10/31/2014 8:46:59 PM |
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sweetsiren1234
Smithtown, NY
37, joined Dec. 2013
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Instead of telling me she never wanted to have sex again, because she had medical problems that cause her extreme pain whenever she got aroused (which we could have seen a doctor about), she decided to just gain 100lbs in 2 months by eating nothing but junk food, in hopes that I would be turned off by that. Twisted, right?
As hard as it may be to understand her true motives and why she decided to take that route, I have a possible explanation... but of course I could be wrong as well. My theory is that she may have already seen a doctor about her condition secretly (because it is a very personal and some may feel embarrassed by that condition). Perhaps there was very little doctors could do to treat it, and if that's so...such news would send most women into a depression. People gain weight for many different reasons and anxiety/depression can be one of those reasons. If she was in fact, trying to purposely turn you away...in her mind it was probably merciful to allow you to walk away from her than dump you while you wanted to stay with her. That brand of logic sounds silly to the average person, but for someone who may have been feeling depressed...even a little...it makes sense to them.
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11/1/2014 1:53:19 PM |
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jimmco
Monroe, NY
54, joined Sep. 2014
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We've all heard the same stories before...blah blah blah blah blah
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11/11/2014 1:45:56 PM |
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rio96
Bronx, NY
20, joined Feb. 2014
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We got into an argument in the parking lot of a restaurant, he drove tht night and left with the car. Had to take a cab home.
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11/11/2014 5:50:11 PM |
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ILUVFORUMS
Flossmoor, IL
51, joined Oct. 2014
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Stayed out all night and came home like it was nothing.
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11/11/2014 8:22:01 PM |
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notlikeurex
Lincolnton, NC
39, joined Aug. 2012
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Hurt our son. Swear on everything I love if we see him again....it will be too soon...and somebody might make the news.
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11/13/2014 4:41:51 PM |
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giraffesrus
Auburn, AL
56, joined May. 2012
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Stole my mother's house
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11/13/2014 11:12:59 PM |
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tooflyforawhguy
Oshkosh, WI
24, joined Oct. 2014
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Yeah it sux big time when people date you for your money. Instead of seeing a person, they only see an atm augh. Thanks for your posts Ghari and have a wonderful day hon.
Ya it sucks and it hurts so much
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11/14/2014 10:35:57 AM |
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rose1206
Gilbert, AZ
34, joined Jul. 2012
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I won't go into detail but the most hurtful thing was experiencing betrayal from someone I least expected that from. He was someone I was with for a long time but he later realized his wrongdoing. I'm not one to seek revenge or hate anyone though.
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11/14/2014 10:43:57 AM |
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wettj
Riverdale, GA
28, joined Jun. 2014
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He got another woman pregnant and then told me that it was my fault cause i was in the hospital , fighting for my life for almost a year from cancer ?? so we didn't get married and im glad cause he was a true jerk deep down inside
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11/14/2014 10:46:10 AM |
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fastpony
Hammond, IN
41, joined Apr. 2007
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when you're new in a relationship,everything is going great...and she has that FRIEND that's trying to be more than that,but she denies it by making excuses up for him. newsflash mr.friend....
no,you cant go out on new years eve with her by yourself,tap her on the butt during an embrace saying hello,or hope that i divide my time with her so you can go see a movie,or dinner on valentines day.
if the gal youre in love with,cant separate a man whos trying to be more than a friend,than the one shes already with....its pretty hurtful
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11/14/2014 7:55:14 PM |
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sweetsiren1234
Smithtown, NY
37, joined Dec. 2013
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Yes the hurts in a relationship are compounded by the other person's selfishness and denial of what's actually happening. Unfortunately, we cannot force them to open their eyes and see, be, promote the truth. We can only protect ourselves, step back from the situation, and work on emotional healing on our end. The rest is up to the other person if the relationship is even worth salvaging.
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11/14/2014 10:26:35 PM |
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blacknblue1965
El Paso, TX
51, joined Jan. 2014
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I am recently divorced. There were numerous things she had said but nothing more hurtful than " I should've stayed alone...,"
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11/18/2014 5:57:39 PM |
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lagypsyhippie
El Paso, TX
53, joined Oct. 2014
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Stole money from me..
..it sucks to know u can't trust someone u loved
I feel u on that one
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11/29/2014 10:15:57 PM |
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hrigoagn
Spring, TX
47, joined Nov. 2014
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Cheated on me while I was deployed for a year. I tried to forgive him, then caught him in bed having sex with the woman i had the gut feeling he was having an affair with. Destroyed my heart and trust in love. I've been single now for almost 5 yrs now. A lot of first meetings, a few emails, or being stood up, etc. It's almost worth being alone instead of getting your hopes up or even trying anymore!!!
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12/4/2014 2:53:21 AM |
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sweetsiren1234
Smithtown, NY
37, joined Dec. 2013
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Cheated on me while I was deployed for a year. I tried to forgive him, then caught him in bed having sex with the woman i had the gut feeling he was having an affair with. Destroyed my heart and trust in love. I've been single now for almost 5 yrs now. A lot of first meetings, a few emails, or being stood up, etc. It's almost worth being alone instead of getting your hopes up or even trying anymore!!!
I totally understand what you mean by just letting go and enjoying your life as a single person. There are so many disappointments to be encountered in the dating game and let's face it...life is a game whether we want to play or not. It's all a matter of being the winner and not the one getting played. Thanks for sharing!
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12/4/2014 3:14:50 AM |
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smell_my_balls
San Andreas, CA
36, joined Sep. 2014
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they left packages in the toilet , and forgot to flush them
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12/4/2014 1:17:16 PM |
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sweetcandi8383
Kissimmee, FL
32, joined Nov. 2014
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Told me after 5 years he hadn't wanted a relationship for the past 3 but proposed during those 3 years he didn't want that relationship
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12/9/2014 1:57:18 AM |
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momoney82
Denver, CO
33, joined Jun. 2014
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Destroyed our family for a man that has HIV an gave it to her for money.
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12/10/2014 3:53:25 PM |
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turnedawawayflo
Fairforest, SC
37, joined Nov. 2014
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Hard to pinpoint 1 thing but the thing that got 2 me the most was how he treated me when I needed him the most n when he did come around it was only 2 talk down 2 me which made my self esteem lower some part of me thinks he gets off on belittling women I have learned my lesson with him
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12/11/2014 12:44:31 AM |
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swissms8
Redlands, CA
49, joined Jul. 2014
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Met someone on here years ago who told me he adored me, I was so wonderful, spent lots of time with me, made me dinner, brought me flowers etc., and broke up with me without a word. It still hurts to this day as I realized he probably didn't even like me, there was only one thing he "adored" about me. I was too trusting... it killed a carefree part of me...I have never felt so used by anyone in my whole life.
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12/11/2014 8:43:29 AM |
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sweetsiren1234
Smithtown, NY
37, joined Dec. 2013
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Yes the liars, users, and manipulators come a dime a dozen ladies and gentlemen. The problem with selfish people is that they either can't or refuse to see how selfish they truly are. As bad as your experiences are, you can definitely say they have made you stronger and wiser.
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12/13/2014 2:55:35 AM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
51, joined Jul. 2014
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for both of yall, thats the reason you dont mess with ,,inferier dudes,,,,,a**holes,i play music all over atlanta an i see these sobs,drinkin, screwin around an doin drugs, doin women wrong an then later,these once good women turn bad,an turn on nice guys,like me,,who finish last because im nice, im a lead guitar player,yes i see how people do,but later all the girls with no brains also flock right back to these or worse,im 6,4 an sweet to women,but hese dudes say,man i wouldnt wanna mess with you,an i think right you wanna live,,you sure dont,,women a re special if not b*tches,an ruined allready,,to be loved an handled sweetly,allways and not hit on etcwith violence ,an not hurt there feelings,,,,,
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12/17/2014 12:05:02 AM |
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sarahgoldsmith
Norfolk, VA
45, joined Jan. 2014
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Yes the liars, users, and manipulators come a dime a dozen ladies and gentlemen. The problem with selfish people is that they either can't or refuse to see how selfish they truly are. As bad as your experiences are, you can definitely say they have made you stronger and wiser.
Wow, that sounded so bitter.
We just drifted apart. Nothing bad really happened. We are still friends & we are still very civilized with each other. It was an amicable break up. I don't really like to burn my bridges unless I thought the other person was harmful to me.
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12/17/2014 3:25:59 AM |
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ladiebugg55
Redding, CA
60, joined Jun. 2012
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He cheated..then he passed away..
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12/17/2014 3:38:00 AM |
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skywatcher58
Topeka, KS
57, joined Feb. 2014
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He just stopped talking to me for no reason. He wouldn't explain what happened. One day he's saying he loves me the next day he's not talking to me.
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12/17/2014 3:38:03 AM |
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yetskimama
Walterboro, SC
65, joined Sep. 2011
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Never hurt me in 23 years of marriage, that's why he it's always ALWAYS LOVED NEVER FORGOTTEN. 14 years later. I miss him daily.[Ken]
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12/17/2014 8:35:57 AM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
48, joined Jan. 2012
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I've had men take money from me for bills, rent, one guy I helped buy a truck (got it back in the end). I was stupid.
The worst for me was a guy I invested a year and a half in and he wanted to wait til marriage for sex. But yet he had sex with me a few times during that period and he also loved getting blow jobs anytime we were together. All sex. I kept breaking up with him and he would chase me down and not want to break up so in the end he finally started cheating on me with someone and I caught him cheating. I wasn't going to go around him again. But he waited a week and had the sheriff come to my house to say he took out a warrant that I assaulted him. Of course that never went to court. My lawyer called his lawyer and it got dropped. But the guy was a lunatic. Found out later he had taken 3 other women to court in a similar way over the years. There are some psycho nut case men out there for sure!!! I've learned the hard way.
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12/17/2014 8:37:21 AM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
48, joined Jan. 2012
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Quote from ladiebugg55:
He cheated..then he passed away..
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damn! why couldn't that have happened to my ex-husband. Some people are so lucky.
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12/17/2014 8:43:44 AM |
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dasnixter
Jessieville, AR
58, joined Jul. 2010
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I choose not to rehash old tales of conflict mired in woe.
Preferring to accentuate the positive aspects of the individuals.
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12/18/2014 8:27:37 AM |
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sweetsiren1234
Smithtown, NY
37, joined Dec. 2013
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Wow, that sounded so bitter.
We just drifted apart. Nothing bad really happened. We are still friends & we are still very civilized with each other. It was an amicable break up. I don't really like to burn my bridges unless I thought the other person was harmful to me.
There's nothing bitter about stating the truth. It would be bitterness to discount anyone else in the future because of past bad experiences. The positive side is learning an important lesson in dealing with people and relationships. Fortunately, for you...your situation ended on a positive note. Others are not as fortunate.
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12/18/2014 8:30:26 AM |
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sweetsiren1234
Smithtown, NY
37, joined Dec. 2013
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I applaud all of you who have had terrible past experiences (myself included) and continue to keep on keeping on with your head up and a smile on your face!
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12/18/2014 5:53:31 PM |
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maddystyme
Brooklyn, NY
56, joined Apr. 2011
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The worse thing's was that every time we went out all he would do was remember that he had been at that same place with his past relationships....
He even had the nerve to tell me in my bedroom that he still loved his past girlfriends
that really hurt me, never can forget that...
never a day went by without him bringing up his past girlfriends.
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12/19/2014 1:54:56 AM |
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ariel_p
Kissimmee, FL
26, joined Jul. 2014
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Tough one to answer, but I'd probably have to go with her ending the relationship with me over a text message. I devoted the last 6 months of my life to her and contributed everything I could towards the hope of building a serious relationship with her, but all I was to her, despite her words (she claimed to love me at some point), was the "the other" in her life, not even worth sitting down and discussing the situation with face to face.
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12/26/2014 10:38:48 AM |
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hogaseman
Benátky nad Jizerou
Czech Republic
65, joined Jun. 2014
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Catching her in a cheap a** motel with a guy she met on Facebook 3 wks after we got back from Ireland for our 25th anniversary. Adios slut.
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12/26/2014 12:27:11 PM |
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sweetsiren1234
Smithtown, NY
37, joined Dec. 2013
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Catching her in a cheap a** motel with a guy she met on Facebook 3 wks after we got back from Ireland for our 25th anniversary. Adios slut.
Yeah that sucks, hell I would love to have the kind of man that would take me to another country to celebrate our anniversary. Talk about absolutely no appreciation.
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12/26/2014 2:15:31 PM |
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sarahgoldsmith
Norfolk, VA
45, joined Jan. 2014
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What is love, by Haddaway
Baby, don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more. (Dancing, shake it to the left, shake it to the right, LOL)
I give u my love, but u don't care. What is right. What is wrong. Give me a sign.
The song has a nice beat. It's fun to dance to when u are in a dancing mood.
So cool!
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12/30/2014 3:48:52 PM |
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listia
Hanover, PA
33, joined Aug. 2014
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got the neighbor pregnant
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12/30/2014 8:24:39 PM |
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sweetsiren1234
Smithtown, NY
37, joined Dec. 2013
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got the neighbor pregnant
Wow, what nerve! I bet that next-door-whoochie was smiling in your face waving every day saying hello too.
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12/30/2014 9:10:33 PM |
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toxictears1970
Marrero, LA
45, joined Dec. 2014
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Steal my car and steal 700$
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12/30/2014 9:12:07 PM |
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diana29615
Greenville, SC
47, joined Jan. 2014
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He said we would grow old together......and he died
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12/31/2014 5:00:43 PM |
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forumfriendly2
Norfolk, VA
39, joined Sep. 2013
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deny me access to her sisters carnal treasure
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12/31/2014 5:41:49 PM |
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Beaboo444
Springfield, PA
52, joined Dec. 2014
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Mean people suck
I have googled people's names and there is a sight intuit that has profiles on people u have to pay a little for a membership. But better safe than sorry if things are taking off in a dating direction
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12/31/2014 5:43:30 PM |
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Beaboo444
Springfield, PA
52, joined Dec. 2014
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Aww that really smarts... SO sorry for you
One of my boyfriends died too.... I found him in his townhouse. Ugh...
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1/2/2015 10:01:21 AM |
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vicky650
Millbrae, CA
25, joined Sep. 2013
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Most hurtful thing that my ex SO did was hurt me emotionally, physically, mentally, financially and so much more. He cheated, lied, stole, stole from my family. I was barely 18 when he met me and he was almost 30. I was super young and naïve. I didn't know any better. One incident that i would never forget was when i actually fought back and he ended up pushing me, i flipped over a chair and he tried to choke me. I went to the hospital with only bruised ribs, thank god! I dumped him after 5 years, got a Restraining order then moved to a different city. I pretty much disappeared on him. He has no idea where i live and where i work because i quit my job. Luckly i met this new guy that i met at school, new school, and ive been with him for alittle over a year now. Things are going great. He does whatever he can to make me happy and I appreciate him. he knows how much hurt i was put through and hes really patient with me when i shut down emotionally.
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1/2/2015 8:48:43 PM |
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sweetsiren1234
Smithtown, NY
37, joined Dec. 2013
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Most hurtful thing that my ex SO did was hurt me emotionally, physically, mentally, financially and so much more. He cheated, lied, stole, stole from my family. I was barely 18 when he met me and he was almost 30. I was super young and naïve. I didn't know any better. One incident that i would never forget was when i actually fought back and he ended up pushing me, i flipped over a chair and he tried to choke me. I went to the hospital with only bruised ribs, thank god! I dumped him after 5 years, got a Restraining order then moved to a different city. I pretty much disappeared on him. He has no idea where i live and where i work because i quit my job. Luckly i met this new guy that i met at school, new school, and ive been with him for alittle over a year now. Things are going great. He does whatever he can to make me happy and I appreciate him. he knows how much hurt i was put through and hes really patient with me when i shut down emotionally.
Oh wow Vicky, it's amazing that you survived such a horrible relationship. It's amazing that we all have to live and love another day for the right person that comes along. It's wonderful that you found someone who is patient and understanding. Blessings to you both!
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1/4/2015 3:15:40 PM |
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197casper
Mulberry, FL
41, joined Nov. 2014
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My ex-husband molested my daughter. His cheating became quite insignificant after that.
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1/12/2015 8:34:20 AM |
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sweetsiren1234
Smithtown, NY
37, joined Dec. 2013
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My ex-husband molested my daughter. His cheating became quite insignificant after that.
These scumbags that would do such a thing really need to have their souls eaten. Hopefully, some healing has taken place after such a horrific act for both you and your daughter.
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1/12/2015 9:43:22 AM |
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licker4530
Port Jefferson, NY
33, joined Apr. 2013
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My now ex cheated on me first week we dated got pregnant gave birth and made me believe the little girl was mine for 3 1/2 years then dna proved she wasn't.
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1/12/2015 12:25:25 PM |
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sweetsiren1234
Smithtown, NY
37, joined Dec. 2013
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My now ex cheated on me first week we dated got pregnant gave birth and made me believe the little girl was mine for 3 1/2 years then dna proved she wasn't.
All I can say is thank God for DNA testing!
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1/15/2015 1:15:54 AM |
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2hot2eat
Desert Hot Springs, CA
42, joined Jun. 2014
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He sent a pic of another woman to my phone via text
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1/18/2015 9:42:41 PM |
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jillybeans30
Scranton, PA
34, joined Jun. 2012
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The most hurtful thing that ever happened to me was when I was with my ex fiancé his mother just had a stroke and he was going to go see her and I said I would come with you and he said me and my father don't want you their I was never so hurt in my entire life I used to do everything for her and for them to say that to me I was crushed I cried for days after that
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1/19/2015 1:40:51 AM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
51, joined Jul. 2014
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we know abouttat diana, an mine died too, most hurtful thing iswhen they make you wait,on purpuss, cause they know like me i do all things fast an some have held off asto teach me diferent or said,,why do we have to be ina hurry, but beyond that,not too bad, i dont go slow at anytingg,cause of just a lota energy a n i gotta move on out a all i do , wll ostly,,,,,,,,haaave hada few ,,fair dates on here,,all with some kinda issues though for sure,
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1/25/2015 4:07:22 AM |
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happylauren
Crown Point, IN
54, joined May. 2013
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I was so hurt three years ago I did not know where I was going to get the courage to move on. The best way to heal is to help others. I started doing volunteer work and the magic took place.
I really don't want to post old hurts that I have worked so hard to let go.
A person can't move forward if they are stuck in the past. We must let go of the past to be happy now.
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1/25/2015 6:50:47 AM |
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sweetsiren1234
Smithtown, NY
37, joined Dec. 2013
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I was so hurt three years ago I did not know where I was going to get the courage to move on. The best way to heal is to help others. I started doing volunteer work and the magic took place.
I really don't want to post old hurts that I have worked so hard to let go.
A person can't move forward if they are stuck in the past. We must let go of the past to be happy now.
This is very true, I totally agree!
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1/25/2015 8:46:46 PM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
51, joined Jul. 2014
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to possibly say somethin,,an maybe not for sure if they mean it or not,,must wait it out,an if love is there,they will come to you,o dam i dont wanna hurt no more.maybe they joke,or are not serous enuff to quite yet tell, a serious one will come to me,,or whoever,its waitin,,an the longer you have to wait ,,the less perhaps you are really cared for...
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1/26/2015 9:04:16 AM |
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sweetsiren1234
Smithtown, NY
37, joined Dec. 2013
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to possibly say somethin,,an maybe not for sure if they mean it or not,,must wait it out,an if love is there,they will come to you,o dam i dont wanna hurt no more.maybe they joke,or are not serous enuff to quite yet tell, a serious one will come to me,,or whoever,its waitin,,an the longer you have to wait ,,the less perhaps you are really cared for...
I didn't understand what your wrote, the way you worded that hmmm
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1/28/2015 10:50:03 PM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
51, joined Jul. 2014
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to ake me wait,an try my patience,or act likethey dont know me,in favor of doin other things,,thats hurtful,or put kids,or others first,am make meait,,butnowthingsis beteras peoplelearn.
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1/28/2015 10:59:56 PM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
51, joined Jul. 2014
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to ake me wait,an try my patience,or act like they dont know me,in favor of doin other things,,thats hurtful,or put kids,or others first,am make me wait,,but now things is beter as people learn. crazy horses,,the osmonds,,
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1/29/2015 7:03:20 PM |
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sweetsiren1234
Smithtown, NY
37, joined Dec. 2013
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crazy horses,,the osmonds,,
Hmm speaking in riddles I see lol
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2/18/2015 7:41:45 AM |
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trisha5473
Columbus, IN
46, joined Sep. 2014
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Gave delorian1 my heart and my luv and my family and he ran off with my rent money but God put friends in my life to help me so watch out. He knew I had my daughter in law son and two grandbabies in the house and that's how he did me I would have gave him the world.
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