ef·fort'ef?rt/noun1.a vigorous or determined attempt."hammer birdhouses to country fenceposts in an effort to bring back the eastern bluebird"synonyms:attempt, try, endeavor;
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rescueranger245
Windsor, VA
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hadassah169
Dhaneswargati
Bangladesh
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In a good relationship the yoke is easy and the burden is light. 
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starr_bomb
Mesa, AZ
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Anything worth having in life requires WORK 
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
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that's old school ranger. People nowadays throw out relationships at the blink of an eye. In the olden days, we fixed problems then had make up sex.
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rescueranger245
Windsor, VA
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I say true. If you have to work at making a relationship work, there is something mis-aligned. It should be smooth and almost effortless.
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6969foryou
Sacramento, CA
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True, it just shouldn't feel like you're working hard at it...
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jer3552
Vale, OR
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very good question I think it requires work but if it is a up hill battle the whole way it isn't worth the work
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
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I say true. If you have to work at making a relationship work, there is something mis-aligned. It should be smooth and almost effortless.
nothing is smooth and flawless. differences in people is what keeps them tight knitted. If everything was peas and carrots, we would all be looking for broccoli.
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just4forums2
Barcelona
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Why, because you chose someone you are in sync with. You didn't settle just because you needed someone in your life to fill a lonely void.
Also you know how to communicate with each other. If you have great communication skills between the two of you, your relationship won't require much work.
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| 1/29/2014 11:48:31 AM |
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rescueranger245
Windsor, VA
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grneyedluvr3...
Everyone has an opinion and that is exactly what this thread is for. I would like everyone's thoughts on this. I also believe that it will vary from relationship to relationship. My late wife and I were married for 20 years. It was effortless and so easy to do. Maybe it was just a good match between us. I wish everyone could have one like that!
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tasgosa
Knob Noster, MO
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It doaen't Have to Be *Hard* work....but there Does have to be some Genuine Effort put into it!!!
My 2nd marriage wasn't Nearly as Hard as the first....but there was a Whole Lot more
  
LOVE in the 2nd one..!!!
It's just a pity that the Honeymoon got cut short..!!!
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mrlickzher
Owensboro, KY
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True op..&nice subject btw...
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lindsey_g3
Dewitt, MI
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False....it takes a lot of work to keep a relationship good. if your not actively showing the person that u care about that u do...they wont know it.
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pallazar
Buffalo, NY
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I think a clearer definition of work is needed. Most healthy relationships require compromise which may or may not feel like work. Also, certain people may veiw the time and effort (work) they put into a relationship, regardless of the amount, as being effortless because they are so genuinely pleased to do it. However, that doesn't lessen the burden itself. Furthermore, you may be madly in love but loathe making certain adjustments/compromises or doing certain work, making it feel like hard work even if it isn't. This doesn't mean it is a bad or unhealthy relationship but more to do with your character as an individual.
Therefore, in my opinion, it is inaccurate to say a relationship should or shouldn't require hard work. It should take whatever it needs to be satisfying for both parties.
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just4forums2
Barcelona
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What about corn....
Initially I answered false, ,, but I've given it more thought, ,, after s few years, , it takes commitment, , trust, and honesty
I agree with you, but shouldn't trust, honesty and wanting to commit come naturally and not have to put work into it?
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bobbie3411
Tampa, FL
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Why, because you chose someone you are in sync with. You didn't settle just because you needed someone in your life to fill a lonely void.
Also you know how to communicate with each other. If you have great communication skills between the two of you, your relationship won't require much work.[/quote
Absolutely agree
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lindsey_g3
Dewitt, MI
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False....it takes a lot of work to keep a relationship good. if your not actively showing the person that u care about that u do...they wont know it.
In a good relationship it's not work...
In a good relationship you have compromise, communication, trust, loyality. u cant be selfish and u mustbe patient... I commend anyonewho can do all of those things 100% of the time without ever actively having to think about it or work toward it
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rescueranger245
Windsor, VA
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The honeymoon can last throughout the marriage. At least, mine did. Every day, you have to begin with love and excitement in your heart.
There was a lesson my dad once taught me. Begin each day the same way you end it. The first and last words from your mouth should be..."I Love You". Foreplay begins when you wake up and doesn't end until after you're asleep. Go to sleep holding her close and wake up holding her close. You'll never go wrong.
Give everything and expect nothing sounds one sided. But when you both share these expectations...It simply works.
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victus_puella1
Seattle, WA
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When it comes to certain things yes
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6969foryou
Sacramento, CA
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False....it takes a lot of work to keep a relationship good. if your not actively showing the person that u care about that u do...they wont know it.
That's why dudes send d*ck pics to chicks... To actively show them they are interested... LOL
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mrlickzher
Owensboro, KY
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False....it takes a lot of work to keep a relationship good. if your not actively showing the person that u care about that u do...they wont know it.
In a good relationship it's not work...
I concur.. I dont think she has a good relationship yet.. its no work. ..u just mesh...even disagreements with that rght person turn to laughter...in my case anyway...
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spookem
Lexington, KY
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Relationships are like cars.....as long as it's running smoothly, no problem..
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peachy1954
Sacramento, CA
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If you take your time and know someone is generally compatible then yea you are going to have to put in effort but it should not feel like hard work IMHO.
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lindsey_g3
Dewitt, MI
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In a good relationship you have compromise, communication, trust, loyality. u cant be selfish and u mustbe patient... I commend anyonewho can do all of those things 100% of the time without ever actively having to think about it or work toward it
Thinking about it isn't work though...in a good relationships you should be happy to do all those things...if you are compromising things you really don't want to...it's not a good relationship.
Im not saying the person wouldnt be happy to do those things but when getting into a relationship it requires some modifications of ones actions, thinking and life. to say they arent work because someone is happy to do them is incorrect. I was happy to go to and finish school, does that mean it wasnt work?
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oceanblues53
Cayce, SC
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I say true. If you have to work at making a relationship work, there is something mis-aligned. It should be smooth and almost effortless.
ranger you stole my word...effortless!~~ 
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rescueranger245
Windsor, VA
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Sorry Ocean...Didn't mean to.
Where do you draw the line? When does it become work? And if it does...Can you save the relationship?
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lindsey_g3
Dewitt, MI
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If you take your time and know someone is generally compatible then yea you are going to have to put in effort but it should not feel like hard work IMHO.
Effort....thats a better word for what Iwas trying to say!
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starr_bomb
Mesa, AZ
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If you don't come home tonight. ..don't bother bringing ya azz home the next night 
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| 1/29/2014 12:05:36 PM |
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
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What about corn....
Initially I answered false, ,, but I've given it more thought, ,, after s few years, , it takes commitment, , trust, and honesty
My point I was trying to make, is if there are no differences in a relationship, then it would get pretty boring. If my significant other liked everything i liked, I would raise a serious eyebrow. I have never in my life seen any relationship where everything was always peaches and cream. All relationships get tested, it's the ones we fight for and WORK to fix the problem, are the ones that last. It does take great communication, I agree forumchick, as well as honesty, loyalty, and sometimes even a little Jack Daniels has helped save many marriages. (Also ruined quite a few...the bastard). lol
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jer3552
Vale, OR
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its hard to make the relationship work when she has a restraining order against you
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
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Sorry Ocean...Didn't mean to.
Where do you draw the line? When does it become work? And if it does...Can you save the relationship?
something as simple as picking a bouquet of wild flowers because you were an a** the day before, can be concidered work, JMO
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oceanblues53
Cayce, SC
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Sorry Ocean...Didn't mean to.
Where do you draw the line? When does it become work? And if it does...Can you save the relationship?
its not like I own it LOL just joshin with ya.
If a relationship becomes work, ,time to move on. It should be "effortless" *wink*
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
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I say true. If you have to work at making a relationship work, there is something mis-aligned. It should be smooth and almost effortless.
I'm afraid I may be the exception to that rule Ranger. I probably should have put out a little more effort, now that I look back on my last relationship. But, who knows, it may have turned out the same way, no matter how much effort I would have given it.
But, if there is a next time, I think I will, at least, try to communicate a little better!
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lindsey_g3
Dewitt, MI
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its not like I own it LOL just joshin with ya.
If a relationship becomes work, ,time to move on. It should be "effortless" *wink*
If ur not putting in effort, guaranteed it wont work.
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risitaaazul
Plant City, FL
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False....it takes a lot of work to keep a relationship good. if your not actively showing the person that u care about that u do...they wont know it.
I don't think showing love to the person you're in a relationship with is work.
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rescueranger245
Windsor, VA
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A truly good relationship requires hard work and commitment
A false relationship requires little to no work - because your always protecting your stake
Don't you have to work to protect your stake? Maybe it's just me...But your statement seems backwards.
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alls_fair
Thorlákshöfn
Iceland
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It requires effort and work to train your wench...
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stl1
Saint Louis, MO
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True a good relationship should operate like a well oiled engine.
What, never any motion lotion?
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rescueranger245
Windsor, VA
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A good relationship "shouldn't" require hard work, but a good relationship is going to require hard work.
It's up to you to figure out if "hard work" is a negative, a positive, or just natural shit that needs to be done or worked through and you are naturally suited/socialized to it.
The less compatibility, the more incompatible the communication, the more "hard work" is going to be seen as a negative.
Damn donkey...That actually made sense to me!
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
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If ur not putting in effort, guaranteed it wont work.
Effort.
1. The use of physical or mental energy to do something; exertion. 2. A difficult exertion of the strength or will: It was an effort to get up.
Nope, shouldn't involve exertion or difficulty...if it does it wont work...
it takes a ton of effort to hold her up in the shower without busting your ass...jus sayin...
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coldness
Kent, WA
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Fries
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| 1/29/2014 12:13:19 PM |
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just4forums2
Barcelona
Spain
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Sorry Ocean...Didn't mean to.
Where do you draw the line? When does it become work? And if it does...Can you save the relationship?
If you are truly commited to each other you shouldn't have to reach rock bottom. In EVERY relationship it is not going to be smooth sailing everyday but that is where communication comes in. You work it out. That is where trust comes in..just knowing that yes there is a speed bump right now but it will be okay.That is where commitment comes in...yes times are tough but we are going to get past this together.
Can you save the relationship? Yes....IF both people are dedicated to work through it and not bail out like most couples seem to do.
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lindsey_g3
Dewitt, MI
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ef·fort'ef?rt/noun1.a vigorous or determined attempt."hammer birdhouses to country fenceposts in an effort to bring back the eastern bluebird"synonyms:attempt, try, endeavor;
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mrlickzher
Owensboro, KY
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If u experience alot of turbulence in a relationship, someone isn't compromising....true love happens when u truely understand&trust yhe person ur with..as a good man, why would I disagree with rght? As long as my women is rght,now in my relationships, women knew this, so when I do speak up as a man, they tend to listen. ...but I can only speak from my personal experiences. .
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oceanblues53
Cayce, SC
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Works either way Lindsey..
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lindsey_g3
Dewitt, MI
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it takes a ton of effort to hold her up in the shower without busting your ass...jus sayin...
That was super nice
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rescueranger245
Windsor, VA
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Lindsey
Is a little effort towards something good and for someone you love the same as work?
With this thought...Walking across the room to change the channel on the TV is effort. Putting a new battery in the remote is effort.
Is walking across the room to meet him at the door with a kiss, or him walking you to the door to kiss you goodbye, effort...or work?
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
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it takes a ton of effort to hold her up in the shower without busting your ass...jus sayin...
Can't say, I don't date fat chicks.
ok...go grab a 80 lb bag of cement out of your garage, get in the shower, coat the whole bag with slippery soap, now hold it up above your waist and start dancing...lemme know how much effort it takes. (80 lbs would be one hell of an anorexic chick)
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| 1/29/2014 12:19:44 PM |
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lindsey_g3
Dewitt, MI
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Lindsey
Is a little effort towards something good and for someone you love the same as work?
With this thought...Walking across the room to change the channel on the TV is effort. Putting a new battery in the remote is effort.
Is walking across the room to meet him at the door with a kiss, or him walking you to the door to kiss you goodbye, effort...or work?
A good relationship requires both...now it seems everyone views the word "work" negatively...I dont, I work my a** off at a lot of things and im proud of that. if someone is going to tell me it doesnt take effort and work to compromise on somethings im going to laugh about it.
I put 100% effort and any work necessary into kmyself and a relationship, id want a man who would do the same.
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okdazie
Chandler, OK
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It takes manipulation, and intimidation, to make a relationship work. 
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| 1/29/2014 12:21:14 PM |
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
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Is walking across the room to meet him at the door with a kiss, or him walking you to the door to kiss you goodbye, effort...or work?
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sure it is, unless you're standing at the door when they open it. You consciously had to think about doing it, exert effort to get up, go to door, pucker up, and plant kiss, all of which require thought and effort, ever be so minimal. Sometimes the slightest effort to do little things, mean the most. How much effort does it take to remember an anniversary, or birthday? Very little. Forget one of those days and you'll see a different use of effort when she smacks ya in the back of the head.
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| 1/29/2014 12:22:16 PM |
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rescueranger245
Windsor, VA
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Lindsey...
We mustn't overlook the OP which states..."A good relationship shouldn't require hard work:
I hope everyone noticed this and is responding accordingly.
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| 1/29/2014 12:23:15 PM |
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
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ok...go grab a 80 lb bag of cement out of your garage, get in the shower, coat the whole bag with slippery soap, now hold it up above your waist and start dancing...lemme know how much effort it takes. (80 lbs would be one hell of an anorexic chick)
You understand the importance of weight distribution and the difference that makes between lifting a woman and a much smaller bag of cement...right?
depends how drunk she is...well, I was gonna say to rest the bag on your belly while you danced to replicate her having her legs wrapped around you, but didn't wanna imply that you were fat.
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stl1
Saint Louis, MO
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ok...go grab a 80 lb bag of cement out of your garage, get in the shower, coat the whole bag with slippery soap, now hold it up above your waist and start dancing...lemme know how much effort it takes. (80 lbs would be one hell of an anorexic chick)
You understand the importance of weight distribution and the difference that makes between lifting a woman and a much smaller bag of cement...right?
I just hope neither of you have your d*ck inside that bag of cement when it hardens.
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rescueranger245
Windsor, VA
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Is walking across the room to meet him at the door with a kiss, or him walking you to the door to kiss you goodbye, effort...or work?
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sure it is, unless you're standing at the door when they open it. You consciously had to think about doing it, exert effort to get up, go to door, pucker up, and plant kiss, all of which require thought and effort, ever be so minimal. Sometimes the slightest effort to do little things, mean the most. How much effort does it take to remember an anniversary, or birthday? Very little. Forget one of those days and you'll see a different use of effort when she smacks ya in the back of the head.
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| 1/29/2014 12:24:12 PM |
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lindsey_g3
Dewitt, MI
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I still think maintaining a good/great relationship does require hard work at times. no relationship is perfect...and if a person walks into one expecting that they will find themselves single again very quickly
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
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I just hope neither of you have your d*ck inside that bag of cement when it hardens.
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txrose64
Pearland, TX
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it's a labor of love though!
but "hard work" sometimes yeah it does, when there's a problem that comes up, but it's an effort either way, but one that's not stressful or taxing. It renews you.
it gets to be like "hard work" all the time, with no reprive, I'm taking a vacation! 
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rescueranger245
Windsor, VA
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I just hope neither of you have your d*ck inside that bag of cement when it hardens.
It gives new meaning to "carrying around a hard-on".
Rose...
Va. is a nice place to vacation. We have great beaches!
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sweetmama117
Bronx, NY
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Being in a good relationship is easy,keeping it is when
the hard work is require.
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