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mst73
Lawrenceville, GA
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he started using drugs, lying, coming up missing, etc...
because of those actions we separated for one week and got back together, started going to counseling, church, blah blah.
months later, i decided to check his phone records and i called a number that was on his phone several times a day for many days during our separation. it was his ex-girlfriend who informed me that he spent the night with her. 
i also found out that she spent the night in my home one night while i was away. 
i was devastated and started really investigating and while he slept, i went through his car and found a credit card that he had hidden and obtained secretly. i went online and set up the online account for the cc and found that months prior, he had paid $1100 for an escort, yeah, a prostitute. 
i went to the bank, took all the money except $500 and sent him on his way. 
once i found out about the hooker, it was like i had an automatic shut off valve. see ya! 
the marriage was over long before it ended and we both caused damage but i was always faithful.
oh well... life goes on. 
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charles2704
Rockmart, GA
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Well,Mine walked out on me when i was sick. I just felt like if she could walk out when i needed her most then i didn't need her. I'm not talking about sick with a cold either. I'm talking about one foot in the grave and another on a banana peel kinda sick. You just don't walk out on someone when there down like that. That's just cruel.
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joman69
Philadelphia, PA
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She wanted to be the man of the house by making her own decisions & boy was she cold in bed. Her friends & family came first in our relationship.
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oceanmimi
Leesburg, VA
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He was a GS leader, yes a man as a leader who taught other leaders to camp, apparently he tiptoed into tents, he found another leader and thus the happy ending!!!!
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| 10/26/2008 12:47:19 PM |
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gatorbite1366
Canon City, CO
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I wasnt home much do to my job took me out of town alot,so I got a job closer to home and she be came a total b*tch and left to do her own thing and said the kids would have to wait couse its my time to do what I want now
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knighttime59
Omaha, NE
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After 20 years of marriage and the death of our daughter I couldn't take how different we had become and did not want to live that way any longer. We get along fine now and she is remarried now. I felt at times like I was holding her back from things she really wanted to do. Don't want to write a book here LOL so if ya want to know more ask. 
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| 10/27/2008 12:44:31 AM |
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annamranna
Bloomington, IL
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He cheated on me and I found out. You don't go twenty plus years, and have the story, all your friends were doing it! Are you kidding me?
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tugmannw
Bellingham, WA
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She left me the day after her 32nd birthday to go be with someone she was working with. I kind of suspected she was cheating, but that was when I knew. She left me with everything including the bills/house payment and I had been laid off for a couple of months. Oh well, her loss as her mother and I have kept in contact and she keeps telling me that her daughter admitts to making a mistake. Not my problem any more.
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imrich29
Wessington Springs, SD
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after the 6th guy in my bed she had to go can forgive but real hard to forget
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| 10/27/2008 11:06:40 AM |
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tj63
Bogotá
Colombia
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The b*tch was cheating on me.What a fool I was.Good ridance!!
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aimhighkenyon
Dayton, OH
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It weird to see i am the youngest one here but i got a dear jon(she was having sex with other men while i was training for the Air Force) in the mail.
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mler
Sparks, NV
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i couldn't take the time to look through ALL the posts here, so i'm not sure if anyone else had this issue, but my ex and i got a divorce when he came out of the closet after 11 years of marriage and 3 young kids.  hindsight is definitely clearest... we get along better now than we ever have. i'm thankful to be single at this point! life is good.
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blessedladycj
Decatur, IL
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i came to god ,,,he went to a stripper...
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romaniangirl21
Riverside, CA
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he cheated on my with a 14 year old...now that hurt bad...o well his loss i guess..
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lop_eared
Odessa, TX
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well to be totaly honest i was part to blame. i was always on the road....ie...over the road driver. i was seldome home and i know a woman has needs. she cheated on me 3 times. i can but can not fault her. i was not there but, she could have atleast spoke up and said something. not only did she cheat on me...she did it to the kids too.
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rockstar_28
Florence, AL
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Both are faults!
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| 11/1/2008 7:44:43 AM |
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r_d_b
Albany, GA
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her panties kept fallin down
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rednekgrl
Beckville, TX
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He became an alcoholic and was verbally abusive, tried the physical abuse, but i don't play that crap. Realized i couldn't help him get back to the nice decent guy i married, believe me i tried to help him, or get him help, but he didn't want it, so i left, never wanted to be a single mom, but here i am, and its ok, caus i won't settle for ok, i want happiness with a guy that is settled down and wants to grow old with me 
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two4two39
Montgomery, IL
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i would give a list of names ,but this page isnt big enough. THE B*TCH!
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| 11/3/2008 2:03:36 PM |
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imrich29
Wessington Springs, SD
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after the 6th guy i found in my bed she had to go bed wasnt big enough
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| 11/3/2008 9:53:50 PM |
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shyoneinfl
Saint Augustine, FL
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::hi: all , we grew apart and were more like brother and sister and  he had a girlfriend for the last two years we were together and I just didn't give a shit then I decided I had enough SO I told him he had to get out ba bye
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shears12
Blue Bell, PA
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Well I think people grow apart after a while. The romance dies, start spending more and more time apart. I beleive it takes to to ruin a marriage. And a divorce can be nasty. I'm glad mine went very smooth! 
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grayfox63
Millsboro, DE
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My Wife Cheated on me?
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| 11/3/2008 11:15:34 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Saint Joseph, TN
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He was a miserable person. Gave me everything I wanted.. nothing I needed
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| 11/4/2008 9:12:41 AM |
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sandymac12000
Vinemont, AL
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cheat, alcohol ,beatings, mental abuse, emotional abuse
Do we need to know more or is that enough of a reason?
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| 11/5/2008 9:47:10 PM |
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da1975
Orwell, VT
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The biggest reason was the lack of trust.With out trust it's hard to have any kind of relationship.That and she was in love with someone else.kinda thinking the grass was greener on the other side perhaps.Not the case from what I hear.
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samstillalways
Sonoma, CA
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The biggest reason was the lack of trust.With out trust it's hard to have any kind of relationship.That and she was in love with someone else.kinda thinking the grass was greener on the other side perhaps.Not the case from what I hear.
I think I already posted........But someone once told me that when the person that goes looking for the greener grass well they don't find it but the ones they leave behind do. Hasn't happened in my case yet but thats why i'm here
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jonsey68
Winder, GA
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We grew apart
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slowdancen
Azle, TX
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First one sadistic, he told me one day I was too stupid to cry. He also cheated on me. I left I found out he was cheating. Was married to him 22 years
Second: Cruel especially when he drank also cheated on me.
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dobbsdragon
Rapid City, SD
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we divorced because she dint want to be a mom anymore
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dobbsdragon
Rapid City, SD
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thedon_det
Sulphur, LA
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Divorced because she cheated on me twice once with a counselor and the second time with an old friend. Women always talk about men and infidelity but women can be just as hurtful and vengeful. Makes it hard to trust women and they're true intentions. Why should I be hurt because I make a good living. Still bitter!
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funinthesun1975
Hamshire, TX
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You have to learn to let it go are you will never be able to carry on a relationship with anybody else. It will always haunt you, just pick your head up and carry on.
~Chantel Renee~
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empirebear
Empire, MI
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Thought I was signin' just another check
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| 11/10/2008 10:12:36 PM |
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aerrol
Houston, TX
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When my exwife and I came to an agreement that it just wasn't going to work. 6 years of trying to make it work was enough for the both of us. But we did try. 
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| 11/15/2008 10:52:19 AM |
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trucker13
Bear Creek, AL
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it was all my fault she says and even her best friend told a friend of mine last week that i was a d---head and a verbal abuser she should know a lot about marriage she has been married 4 times!!!
i was married for over 30 years and the ex got to pushing me away when i would get home for the week and said sex was the only thing i wanted and that she never wanted a man to touch her again for the rest of her life!!!we were separated for almost 2 years when she told me she had a "friend" then i filed for a divorce and she said she was sleeping with him and that i was wrong for having more than 1 girlfriend because she has ONLY been with him!!WOW anyway she can't pay her bills and is in bad health and the only time i hear from her she is boo hooing and playing a guilt trip on me but she is still with JUST him!!!!
sounds a little fishy to me seeing that she could not tell me who all the cell calls were to prior to her moving out
now what do you folks think about that???
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ryn514
Cobourg, ON
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We divorced because he refused to look for any sort of work when his company downsized - he was going to be a full-time guitar teacher (he only ever got one student who showed 3 whole times - wow). I ended up working 60-70 hours a week between 2 jobs just to keep a roof over our heads (and our daughter's..plus I was pregnant with our second child). I'd come home and the house would be a mess, the eldest still in her sleeper and he'd be sitting there in a daze watching Sesame Street.
He rang up a lot of charges on the Visa (unbeknownst to me) more than doubled the balance I last knew of . He'd be up at the mall during the day hitting on the woman he's now been living with for 7 years..with our daughter in his arms!
Then he had a 23 year old daughter (1 of 2), that I had no clue of during our 22 years together, show up on our doorstep.
"For better or worse" suddenly didn't apply anymore.
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loraco
Troutdale, OR
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Well, when I met my x, he was a runner. Then he stopped, and that's pretty much when everything started. He stopped taking showers, maybe took one a week. He was/is a mover for United Van lines. So he would sweat alot everyday, and still didn't shower.Yuck! Before he stopped showering, we had a wonderful sex life.
Then he started gambling all the time. He would go out of town to work, and he wasn't working. He was going to Las Vegas, and to watch the race cars. He was doing alot behind my back. I don't think he cheated on me, but I wouldn't care now if he did.
He also had alot of anxiety, and wouldn't go get help. There is alot more, but this is the main part.
we were married 11 years
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whitenite59
Wichita, KS
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HER AND HER MOM TRICKED ME INTO LETTING HER PUT HER NAME ON EVERYTHING AND SHE CHEATED ON ME AND HER MOM BLAMED ME AND EVICTED ME FROM MY OWN HOUSE.SO WHY DID YOU DIVORCE ? :
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gtojudge
Dearborn, MI
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She divorsed me so she could be with her " every women's fantasy " who
eventually ended up beating her up and threatening to kill her if she
ever left him.
I wish her good health but nothing else after what she put me and especially
my family through, my mother ended up in the hospital.
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cmyaura
Sparks, NV
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We divorced because I thought our marriage wasn't normal.... we had a great relationship, but no passion (well like once a month, if that). We r good friends still, but I have relized we were a pretty normal married couple with a child and full time jobs (he was a cop).... just needed to put my head and heart into it agian..... after 12 years it was hard. I have learned and I hope I will have what we had.... someday again. I feel like I might end up alone tho. 
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flannel46
Lexington, NC
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We were married for 16 years and we just grew apart.
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| 11/19/2008 3:20:31 PM |
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cricket101462
Coleman, WI
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We divorced because he could'nt
stop spending money we did'nt have.
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| 11/22/2008 7:17:36 AM |
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kuuipo77
Chandler, AZ
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The dirt bag couldn't keep it in his pants. 20 years ago it started with the "going out with the boys". Caught him with my best friend, any female friend, he ended up giving me gonorea. Proceeded to be physically, mentally, and emotionally abusive. All women, don't wait for him or her to change. You do the changing, grass isn't greener on the other side but turns green once the wounds heal.
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genieus
Carlisle, PA
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In legal circles it would be known as inducement for a fraudulent contract. Simple case of identiy fraud. He passed himself off as "just a nice" guy. After the ceremony I discovered he was really Jesus Christ reincarnated (just ask his mother) and I had to be written out of the script. After all, Jesus couldn't be seen living in sin. It was bad for his PR.
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uhhhlifeis
Smiths Station, AL
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1st way too young! Second, rebound, married best friend! Big mistake, felt like kissing a brother probably would. Third, great guy, still is, just a personality difference that was intolerable, he's better off without me being sarcastic to him, poor guy! Last OMG! BROKE MY HEART! No choice, obviously he'd had a drug affair in the past and went back to it. Thought he was cheating on me at first, well, he was, but it wasn't with anything that I even stood a chance against! Oh well, life goes on, ya walk on!
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96292848d
Summerdale, AL
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she had cheated before and finally I got to be in the way of her party life and she left and filed for divorce....I got all of the bills except her credit cards...but I also got both pieces of property includeing the house...All vehicles except the one she drives,,All bank accounts includeing savings the firniture and both sets of wedding rings and I still miss her ..She also paid for the divorce..I had to pay my Lawyer and my investigator and that was money well spent....
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snooki
Harrison, MI
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I was never given a reason, but from the way they had a place to go, and had a roommate I assume I was the worse type (male) and he was better. But from all there former encounters they either haven't learned or cannot distinguish any difference in their former partners and me,I was just like them, one thing I know was a different for sure I don't do drugs, the others did according to all 3.
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roxie6769
Franklin, MA
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my ex husband ( a home builder, general contractor) cheated on me with his clients(bored housewives I guess)I caught him with my "friend" on our couch while I was sleeping in the next roomI tried to forgive him for that one, but he had cheated prior to that and I caught him again with one of his customers and that was it.Caught once shame on you, Caught twice shame on me! I kicked him out and got a great lawyer and our new custom built house became mine free and clear! I let him have the old 2 family that was falling apart( my lawyer wanted me to keep that one too)but I didnt want it lol We get along now and he still helps me out and good to our daughters.I never badmouthed him to our daughters its not right to get the kids in the middle
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joanjewel
Bloomington, IN
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Adultery.....won't tolerate it!!!!!
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dewfan
Huron, SD
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It was a slow fade over the last 5 years of a 20 year marriage....money pressures....bad choices....she left me for 8 months and took the kids....I then followed to her home town....no support for me...no friends...finally "Iwas tired of holding on to a feeling I knew was gone"....chose divorce instead of staying in it for the kids.... hard decision.
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okiedokie38
Swanton, OH
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Didn't realize it was abuse, didn't hit or call me names but always blamed me for things, had anger issues, BAD road rage (almost killed me)!!! But when our 11 yr old son said "Mom please don't let Dad help me with my homework and then said "Mom can't you just break up with Dad" I knew then I was done!!!!! Took me 15yrs To realize it -DUH-
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gtojudge
Dearborn, MI
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I was to nice of a guy and didn't abuse her enough
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barbaraajo
Reston, VA
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because he left me for another woman he had gotten pregnant when our baby was only 2 months old!!I did not even see it coming!! I believed him when he said he was working on holidays and weekends and going on"business trips" 2 weeks at a time. It was devestating to me then especially since i just had his baby, but now I realize he did me a BIG favor, who wants a man like that anyway? I AM GLAD HE IS GONE!
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alex369
Fort Riley, KS
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im not divorce yet,but im working on it..
He has cheated on me a couple of times,he treat me like crap.
his priority is his friends and not our kids.
I never cheated on me,but he keeps on telling his misstress tha im the one who cheated on him first.yap his a shmuck
MOST OF ALL I DNT LOVE HIM NE MORE
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no1bearfan
Beloit, WI
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my husband had a drinking problem could not handle it with 2 babies.
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inaleesgirl
Opelousas, LA
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I was played for a fool, my bad. Was married for 10 years had a lot of issues that I made constant excuses for: he was ill, I worked payed bills,kept life moving on for us until he got his disability started.. He finally came to me and said he couldn't go on this way anymore because he had been having an affair with a 27 yr old with 4 children. Made him feel young . I was still willing to try to work things out until I found his stash of pictures of his "friends"
I filed for divorce, and had my divorce in 2 weeks time. He had been cheating the whole time of our marrige. Had even brought them into our home while I was at work. They say a picture is worth a thousand words.I have had a lot of soul searching to do for me and a lot of healing from the hurt and deceit. I just wonder is there anyone out there for me or is it meant to be alone. I know one lesson I learned well about me, not to wear my heart on my sleeve. It hurts to bad when it gets knocked off. Life goes on and I am a better person without him.
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mizzwv
Charleston, WV
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Worthless ex-husband was an alcoholic cheater!
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l00kingagain
Norwich, CT
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When your husband all of a sudden with a baby on the way decides that he would rather drink in a bar and then verbally abuse you and use you as a punching bag. I give that MAJOR reason for a divorce.
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lovnu2
Dothan, AL
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lets see I've been married 4 times and I'm the common denominator in every divorce so I guess it was me...but there wasn't abuse,there was romance...but I was very busy in busines and maybe just couldn't give enough attention. Well Ive learned from my mistakes.
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