. On the hand I'm not holding my breath.

4/7/2012 11:54:47 PM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
rocknrolloutlaw
Over 1,000 Posts (1,582)
Pittsfield, MA
45, joined Apr. 2012


Dude, you hit on every single woman you think is cute, shamelessly, and relentlessly. especially if they look at you more than twice.

4/8/2012 12:35:07 AM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
missygr8t
Las Vegas, NV
46, joined Mar. 2011


Start networking. Ask everyone you know to
introduce you to their female friends or
persons they know.

Start bothering about it now, it is
better than being alone.

4/8/2012 1:51:28 AM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  

pickygirl72
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (19,666)
Eagle, AK
46, joined Sep. 2011


Try 20 years

4/9/2012 11:12:53 AM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  

pickygirl72
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (19,666)
Eagle, AK
46, joined Sep. 2011


Quote from dmhall:
20 years of no dating is a crime.

Not when you were married for that 20 years. That's what I meant.

4/9/2012 12:21:34 PM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
ctr916
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (11,003)
Roseville, CA
54, joined Aug. 2011


in my case, i work on my attitude and character by appreciating Man's invention of money and the institution of money based markets in modern times, simply for fun and practice; then, when i have enough practice, i may find myself considering a more serious relationship and a girlfriend.

4/9/2012 9:10:50 PM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  

driver406
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (56,076)
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009


Been 29 years for me and I have absolutely no idea.

Pretty rare for me not to have an opinion on something isn't it?

4/10/2012 3:16:37 PM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  

nothereyoudont
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,661)
Albuquerque, NM
52, joined Jul. 2010


Quote from audlove515:
Walk up to the first woman you see and ask her if she'll have sex with you.


That's the best start I can think of.


A li'l rash, perhaps, but not too far off.
The bad news: At 45, you're trash to pretty much every woman you might like.

4/10/2012 3:30:33 PM Where do you even begin after not dating for 10 years?  
barbiedollgirl
Over 4,000 Posts! (5,870)
Vienna, VA
60, joined Aug. 2010


that happened to me, too
I did not even try to date until 10 years after my divorce, instead I CHOSE to concentrate on getting myself together and raising my kids

its like riding a bike