| 6/14/2014 7:37:34 PM |
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indianadave1951
Mishawaka, IN
66, joined Dec. 2010
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OK guys. I have a question:
Why don't men read a woman's profile before messaging her?
In the general dating area women CONSTANTLY complain about men who message them and ask them questions and the answer(s) are written in their profile. If I'm attracted to a woman I always read her profile: maybe even more than once.
I know looking at women's profiles is like shopping in a candy store but why write before reading the profile?
To do this lends to the assumption that the guy is not interested in her personality, is lazy or only interested in sex.
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| 6/14/2014 8:13:49 PM |
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bier95
Clara City, MN
66, joined May. 2011
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Because they can't READ
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| 6/15/2014 1:49:23 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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If and that is a BIG IF, I do message a woman without first reading her profile, it is to respond in privet to something she posted in the forums.
Other than that I always read a woman's profile, it saves wasting time, both their's and mine.
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| 6/15/2014 11:44:26 PM |
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purplerider1200
South Bend, IN
61, joined Aug. 2011
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I always read, and re-read before messaging. And look up postings, if she has done so. Several times, I have veto'ed the idea of messaging, because I might have second thoughts about her.
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| 6/17/2014 11:56:01 PM |
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marriedncheatin
Twin Falls, ID
50, joined Jul. 2012
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Because I just look at the pretty pictures yes its a very good idea to read a woman's profile if she even has a description
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| 6/20/2014 8:43:49 AM |
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hfradio
Pearland, TX
73, joined Jun. 2011
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because as men we are extremely visual, we like what we see ( sexual ) and go for it on the other hand women are looking the emotions behind what the person said at the same time looking for a '' type '' …..in other words what she looks like has more to do with it then what she said….it goes with the number one complaint from the the ladies '' he never listens to me '' ….your right at first they are NOT interested in there personality ( who she is )….HOW EVER at the beginning of all relationships BOTH start out by only thinking about themselves and there needs…so in some ways we are all alike...
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| 6/21/2014 10:59:34 PM |
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gman588
Rosedale, MD
58, joined Mar. 2014
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I don't message women but I've read a lot of profiles and 90% of them say the same thing. So in theory I could message her without reading it and still hit the mark a good portion of the time.
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| 6/22/2014 2:32:45 AM |
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bwana217
Garner, NC
56, joined Dec. 2013
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I think it's likely that men do and women just say they don't.
I started thinking this way a few years back, when I just was beginning to learn how to do the online thing. I saw a profile that looked quite interesting. I spend about a half an hour constructing a reply, carefully tailored to what she had written. She wrote me back accusing me of its having been a form letter.
Since then, I've had many experiences that reinforce the perception.
I think that it's as or more likely that women tend not to read men's messages and want to get full of umbrage about them than it is that men don't read profiles.
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| 6/22/2014 10:15:36 PM |
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gdaddy47
Columbia, TN
69, joined Sep. 2009
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I'm thinking that's just what women accuse us of. Insecure women who love bashing men at every corner. Can't imagine doing that. I think the notion of men not reading profiles is totally bogus. Women with their over inflated egos accuse us of this. It's BS especially after a certain age. Like sex is the end of all things. That's juvenile and a lot of BS.
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| 6/22/2014 10:29:24 PM |
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purplerider1200
South Bend, IN
61, joined Aug. 2011
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I think it's likely that men do and women just say they don't.
I started thinking this way a few years back, when I just was beginning to learn how to do the online thing. I saw a profile that looked quite interesting. I spend about a half an hour constructing a reply, carefully tailored to what she had written. She wrote me back accusing me of its having been a form letter.
Since then, I've had many experiences that reinforce the perception.
I think that it's as or more likely that women tend not to read men's messages and want to get full of umbrage about them than it is that men don't read profiles.
Of course. It's very simular to the "man not listening" arguement when you were married.(and you did)
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| 7/7/2014 2:05:34 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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Taking the time to read profiles and posts will help weed out women that really are not looking to date. After all a vast majority of them think that most men are liars, horn dogs,non sincere a**holes, only looking for one thing.
Sorry, I just no longer take the time to read profiles or message women. I mean what is the point.
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| 7/8/2014 1:46:44 AM |
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ibanez42
Morganfield, KY
46, joined Feb. 2014
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I always have and still do read the entire profile and any postings they do. 90% of the time I don't messege though because they are posting alot in sex and datting chat, have a bunch of shirtless horn dog looking guys in tbier friends list or have stupid looking photoes on thier profile as well as various other reasons.
This is just me though and I have been told I walk to the beat of my own drum with no notice of the rest of the world.
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| 7/9/2014 11:22:13 AM |
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gdaddy47
Columbia, TN
69, joined Sep. 2009
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When some of these women have a pre-conceived opinion that ALL MEN don't read profiles there is nothing you can do to change it. It's like so many on here want to be b*tchy or is eat up with an attitude. It's not worth fighting. We know we read their profiles but there seems to be a lot of pre-conceived attitudes. I'm really thinking this isn't really a dating site. Personally I'm here for the forums.
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| 8/6/2014 6:39:33 AM |
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manstillooking
Saint Louis, MO
50, joined Jul. 2009
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I would never message a woman without reading her profile first because you don't know anything about that woman until you read what she has to say.
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| 8/7/2014 9:00:28 PM |
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bruce_2014
Dothan, AL
60, joined Jan. 2014
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Wow! You go to any dating site and who is complaining more about having a bad relationships? I dont see as many men whining about not having a good relationships in the past.
Of course, girls have a freedom of choice and they do make very bad choices sometimes.
Tell me one more thing, if Girls paid so much attention to their love preferences in the past, they decided themselves that "Oh, This guy deserve my attention and Oh! I love him"
All of a sudden after six months or even a two months "Oh that guy was an ***hole! lol!"
Where does their caliber or ability go when they have to keep changing relationships and whine all over the social media? It tells much about their own character.
Anyway, Their behaviour, attitude and look towards life are the deciding factors that what kind of relationships or so called love you would get.
If we dont get the decent, loving and caring guy or girl just because, we ourselves dont deserve it until we learn to look harder in our own character and improve it.
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| 8/12/2014 9:26:08 PM |
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stephisicated
Teaneck, NJ
34, joined Jan. 2013
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Most people do not read and many women respond to what they like anyway so if you read or not if she likes you she will respond.
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| 8/13/2014 2:35:01 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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You can read her profile all you want, send her a well thought out personal message, and maybe peak her interest but if you do not have the look she wants, you will get deleted with no response.
So why bother.
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| 8/14/2014 6:01:41 AM |
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eightypruf
Flint, MI
36, joined Jun. 2011
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Women do the same thing..we just don't call them on it.
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| 8/18/2014 2:06:45 AM |
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d_voted
Winnipeg, MB
64, joined Sep. 2008
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The first thing that captures my attention is the posts they make.
The posts are often more immediate responses and therefore a 'natural' reaction to someone's previous post. It may provide some insight about the basic character of the woman and less about what she wants to present herself as in her profile.
However, this is not to say that the women are not being honest in their profiles but may be closer to the ideal that they are aspiring to which also provides information about who they are at the core of their values.
Why someone would not read the other posts before determining if messaging is an option seems like a no brainer. The more you know about the person's reactions the more likely you are to decide if that person is the kind of character you would be comfortable talking to or getting to know better.
There are some who are very skilled at deception but these are few and far between.
I am not in the market for a relationship of any kind so I have nothing invested in a communication but I also don't have as much time left so wasting time is not an option for me.
My messaging is usually one of encouragement to those whom I have seen to be sincere. I am not equipped to be more to anyone. The raising of my daughters until they are able to function on their own will occupy my efforts. By then I won't have the resources emotionally, mentally or physically to be an equal partner. PTSD does that.
So I am lucky - I get to be objective in this matter instead of subjective.
Hope this post is of value to you guys who are sincerely looking for a companion.
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| 8/22/2014 10:00:25 AM |
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justforfuni69
Ruskin, FL
42, joined Aug. 2014
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it's also a good idea to view their friends profiles. some of these women are in relationships and they don't tell you.
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| 8/22/2014 10:47:31 AM |
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lefty247
Swartz Creek, MI
70, joined Apr. 2009
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When I was reading their profiles & dating a few of them, they'd contradict themselves verbally from their written words. Including lying about their age. One started at 60, turned out to be 70.
Secondly, if you do read the profile, write a letter expressing an interest based upon a commonality or two, & the letter is deleted with no response, where is common courtesy to just say, "no thanks"?
Which again is why I wait for them to write me first. If they don't, who cares?
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| 8/26/2014 9:33:06 PM |
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indianadave1951
Mishawaka, IN
66, joined Dec. 2010
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You can read her profile all you want, send her a well thought out personal message, and maybe peak her interest but if you do not have the look she wants, you will get deleted with no response.
So why bother.
Both men and women want some kind of physical attraction in a romance partner. Once this is established the new couple work on discovering what they have in common. To ignore what a woman has written can offend them. If a man goes on a date and she starts asking questions that are answered within ones profile men would get frustrated as well. I know I would. I'd ask her if she can read.
In the past I've messaged women and included references to their profile. 99% of the messages went unanswered. This doesn't mean I ignore what the next one has to say.
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| 8/30/2014 2:49:03 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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From chicitabonita in womens world:
They SUCK!! Such liars! I'm DONE!! been on this site for about a year but that's long enough! I've had some real doozies! was suppose to meet with someone last night but He did NOT show! I called him twice to remind him the day before the jerk stood me up. We had a short chat & nothing for him NOT to show....(???) This site is a 'sleeze' site. No consideration for a woman!
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It is attitudes like this that make it so hard for men to even have a chance.
Women are their own biggest enemy on here.
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| 10/5/2014 2:23:34 PM |
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bonafide313
Chicago, IL
30, joined Jul. 2014
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Because we are so caught up in the attraction that we don't have time to read it.
But lately I've been reading them. Thanks to all the trannies. Yeah I'm not the only one who spent a day trying to f**k with what I thought was a woman later realizing its a man.
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